What are some good ways to reduce the spoiling of grandparents on their grandchildren?

I think there are two ways. The first is to tell your grandparents examples of the harm of doting. The second is to reduce the time that grandparents spend with their children.

First of all, parents should be able to free up more time to manage and accompany their children, and let the grandparents tell their grandparents to be independent, so that the grandparents can greatly reduce the spoiling of grandchildren.

You can try to communicate with your grandparents, and it is best to communicate with the child's father, so that the grandparents can understand the stakes of spoiling the child.

The so-called intergenerational parenting, it is normal for grandparents to pamper their grandchildren. As long as it is not excessive, it is necessary to maintain a harmonious atmosphere in the family as much as possible. As a parent, you must first maintain a good relationship with your grandparents, and then communicate with your grandparents calmly about parenting concepts, so that grandparents can cooperate with their children's education.

If you want to give advice to the elderly, you might as well call "Dad" and "Mom" sweetly, or give some small gifts from time to time, and then talk about things lightly. In this way, the old man is often embarrassed to refute, feeling that these little things are nothing compared to the filial piety of the younger generation, and it is much easier to accept. In addition, before discussing the problem with the elderly, it is best to listen to him finish his speech and respond with a "desire to suppress the first to rise":

There is some truth to what you say, but ......Then express your point of view and give the old man an emotional buffer and transition.

Grandparents always spoil their grandchildren, what effect does this have on children?

Hello, glad to answer for you. May hinder your child's normal interpersonal interactions. It will make children like to evade and shirk responsibility when they encounter anything.

The child's personality will be extraordinarily cowardly, and he will also cry his nose. Children will become more and more selfish. Prepare The child will become more and more arrogant, unreasonable, trembling, and unreasonable.

For a long time, in Xiao Liu's mind, his parents were very harsh, but after Xiao Liu's child was born, Xiao Liu's parents' attitude changed a lot. Xiao Liu's parents used to be very harsh, but in front of their grandson, it was different, and Xiao Mino Liu's parents became very amiable. Whatever the child wants, the grandparents will fulfill the grandson's wishes.

What the child wants to eat, even if it takes a long time to buy it, the grandparents are willing to take a long time to buy it for their grandchildren, which can be described as a hundred spines for the child.

Grandma prefers children, and when she goes out shopping with her children, she will buy whatever toys the child wants and go home without saying a word. The child likes the toys in the hands of other children, and grandma will not hesitate to buy them home.

From these things, it can be seen that the child's grandparents love their grandchildren very much. Once, Xiao Liu's parents' house was about to be demolished, and Xiao Liu heard his parents say that in the future, they would leave all the money for the house demolition to their grandson, including some gold, silver and jewelry from his grandmother, so that the grandson would not be afraid of not being able to marry a daughter-in-law in the future.

After listening to what his parents said, Xiao Liu felt that his son Zhenfeng, who was not a few years old, was rich, Xiao Liu said, who is the son, I am a little jealous.

The elderly should not spoil their children too much, which is not conducive to the growth of children.

1. Parents' education will become ineffective When the child's parents are educating their children, the elderly will feel very sorry for their grandchildren and will intervene. Although this is a very normal thing, the old man feels sorry for his grandson and must have a degree, and he can't protect the child in everything. When the old man is taking the child in the orange shelter, the hall is often soft-hearted and reluctant to say that the child is not.

In fact, this practice is very wrong, which will make children think that Yuanfuzhou's own parents are bad people.

2. Children's concepts will be affected, and the best teachers to educate children are parents, and parents are the best educators for children. Whenever parents are educating their children, if the elderly are involved, it will affect the parents to educate their children. Especially after the child makes a mistake, most parents will punish the child somewhat, but the old man feels sorry for the grandson and does not let the child's parents punish the grandson.

After a long time, the child will develop a sense that as long as the old man is around, the child will make a mistake himself. The child will think that this is nothing, anyway, the parents will forgive him, in fact, this practice of the elderly will cause the child's growth to be greatly affected.

3. There will be disharmony in the family, and the child's education will be affected by the intergenerational parent, and the child's parents will not talk about the elderly on the surface, but in fact, there will be a lot of dissatisfaction in their hearts. I can't help but tell my children that there are some things that can't be listened to by grandparents. If the child's parents do this, there will be conflicts with the elderly, and it will also affect the relationship between the elderly and the child.

After a long time, there will be disharmony in the family in the future, and there will be many crises.

To be honest, it is really very difficult to solve this problem, because everyone's personality is different, there are some old people who are very stubborn, no matter what you say to him, he will not listen to you, and he will stubbornly think that he is an elder, he has a lot of experience, and he will definitely be better than you juniors. I've brought so many children, aren't they all good? Why can't I get to you?

This is the idea of the vast majority of mothers-in-law who don't listen to their daughters-in-law with children, to be honest, it's really hard to change their minds, but we must also find a way to face it. Because your original intention must be to hope that your mother-in-law can help take care of the children, so that the family can be more harmonious and the children can grow up more healthily. First of all, we have to think about the way we speak, because you don't want to treat him in a way that he doesn't like, and then he may not listen to you at all.

You need to be sure of what he's doing and let him know that we all have the same goals and that we want to make the baby better. Don't say that they did something wrong, you just criticize him directly, let him change directly, then he will definitely not be willing, after all, he is so old, he will definitely think that you don't respect him. If you go against such a strong mother-in-law, it will only make your family conflict more profound, because you don't want to let it, and he doesn't want to let it.

Because the times are different and the concepts are different, it is impossible to say whether it is right or wrong, but people may think that there is no problem with his method and use his experience to bring it, but now we have a scientific method, you will think that he is wrong. You have to be willing to talk to him patiently about some problems, you can't come up and blame him, you have to let him know what kind of parenting methods are right and what is wrong, and slowly tell him, he may also accept it. Of course, if you meet the kind of person who is very, very stubborn and can't listen to other people's ideas at all, then there is really no way.

It is difficult to change the way grandmothers educate their grandchildren, and the ideas of the older generation are deep-rooted. It can't be changed for a while. At the beginning, it is necessary to formulate regular behaviors for children, and parents should first unify with the elderly before putting forward requirements for children.

First of all, what kind of education method is the grandmother with a baby, the subject did not make it clear.

If it is a doting way, then it is necessary to make it clear to grandma that this way does not allow the child to grow up healthily.

You should take the right approach, and you must respect the other person and consider it from the other person's point of view, so as to impress the other person.

There is nothing wrong with the old man caring about his grandson, but over-spoiling his grandson is still harmful, which will develop the child into a tantrum and a very selfish character. Try every possible way to let the old man solve it for him, and when he gets older, he will become helpless when he encounters a little difficulty, so grandparents can care about their grandchildren, but they can't be too spoiled.

It will make the child more selfish, have no independence, have poor self-care ability, and will also make the child's personality flawed, so try not to spoil the child.

The first is that it will make the child pampered and arrogant, and many times will not listen to his parents. The second is that there will always be some differences in educational concepts between grandparents and parents, which is very easy to cause disputes in this case. In the end, it is to spoil the children excessively, which will make them lose the idea of hard work and just want to sit back and enjoy the results.

It is likely to encourage the child's willfulness and make him think that any unreasonable demands he has been met by others, which is not conducive to the development of character such as politeness in early children.