How do you become someone who others are willing to talk to?

Things gather in kind, people talk in groups, listening, are all need to match each other, especially for the confidant, he must be able to feel the sincerity of the listener, respect, and positive attention and a series of feelings, for the listener he needs to have a certain literacy, a certain cultural structure, a certain level of knowledge, a certain patience, in short, let the other party feel comfortable, only in this way can there be a sense of trust in the listener, once the sense of trust is reached, the relationship between the listener and the confidant will be established, This kind of confiding and listening will be of higher quality. ‍‍

Generally speaking, it is particularly important to listen silently, after all, the other party is here to talk not to listen to himself, he is not looking for a solution but a feeling of being happy, so show a careful listening attitude, respond appropriately (so it is, then, uh-huh), guide the other party to continue, but don't interrupt, don't put forward too many of your own ideas. ‍‍

First of all, you must open your heart, be sincere to others, tell some of your stories to each other, let the other party feel that they are indeed sincere, and then slowly, they will also confide in themselves some things. ‍‍

Doing active listening training, being able to listen attentively when others are saying, not interjecting, occasionally repeating and summarizing what they mean, indicating that they are listening, understanding, being able to be understood and paid attention to is the underlying psychological need that most people confide in, and being able to meet this need is a good start. ‍‍

If you want to gain the trust of others, don't want to know the other party's secrets, and don't let the other party perceive the intention of wanting to know, become a completely harmless and safe person, even then don't want to gain absolute trust, if the other party trusts you, you will naturally can't help but talk to yourself, and in the end you have to do a trash can, and don't do anything else. ‍‍

A sense of security and seriousness, a sense of security is mainly to keep him a secret and make people feel that they can be relied on, seriousness is the attitude of what she says about her heart, not just to listen to it, to be able to feel what he says and express in his heart, and when he needs advice, give appropriate advice according to the situation he is in.

For some people, he just doesn't want to say, gentle or tough, it's useless, then accompany him quietly, and when there are only two people, whisper to him: Is there something on your mind lately, I feel that you are not in a good mood, I am worried about it, see if he is willing to say it. ‍‍

I am a person who often comes to talk to me, whether it is in work or private life, and often involves sensitive topics, which is really private, and I am also very grateful for their trust in me, after all, if I expose things, it will still have a relatively bad impact on them, this trust is really heavy, and I myself am not easy to open myself to others, tell my heart, there is enough trust, naturally when I need help, I will come to seek. ‍‍

Listen to him quietly, don't comment, wait for him to vent, and then say what you think about these things, but it should be noted that this matter can only stop at you, not publicize it to others.

Take care of it and let him take your care as a habit.