How to adjust his mentality to go back to the past, is it possible?

Let's treat that girl as a sister, so that even if you like it, it's normal, and there's nothing strange about it......

Moreover, you can rest assured that you can care about him, anyway, I didn't think about staying with him, just standing not far away, caring for each other, it's also very good!

As long as everyone lives a happy life, tell me when you miss it, and it's not a big deal! Anyway, even if it's a hardcore, good friend, it's normal to have this kind of emotion!

Transform the relationship between men and women into natural habits and peaceful understanding and care, and everything will not be so difficult and chaotic......

Hope you recover soon!

Also, I got two revelations from the tarot cards, the first is to retreat as advance, and a step back will have a wider sky, maybe the ......

The second is self-sacrifice and dedication, which means to downplay one's own grievances, give up love, and silently care for and protect ......

First of all, with all due respect: it is very difficult to have a real friendship between a man and a woman (I say difficult, not nothing, but it is really difficult to achieve pure friendship).

In fact, there is more than friendship between you, even if it is not love, it is an ambiguous relationship, which is more dangerous.

You both have your own families, and you can't be husband and wife, really together, that's pretty much for sure.

If you choose to be rational, then you should get together and disperse, communicate frankly once, so that each other's hearts are not knotted, and continue to be colleagues and friends (friendship), but you can't continue to be ambiguous;

If you choose to be irrational, then you can only maintain a lover relationship, but it is not recommended, hehe.

People have feelings, in fact, I understand what happened to you, no matter what, bless you!

It's not that the balance is unbalanced, it's that you think too much when you're with him and you're too nervous, it's okay! Relax, I don't really like to hear people say, "It's impossible for us to be together", hehe!

Don't be so unconfident! As long as you are seriously with him, you will slowly get used to it, and slowly become more and more tacit, if that doesn't work, you are destined! You can only be good friends!

I know that you are happy.

This is for the eldest sister, hello:

As you can see from your text, you are a person with a family. Then it can't be the same as before. Think about what will happen if you develop a romantic relationship, and then there will be two families that are about to break up.

You and your lover love each other very deeply, and your colleague and husband and wife love each other just as deeply. In this case, it will not be between you and your colleagues, and there will be many people who will be sad about it; Hug your parents and loved ones. Especially that innocent child, who will lack parental love from an early age.

Would you like to see all this happen in the near future at your home and that of your colleagues?

I'll give you an idea, which is to use empathy. It is to let you and your colleagues think more about your children, lovers, and relatives from the perspective of your friends, whether you will develop as friends or fall in love again? I don't know much about your problems yet, so I won't say much.

I hope you'll think twice about this issue.

Let's talk about it next time.

It's too difficult, either completely avoid, don't work in a company, and transfer your feelings to the person you should love; Or get divorced together.

Think clearly about your purpose, whether you want to maintain your family, or if you want to pursue what you think is true love.

Otherwise, it will become more and more chaotic.

Ambiguity is like that! Confusing! Now that everyone has a family, don't think so much about it yourself!

Don't you think it's better to separate early, you are destined not to be blessed.

Pay more attention to what's happening in the outside world, no matter what is good or bad.

If you have the time and financial ability, you can travel and change your mindset. The purpose is also to see more people and things outside, broaden your horizons, and expand your thinking.

Put your mind on work or family, care more about the people and things around you, you don't have to do a lot, just start with small things. If you are a person who doesn't pay much attention to others, now is the time to change yourself.

Try to have a faith that doesn't tell you to be blindly superstitious, but to keep you hopeful about good things. It seems that Westerners advocate the inheritance of the 'Christmas spirit', which does not mean that you must believe that there is Santa Claus in this world.

Read more, watch some excellent literary and artistic works, and experience those things that are good on the outside and inside.

It's also an excellent way to say that our lives are inseparable. Choose your favorite or light and joyful ** to listen to it.

If you have any troubles, talk to someone, people are social animals, and you must know how to talk and listen (even if the other party is a psychiatrist. You know, the person who says it outlives the person who doesn't say it, that's what research shows?

The above is for your reference, you can choose to try, if not, it is recommended to consult a psychologist, it is not a shame to see a doctor.

Grow up, understand and know more blindness, unlike childhood, we will always use it to judge its benefits, go to the place where we used to play, think about the joy of the past, as if it will be in the past, and the mentality will change with it, but when you stop these actions, everything will be beaten back to the prototype, and the mentality will change with the change of the scene