How to let children correctly understand birth, old age, sickness and death?

How to let children correctly understand birth, old age, sickness and death, this topic has actually been bothering many parents. I believe that the truth should be told, but it is important to pay attention to the wording and explain according to the child's comprehension. Because sooner or later, children will face birth, old age, sickness and death, and there is no need to deliberately hide it.

My family once asked me why people die, whether my mother will die, whether my grandmother will die, whether people will die and will never see him again, and said that he doesn't want us to leave him. I looked at his immature little face, simple eyes, entangled for a while, or directly chatted with him about the topic of birth, old age, sickness and death, when Dabao was only 6 years old.

I told him that life is like a road, the beginning of life is the beginning, and the end of life is the end. <>

One. Bear. When the baby croaks to the ground, everything starts from 0, we come to this world naked, and we are full of curiosity and ignorance in the face of the unknown world. Hope and the future are also coming to us.

Two. Old. Everyone ages, and no matter how you take care of it, you can't keep your youthful footsteps forever.

When we have wrinkles, it means that we are starting to age. This is irreversible, instead of desperately trying to retain youth, it is better to cherish the present moment and live yourself.

Three. Sickness. As long as people live in the world, they will get sick, just like a machine breakdown, and they need to stop and need''Overhaul''。

Self-factors, psychological factors, and emotional factors can all lead to diseases, and at this time we all have to go to the hospital and ask the doctor for help. There is no one who is not sick, and there is no machine that is not broken, just face it calmly and positively.

Four. Die. All life has life and death, this is a natural law, which cannot be resisted or violated. We can only go with the flow, cherish life, treat life well, and try not to regret it.

All in all, in a person's life, we experience birth, aging, sickness, and death. It's cruel, but it's a good thing. Because life is short and fragile, we will cherish it more.

There is no need to be afraid, because all life is like this, we should face it happily, cherish every moment positively and optimistically, and live every day well.

Birth, old age, sickness and death are the normal feelings of people, gathering and dispersing are also human nature, telling children, everyone has the end of their lives, to the world to take a move, there must be its meaning, no one can escape life and death, we should treat it with a normal heart.

Parents should educate and guide their children correctly, and let their children watch some promotional videos to understand.

You can take a small animal or a small grass to give children a correct understanding of the principles of birth, aging, sickness and death.

Personally, I think that as a school, Chongchang still needs this kind of education for children, which can make children more mature, rational and realistic.

First of all, birth, old age, sickness, death, life and death are what everyone needs to face, which is also the objective law of nature, so when the child reaches a certain age, as a parent or school to educate the child in this regard, the correct guidance in this regard is still very necessary, which can make students truly realize that although life is limited, they should learn to cherish their own life, make their life more valuable, and use their limited time to realize the value of their own hidden judgment. In this way, you can make your life more meaningful.

Especially for schools, through this kind of education, students can love learning more, realize the importance of learning, and cherish their learning time in school.

Moreover, through this kind of education, the school can make students more courageous and more mature. After all, students always grow up one day, and what they need to learn as a student in school is not only the knowledge in books, but also need to learn some common sense of life, and also need to have a basic understanding of our world through learning in school.

In order to form their own world view, outlook on life and values, and the school for students to carry out this education, is conducive to the formation of students' world view, outlook on life and values, so that students will become more courageous when facing setbacks and difficulties on the road of life, and will also make students more mature from the mental aspect.

Birth, old age, sickness and death are very natural, everyone must go through it, to live an infinite brilliance in a limited life, so that you will not go to this world in vain.

1) Not glamorous, but also not intimidating.

Some parents feel that when their children are young, it is too terrible to tell their children about death. So try to beautify the fact that a loved one or a child's beloved animal died. For example:

He went far away and wouldn't be back for a while. "He became a star in the sky and accompanied us at night. "He went to a beautiful country, where there were no troubles or sorrows, only all good things.

Glorifying death is a common thought of many parents. However, in this era of frequent suicides among primary and secondary school students, we must not use the fact of beautifying death to make children have a yearning and longing for the end of life.

Some parents are different, they like to intimidate their children, making them feel that death is really terrible, and some even often suffer from nightmares.

2) Be honest about the meaning of death.

My daughter is not yet five years old, and she didn't have any concept of death before, but just a few days ago, she saw my frequent news about the fires in Muli County, Sichuan, and began to ask me, "Mom, why is that auntie crying?" I told her:

Because the younger brother of that aunt, in order to protect his homeland, was burned to death by a merciless fire in the process of fighting the fire. The daughter continued to ask: "Then when they die, will they go **?"

I told my daughter frankly: "Some of them will be buried in the martyrs' tombs, and some will be buried in their hometowns." The daughter said

Then why didn't I see their ashes? I said, "Because we have to respect them because they are in a box, we can't just look at their ashes."

The daughter seemed to understand and said, "These people on both sides of the road have come to see them." ”

When children begin to be curious about death, parents should instill the concept of birth, old age, sickness and death in their children, so that children can understand the true meaning of death.

3) In addition to birth, old age, sickness and death, it is also necessary to instill in children how to avoid accidents.

While telling my daughter that each of us has to experience birth, old age, sickness, and death, I will also tell my children, consciously or unconsciously, that some wrong behaviors will also cause us to die early. For example: running a red light, crossing the street without taking the zebra crossing, stepping on the manhole cover, walking to look at the mobile phone, playing with fire, playing with electricity, playing with knives, etc.

Recently, my daughter used to say to me, "Mom, I don't want to grow up because I'm afraid you're going to get old." ”

Every time she talked about this topic, she had tears in her eyes, and she was about to cry.

Once, I even cried until midnight, and I fell asleep when I was tired of crying.

I didn't know how to respond to that question at the time.

I said everybody gets old. She cried even harder.

I want to say no, mom has been with you, okay?

But I also know that this is a lie, can I lie to her like this?

So keep an eye on it.

How do you talk to your child about life and death?

I am still impressed by the sharing of a mother who used a crayon and drawing as a metaphor to make the baby naturally accept the fact that the grandmother died.

So share it with you

Child: Wife's gone?

Mother: My wife passed away, and I went to join my grandfather.

Child: What happens when you pass away?

Mother: You like to draw and have used crayons, and your mother asked you, what happens when you use crayons for a long time?

Child: It's getting shorter.

Mother: What happens if you use it again?

Child: No, I can't draw.

Mother: What about the paintings you draw with a paintbrush?

Child: Still at home.

Mom: Are you happy every time you see these crayon drawings?

Child: Happy.

Mother: Yes, the crayon has completed its mission, leaving a painting, a good memory.

People are like crayons, they will leave this world and their loved ones when they get old, but as long as we remember them well, they will not disappear, and there will be memories left. Do you understand?

This mother's story is exactly the point of view of "Dream Travel".

The end of life is not death, but being forgotten by those who love.

She did not deal with the child's problems sloppily, nor did she distort the facts, but used the image metaphor that the child could understand to help the child channel the incomprehension and fear of death.

Wrinkles on Grandma's Face is a picture book on the theme of "aging", telling the story in the way of a dialogue between grandparents and grandchildren, and when the little grandson touches a wrinkle, grandma can tell an unforgettable story, and the aging of life is so moving.

you see, it is in theselines that i keep all my memories!"

You know, I've saved all my memories in these wrinkles! ）

Grandma is not worried about the wrinkles on her face, but loves them very much.

Because of crow's feet, I went to the beach for a picnic and laughed so hard:

The forehead wrinkles, which are the result of the amusement park's first date, and the wrinkles, which are the first time she meets her granddaughter......

Every wrinkle has its own story.

Yesterday I encountered a headache, after eating with my daughter and husband in the hall watching TV, I forgot how to cause this topic, my daughter asked me what will happen when I get old. I casually said, "I'm going to heaven."

My daughter asked me again, "Mom, what is heaven?" I said:

It's a place that people imagine, everyone dies, and the place that goes after death is heaven. Then my daughter went to play with other toys, and then in the bedroom I played jigsaw puzzles and sieve throwing games with her, and when I was about to go to bed, my daughter suddenly cried and said to me: Mom, I don't want to do that.

I asked: What's wrong? She said

I don't want to be old like that. I suddenly understood that my daughter was still struggling with this problem, and then my husband came over and asked what was wrong, I said it, my husband tried to change the topic, and I also told my children not to dwell on this issue, but I found that we were wrong, children's attachment to one thing is far greater than our imagination, and there are some things they actually have to understand, or have a reasonable explanation. Because although it diverted her mind, before going to bed she cried again, and asked me the question, saying that she wanted to know.

I really don't know how to explain it to such a small child, so I told her first that the old man will definitely go to heaven, so as to dispel her idea that what will happen when people die of old age. Then she still cried, saying that she was afraid that she would not be able to speak when she was old, and that she would not be able to go to heaven, and I told her that when people are old, they will have their own children to take care of, and when they really can't move, there will be children who will help them and say that they want to go to heaven. But she still cried, and finally I thought of a way, I told her that everyone is a star in the sky, and when people get old, they go back to the sky to be stars, and when the stars grow up slowly, they become children on the earth, and then the children grow up and become old people, and then they go back to the sky to be stars, and so on.

But when did the daughter listen and asked: When will it be over? I was really speechless at the time, hehe, this child has so many questions, and then she asked me when she would be able to live like this.

So I can't go into details, everyone has to go to kindergarten, elementary school, junior high school, high school, college, graduate school, doctorate, and then they can work, they can earn money, buy things they like, travel and so on. Her husband also told her on the side that she can do what she likes, she can go to the Beijing Science and Technology Museum to play, she can go to the engineer, and she can be the host ......The topic was slowly introduced to the fact that she likes to be a host, likes to host the wall, likes the blue team, and will make a difficult wall for the red team in the future, etc., and finally she slept with peace of mind, alas, this little guy, there is really nothing to do with her.

If it is a very young child, it may not be very understandable, and when he grows up, he will slowly talk about it, and if it is an older child, he can watch a Disney movie "Dream Travel".

It's all things that need to be faced, and you can tell him directly. Flowers bloom and fall, and there will be a time. Birth, old age, sickness and death are the same. No one can escape. The end of my life is to work in another world.

When children are told about such a serious topic as birth, old age, sickness and death, children may not be able to understand or understand. If you have to talk about birth, old age, sickness and death to children, you can only describe some knowledge of the form of birth, old age, sickness and death.