The matter with lovers is very contradictory, how to solve the contradictions between lovers?

The most important thing for two people is trust, you can't teach her to grow up hand in hand, nor can you pamper or even dote, so you can only exchange her endless dependence and demand for you. Just like a child walking, you have to let go of your hands, don't be afraid of her falling, as long as you don't make too many mistakes, she will grow up quickly. You are two independent individuals, no one is anyone's task, both of them have independent space, have their own friends, in order to live happily, you pay too much attention to her, so that she is also very tired, you are also very tired, she asks everything, everything depends on it and will definitely not grow up, you are more tired, sooner or later one day she will be because you are not good enough for her, or you feel that she can't keep up with your pace and the two people are drifting apart, you are also at fault with this relationship, she is also at fault, only two people grow together can last.

Let's have a good communication between the two of you.

Maybe she's just immature.

Maturity comes at a price.

What I want to say is that if you love her, work hard for the relationship between the two of you.

If you don't know anything, you can reason with her more and teach her how to behave in the world.

Since she admires you, loves you, and believes that these changes are beneficial to her, she is also willing to do it!

You are indeed very contradictory, but you can only choose one kind of pain, either you are with her and bear the pain of being with her, or you are leaving her, and you can only choose one of the two, you can only choose one, think about it yourself, man, there must always be a choice, I think you should know how to do it.

I think you'd better be kind to her, and if I really like someone, I won't leave her easily.

Neither yesterday nor tomorrow is important to us, I just need to live today!

As a college student, I also think about this issue, after all, we are also experienced, and I think I am also qualified for this question.

1. Try chatting

1. Thinking of the sweetness we once had, all the gas has disappeared. This is true intimacy – nothing can cut off our love for each other.

2. Don't be angry, okay? It turns out that I don't understand you, but I know that I was wrong now, and I'll listen to you in the future, okay?

3. To be angry is to punish yourself for other people's mistakes, so don't be angry, I'll feel sorry for punishing you, punish me if you want to punish, reply to a message to scold me, make me angry, I don't blame you, okay?

4. I won't make you angry anymore, I promise you to make you happy when you're unhappy, and never ruin your happiness when you're happy, if you tell me to go east, I will never go west, if you tell me to go to heaven, I will never go to the ground, forgive me.

5. How can you forgive me? You just draw a path, set a trap, dig a hole, and I'll jump in.

6. I can't bear your kindness to me, I can't bear that I don't love you, I can't bear the memories of the past and the thoughts of the present, I can't bear the bits and pieces of the past, I can't bear the happiness you give me, I don't want to lose you, let alone lose you, forgive me.

7, I'm happy when you're angry, hahahaha, I'm so happy! Don't be angry if you don't want me to be happy.

2. Solve problems

Think back to why you broke up?

What are your contradictions, how did the quarrel happen, why did you get angry, and what do you want the other person to do. The two of them each take a step back and find a solution that is acceptable to both parties.

More importantly, in the course of the conversation, you have to fully tell your feelings and thoughts about what you can't accept from the other person, and which are your bottom line. Don't hold it in your heart, you must let the other party know your needs clearly, so as to avoid similar quarrels between the two of you next time and affect the relationship.

When you quarrel, the two of you must communicate with each other, and you must not have a cold war, once the cold war, it will affect your subsequent feelings, at this time you must quickly find out where the contradiction is, and then strangle the spear and stool Pei Dun in the cradle. Don't run away from the problem, the more you run away at this time, the bigger the problem.

Should break up. Love is used to screen the other half, and marriage is used to solve problems.

It's normal to have quarrels in a relationship, after all, two people will definitely be different, but it's not normal to quarrel frequently. This could be a sign that there is something wrong between you.

1.Not very tolerant of each other.

Only by being tolerant of each other will there be no quarrels over trivial matters. So why not be too forgiving? It may be that you are calculating, or you may feel that even if this is done to you, you will not run away.

2.There is no sense of managing feelings.

Frequent arguments are either true or inappropriate in one aspect, or they are repeatedly arguing over the same issue. People who are emotionally conscious will find ways to solve problems and understand the deep needs of the other person, rather than arguing repeatedly about the same problem.

3.The core needs of the other party are not being met.

You can't give what the other party wants, or the other party doesn't say it, and you don't know it, and then the resulting inability to be satisfied. In this case, the other party has always had opinions on you, so of course, life is not as good as a ruler to pick your thorns.

Why do I recommend breaking up? If you want to solve this problem, you will ask what to do; Unless you also feel that you should break up, but the other person still has some value, and you are not sure whether to separate.

If you want to marry each other, solve the problem; If you don't want to, you can think about breaking up, because you have some things that you can't solve, and this matter is the root cause of your frequent quarrels.

This is very normal, and it takes a period of time to get along with people.

It should be said that it is normal. But I personally feel that two people have not yet loved each other, if they really love each other, one party will obey the words of the other party without principle, and there will be no quarrel at all.

It is normal for two people to have a joke and a contradiction in love, because only when two people run in their feelings together, can they know each other's personality and temper, and can better solve the contradictions, so it is normal for two people to have a little contradiction when they fall in love together.

It is very normal for Xiao Chunsun to have a conflict with his object during the relationship, because it is impossible to have two people who are completely like-minded, but when there is a clever chain contradiction, you should not run away, and you should actively find a way to solve the problem in time. Go, constantly change two people.

It's normal, it's all about people giving birth to contradictions, not to mention the world between lovers, when two people are in love, they spend a longer time together than Sowu jujubes, and they must be prone to contradictions, but as long as they understand him correctly, it's okay if the two of them explain clearly.

It is normal to have conflicts between lovers in love, because there are always some things, two people have disagreements, some people think it is good, and he thinks it is not good, but the most important thing is that when there is a commotion to ease the disagreement, two people can talk well, not quarrel.

It is normal for lovers in love to have conflicts with each other, because there are always disagreements and disagreements, which is a normal phenomenon in life.

Of course it's normal, it's normal to have no contradictions together, and you can't have contradictions, maybe both of you are really good-tempered, but this kind of love is very stupid, and your family will have it, not to mention lovers.

Lovers will also encounter big or small contradictions, mutual understanding, tolerance and understanding, is a run-in period, it is normal.

It is normal for lovers to have conflicts, and they are not afraid of contradictions, but they are afraid that they will break up if they have contradictions.

This is normal, there is no partner who does not have disputes, unless the boy (girl) loves each other unprincipledly and loses himself, no kind of love will last long.

If two people get along and do not have contradictions, generally speaking, it is unlikely that they will be friends.

A well-rounded person's teeth may also bite his lip with cavity dust. Not to mention two separate people.

It's normal, it's an essential process, you see, it's like a ball that your teeth and tongue sometimes have to bite, they all run in and have been lifting the orange for a long time or there is a collision, but to solve it, you can't avoid the problem.

In love, if two people have contradictions, they must communicate with each other, sit down and talk about it, and talk frankly about the unpleasant things in their hearts, so that the feelings of two people will make the shirt years deeper and deeper.

Normal! There are definitely bumps and bumps in the pots and pans! If 1 you don't even have the interest in arguing, it's really over!

It's normal, if there is no contradiction, there is no small quarrel, how to coax each other, but if you have it, don't stay overnight, don't deal with it coldly, and communicate.

Of course it's normal, this is too normal, the most important thing is to look at the solution.

Normal, couldn't be more normal.

This is a normal thing to talk about filial piety, because two people will definitely have a lot of contradictions in the process of falling in love, and there will be a lot of differences, so it is very normal for Hanqi to have contradictions at this time, as long as the prudent ruler is two people who have the courage to deal with it and face it directly, it will make the relationship between the two people better and better, and it will also solve the contradictions between the two people.

I think it's normal for lovers to have conflicts between them, after all, two people need to run in with each other when they are together, if two people like each other, then two people should talk to each other face to face, analyze the reasons for the conflict, and then correct it.

When there is a conflict, only express feelings, not emotions.

When an unpleasant event occurs with a partner, this is important to see if the conflict intensifies. Talk to your partner only when you don't feel emotional, always just start from your own feelings, and the other person won't get angry with you because you're just expressing your feelings. You say that your feelings, it may not have anything to do with the other person, or it may be related to the other person, but you just feel like this, but you don't point at the other person and say that this is wrong or that is wrong.

Adjust your expectations and put them on yourself.

When your partner agrees to have dinner with you, you're happy. But by the time you start expecting your partner to keep his promise to spend dinner with you, you've already surrendered your pleasure to someone else, and it's hard for you to be happy. You can expect to cook your own dinner that is hearty and delicious, and then enjoy the meal to your heart's content.

You can expect to feel happy and how you pamper yourself.

When you don't expect any response, your heart is the happiest. Because you're already happy when you're helping others. Your own happiness is the greatest reward for yourself, because you already have this happiness, you feel like an angel, you are already very satisfied, and you no longer expect the other person to give you a response.

When there is a disagreement between each other, one party can also say some humorous words to make the other party have to laugh, which can also ease the quarrel between each other, so that the space full of gunpowder suddenly relaxes a lot because of their own jokes.

All in all, please remember that in our lives, even if there are many conflicts that cannot be resolved, there are still many things that can be solved. It is necessary to focus on the superficial position and the deep needs, and then the two sides work side by side to find a win-win solution.

You should calmly express your own opinions and then communicate with each other. It's best not to lose your temper, but to take the conflict as a good opportunity to change yourself and change the relationship between the two.

Who is wrong in the analysis that two people should be able to enter? Then admit the mistake to the other person, and try not to make such mistakes again in the future, to maintain the relationship between the two people.

Two people who really love each other must not only be reasonable, get along with each other daily, and maintain their feelings, they must not rely on reasoning, but on affection.

"Reason" is rational and rational, and it is a calm thing. And "love" is warmth and tenderness, which is the main purpose of two people together.

Give each other warmth, warmth, affection, affection. You have to have these things for a relationship to have warmth, last longer, and make each other feel happy.

This is also the meaning of lovers being together, this kind of love will bring each other motivation, will resist loneliness and the fear of the unknown world.

This kind of affection will make each other feel that their existence has meaning and value. Because they need each other, think about each other, accompany and support each other.

These are all a kind of affection, love from the heart. Therefore, when two people have conflicts and conflicts, a hug can express apologies and affection, a kiss can resolve grievances, and some nice love words can eliminate dissatisfaction.

But when there is a conflict, blindly sit down and talk to the other party about the truth, that may not have any substantive effect.

The other party may not want to listen, or can't listen, or he may feel that you are too boring, what he needs is emotional expression and language, and what he needs is "coaxing", but you are reasoning with him one by one, isn't this very embarrassing and unwarm?

Therefore, when lovers are angry or have a disagreement with each other, remember to say nice love words, remember to kiss and hug each other, and use more behaviors and words that can express emotions, rather than all blunt truths.

We know a lot of truths, but in front of my lover, can't I be coquettish? Don't you want to make trouble unreasonably and wait for coaxing? Can't you want to be cared for, loved, and spoiled?

If we want to listen to reason, there are many "teachers" in the outside world, and there are many truths in books for us to learn from.

In short, the truth is not completely unavailable in the relationship, it just depends on the situation, if the other party also wants to be reasonable, then you can discuss and study it together. If you don't want to listen to reason, don't be reasonable alone.