What is the psychology of wanting a family but looking down on one of them?

The days are for two, not with other people for a lifetime. As long as the relationship between the two is good, it's fine.

There is no emotion, and all parties think that the parties are wrong, so it feels meaningless and stressful to be together.

Personally, I think I want a family, but I look down on the psychology of a family member, in fact, this is also normal, because this is his own thinking and attitude of judging the situation to look at others, so she will naturally not accept others, in real life, there are many such people, because he sets himself up as a kind of person, he looks down on those who are worse than him.

I want to see the family, but I look down on the psychology of one of the family members. That must be less contact with them. Some activities won't call this person either. Because you look down on him.

They need to learn to appreciate each other, and the Chinese sometimes feel that saying that the other person is not good, may become better and become a pressure pump of love. In fact, we can face the experience together, grow together and get better together, we are inseparable together, husband and wife need to praise each other often, and they will get better and better in appreciation.

The family members of a family influence each other, and different roles give them different family functions. Whether as a husband, wife, father, mother, child, or as a family member, financial manager, or as a student or student, they all have specific functions. The role structure of the family is formed in the interaction of family members, each family is roughly the same but not the same, it is formed by long-term common life and run-in between family members, and it contains a very complex psychological process.

There are certain rules to follow in its formation. The various family role structures formed will have a certain psychological impact on other family members.

1 The main and supporting roles in the family are assigned in a family, and each member wants to be the protagonist, the authority, the leader, that is, what we usually call the decision-maker on large and small events. When an event occurs that has an impact on the family, what should be done is usually decided by the family members through collective discussion, but there must always be a person who has the direction, which is what we call the head of the family. Of course, with the family, other members will naturally be shaped into leaders, at this time, these so-called family "supporting roles" should pay attention to adjust their mentality, either obedient or resistant, appropriate willing obedience will maintain family harmony.

And resisting due to psychological imbalance will naturally cause family conflicts, and husband and wife will quarrel with each other. Children's resistance and disrespect for their parents are all caused by a family's inability to adjust the role structure in time.

2 Excessive skewed roles in the family refer to a vicious circle in which other family members are also misaligned due to abnormal family roles. For example, if the father figure is too strict, it will lead to the mother not having her proper position, and the child will be overly afraid in front of the father. At this time, the father should pay attention to adjusting himself and treat his family members as gently as possible, so that his wife and children can also have their due stance and attitude, and create a more harmonious family atmosphere.

And if parents spoil their children too much, it will lead to lawlessness, not listening to anyone, or being too squeamish and dependent on their parents. In order to change this phenomenon of role bias and let the child return to a normal role, parents must overcome pampering and doting, and always let the child be the best, as long as the child is happy. These also reflect the deviation of parents' educational attitudes, so learning to educate children scientifically is a compulsory course for parents.

Psychological compatibility between family members refers to the consistency of family members' beliefs, ideas, opinions, ideals, and values. Husbands and wives, parents, children, and all kinds of family roles should respect each other, be considerate of each other, understand each other, and depend on each other. On the contrary, it is easy to lead to family problems and psychological problems of one kind or another.

1 Husband and wife are psychologically compatible and love each other to form a family, husband and wife are intimate, heart-to-heart, respect and love each other, cooperate tacitly, feel love from each other, feel warmth and security. On the contrary, if the husband and wife are psychologically incompatible, they will often quarrel and disagree, suspect each other, make the family atmosphere tense, and even not feel the happiness of the family, only feel that they can no longer live together, feel pain, and thus move towards the family tragedy of divorce. In order to change this state, we should trust each other, respect each other, love each other, treat each other with tolerance, and create a good and harmonious family atmosphere.

2 Psychological compatibility between parents and childrenChildren should be filial to their parents, and parents should love and educate their children scientifically. When children do something wrong, parents should educate and enlighten them, reason and set out the facts, so that the children are convinced, instead of scolding when they open their mouths and beating them with their hands, which will have the opposite effect; When parents are at fault, children should pay attention not to confront each other in person, but should first obey and then persuade, not only to ensure the dignity and status of their parents, but also to persuade them to change their views.

3 Psychological compatibility between brothers and sistersBrothers and sisters should respect and love each other, unite and help each other, work together, encourage each other, know how to pay for each other, and work hard to create a united and harmonious family.

In short, psychological compatibility between family members is an important condition for family happiness and harmony.

A family needs to be built by both men and women, and they are to play the roles of husband and wife. And after having children, they have to play the role of father and mother.

The father is an extremely important figure in the family and has important responsibilities. The traditional form of motherhood in the upbringing and education of children is increasingly unsuitable for modern society. Modern scientific research has shown that the best way to educate children is to raise and educate both parents.

Among them, the father's upbringing and education can have a beneficial effect on the child.

Many children raised by single mothers will have some character weaknesses, such as indecisiveness, cowardice, timidity, squeamishness, especially some boys will make people feel lacking manly spirit, like a little girl. The father's education is very different from that of the mother, and they pay more attention to cultivating the child's tenacious character, the ability to deal with things decisively, and the bold and heroic temperament.

The role of the father in the family, especially the children, has a great psychological impact, which is determined by the father's personality characteristics and educational methods, so let's summarize the father's personality characteristics and educational methods.

1) Personality traits 1 Rationality is more than emotion, women use feelings to deal with things, while men use reason more, they pay more attention to the regularity, objectivity, reality and rationality of things.

2 WillpowerMen's willpower is much stronger than that of women, and they tend to appear stronger, more persistent, and more motivated than women when faced with events and major setbacks.

3 Sense of DistanceFathers rarely caress their children and play with them as mothers do, and they emphasize that they can guarantee their sense of majesty through a certain distance.

4 The career-centered father's style not only allows children to learn a sense of responsibility to the family, but also enables children to clarify the goals of life and learn the qualities of diligence and positivity.

2) Educational Means1 The role of a strict father dooms them to a different style of education from the mother, where there is no meticulous and meticulous care, but instead a strict demand, training, supervision, and shaping until the child reaches a standard that satisfies them or has traits similar to his.

2 Role models for fathers to pay more attention to their own image in front of their children and strive to be a good example for their children. For example, honesty, trustworthiness, organization, clear thinking, and rigorousness.

In modern society, both men and women have to go to society, and some good qualities of men are becoming a kind of social expectation, and the father's cultivation and education of children are moving towards a more important position together with the mother's education. Therefore, playing a good father role is crucial for family members, especially for the psychological impact of children.

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