Is the old man s eccentric son filial? Are eccentric parents worthy of filial piety

In our daily life, it is normal for the elderly with many children to prefer a certain child, and there is nothing strange, after all, when a person stretches out one hand, his five fingers are not the same length.

There are a number of reasons why an elderly person prefers a child. So whether the son who is favored by the old man is filial is two words.

First, let's try to analyze the reasons why the elderly pamper their children.

1.When the old man gave birth to the child, he may have a "difficult birth", or the child may have had a "disease" since birth. Since giving birth to this child, the old man has been worried about it, always worried that the child will die.

From comparison, the old man put almost all his efforts on this child.

2.The child is weak and sick from an early age, and the elderly are overly worried about taking care of the department. As time went by, the old man loved the child very much.

3.Among several children, this child has always been excellent in reading, studying and working, and has never let the old man worry about it. Before and after, the neighbors exaggerated that the old man gave birth to a good child, and the old man always took the child as his honor, so naturally the old man loved the child very much.

4.This child is not diligent and industrious, and is very filial to the elderly, who has a bit of a headache and is always busy. As time went by, the old man naturally favored this child too much.

5.This child has been helping the elderly with household chores since he was a child, and often shares the worries and burdens of the family for the elderly. Over time, he won the favor of the elderly.

6.Among the brothers and sisters, this child may not be the eldest, but no matter what happens in the family, this child always rushes to the front and takes on the responsibility of the family. Reduce or reduce the burden and stress on your family. The old man sees it in his eyes, and he will inevitably have a preference over time.

There are many more to mention.

Second, there are two theories about whether eccentric children will be filial.

1.The child has always been very sensible, knowing that his parents are working hard and it is not easy to raise himself, so he has always been very filial.

2.Perhaps when the old man dealt with the contradictions between his children's brothers and sisters, he was unfair for a while, so that the child, who has always been favored, held a grudge in his heart, and it was difficult to resolve it over time, and he gradually moved towards a deep grudge, and it was difficult to talk about filial piety to the elderly.

3.This child has been pampered and pampered since he was a child. Because he has not received a good education from the elderly, he never pays attention to details in dealing with people, and he does not know the height of his eyebrows.

Over time, he gradually develops selfishness and has no one in his sights. Where else can you think of going to the old man who is filial and hardworking?

4.The elderly never relax their children's education, and if there is a deviation in the handling of conflicts between their children's brothers and sisters, they will always make it clear and explain it in front of the children at the first time. Although there will be a preference for a certain child, when the "overall situation" is still fair and just, it will also be respected by the children, and the children will inevitably be filial to the elderly.

There are many more of these examples. However, one thing can be shown that "respecting the old and loving the young" is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. We are the children of the younger generation, and it is the principle of heaven and the responsibility of heaven to be filial to the elderly.

Generally, there is no filial piety, because the favored son will only feel that all the requests should be deserved, and all the efforts should not be his own, so he cannot be filial.

Usually such a son will not be filial to the old man, because the old man is particularly partial to this son, so this son has also been doted on by the old man, and doting will only make the child particularly ignorant.

Generally speaking, sons are filial. People are emotional animals, and if the elderly treat their children better, the children may treat the elderly better.

I don't think so, generally speaking, the old man's eccentric son is not so filial, because he has long been accustomed to the old man's kindness to him, so he will become more selfish.

Whether you are partial or not, you must be filial. Whether it is worth it or not is wrong to ask the question, filial piety to parents is the obligation of every child, and the law is the bottom line of human morality, which you cannot touch. If you touch it, you will be breaking the law.

Whether it's worth it or not, your parents have the grace to give birth to and raise, and you must be responsible for your parents' pension. In addition, there are many parents who are partial, there are many parents in the world who do not fulfill their responsibilities as parents, there are many parents who prefer sons over daughters, and a bowl of water can never be leveled, but this is not a reason for you to be unfilial. Additional Information:

It is essential for everyone to take care of family relationships. If a person's family is not good, and he is not good with his family, then his life will lose a lot of meaning. We should try to learn how to get along with our families.

Understand that your family is the most important person in the world. If a person doesn't know how to protect his family, then it becomes natural for outsiders to bully him casually. Children have the closest relationship with their parents, and they can point out each other's faults more directly, and the so-called father and son, mother and daughter have no overnight feuds, and it is easier for each other to forgive each other, so the problem is usually not too serious.

Many parents may be biased by the patriarchal view, thinking that raising a son can prevent old age, and the daughter will have to marry sooner or later. There are also parents who will favor the youngest son in the family, believing that the younger son is young and they can count on it when he is old. There are also some parents who are more partial to the children who mix best in the family, and feel that such children are promising.

Whatever the reason for their parents' partiality, in their hearts they feel justified in their partiality. Therefore, it is very difficult to change the partiality of parents in this situation, maybe the parents' approach is not correct, but we should make the right choice, regardless of whether the parents are eccentric or not, as long as the partiality is not particularly excessive, and does not touch our bottom line, then we should be filial or filial.

After all, our parents also raised us, and they also paid in the process.

If your parents are partial, you should still be filial, but you can be less filial, for example, if you want to pay for your parents' medical treatment, you will pay a little less, but the money must still be paid, after all, they are not as good as you are to other children, and they have also caused you inner harm.

You can be filial, but you don't have to be obedient. And the relationship itself is also mutual, if your parents have been cold to you, you can also reduce the contact with them, as long as you do what you need to do well.

Partiality should not be too excessive, in addition to the children who are disabled, not to mention that the parents love them, we will also prefer them, the same limbs are able-bodied, mentally and physically healthy, almost on the line, don't go too far, and there is a poor point, the parents also have to give another consultation, his economic conditions almost give him more, we are all flesh and blood, we will agree, but you can't give him one person,

I won't be filial to the eccentric mother-in-law, this is what others have learned, human nature is cheap, when you are good, you feel good to provoke, and if you are bad, you are afraid that she will run, women must be powerful Don't wronged themselves.

No matter what, it must be the parents, as the saying goes, the preference is not remembered, you do a good job, and the parents will slowly understand.

It is a fact that they raise you young, and you must also raise them old. A virtuous circle, the way of heaven is like this!

The must be parents, depending on the degree of eccentricity.

My parents were not only partial, but also demanded mine for my brother.

Favoritism towards Hu Bingyan.

Don't complain that your children and grandchildren are not filial.

Some parents are really biased.

The grandmother is biased towards incompetence.

I can't help but admit my dead ends.

Regarding the partiality of the elderly towards their children, there has been a saying since ancient times, as the saying goes: the emperor loves the eldest son, and the people love the younger son. It can be seen that from the emperor to the common people, eccentricity is very common, so it is not surprising.

A few years ago, in some families with more traditional parents, especially in rural areas, the idea of preference for sons over daughters was serious, and partiality was even more difficult to avoid.

Now the policy encourages second children, some people are older and then have children, the age gap between children is large, and it is even more difficult to avoid loving the younger.

How our parents treat us, he is happy, as long as he is not so biased that it is outrageous, we will let him be biased. Between our brothers and sisters, we must not hurt our feelings because our parents are partial to us, blood is thicker than water, broken bones and tendons, and at critical moments, family members are by your side.

No matter how partial the parents are, they will love each of their children, but the degree of love is different.

Our Chinese tradition is to pay attention to filial piety, raising children to know the kindness of parents, I always believe that children's love for their parents is never as good as one percent of their parents' love for their children. So, in any case, we should not blame our parents.

My in-laws are partial, what can we do if we are small, and we are not filial to be small. One word is tired, although I am now a daughter-in-law will become a mother-in-law in the future, when people reach old age, no matter which son you love, it is best to keep some money in hand. Because it's not that the daughter-in-law you love is a white-eyed wolf, it's because the son also has a big family, and the money you give will be used up.

That's how I persuaded my in-laws, alas, I didn't listen to the persuasion, pitiful, I gave all my heart and lungs to my eldest brother and sister-in-law, such an old man is to make bitter fruits for himself.

I think that in families with many children, the elderly will be more or less biased, and it is common to be biased towards the smaller. People just have feelings, sometimes they can't control it, as long as it's not too much, it's understandable. The elderly like to rely on their favorite children, and the more they look at it, the more they want to feel safe, and they must understand it as children.

Many rural families have a patriarchal mentality. In such a family, the old man is still very partial to his son. The old man thinks that his daughter is the water that is spilled, and if she marries out, she is someone else's family, and then she will give something to someone else's family.

This kind of thinking only exists in remote rural areas, and there are generally not many of them in cities.

To be a man, to rely on their own ability, self-improvement, as much as they want to dig up their parents' savings, it is difficult to make a living, or rely on their own courage, earn reality, only to be famous, brothers and sisters unite and help each other, to help each other, to support each other to be good enough, is a good brother and good relative.

There is no way to change this kind of thing, if your parents are partial to you and treat you badly, then you should not be angry, because it is difficult to change the mind of the elderly! It's not good for your feelings either! So you should be good to her as always, let him know that you are the most filial child, so that your parents will know your goodness one day and change their attitude towards you!

My aunt's family has two daughters, the eldest daughter is a university professor, with a high salary, high salary, no worries about food and drink, and no children; The second daughter has a daughter who divorced when the child was four or five years old and took her daughter with her. So my aunt has always been partial to the second daughter, and she has no money to give, so she buys what she wants, and gives it back to the children. My eldest sister also knows these in her heart, but she doesn't mind, and she will give her sister money to spend.

Such an old man is eccentric, because he feels sorry for his second daughter, and he is alone with the child. And the eldest daughter is in good condition and does not need help. I think this kind of partiality can be understood, and there are objective conditions.

I'll be angry, but it's good to be angry, after all, one is my mother and the other is my brother.

It's a family, so why do you care so much! Family cooperation can make everything prosperous! That way you won't care so much! You could have had a better time!