Why do couples deepen their relationship three months before each other s death?

When people reach middle age, after the death of their wife, why do they start another marriage so quickly.

In married life, only love is not enough, both of you must have a healthy body to support you through life, but now although the standard of living has improved a lot, it is still not good for some diseases, and between a couple, there will always be one of the two people who will go first, and the person who stays, life has no center of gravity, no spiritual support, and even no dependence on life, and no one to accompany him will make him even more sad.

When you reach middle age, you have parents, you have children, you are now in a state of being old and young, you have your job, social pressure is directly borne on you alone, now you can't rely on your parents, you can't rely on children, you may live alone, if you love your wife very much, you can't accept other women after your wife dies, you'd rather be lonely in the second half of your life than want others to be company, but this situation is really rare.

It is usually the first three weeks and the first five weeks of death.

1. Be proactive.

The relationship between couples has weakened, and many times it is because there is less communication, and they have been in love for too long, and they know each other too well, and they don't need to understand each other through communication. At this time, if you don't want your relationship to fade, then take the initiative to talk to the other person about topics that the other person is interested in, and then maintain communication between you.

If this is the case, then no matter how familiar people are, they will gradually lose their common topic, and no matter how deep their feelings are, they will feel lost and unable to find a direction. So if you like someone, don't be stingy with your emotional expression, say what you should say, don't expect others to guess your thoughts out of thin air, and say things to each other in order to have a chance to understand each other.

2. Don't impose your will on the other party.

If you always let your partner do what you say, it will be very difficult for you to reach a compromise.

This kind of attitude arises sometimes because the wishes of the teenager have not been fulfilled, and sometimes because the old grievances have reached the boiling point, and the contradiction is about to erupt. There's nothing wrong with sticking to what you believe in, but you also have to listen to the other person's opinion, and respecting the other person will make it easier for you to achieve your goals, and both parties will be happy.

3. Complain less.

Don't always complain about the other person, if the other person really changes, maybe you still don't like it, don't always think about letting the other person do what you think, it will cause conflicts.

Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, don't just stare at each other's shortcomings in life, that will be very tiring, learn to magnify each other's strengths, and shortcomings can be slowly corrected.

4. Keep your curiosity alive.

Every day is a new challenge, and so is your significant other.

Try to discover a different kind of him, he at work, when he plays, when he is with friends, when he is with you, when he is doing all the leisure activities he loves, everyone will have a different face in different situations and behaviors.

In the same way, you too, in addition to discovering the various faces of the other person, you must also let the other person know that you are not just you, everyone is changeable, and it is because of these changes that you create a unique self.

Keep your curiosity about your partner, let yourself know him a little more every day, everyone will have a different face on different occasions, he is different at work and leisure.

5. Change with the changes of life.

When you fall in love, your relationship will change as each day progresses, and the best way to face a relationship is not only to do your best, but also to be at peace with what happens.

Accept and face every change calmly, and face and respond to all kinds of changes brought about by feelings at any time. Remember, don't lose yourself, no matter what.

Kiss each other lightly before going out every time, so that love can be expressed in action, but a small action will seem very sweet. Hugs and kisses are direct expressions of a couple's love and are the most indicative of your love for her.

With the passage of time, it is normal for feelings to fade, after all, "old husbands and wives" feel that there is no need to do many things, but in fact, feelings still need to be maintained.

It may be because men consume a lot of physical energy when they are young, and the pressure on men is often greater than that of women, or it may be because of men's irregular living and eating habits, which leads to some diseases in the organs of the body, women pay more attention to maintenance, and men generally do not, so women will live longer than men.

The main reason for this phenomenon is that under normal circumstances, boys need to face a lot of pressure, such as life pressure, work pressure, etc., and many times they are forbearing; However, girls have a better mentality and can reduce stress in various ways, so the life expectancy of girls is generally longer.

It is because men eat irregularly in their daily lives, and they often smoke and drink alcohol in ordinary times, so they are prone to some diseases, and women pay more attention to maintenance, so the time is longer.

Because girls pay great attention to their bodies, don't stay up late often, and pay attention to their diet, women's bodies are relatively healthy.

As the saying goes: husband and wife are the same forest birds, relying on each other, hand in hand and sharing weal and woe. It can be said that two people can become husband and wife, which can be said to be a blessing from thousands of years of cultivation, and every loving couple certainly hopes that they can be with their other half until they grow old.

But in this world, many things often backfire, and there are many couples who do not have such blessings. Some men can marry another woman not long after their wife dies, which may be a little doubtful for many people.

Some people think that maybe this man doesn't really love his deceased wife, and some people think that men really change their minds too quickly.

I once knew an uncle, he was middle-aged and widowed, at that time his children were still very young, a son and a daughter, all were still in primary school, and the uncle was busy with his own work every day, no time to take care of his two children, and his parents are also far away in his hometown, there is no reason to say that he wants to take over to help take care of the children, after all, his parents also have their own things to do in their hometown.

Since the death of his wife, he will feel powerless many times, after all, he has to earn money to support his family, and he has to take care of the children when he returns home, for him, at this time, he should find a suitable woman to marry, because women take care of their children more carefully and take care of them more thoughtfully. So the uncle began to go on blind dates constantly, looking for a suitable partner who could help him in the Lord.

This is not to say that he does not love his wife, although his children are still young, they can understand his behavior, after all, it is really hard for a big man to take care of children, and many times he does not take good care of his children.

You must know that when a man reaches middle age, they are no longer as young as before, and in the future, their children will have families, and they can't always be by their side, and it is difficult for them to resist loneliness alone, basically they will remarry because of this. They are not forgetting their deceased wife, they just hope to find a wife to talk to them and share the affairs of the family, so that their old age will not be too lonely.

Because these men are very rich, there are many women who want to marry them, and there are other women who want to top them immediately after the death of their wives, and these men also acquiesce to this behavior, which can be said to be quite unkind.

It is estimated that the two people have no relationship in the first place, and this man has long been in love with other people, so he will remarry not long after his wife dies.

Because the man wants to use the new wife to forget the previous wife.

Or maybe he didn't have a good relationship with his previous wife, and he was relieved after his death. Or maybe you don't want your dead wife to see that she is depressed, so she finds a new wife so that her life can continue.

This kind of person does not mean that they don't love their wives at all, but they can live in the moment, enjoy their lives, and feel a little drunk today, and live freely.

It varies from person to person, and it's entirely a personal choice. Because the most important thing in front of us is the need to re-energize ourselves and face the days ahead. The death of his wife will make his life lonely, and he wants to find someone as a companion more often.

This kind of man is now commonly known as the "scumbag", and the wife who may have passed away for them has already left, and they need to quickly fill the vacancy of this wife, which must also be without much love for his wife.

The first theory is that he was an enemy in a previous life. It's not that enemies don't get together, many women will say when they are coquettish, "You, the enemy of your previous life......."”

The second theory is that of a brother and sister in a previous life. I didn't become a husband and wife in my last life, so I have to stay together in this life.

The third theory is a father and daughter in a previous life, or a mother and son in a previous life.

This party has the cause of being kind to the other party: If someone is in the process of meeting each other, and one party is very touched by the other person, and the recipient wants to repay the kindness, then in the next life when they happen to be male and female, they will be married because of this good cause in the past. Such as; Once you drowned, but no one wanted to save you, but only one person desperately saved you, whether you were saved or not, you are still very grateful to him.

In order to repay this life-saving grace, you in the future life are willing to repay this favor as a cow and horse. Situations like this are all husband and wife who repay their kindness. Among all kinds of husband and wife, it is this kind of husband and wife relationship that can be the most happy, because there is a deep consciousness of one party, which is the dedication without regrets, so both parties can be happy.

However, such couples do not guarantee that they will not quarrel or divorce, and if their personalities are not compatible, there will still be friction problems with each other.

The wife of this life, the red face, the lover. What was the relationship with you in your past life? There is a fate for everything, what you want to strive for, just do your best, don't think that you will definitely get it, that is unrealistic. Learn to enjoy the process and downplay the result.

There is no scientific basis for whether there is a past life, cherish the present.

I wish there was a theory of cause and effect in a past life.

It depends on what kind of person the latter is, if he is emotional, and he has a deep affection for the deceased, he probably goes with him, but if he is a rational person, he may think that there is family, friends, and responsibilities, so he will cheer up after the sadness.

What logic? It depends on whom, but 99 percent of the time!

If it's all happiness slowly, of course it won't...

When people live together face to face, conflicts will inevitably arise after a long time. This is normal, but if the conflict is not handled well, it can lead to frequent quarrels. After a long time, the relationship will become thinner, so even if the husband and wife are often together, the relationship may not be good, many people only really realize what kind of person their husband is after marriage, and they may not have such a clear understanding when they are in love.

Therefore, even if the two couples live longer after marriage, it does not necessarily mean that the relationship is better. This has nothing to do with time, it has something to do with the personalities of two people, if the personalities of two people can tolerate each other and have the same three views, then the deeper the life together, but if both sides have a hot temper, and the friction together for a long time, the feelings are getting weaker and weaker. So it has to do with the attitude people choose.

The relationship between husband and wife after a long time will definitely become stronger and stronger, because after a long time together, the run-in is getting better and better, and the edges and corners have been run-in, so the relationship between the two will become very good.

It's really like this, if two people stay for a long time, understand each other more, and run in with each other more, the relationship will be deeper.

If the husband and wife have been married for a long time, then the relationship will definitely become stronger and stronger, because the two people have a tacit understanding together and have feelings for each other.

Because the longer the marriage, the relationship between the husband and wife will become stronger, and the two people will slowly get used to each other's existence in life and begin to become inseparable from each other.

I think that the longer you get married, the more you can get the relationship between husband and wife, which is like falling in love for a long time, getting along more, then you can't do without each other.

Indeed, the feelings will be stronger. Because the phrase "love over time" makes sense, the longer the time, the better the relationship.

This is not necessarily, because maybe the husband and wife will find that there are many shortcomings in each other that they have not noticed before, which they can't bear, and the relationship will become weaker and weaker.

Indeed, the relationship between two people will become more and more mellow because of the passage of time, because the run-in is getting better and better.

Of course, it is impossible to get stronger and stronger, because the trivial things of life will make the relationship between husband and wife weaker and weaker.

The relationship between husband and wife begins to deteriorate when two people no longer share their daily routines and no longer care about each other, and when they have difficulties, they no longer face them together, and they solve them together.

In general, it is because the other party does not take themselves to heart and does not notice their feelings, which will lead to the relationship becoming worse and worse.

The main reason for the change in the relationship between husband and wife is that two people do not communicate and communicate often, and two people often have cold wars, often quarrel, and do not think about each other.