Why can t I leave the past? Why do I always feel abandoned?

All people are the same, the past is good to think about not only you may not be forgotten by many people, maybe he may have left you a shadow, maybe he brought you a lot of happiness, so that you have been living in the past, friends want to open it! After all, it's in the past, people always have to face the reality of life The past is in the past, think about the current life may be really good, remember not to let yourself regret it.

People have the instinct to remember, why do they have to forget the past, everything is natural, what should be remembered will be remembered after all, and what should be forgotten will be forgotten after all.

The past cannot be forgotten because it exists, don't expect to forget the past, just be happy and optimistic!

Don't think about it, even if it's bad now, and don't think about what was good in the past.

Let your beautiful memories become the treasure of your life.

I've had a lot of trouble before, and every time I desperately want to forget it, thinking that it would be nice if it never happened, but now I think about it so nostalgic

I'm the girl covered in scars, I've seen a lot of your questions and psychological state, it's like me, I used to think I was unlucky, until I was scalded by water, scar on scar, until Baoyan was hacked, I felt that I was the most unfortunate now, and I didn't know where I went before when I was so radiant.

I really don't like who I am now.

Learn to face reality.

Learn to reminisce about the past.

Learn to embrace the future.

I'm like you, make friends with me.

Maybe you're still living in the memories! When something new happens, memories of the past are erased!

The past does not have to be forgotten, it is always a memory in life, and the future must be walked well.

In fact, I have the same troubles as you now, who doesn't have memories of the past.

Think about it, what's the use of memories, it doesn't change anything.

Just in vain. All that comes to me is pain and inextricability.

Rather than reminiscing, it is better to grasp the present.

Good living people grasp the present.

Don't let yourself one day remember the present and live in agony, live forever in the past, only hover in the past.

Now turn your head around and you'll notice that everything in front of you is new.

I believe that we will be greeted with a better tomorrow.

People are always like this, they only know how to cherish after loss, but it doesn't matter, without these good memories, life will be like a dry well.

The advantage of time does not need to be explained, but the disadvantage is that it will only move forward, and there will be no "backshift".

We all do wrong things, but time does not allow us to make amends in the "past", so in the "future" we can learn from the past and learn from the future, which is a quite feasible way for us to progress.

The biggest reason why you don't want to remember the "bad things" of the past is that you don't want to face the mistakes you have made, but in fact the things are in the past, it is better to punish yourself with your own mistakes than to learn from your mistakes.

If you don't face your own mistakes, you will only spin in circles and never grow up, so the most direct disadvantage is: hurting others and hurting yourself.

So, what you have to do now is: let go of your baggage and reinvent yourself.

Yang Qianhua I just like you The sorrow can't go away and the depression can't go away Why is my heart empty The relationship has been lost Everything has been lost Full of hatred and sorrow cannot be eliminated Why is there always that sentence in your mouth Why won't my heart die Understand that everything is wrong when love is lost Why do I like you Love is already a burden and love seems to be sin* My heart is now full of bitter tears The old love is like being drunk here.

People who often feel abandoned are often the ones who abandon others first in their hearts. The root cause of this sense of abandonment is "self-abandonment", which leads to the automatic thinking that "others will abandon me". So there will always be involuntary doubts and defenses about the world around them.

Because of my own efforts, I still can't fully adjust myself. Whenever I don't have a good relationship with someone I consider a friend, I feel a strong sense of abandonment. This sense of abandonment made me more impulsive and affected my normal life.

Socially, I want to try to fit into an environment where you have your own views and analyses, and you can see that you are a reflective person, although sometimes reflection can make you feel painful, or you don't find a good direction, but I want to leave it to you the opportunity to find the root cause and promote change. You may have discovered that there is a gap between you and the outside world, and this gap has made you feel a sense of abandonment, and sometimes you will deliberately confuse this difference and apologize against your will. Of course, there may be a vicious circle here.

Because the outside world is alienated from you, so you are more deliberate to maintain your independence and self-esteem, but you have to participate in enough interpersonal communication, which is part of our own inner needs, and it is also a necessary skill to adapt to life, but when you encounter setbacks in the process of communication, you will apologize yourself to apologize, and the result of the apology is to make you feel very unhappy, which adds to the dissatisfaction and alienation from the outside world. This is the daydream that most lonely people have, both as a result and as a result of our inability to have good relationships. Because of being too obsessed with one's own world, the perception of reality is often disjointed, so when it is found that reality is inconsistent with one's own fantasy, the frustration and anger generated are also extremely strong.

That's why you have to anticipate in advance what will happen to him, because you've been living in your own subjective world. Let go of your inner illusions and go out into our objective world, or at least partly when you find that the objective world is not in line with your assumptions, you need to realize that this is what it is, and you need to adjust your perception to the newly discovered facts, rather than suffering because of this difference. People who are alienated from the world tend to have a very high safety barrier, protecting their self-esteem in case they are being harmed.

However, this barrier not only blocks the harm of the outside world, but also blocks the freedom of oneself to go out of the outside world. I sometimes think, in fact, the pain is all the time, you will feel pain if you don't go out, and you will feel some pain when you go out, so what kind of pain is more valuable to you in the long run? It's not that the world is abandoning you, but you've been carefully avoiding it, worrying about encountering more situations you didn't expect, worrying about being hurt.

I don't know if you agree with it, people who like to anticipate everything are very vigilant. Of course, it is right to do some planning in advance, but if the conditions of this anticipation are based on what your supervisor envisions how others will behave.

Everyone's mentality and what they have experienced are different, so their thoughts will be different, so there is no need to worry about this.

It can't be forgotten and it is not necessarily bad, you can look at it in a different mood. Every trauma is a kind of maturity. Can be braver, stronger.

Not low = down, stay low = stay, have not been low = have not left.

How to throw away troubles, how to find happiness? It's all delusional, you don't want to, everything is quiet.

Wash and sleep, tomorrow is another day.

The heart is so big, don't pretend to be too much, otherwise you won't be able to carry it. Wash up and sleep, and relax tomorrow.

If two people are happy, no matter how far away they are, they will be together, but if it is wishful thinking, it is difficult to say.

Feelings are such a thing, they will change, in real life there is no loyal love, let it be! This is good for you and for him, because distance is the same as being away from the relationship between you