Why do older generations like to talk against babies or toddlers?

Let me talk about this phenomenon from the perspective of parenting. Many parents like to talk the opposite when they blame their children, for example, when their children are watching TV, the parents will say, "Look, no one cares about you when you see sleeping!" The toddler said to give the example of his son.

The child's father was also this kind of parent, when the child was more than 2 years old, playing with his father with building blocks, and after folding ten blocks, he accidentally fell over with his elbow, and the child pursed his lips unhappily. His father said, "You little fool, why are you so careless."

Unexpectedly, the child cried, which made his father inexplicable, and the child choked up and said to me: "Mom, Dad said I was stupid." I comforted

Dad was just distressed and didn't say you were stupid. But the child doesn't understand. Therefore, the premise of talking back to your child is to see if your child understands.

1. Children's comprehension ability is not strong, but their ability to imitate is very strong, and they have an emphatic tone and a certain mocking effect. If the child's brainless imitation becomes a habit, he will ignore the future relationship.

In the future, when he offended people, he didn't know that he had offended.

2. In some things, young children are likely to misinterpret the opposite, believe it to be true, and it will be self-defeating.

Because toddlers are very simple, he will think that whatever you say is right!

The baby is too young, and he believes what the adults say.

Because the child's brain development is not perfect, there is no rational thinking, can not distinguish the true from the false, so, on the contrary, he thinks it is true, for example, he did something wrong, adults say "look at the good things you have done", the child will think that he is really doing good deeds, and parents are encouraging him.

I've heard the story of the wolf.

Teach children to teach the truth and not to deceive them.

Because the child can't understand the rhetoric.

Children will only take what you say for real.

So, don't speak against your child.

There is a stage in the child's formative years when he will say some counter-words, for example, when you teach him the sofa, he will deliberately say that it is sandy. Many parents think that this is their child working against themselves, and they are very anxious. In fact, this is a normal phenomenon, children in this period are more curious and like to pursue rebellion, and they will deliberately say the opposite to attract the attention of their parents.

As long as you pay attention to the guidance, you can get through this stage smoothly.

Because children's knowledge is limited, their self-discrimination ability is relatively weak, and their thinking is still very simple, it is suitable to use simple positive education. If you say the opposite thing to your child, it is easy for the child to believe the truth, and the result is often that the learning is bad...

Children, not sensible, will not "reverse thinking", listen to the wind is the wind, listen to the rain is the rain, very single straight line.

So, if you "talk back" to young children, they will only take the "backword" as the "truth".

For example: "If you cry again, your mother won't want you!" ”

The child will think that the mother really doesn't want to be herself, and will only cry more.