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In modern society, such attention is not very strict, but generally the death of the immediate family will keep filial piety for three years, and the New Year can not be seen red within three years, that is, can not be pasted couplets or anything, grandma belongs to the collateral relatives, pay attention to not so strict, and you find a girlfriend There is no conflict, and if the old man is a long life and died peacefully, in ancient times, it was a fortunate thing in the family, which means that the old man walked without pain, and he spent his old age in peace. The following is the origin of Shouxiao:
1) How to keep filial piety for a filial son.
Confucianism Case (1) - Slaughter Me and Discuss Etiquette.
Zai I asked: "Three years of mourning has been a long time. If a gentleman does not give a courtesy for three years, the courtesy will be bad; If you don't have fun for three years, the music will collapse.
The old valley is gone, the new valley is rising, and the fire is changed. Zi said: "Eat husband rice, clothes husband brocade, Yu Nu Anhu?"
He said, "Ann." "Nu An is for it.
The husband and gentleman's residence is mourning, the food is unwilling, the music is unhappy, and the residence is uneasy, so it is not for it. Today's Nu An, then for it! "Kill me out, Zi said:
It's not kind to it! The son is born for three years, and then he is free from the arms of his parents, and the husband is mourned for three years, and the whole world is mourned. Do you have three years of love for your parents?
Commentary: Zai I believe that the three-year mourning is a requirement of the ceremony, but the ceremony is not fixed, the ceremony is constantly changing. The three-year funeral vigil has been in place for a long time, and now it's time for a change.
Confucius believed that the three-year mourning was not a requirement of etiquette, but a requirement of personal benevolence. When a gentleman dies of his parents, his mood is sad, and eating delicious food and wearing gorgeous clothes is to pursue happiness, which contradicts the mood of grief, so when he pursues happiness during the mourning period, his heart will not be at peace, but only by crying and grieving, his heart will be at peace and happiness can be satisfied.
Zai I responded to Confucius by saying that when his parents died, he ate delicious food and wore gorgeous clothes, and his heart was at peace and content. In other words, the two have different understandings and experiences of benevolence. In this way, there is no way for the two to communicate, because the basic assumptions are different.
According to Confucius, when a parent dies, the mood of a gentleman is sad, and the pursuit of enjoyment will make the gentleman's heart uneasy. Confucius had no choice but to say, if you are safe, you will do it. The implication is that Confucius will not be at peace and can only perform a three-year funeral.
Zai I was virtuous in words and deeds, and was judged by Confucius to be unkind here. But we can see that Zai I has another virtue, and that is "sincerity", which is why he is virtuous.
The reason why etiquette can be practiced is because etiquette is based on people's hearts and benevolence. The reason why there is a change in etiquette is because benevolence has changed, and in Zaime, benevolence and etiquette still echo each other, so there is no hypocrisy. Therefore, a one-year funeral is also a rite.
Observe filial piety for three years, keep the mourning hall, do not post couplets, and do not give New Year's greetings to others. Do not set off firecrackers, burn gold and silver mountains in the first phase, burn gold and silver buckets in the third phase, five flowers bought by the daughter in the fifth phase, and burn boats and shore trees in the seventh phase.
100 days to burn paper in advance, the first year a few burned.
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The dead do not hinder the living!
As long as it is past seven or seven, there is a hot filial piety.
Generally, it is possible to get married.
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Those who get married during the period of filial piety refer to; It wasn't long before the elders passed away, and I can't remember how long it was.
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According to the traditional culture, "parents mourn, three years old digging wheel", three years later can be scattered to marry the letter, as for the modern society, have been simplified, generally over seven seven, or over 100 days.
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There are no rules for this, but marriage is a great joy in life, and you can't be hasty, and it's best to think about getting married after you come out of the grief of losing your loved ones.
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Generally, you can get married after a year, and there are different customs and habits in some places, you can get married after 100 days, and you can get married after 7749 days in particular. With the progress of modern society and the development of human civilization, many people are no longer in accordance with traditional cultural customs, as long as two people really love each other, after the old man goes to stop the world, they can get married after a month.
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If you keep filial piety, you can keep filial piety, filial piety can't be red, and it is impossible to be happy when you get married!
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Can't you get married during Cha Hyo? It should not be able to get married, this is handed down in ancient times, during the period of filial piety, people keep filial piety for three years, well, can not get married, but now people don't seem to be too particular about this, and then in the past, it is definitely not possible to get married, within three years, the family can not paste couplets, especially during the Spring Festival, red couplets can not be pasted, to paste white or yellow, there should be a bit of a chance.
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No, if there is no special reason, it will generally not be fruitful in the filial piety period.
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Because 3 years is the time of filial piety, it is not suitable to get married.
The feudal period was three years of filial piety. Three years of filial piety is such a son and a daughter who has not left the cabinet, and it takes three years to keep filial piety for his father and later his mother who died with his father. If the mother dies before the father, the filial piety is only required for one year.
The rule for the highest level of decay in the five suits. The grandson of Pai Wu Zhi belongs to the second class of Qi decay, and he only needs to keep filial piety for his grandfather for one year. In modern times, most of them are out of the 100-day orange block.
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The custom of keeping filial piety for three years has a long history in Chinese culture, usually referring to the need for children or relatives to observe filial piety at home for three years after the death of a loved one, as a sign of remembrance and respect for the deceased.
During the period of filial piety, there are many taboos and precautions, one of which is not to get married. This traditional custom originated in ancient times, and was originally based on the reverence and respect for the deceased, believing that within three years of the death of a loved one, filial piety was still in the family, and it was not appropriate to hold a celebration. In addition, the ancients believed that marriage was a joyful thing and filial piety was a sad thing, and the two conflicted with each other, so it was considered inappropriate to marry during the period of filial piety.
In modern society, although this traditional custom has gradually faded, there are still some families and regions that still strictly observe the ritual of keeping filial piety for three years, and the prohibition of marriage is also an important taboo. However, this also depends on the specific situation, and some families may be able to relax the requirements appropriately depending on their actual needs.
In general, keeping filial piety for three years is an ancient custom in traditional Chinese culture, in which not being able to marry is one of the important taboos. However, in modern society, this traditional practice has gradually changed and needs to be applied flexibly according to the specific situation.
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This is a traditional Chinese custom! The parents went to the hole, and as children they had to keep filial piety for three years. Of course, you can't get married during this period, you must know that marriage is a great joy, and parents are filial piety.
You should be very sad, how can you have a clean heart to get married? Otherwise, aren't you an unfilial person? That's what tradition thinks.
With filial piety, how can you do happy things?
You can send your own New Year's cards or paper cutouts. Of course, if you are a student who has just been admitted to university and the economy allows, you can give crabs to the former head teacher, which means "crab" ceremony.
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