How to educate a girl in the first year of junior high school if she has a conflict with her teacher

If there is a contradiction, you must first figure out the cause of the contradiction, and you can communicate with the student in the form of chat in a relaxed environment at home to understand the student's inner thoughts and opinions; Then I will find an opportunity to communicate with the class teacher and the classroom teacher to understand the state of the students in the eyes of the teacher; Be careful not to adopt the question-and-answer mode of asking the teacher for guilt and splitting the head and covering the face, such a way is not liked by anyone, and it may also cause backlash. If it is determined that it is the child's own problem after comprehensive investigation, then it is necessary for parents to guide and educate them step by step, put facts and reason, and use the way that the child can understand to make him realize that the problem is the best, and then guide the child to find a solution to the problem. If there is a problem on the teacher's side, because they are all adults, you can communicate with the teacher face-to-face, reflect the child's state and specialities, ask the teacher to understand what the child does, give a certain degree of tolerance, and communicate with the teacher about the appropriate education method, so that the child can better accept the teacher, and gradually eliminate the contradictions.

As a listener, parents should not deny their child when they think that her analysis is wrong, and can ask questions or rhetorical questions to let the child continue to analyze in depth. Try to let the child take the initiative to solve the problem, because it is relatively difficult for us to change the teacher. For example, ask the child:

Is this all a teacher's problem? Or pull the teacher down from the altar, shouting that the child teacher is also an ordinary person, if you can, shape the teacher into a poor person, and need the recognition and respect of the students, so that the child can stand on the moral high ground. If the problem is really big for the teacher, then guide the child to take the initiative to reconcile with the teacher, such as writing a letter to the teacher, writing a greeting card or taking the initiative to visit the teacher.

If the child does not come forward, the parents can only communicate with the teacher.

It is normal for students and teachers to have a shield, so there is no need to be nervous. I also had conflicts with my teachers when I was studying. When I was in junior high school, our physics teacher was a male teacher, and for some reason his face always seemed to be smeared with a thick layer of tung oil.

I gave him a name"Teacher Mirror"！When he lectures, he always likes to say in a sarcastic tone that the students' IQ is too low and they can't understand the advanced knowledge he says, which makes the students dislike him. Thinking about how to be angry with him, lest he take our class too seriously.

The class bell rang, and the students sat quietly waiting for the teacher to start the class. The physics teacher came to the teacher's door with a blue textbook. I said softly:

Students, get ready, we can look in the mirror!"The students burst into laughter. The physics teacher's glittering face immediately distorted.

Walked up to the podium and said sharply"Stand up from what you just spoke!"I stood up, and I didn't like to listen to this teacher even more!

The teacher is the teacher, talk to me during the lunch break, jump rope with us, and kick the keys. Later, we had a very good relationship with our physics teacher!So!

It doesn't matter if a girl has a conflict with the teacher in the first year of junior high school, it is the teacher's duty to educate the students, and they will definitely find a way to communicate with the students regardless of the students' mistakes and their own resistance. And the student and the teacher are just making trouble, there is no fundamental conflict, and the teacher will release the suspicion if he has more contact with her and communicates more.

The first stage of junior high school is a very important turning point in the "psychological and mental" growth of children at this age. If the guidance is not good, it will affect the learning and life emotions, including the child's interpersonal communication. As soon as this kind of thing happens, parents and children must stand on a stand, (to express the views of the group, but definitely not to expand the conflict together) so that the child feels that the parents have her in their minds.

Next, let the child talk about the cause, process, and current situation. Parents and children communicate and discuss, and choose a plan that compares this first. Then tell the child to contact the teacher to understand the situation, so that the child knows that parents are not biased people.

Because the first year of junior high school has been in school for a while, the teachers are all new teachers, and there is no holiday to talk about, but the ultimate goal is not to expand the situation, and there will be a lot of trouble.

So here I think parents should explain this to their students, what is our goal?It is for learning, for the purpose of acquiring knowledge, not for the purpose of having conflicts with a certain teacher, and not for the purpose of competing with a certain teacher in aspects other than knowledge. If students understand this, then we can settle down and study quietly, even the people we dislike the most, maybe there are advantages that we can absorb, these advantages can help us grow, just like Mr. Lu Xun said about the doctrine of taking, we can not absorb it all, nor can we reject it all.

During the Westernization Movement, it was proposed that middle school should be used for Western learning, and we look at this problem dialectically, and we cannot absolutize it, but there is one point that we need to understand this kind of thinking. If a person can recognize his own shortcomings, know what he does, know what he should do and what he should not do, I think all the contradictions will be resolved slowly. Educating children is actually the growth process of everyone, learning from the strong and strengthening ourselves is the only thing we can insist on in our lives.

Children who go to school have conflicts with their teachers, which is not right! Tell the child that the teacher is also a human being, he also has such and such shortcomings or mistakes, we are learning from the teacher, everything about the teacher has nothing to do with the child, tell the child, look at the parents, it is not perfect, you can forgive us, but also forgive the teacher, and have a good relationship with the teacher, in order to successfully complete the study! My child didn't have a conflict with the teacher, but he didn't like the math teacher, the math didn't learn well, and he was still making up for math until the eve of the college entrance examination, not to mention a lot of money, making up classes is not the same thing as taking classes, she regretted that learning is not for which teacher to learn, it is for us to learn for ourselves, and have a good relationship with the teacher, the teacher can turn his eight-point knowledge into ten points to teach you, you have a bad relationship with him, and you can't learn his eight-point knowledge, think about it, is this reason.

Family is a haven for children. What I used to do was to tell my son that the teacher was only teaching different students every year, and that it was impossible to target you completely, and that there might be something wrong with you. You graduate and leave, and the teacher continues to teach in school.

At the same time, I enrich my son's spare time and pay more attention to this matter. Because the children's interests and ideological views at this age, judgment, etc. are still vague) My son has been willing to read books since he was a child, as long as he likes to read, buy a copy after reading it, and then listen to my son's analysis and summary after reading, play games with thoughts, relax and talk about the characters of the game, the background of the story, if he is allowed to be a game designer, he does this to swim, eat food on weekends to make children have a wide range of interests and hobbies, open the child's horizons, and things in school are nothing. Let your child be open-minded and plan a good learning plan, the key is that your concept must change to affect your child.

First of all, ask your child why! The more detailed, the better! Secondly, let's get to know this dear teacher casually!

Then combine the information you get and make a judgment! Make a decision again! Observe your own child if there are any special places and changes recently!

Especially the circle of children's lives and the friends they make! If everything is in order, then it's OK! If there's anything out of the ordinary, that's a different story!

Parents don't be in a hurry first! Wait until you get enough factual evidence and information! Let's figure out the solution!

Before you develop a solution, there are a few things to do! Be self-critical and check whether you are in the right way to serve your children in their daily lives! Whether the methods and methods are appropriate in daily companionship education, etc.!

Feel like a detective**!

I don't think it's good to look at it, after all, the teacher taught you a lot of knowledge, and you can't get along with the teacher, and there is no big benefit to yourself if you have contradictions

Then we must first understand the conflict between the child and the teacher, and see how the situation can be resolved.