What can I do in love not to lose myself?

If you lose yourself in your relationship, you will easily suffer from "not getting it" and "not being able to let go". Easily troubled by irrational emotions. I like the phrase "I don't love so much, just a little bit."

Other people's feelings are deep, but my feelings are shallow. "Only in this way can you maintain yourself in your relationship and be invincible. But there is a word called "obsession", and according to the "targeting theory", once you fall into it, it is like stepping into a quagmire.

So the more you try to keep yourself, the harder it is to do it. Then when starting the initial stage of a relationship, you must always warn yourself. The release of feelings cannot be "moths to the fire".

There has to be a little bit of input. And, when appropriate, it's important to always tell yourself to be rational. If you invest too much, you will not only be a victim of the trouble, but the other person may also become a victim.

Don't give up your original interest just because you have a lover, if you originally like painting, then let the other person also learn to paint, killing two birds with one stone. Constantly improve yourself. Love is for two people to be able to progress, not just focus on fun, if you want to maintain a relationship, you need to constantly self, so that the other party feels that there are many excellent things.

Keep your distance. Feelings are like a glass of water, every time it comes out, the less water will be in the cup. Therefore, when dating, you should pay attention to the frequency of meeting, leave room for each other's imagination, maintain the mystery of love, and more importantly, keep yourself.

I think that many people lose themselves when they are in love, and the more this way, the easier it is for the relationship to break, so remind yourself that there is not only love in your life, but also many more important people and things! Love is mutual, don't feel the humility of your love at any time, you must truly love yourself, love yourself and others will love you! I have a friend, when in love, will wholeheartedly pay for each other, but for their various hobbies to pursue never give up, will not rely too much on each other, have their own independent space, even in the end was hurt and broken up, after crying can still not drag the mud and water, even if now married, she still maintains her unique charm, can sing and dance, has her own circle of friends, she recently likes badminton, and often goes out with his husband to play ball, and travels on weekends, the two couples can live a fulfilling life!

Human nature is born selfish, when you fall in love with a person, and he has no blood interest under the premise that you are willing to fully dedicate yourself to him, take the other party as the center, and throw yourself on this relationship desperately, I think the first thing to congratulate you on meeting may be true love, this spirit of giving is commendable. However, if you go too far and lose yourself, you can easily lose this feeling. Why is that?

Because people must love themselves most at all times in order to win the love of others, when you give everything you have materially, spiritually, then you have nothing, lose yourself, what do others love you? So, when you love others, remember to be kind to yourself, and invest in yourself, the better you deserve to have a better relationship!

If the other party is unhappy, then just tell him that he is unhappy because of something. More often than not, we need to calm down and think about whether the source of this "unhappiness" is logical and reasonable. After falling in love for a long time, it is always easy to fall into the entanglement of self-emotion.

In fact, in the face of your own negative state, all you need is to force yourself to stop the loss. It's just that few people have this courage.

Will stop loss. If you start to think crankily alone, then spread out and talk to the other person, ask everything before making a decision. If you are always concerned about him, and you always want the other party to chat or play with you all the time, then force yourself to enter a state of solitude.

To practice calligraphy, learn to draw, etc., and constantly enrich yourself.

Don't start to limit your range of activities just because you have a lover, only by making more friends, we will have comparisons and find out what makes each other different. It's not about catering to each other, it's about knowing yourself and finding your own needs, so that the relationship between the two parties can maintain a healthy balance.

Because you have a lover, don't limit your activities. Only by making more friends will we compare and find out what makes each other different. You have to know yourself and find your needs so that the relationship can maintain a healthy balance instead of pandering to each other.

When you are in love, don't be too blind, don't lose yourself, be rational, and know that it's not impossible for the other party to do so.

This kind of thing, men are generally very rational, but women are easy to fall into, women themselves are emotional animals, if you want to maintain an independent self, you must have your own job, your own circle of friends, don't always focus on him.

In love, you love each other, and at the same time, you have to love yourself, and you have to think more about yourself when you are good for each other.

People who are easy to lose themselves in the relationship, most of them are more affectionate and more infatuated, why are many people around us trapped by love, some people can't extricate themselves, and finally they are stupid, they can't believe in love, they want to ask what love is, who can solve the mystery in their hearts, a very good one, for love and ruthlessness can not face, can not accept the real life, psychology to lose the courage of life, will fall and indulge. Such a person can only be loved by those who love him and her, and those who do not love him are not able to accept it in character, the psychological world is too small, and problems cannot be solved, and life will be suspicious and suspicious, and they will not be happy.

If you lose yourself in love all the time, you can't get happiness after all, because happiness does not come from the material things that are given, but from an inner feeling. Happiness doesn't come from the outside world or from other people, because you can't control these things all the time. Mastering the outside world starts with mastering one's own heart, and achieving happiness begins with finding oneself.

Therefore, I advise people in love not to lose themselves, and I have the following suggestions on how not to lose themselves.

1.In love, you have to keep a good attitude, when you are there, I will do what you like for you, and when you are not there, I will still arrange my own life, independence and autonomy.

2.Be polite, measured, and control your impulses. Whether it is a boy or a girl, Shiga must master these three points well. If you fall in love, you have successfully entered the love stage, but you should keep a clear head.

3.When we are in love, we must maintain our own integrity and not let the identity of boyfriend and girlfriend become our only label. Respect Sakura's love and respect yourself.

Don't belittle yourself for your lover, true love is that the two are equal, and no one is noble or low.

4.Don't put all your mind on boys, make yourself very good, make new friends, travel regularly, exercise, cultivate your own hobbies, and enrich your life! Love is not the whole of life, it is only a part of life, your life should not be centered on him all the time!

Because Yinrui's rude words like Duan Bo, who loses himself in love, will make himself very humble, and he has no ideas and opinions of his own, which is especially easy for people to lead by the nose.

Because once you lose yourself, then you will suffer a lot of grievances, and you will also bear a lot of land and air pressure, and at the same time, no one will love you.

In a relationship, if even the self is confused and cautious, Ken Zao Jian must have no principles and bottom line of his own, he does not respect himself, and others will definitely not love him well.

In love, we can't lose our hobbies, studies, careers, friends, etc., we can't take each other too seriously, and we can't focus on each other so that we don't lose ourselves. Love is a very beautiful thing, it is said that the IQ of a woman in love is zero, we can't stick to each other all the time because we are in love, we must leave a certain space for each other, so that the relationship can last longer. After falling in love, we still have to have our own circle of friends, because sometimes friends are irreplaceable by the love object, friends may understand us better than the love object in some aspects, relatively speaking, dealing with some problems is more in line with our inner needs.

When we are alone, we may have a lot of free time, and we often go out with friends to go shopping, watch movies, go to the library, or play games. When we are in love, we may not have so much time to spend with our friends, but we should not forget the good times that our friends have with us, and we should also play with our friends often. When we are with two people in love, we can also choose to do something meaningful, such as going to the library to read the same book, and then exchanging experiences after reading, or we can run, play ball, exercise, and climb mountains during the long vacation to promote the relationship between each other.

If we are still in a relationship when we were students, we should try to focus on our studies, and we can't skip classes for the sake of falling in love, let alone because love affects our academic performance and graduation, so the gains outweigh the losses. The relationship after work is more realistic, and we can't often ask for leave because we want to fall in love with each other, which will affect our career development, especially women. Although love is very beautiful, we should also be careful not to be deceived, do not believe in online romance, most of which are for the purpose of cheating money, attracting anxious and uninterested people.

The most important thing to know is that the other person is not all you have. While caring for each other, think more about yourself.

You can't alienate friends and family just because you're in love. Do what you want to do and improve yourself. Keep yourself in excellent shape forever.

Give yourself a schedule for everything you want to do. Make sure that on the basis of love, give each other a little more space.

That is, you must have your own ideas, no matter how much you like him when you get along, you must have your own work and your own life, don't spend all your thoughts on him, otherwise you will easily lose yourself.

It is necessary to maintain independence in love so as not to lose yourself.

Don't lose yourself in love, just don't lose yourself. Take the initiative, and be able to make a rational decision when encountering things, rather than letting the other party go. If you lead the nose and lose yourself, you must distinguish between falling in love and the problems in reality.

The condition for not losing yourself in love is economic independence and ideological independence, and don't be an accessory. You can love each other very much, but you must love yourself more, who do you expect to love you if you don't even love yourself.

Don't take love too seriously, don't invest in all your feelings, you must have your own principles and bottom line, and always keep a clear head, only in this way can you not lose yourself.

Nowadays, there are a lot of people in society who will lose themselves in love, and they will become very sensitive when they lose themselves in love, and they will always pay attention to each other's every move, and the other party's little abnormal behavior and action will cause their own suspicions, so that they will suffer from gains and losses in this relationship. And he also attaches great importance to the other party, and everything he does is to make the other party happy, without thinking about himself at all, in fact, this is just a kind of dog licking behavior, and he has completely lost his sense of self. In love, you must maintain a sense of self, don't lose yourself excessively, believe that you are an independent individual, although you are in love with each other, but also pay attention to your own development, and realize that you can only attract each other more if you are excellent.

When you are in love, you must be careful not to try to change the other party, many people always want to make the other party good to them in their own way when they first start falling in love, or to change the other party. But what you need to know is that everyone is different, if you want to change each other because you don't like something, this way is also very extreme, if you always do this, not only will not make the relationship last, but will make the relationship between two people stiffer.

When individuals first start in love, they will always habitually hide their shortcomings and show their most perfect side in front of their partners, which is actually very normal. But what you need to know is that you can hide your shortcomings in a short period of time, but after a long time, not only will you be very tired, but also make the other party have some doubts, so it is better to put your truest side in front of the other party, so that the other party knows what kind of person he is, if the other party is still willing to be with him, it means that the other party definitely loves himself, and can reduce some contradictions, and he can not lose himself in love.

In the end, love is often a matter that makes people sink, but no matter what, you must keep yourself sober, know what to do and what not to do, and have your own dignity and bottom line.