Women have no status in their in laws families, and what are the things that are often missing?

Married life is not only a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families, especially women, after getting married, most of them need to live in their mother-in-law's house, avoid their own mother's family, and come to live in a strange family, which will be more or less unsuitable. Naturally, not only if you don't fit in, but also because your in-laws are not suitable, if you don't integrate into your in-laws' family as soon as possible, you may not live happily. If a woman wants to integrate into her mother-in-law's family, she needs to know how to tolerate everyone in her mother-in-law's family, and save some face for her mother-in-law's family.

Many women often live in disharmony with their in-laws, because they don't know how to be tolerant and humble, and they have always been unsympathetic to their in-laws. Therefore, if a married woman wants to have a status in her in-law's family, she needs to know how to tolerate her in-laws and save some face for her in-laws.

After marriage, don't give up your job, remember that women have jobs, and they have the confidence to live with their in-laws. No matter at any time, women need to be self-motivated, although married life can change a woman's life, but the life you like, if it is not for your own efforts, then you are still unhappy, especially the woman who lives with her mother-in-law's family, if you do not seek to be motivated, the mother-in-law's family will look down on you and will not give you a good face.

Many women often have no status in their in-laws' families, just because the woman's economy is not independent, which makes the in-laws' family feel that you are also supported by her son, and feel that you are not invested at all, and you only know how to ask for it. Therefore, if a married woman wants to have a status in her mother-in-law's family, she needs to be self-motivated and learn to share some things for boys.

Whether a woman is happy or not in life after marriage has a lot to do with the woman's attitude. No matter what your married life is, as long as the woman still has hope for your marriage and takes the initiative to face your married life, then your married life will not be too bad. No matter how bad your married life is, as long as you work hard to change, your married life will get better.

After marriage, a woman not only has to enjoy the happiness of love, but also has to face the hardships of life, so if a woman does not maintain an optimistic attitude towards life, she will be defeated by reality.

No matter who you are, you don't want to complain about the hardships of life all day long, but you don't work hard to change your life and win people, living together, not to mention your mother-in-law's family, you have to live together all day long, if you don't change your life mentality, how can your mother-in-law's family respect you? Therefore, if a married woman wants to have a status in her mother-in-law's family, then you have to let your mother-in-law's family respect you, correct your pessimistic life mentality, and use a positive and optimistic attitude to face life after marriage, so that your mother-in-law's family will look down on you, and you will have a status in your mother-in-law's family.

The first is the lack of economic independence. Because the current society is very realistic, if you don't have financial independence in your in-law's family after marriage, or you can't have a financial situation, then you will be easily angry.

A woman has no status in her in-law's family, it may be that her mother's family has no money, it may be that she has no job, and the most important thing is that her husband does not support you and her husband does not respect you.

has no confidence of his own, lacks ability, lacks ability, lacks his own will, and does things only as promises.

Whether a woman is happy in her in-law's family after marriage is a decisive factor in whether she can be liked and respected by her in-law's family, that is, what her status is in her in-law's family. In fact, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a hurdle that has always been difficult to cross, if the status of the woman is relatively high, then the mother-in-law will usually be very polite, but now there are not many women like this in society, many women are often more angry in the mother-in-law's house, this kind of woman usually has the following characteristics:

Bringing a baby at home does not earn money, and there is no sense of self-identity

After having a baby, many women often quit their jobs to become full-time wives in order to take care of the baby's eating, drinking, and lazing. But after becoming a full-time wife, it is very tiring to take care of the baby at home every day, but because she does not earn money, she often has no sense of self-identity, and she feels unconfident in everything she does, so she may also feel a little inferior and have no confidence in what she does. In fact, taking me at home is even more tiring than going to work, so there is no need to feel inferior at all, if the two families have any objections, you might as well hand over the baby to them to bring, so that they will also feel deeply.

I am tired and tired, and I have never been able to get the respect of my husband

In many cases, whether the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious mainly depends on the husband's attitude towards his wife. If the husband doesn't look at his wife at all, then the mother-in-law will naturally not have a good look. If you want your husband to respect yourself in life, you must first straighten your waist, for example, in ordinary conversations, if your husband offends you through words, you must be brave enough to point it out and ask your husband to actively correct it.

We must pay attention to actively cultivating the relationship between two people, which can not only consolidate the position in the family, but also create a peaceful and harmonious family atmosphere.

Worried about conflict, so there is no bottom line to blindly tolerate it

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along with each other is actually a matter of proportion, if you can grasp the proportion very well, and at the same time have your own bottom line, then neither party on the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law dare to touch it easily. But if a conflict breaks out between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the mother-in-law violates the daughter-in-law's bottom line without any scruples, at this time, you must not maintain a peaceful attitude, nor can you blindly tolerate it. Otherwise, there will be no good face at all in the long run, and the daughter-in-law will be more wronged.

Summary:If the status in the in-law's family is very low, this kind of woman usually has the above three characteristics, so if you don't want to be angry in the in-law's family, you must actively correct it, so that you can live more confidently in the in-law's family, so how are you doing in the in-law's family?

From ancient times to the present, it has been a difficult point for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to coexist, as if it is very difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to coexist. After a woman gets married, she needs to deal with the problem of her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and some women even quarrel with their father-in-law every day because of this. There are some women who have no influence in her mother-in-law's family, all for a reason.

There are not so many things that should be taken for granted in this world, and everyone became a family because of a man. Therefore, in life, both people must respect each other, and if you pay attention to your mother-in-law, she can respect you.

After getting married, most women choose to get pregnant and have children, so they give up their jobs and become housewives from now on. But you don't know that from the day you became a housewife, your family influence has already decreased. This family doesn't look like you in the past, especially if it's your mother-in-law, who will think that you are raised by your husband.

Maybe you think it's not a problem for your husband to raise you, but your mother-in-law doesn't think that way, and she will love her children well. So there is a separate work but something very important.

The current mother-in-law is waiting to hold her grandson, and you haven't been pregnant in the first year of marriage, so it goes without saying that your mother-in-law can make do with it. But until the second or third year, your belly or noise, or 2 people still don't want to have children, then your influence in front of your mother-in-law will decline rapidly. In the mother-in-law's mind, the child is very important.

People respect each other, you are also a daughter-in-law, and you also need to thank your mother-in-law for your attention and love. If you can't value and cherish your mother-in-law, of course, your mother-in-law is not easy to like. There are not so many things that should be taken for granted in this world, and everyone became a family because of a man.

Therefore, in life, both people must respect each other, and if you pay attention to your mother-in-law, she can respect you.

has her own independent life, has her own independent thoughts, will not rely on her husband, will not be a full-time mother at home, will not be busy by herself, no matter what happens, she will not blindly tolerate it.

You must have your own point of view, and in the face of what you don't like or can't accept, you should take the initiative to say the reason, and you should also let your husband protect you, and it is good to refuse appropriately.

I don't have my own opinions, my own opinions, no matter what I do, I feel that what the other party says is particularly correct, and I won't refute it, even if I don't like it, I won't reject it.

In the maintenance of daily interpersonal relationships, the relationship that causes women the most headache may be between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. They all feel that "why should women be embarrassed by women", they can be between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but women want to make things difficult for women. If you want to avoid the difficulties of your mother-in-law and succeed in being invincible in your mother-in-law's family, it is really too difficult for a woman.

Many women are industrious, often to make themselves completely lose their status. How could this be the case? Why can't hard work get the results you most expect?

The woman asked over and over again, but still didn't find an answer.

In fact, it's not that women can't find the answer, or they don't want to recognize that the culprit who causes this situation is herself. All kinds of signs show that women have no status in their in-laws' families, and they are caused by themselves. Whether a woman can stabilize her foothold in her in-law's house is actually controlled by herself.

If a woman does not pay attention to herself, it will not be easy to come to a good conclusion. It was observed that in the in-laws' family, the women who often do these things have a relatively low status. A woman who often quarrels with her husband will only be a couple if the two parties are only lovers, and the quarrel will only be between the two of them.

But if the two parties are husband and wife, then the quarrel is not just a matter of two people.

They also quarreled with their husbands at their in-laws' house, and the quarrel was not about her husband alone, but also about everyone in her in-laws' family. If the mother-in-law is reasonable, she may not be involved, and most mothers-in-law will favor their sons, so when a woman quarrels with her husband, the mother-in-law will get involved. In this dispute, no matter whether a woman gets the last chance or not, she will not be able to improve her status in her in-law's family, but will be united and oppressed by her in-law's family.

When you quarrel with your husband in front of your in-laws, it's actually a very stupid act, and you often have a low status in your in-laws' family because of how to be a woman. Xiaojing advises all married women, even if there is a big difference between you and your husband, try not to quarrel in front of your mother-in-law's family. If you do too much of this, it will not only damage the relationship between men and women, but also reduce your status in the eyes of your in-laws.

In the in-law's family, women who often reach out to ask for money have a very low status; A woman who often quarrels with her husbandA woman who often does all the housework

Understood. She will often do housework, be very respectful to her husband, become very humble, speak very bluntly, be very kind to her husband, but not very badly to her mother-in-law, cry a lot, and have little self-confidence.

Begging for living expenses from men, this kind of woman has no job and income of her own, and is not loved and pampered by her husband. It must not have a high enough status in the in-laws' family, don't care.

When the two get along, they can look down on each other like enemies, and they can also be like sisters, and at this time they need to understand each other and communicate with each other, every daughter-in-law hopes to have a high status in her mother-in-law's family, not only the husband cherishes, even the mother-in-law knows how to respect.

So in daily life, what if a woman wants to have a high status in her in-law's family? At this time, women need to do the following 3 points, don't take it to heart, let's learn about it together.

1. Live your life

Women need to live their own lives no matter what time they are, although they have already been married, but after all, they also have their own thoughts, they can't go around a family every day, and sometimes they have to relax themselves, women don't necessarily have to be housewives in the family, some girls can also work outside, anyway, just do what they want to do, don't let yourself be angry because of marriage.

A woman should love herself well, a woman who doesn't even love herself, how can there be a man to love you? The best state of a woman is to live herself, to be confident, to understand and enrich herself, so that her in-laws are afraid to look down on you. A woman cannot live without dignity after marriage.

Some old people feel that their daughters-in-law need to be housewives in the family, and they will be criticized if they don't do well enough, but women should understand that it is already the moment, and they must be independent, which will also have a certain influence in the in-law's family.

2. Freedom

Women with high economic development and emotional intelligence will also make the person they like lack a sense of belonging, and then love you doubly. A woman is really going alone, even if the boys around her leave her, she will not have nothing, because the people are kind to themselves, don't lose a whole mountain forest because of a crooked neck tree, it is a little worthless.

3. The mother's family is confident

In daily life, some women get married, and their husbands have disagreements, and find that it doesn't work and immediately run away to complain, if the in-laws are a little weaker, but will let the daughter's suffering be pressed in the depths of the soul, relying on blind humility in exchange for happiness after marriage, then such people can only be looked down upon by the mother-in-law's family. But if the mother's family is a little more confident, seeing that her daughter is angry, she has the courage to come out to support the child's face, that will also make the mother-in-law's family feel that the daughter-in-law can't be provoked, and they will be polite when they get along in the future.