Gradually no one likes it in my circle of friends, why is no one in my circle of friends suddenly li

I have a friend whose conceptual attitude towards life made me realize how childish my previous behavior was.

I have a lot of mutual friends with her, but I found that she doesn't have many likes, basically in the single digits. So one day, I told her my confusion: why do you insist on posting on Moments? I don't think there are many likes.

I asked rhetorically, what if no one likes it?

She said that it is someone else's business to like others, maybe he agrees with you, but most people are swept away, why do you care so much? I'm happy with myself.

After listening to these words, thinking about what I had done before, I really, for a moment I felt that it was not worth it, it was just a waste of life, and I didn't get anything, I don't know what I wanted to do in the first place, is it terrible vanity?

Later, after my concept was corrected, the circle of friends began to have its true meaning and value.

Friend, seeing this, back to the question in the title, I think you already have the answer in mind.

Remember, the circle of friends is a place to record your daily life and various opinions, if people agree, are interested, and sympathize with the content you post, they may agree with you, but it is the norm for most people not to like or comment, and it is normal to sweep you away.

There is no need to force others to see or have any ideas, after all, it is your circle of friends, please follow your own ideas.

No one likes in the circle of friends, it may be because others are too busy to take care of your circle of friends, or it may be that the content you posted makes your friends feel speechless or uncomfortable so they are unwilling to like you, and your friends post on the circle of friends and you don't like it, then they are not willing to continue to like you.

No one likes it, no one likes it. Except for the kind of Moments ads that collect likes, the likes of Moments are not very important. You can use the circle of friends to record your life and tell your feelings. Occasionally, it's good for friends to resonate and give a like, but it's normal not to have one, so relax.

It means that you are posting too often, so that your friends are numb, or that you are not innovative in your posting. I also rarely post on Moments, just occasionally post advertisements, you pay attention to me, occasionally post novelty, and there will be some likes.

Let's talk about me in the past, because when I first played WeChat, I wanted to get everyone's likes for every one of my updates. It seems that in this way, you can be recognized by everyone, enhance your sense of existence, and at the same time let others see that your popularity is also good.

In real life, I am actually a person who cares a lot about other people's thoughts, and I can change myself as much as possible in order to fit in, and try to make everyone like and satisfied.

Therefore, when I used to post every circle of friends, I had to carefully figure out how to match the picture, what to say, etc., so that it took a lot of time to send it out.

Then I waited for comments and likes, I was naturally happy if I liked more, and if I liked less, my inner drama began to play out: why didn't anyone like it, obviously everyone saw it, why didn't I click on other people's ......

The result of a series of inner dramas is that the more I think about it, the more unhappy I become, and I fall into a dead loop.

This kind of day lasted for more than half a year, and in the end, I was tired, and the number of times I posted on Moments became less and less, thinking that since "liaring" was so tired, I would post less.

It is possible that people have blocked you, or it is possible that others rarely look at the circle of friends, or that you have too few friends.

I feel the same way, fewer and fewer people like and comment! And I don't want to comment on other people's circle of friends anymore, just take a look, many times others don't want to reply when they come to comment on themselves!

Because there are too many advertisements in the circle of friends now, micro-business! So looking at the circle of friends, there are fewer and fewer people who post on the circle of friends, and the number of people who like it is coming!

Normally, posting something important or interesting should give you more likes.

Maybe it's been a long time, and the things posted aren't too fresh, so no one likes them.

This phenomenon is very popular when the WeChat circle of friends has just begun, and whoever posts the content will like it? But now it's been a long time, really, everyone has seen this incident, because they will post on Moments and status, so they are used to it, and there are fewer likes.

I think if no one likes it in the circle of friends, then it means that the circle of friends you posted has no practical meaning.

Yes, everyone is like that.

Either you rarely like it, or the circle of friends you post is too boring.

1. Sending the wrong content or writing the wrong word.

This situation is actually quite common, and it is also an important point for many people to delete the circle of friends, feeling that the content they posted is not particularly appropriate, or that there are some typos or mistakes, and they do not fully express the meaning they want to express, so they finally choose to delete.

Second, the person who likes it doesn't like it, but it's just boring to talk about himself.

What's even more annoying is that you see that ta also posted his own circle of friends during this time, so you are sure that he must have seen your own circle of friends, at this time you are full of loss, just like the confession letter did not reply, a dynamic without a reply, rather than making yourself dazzling and heartbroken, it is better to delete it.

3. Emotional out-of-control.

For example, after experiencing some kind of unfair treatment, or encountering some kind of strange accident, there was a dispute, which triggered your extremely angry emotions and wanted to vent it, so you sent a circle of friends under impulse, and afterwards you found that you had already thought about it, and looked down on it, and then looked at that circle of friends, it was inevitable that people would feel naïve.

Fourth, clear the space.

I sent those contents that looked enthusiastic at the time to the circle of friends, and then after a long time, I felt that the retention value of those friends and friends circle dynamics was too small, and I felt that my friends had seen the lead blind Kai, and then I chose to delete it, just like cleaning up the WeChat space, and clean up my circle of friends after a while.

Fifth, this circle of friends does not want to be seen by a friend.

Once you send it to the circle of friends, you will always feel that there are some WeChat friends who have had conflicts in their daily lives, and after seeing it, they will feel that you are insinuating yourself, this matter, I don't want them to know, I only remembered it after posting, and finally decided to delete it!

I posted a circle of friends at eight o'clock last night, and it turned out that my colleagues in the unit liked it twice, one of which was my husband, it was so miserable, and I was also very inexplicable, so I emo for a long time ......

I posted more than 20 circles of friends before, and more than 30 likes, but there were very few of them in the circle of friends these two times, which made me depressed.

Because there are a lot of common colleagues in the unit, if you post a circle of friends and no one likes it, everyone can see it, so it will be very embarrassing. A colleague also said before that a colleague was not popular, and no one liked it when he posted it to his circle of friends, so now that no one likes it in my circle of friends, I will automatically bring in this paragraph of my colleague, which feels too uncomfortable......

Well, I feel that I am very unsuitable for posting on Moments. It will affect the mood very much, every time I post a dynamic, I can't help but look at my phone to see if there are any likes, who likes them, if there are more likes, it's okay, if there are less, I have been unhappy in my heart, such as I am now.

So, this is also the reason why I don't post works anymore since Douyin has views, because when you have very few likes, can you still see which people have read your dynamics but don't like you, and you feel more uncomfortable? Especially the person you think is a good friend, and often likes him, don't mention how uncomfortable it is at this time, anyway, it belongs to posting a work, and the mood has to go up and down for hours, or even ......longerAy.

I think there are several reasons:

1. There are too many things we need to think about" The previous self was pushed into one role after another by life, and we had to work hard to play every role, and most importantly, we had to manage the character design of certain roles through the circle of friends. If you are a parent, you must have the stability of being a parent, and you can't post some exaggerated dynamics in the circle of friends, and if you are an employee, you must be active as an employee, and you can't post some very depressed dynamics in the circle of friends.

There are many things to think about and many aspects to consider, so you can only suppress your true colors, for fear that this person will see that it is not appropriate, and you are also afraid that you will let that person see the bad impact.

What does this amount to? There are more things to restrain one's behavior, and instead of thinking about the trouble of shielding anyone, it is better not to send it directly.

2. Changes in mentality and mood.

became low-key and calm, began to focus on life, did not sell hail, cared about what others said, how to see himself, and over time, he no longer needed to show himself through the circle of friends.

3. The pace of daily life is too fast.

The pace of urban life is too fast these days.

Many people think that liking in the circle of friends is a private thing, there is no need to follow any rules and regulations, you can post whatever content you want, and you can like others if you want to, but is this really the case?

When you post a circle of friends, and there are still zero likes within a few hours**, you know that the content you post may not be very pleasing, or you should usually give others more likes and send a favor.

The reason why it is a weak connection is because compared with one-to-one chat, the circle of friends is not an immediate, highly interactive strong connection, and it is precisely because of the weak connection that it is easy to be ignored.

Although the circle of friends is a display place with weak connection, it also requires you to manage it carefully.

About content sharing.

Some valuable*** articles, or your own original views or opinions, are the best content to share, and your circle of friends appears in the field of vision of others as the birthplace of dry goods, providing others with new knowledge or thinking.

You can also occasionally post some life photos, so that everyone knows your recent status, we see other people's ** in the circle of friends, and the sense of intimacy will rise involuntarily, even if it is thousands of miles away, you can feel the true state of the other party.

For some worthless articles, or even rumors, don't touch them, because this is not just a matter of an article, but represents the taste and intelligence of your whole person, and once something is lost, it is difficult to get it back.

When posting a circle of friends, think carefully about what you do for others, every act you do is building your value, only after figuring out this problem, the circle of friends you send is valuable.

For your valuable content, you can like + make a short comment, like is the affirmation of the content, and the comment is a sharing of views, which can form an active interactive effect with the best people and enhance the communication between the two parties.

It is a dangerous behavior to abruptly like someone else's circle of friends a long time ago, because it will give others a sense of tension that their privacy is being spied on.

If others don't like it, it means that this circle of friends is not for you to see, but not for you and your superiors' mutual friends, so don't join in the fun.

Regarding likes, you can't like them according to your mood, but you should think twice before liking them like communicating with others, and for comments, it is a statement that expresses your position and needs to be carefully considered, so that your social quality will be enhanced.

2.There is no value in what is shared.

Likes, almost effortlessly, but why doesn't anyone like them?

The first point, naturally needless to say, plus now fewer and fewer people are looking at the circle of friends, and even if many people watch it, it is also the circle of friends who are staring at the stars in spring.

In fact, there is a third point, that is, there are more than 3,000 friends, there are too many people, and WeChat has limited your current. Those who often use Weibo know that they have obviously read the Weibo of all the people who follow during this period, but some people's Weibo is limited by keywords, and if it is not a friend who interacts frequently, it can't be turned out at all.

Therefore, I set the addition of friends to automatic addition in the settings, and after adding, I can only chat, and I can't see each other's friends and friends. I can't see each other's friend moments until I manually go through them again.

What is the value of the content you share?

Your personal opinion matters.

From ancient times to the present, human beings have always liked to create, writing poems in ancient times, and now posting QQ news, posting moments, posting Weibo, and playing Douyin.

In most cases, in addition to having a lot of friends and fans, the former also has a personal opinion when sharing, and those circle of friends that no one reads are all links, and there is basically no personal opinion, so how can it resonate with friends?

Writing, the social currency of people nowadays. Recently, I was reading Spenser's book "Writing is the Best Self-Investment" and couldn't agree with the following passage.

If you can't write, you're losing your competitiveness in the workplace. In the workplace of the Internet age, the aura of so-called titles has become more and more dim. First, they did not create their own platform to precipitate their own value.

Second, they don't have a continuous output of valuable content carriers, and they can't generate deep connections with users.

Writing is about constantly letting others know your workplace identity, workplace attitude, and professional skills. The reason why many people in the workplace are unable to establish a higher level of workplace contacts and lack the opportunity to make strong people is precisely because they do not have their own social currency.

There are always people who say they want to write too, but they don't know what to write. My reply is usually "I don't have any experience, I just write", "Force myself, pay money to write".

Everyone has a loss aversion, and if you pay the money, if you are eliminated from the game, isn't it a loss?

At the end of 17 years, many people recommended 007 to me, and finally Qin Jie, the founder of 007, invited me in a very tempting way, and I joined 007 and went out without writing.

In '18 I started to have the idea of starting a daily community, and I started experimenting with daily updates for a while. This month, I'm going to start updating it again, and I'm hoping to be able to write longer than before.

After reading Wu Jun's "Insight", I don't remember the original sentence very well, and I finally knew why only his column was updated continuously throughout the year, even on rest days, and I just read some updates more than 365 times a year. So, after reading it, I believe that my day will be longer than before.