How modern young people can break free from the social circle

It is actually very difficult for modern young people to break out of the social circle, but through their own efforts, they can learn from their favorite circle, improve and take root.

Finally, when you have a certain amount of strength in it, you have a great chance of breaking free from the social circle.

Therefore, this often requires oneself to work hard, to find the direction you like, and then to have a passion for it, and finally to break free from these social circles with your own interests and strength.

How can today's young people break free from the cycle of society? I think it's still necessary to keep learning and find a direction. Break through yourself.

Personally, I think there is a very important point, as the saying goes: people have to die more than people, and goods have to be thrown away.

Therefore, it is necessary to do not compare in order to break free from the social circle.

Once a person starts to compare, he is doomed to lose, because there will always be someone better than him.

We should be more understanding, understand life, and enjoy what we have.

Yan Hui, one of the five great sages of Confucianism and the head of the seventy-two sages of Confucius, is a person who is happy with poverty.

There is a passage in the Analects that praises him:

A spoonful of food, a scoop of drink, in the alleys, people are unbearable, and they will not change their pleasures.

It means that Yan Hui lives in a simple alley, and his food and drink are very bitter. If you were someone else, you might feel that this was too bitter, but Yan Hui enjoyed it and experienced the taste of life.

Comparing yourself with others is a never-ending pain, because when you climb over a mountain, there are endless and higher mountains in front of you.

If you don't compare, you won't be unbalanced; There is no imbalance to enjoy life.

The reality is so cruel, in order to survive in this cruel society, you must constantly strengthen your ability to survive, in fact, there are many ways to relax, as long as you can relax yourself properly! Don't stress and inhibit yourself too much! That way you won't get tired!

And as long as you treat everything with a normal heart, there is nothing that you can't get over! Believe that you are the best! But the most important thing is to realize the value of personal survival, to prove that your existence has brought something useful to the world in which you live.

Life is like a dream but not a dream, although sometimes people can't figure it out, but we still have to face our own every day seriously. Man lives for the unknown; For love, for oneself, for one's family, for society, for one's country, people live to seek unknown answers and create unknown answers. When your actions are praised in small ways, you will understand the purpose of life; When your actions make a brilliant page for the unknown, you will find the meaning of life; When your actions achieve others and yourself, you will realize the value of life!

Maybe you have frustration; Maybe in the face of setbacks, you want to choose to fall; Maybe the long-term struggle for the unknown without reward makes you lose the fun, confidence and courageMaybe you should think like this: Only today's present is the most real and truly belongs to us, so cherish the bits and pieces of the present You can't control others, but you can control yourself; You can't control the weather, but you can change the mood; You can't choose the look, but you can choose the heart! There is no depth of the blue sky, you can choose the elegance of white clouds; Without the vastness of the sea, you can choose the elegance of the stream; Without the vigor of an eagle, you can choose the carefree of a bird; There is no fragrance of the wilderness, you can choose the emerald green of the grass!

Everyone is a perfect apple before birth, and God can't help but take a bite of each apple, so people have shortcomings, and more importantly, God gives people the motivation to fight for the unknown glory in life. As long as you have a sound body, you have the possibility of creating success; Just stand up bravely on your flaws and fight bravely.

Strange circles are formed by various groups of people, and to discover these strange circles, you must learn to look at things from God's point of view.

And to stand in God's perspective, we must study more, read more books, and get in touch with different people and different ideas. In fact, even books should be read selectively, because there are many books that are problematic in themselves, and some people will not understand the core idea of a book and will deviate.

There are people who themselves stand in a strange circle and live in such an environment, and he thinks that the normal world is like this, and this is the saddest part. Because the scary thing is not that you are bad, but that you don't even know that you are bad.

What is the current situation of young people?

Mobile phone, wifi, Ge You lying.

swiping Weibo and eating a boxed lunch.

In the morning, you should **, and in the afternoon, you will eat deliciously.

I want to run when I go to work, but I collapse in bed after work.

I am sleepy and pour coffee during the day, and I am busy with insomnia at night.

Stay up the deepest nights and apply the most expensive masks.

I have more and more, but my heart is getting more and more empty.

It's as if the body is hollowed out.

With the development of society, people's life rhythm is getting faster and faster, and many people live a two-point-one-line life. In many families, parents are away all the year round, and children receive little care from their parents, so they develop a character that does not know how to love and does not know how to express. There are also many families where parents are overly doting on their children and responding to their needs, making their children more and more willful in the process of growing up.

Almost all of our young people grew up in such an environment, and when they grow up, they can't adapt to society quickly, and they will become very confused and anxious.

Many teachers like to tell their students that one session is not as good as one session. Don't be unconvinced when your teacher says this, it's actually true.

In the past, students were really studying seriously, but now students have more and more trivial matters, coupled with the responsiveness of their parents, their minds gradually deviate from learning, and naturally one session is not as good as one session.

As a student, the main task is really to study, to develop your hobbies outside of studying. Only by working harder and harder can we get closer to my childhood dreams step by step, instead of being willing to fall. Come on! (ง

Break free from social traps through continuous learning.

If you are in a social circle now, then don't be in a hurry, be down-to-earth, find the right direction, study hard to improve your taste and cognition, find the direction from the circle through your own efforts and then jump out of the social circle.

It is difficult for modern young people to break free from the social circle, and it takes a lot of courage to break free from the social circle, and the most effective way for modern young people to break free from the social circle is to ......Get out of this world.

If you want to change the current status quo, the current circle must first change yourself, you have to become excellent yourself to be said not to be so easily influenced by others, you have to really contact those who are very good and excellent, learn from others hard, learn from others, and change is not just to want to act.

Nowadays, young people, if the social circle refers to some people and things around you, and some people around you are not good, you can stay away from him, and some things around you, if you can't be the master, you can let go and don't care.

Hello landlord, if you say how modern young people can break free from the social circle, if you want to break free from the social circle, then you have to increase your ability, as long as you have the strength, then you can naturally get rid of the social circle.

Arrange daily life reasonably, arrange work and rest time reasonably, do not compare, do not exaggerate, travel in a civilized manner, improve personal accomplishment, and improve cultural level.

01Set goals and focus on them.

I often hear people say, I'm confused, I don't know what to do, am I just living a mediocre life, doing nothing?

This reminds me of the "horsefly effect" in psychology.

Without the chasing bite of the horsefly, the horse will be content with the status quo, grazing quietly and walking slowly. If there is a swarm of terrifying horseflies chasing the horse behind it, the horse will keep running forward and galloping.

In other words, people need a rear drive to run forward and strive to improve.

The reason for the confusion is that you have no motivation, there is no whip behind you, how can you keep moving forward?

This kind of rear drive can come from many sources. It can be stress, frustration, bumps, and more.

If you don't have the motivation around you and don't have the "horsefly" that drives you forward, then learn to set yourself a short-term goal.

Harvard University in the United States has done a tracking experiment on "target". They surveyed a group of young people with almost the same intelligence, living environment, and family background, and only 4% of them had clear goals and life plans.

1. "I feel like I 'should' do a lot of things. I feel like I want to be 'perfect'. These so-called "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts" are all generated by our parents and the outside world when we grow up.

The real "ought" is that when we are hungry, we have to eat, and when we are thirsty, we have to drink. Think about it, who didn't cry when he was hungry when he was a child, and "should" endure it, waiting for his parents to find out that they were hungry and gave me food? These "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts" limit our actions and even our thoughts to a great extent.

According to the information provided by the landlord, the so-called "perfection" is also set by the individual. Your situation is somewhat similar to "perfectionist personality disorder". It is the pursuit of perfection in everything, and the standards are extremely high, not only for yourself, but also for others.

Once you can't reach it, it's easy to give up on yourself and get angry.

2. "I don't know what I want to do, I feel like I have to deal with errands in everything I do, and I have to get by, which leads to an unhappy state all the time." This is because you have only done things according to the requirements of your parents or other people, and you have little or no attention to your inner feelings, what do you really want? It's about constantly satisfying what others ask of you.

When you try to discover what you are inside and what you really want, your unhappiness will disappear.

3. "And I think that no matter how much time I have, I should" do the right thing, and I don't want to give up the demand for perfection in myself. As a result, instead of being unhappy all the time, it is better to put things off until the last moment, do it when you have to do it, and usually find all kinds of things to forget about "business" and anesthetize yourself. The so-called "business" is also defined by ourselves or according to the standards of others, and there is no unified standard for what is "business".

For example, when I was in high school, the school banned playing billiards, in that case, playing billiards was not a "serious matter", but Ding Junhui became famous by playing billiards and won glory for China, so is this billiards a "serious matter"? The meaning of all things is given by man. Before it was associated with love, a diamond was just a stone that was a little harder than an ordinary stone.

Reshaping the Mind", this is a very good book written by teacher Li Zhongying, with many practical tips and methods.

The World's Most Amazing Twenty-Four Lessons", a translated book about exploring one's own inner needs.

The Reconstruction of Life" has been published for many years, but I have just come into contact with it, and I feel very good, a teacher on our side bought a copy a few years ago, and I often read it and gained a lot.

May you be happy! ~~

Be yourself, happy and always with you

A person's ability is limited, and pursuing perfection too much and thinking about unrealistic things will only make him lose motivation.

There are some things that don't help if you think too much, and what you think about is actually good, but because of various external factors, you can't complete it, so you won't do it, and then there will be a state of getting by, and I have also experienced it.

Do what you can, be content and happy.

The troubles are all thought out by yourself, step by step. When you don't create trouble for yourself, others will never cause trouble for you.

Now just do what you can, when you can't control others, you can only control yourself, restrain yourself, and change your own requirements. This might be a little more practical.

Let go of the burden of mistakes, the wrong thoughts, don't be too attached to the future, you don't even know what will happen tomorrow, let alone the future.

Eat salty, look down, think less, do more.

It's right to position yourself very high, and it's right to be a person who pursues perfection, and you are always strict with yourself to do your best, but the way you pursue it is not right! It's very simple! How can you run when you haven't learned to climb?

One of the most important elements in the pursuit of ideals and success is not how much you get, but how much you have experienced, experience is the greatest wealth of everyone's life, just like your learning career, you re-enter primary school to university "must go through middle school and high school", of course, there are a few gifted children can skip grades, but if in the future days are just content with the status quo, will also be eliminated by the society, my life is a tall building, if there is no solid foundation, it is difficult to erect in the city, Because it can't withstand any challenges, I decide that you don't have to bring you confusion and troubles because of this state of life now, but just a matter of mentality, you can take some of the trivial things you encounter every day and the serious things you have to deal with as the cornerstone of your future high ideals. To be a down-to-earth person, step by step, in order to go further, in order to make yourself more perfect.