Why is it that the more incompetent men and women ask for the bride price?

In fact, this is a normal human nature, when a person is more capable, the less he cares about what other people are like. On the other hand, when he is particularly incapable, he will especially hope that the people around him can bring him more benefits.

For example, if this person himself is particularly capable, he is a boss, and he has a lot of money in his hands, then he asks a woman to help him and manage such a family well, so it is enough, so this man will never ask his woman how many things he has.

But if the man has nothing, he doesn't have any ability, he doesn't have too many things to get his hands on, he doesn't have a good job, he doesn't have good savings, then he will ask his woman to have more money, because only when his woman has more money can she do something better.

So this is completely different, two attitudes, the first attitude, that is, he can be self-reliant, then he can do things on his own, and the assets are the best people.

The second one is actually that this person himself is completely incapable, he pins everything on others, and a person like him also shows that he will not work hard, so his life is basically like this, and it is impossible to have much success.

Therefore, as a woman, how to choose a man is a very important thing, and if you want to choose a man, you must look at it well. And you have to know what this man really looks like.

If you want to have a better life for the two of you in the future, then as a woman, you must see clearly how much this man is willing to pay for you, and how much he wants you to give in the face of you.

If a man always asks for a bride price from the woman.

If it is very high, it means that this man regards this marriage as a transaction, and he does not have much sense of responsibility or ability, so he will pin everything on this woman, and such a man must not be able to have too much contact with him.

If you have too much contact with this man, then if he has money in the future, he will be good, if he doesn't have money, he must think that it is you as his wife who dragged him down, then the two of you will not be happy in this marriage, so the best way is to keep a long distance from such a man.

If a woman knows that a man has no ability, and still asks the man to give a high bride price, it means that the woman does not really love the man, but only marries for the sake of marriage.

Because the woman wants to use a high bride price to make the man who has no ability to retreat.

Thinking that you will become rich, if you are rich, this is what it means, how good it is not to rely on yourself.

Maybe she or her family thinks that it will be more and more difficult in the future, but she can't get the certificate with you in vain, let's get the money first!

Because the bride price of the woman's family is too high, the boy chooses not to take this kind of thing, I think it should be looked at in two situations.

1. The bride price is clearly beyond the limit that the boy's family can afford.

When you fall in love, you can do anything, no material foundation is required. But marriage is different, a certain material basis is to ensure whether the children can live happily in the future, and it is difficult to continue life only by love. Few parents of girls are willing to put their daughters into a person who is not well-off and not motivated, if you have a daughter, you will also have this idea, how can you watch her hard-earned daughter suffer for the rest of her life.

However, if the daughter's love is dead and alive, and the boy's family conditions are not good, the girl's parents will use the bride price to "test" the boy, asking a boy's family to pay a bride price, so that the boy will retreat.

In this case, after a period of time with the woman's family, the boy's family can generally figure out the reason and will not continue to entangle and choose not to marry.

2. The bride price is slightly beyond the limit that the boy's family can afford.

In the case of a bad boy's family, the girl's family is somewhat satisfied with the boy, and will conduct a real test and give a bride price that slightly exceeds the limit of the boy's family.

In this case, a self-motivated boy who loves girls deeply will take out all his net worth, and even borrow foreign debts, to make up the bride price. If in this case, the man and the woman successfully get married, the bride price money of the woman's parents will also find an opportunity to give their daughter (except for a few extreme families), and will not keep it for their own use, after all, the daughter's happiness is the first priority.

If the boy doesn't love the girl enough or doesn't have the courage, it may be a good choice to quit. In the adult world, everything has a price, and when the "bride price" or the price of the boy's current and future net worth is higher than that of the girl or the relationship, it is normal for the boy to choose to give up and not marry.

Because when the girl's family gives this "test", there is a possibility that the boy cannot pass, and there is no need to blame the boy too much.

In fact, from the perspective of the woman's parents, if the man's family background is a little better or the boy is more motivated, he can give his daughter a happy life in the future, and the bride price is really just a formality. After all, the parents who sell their daughters at a clear price are just extreme cases.

Because of the bride price and all kinds of problems, most of them occur in economically underdeveloped areas, I think it is still the reason of the original family, if the two families are really a good match, the two sides of the family and each other's three views are compatible, the feelings are good, the bride price or something is a passing scene, only other aspects are barely compatible, will cause problems because of the bride price.

I don't approve of the sky-high bride price, because this will put a lot of pressure on the man, the bride price just represents the other party's mind, the bride price is appropriate, if it is too much, it will cause conflicts between the two.

There are many boys in the relationship who don't want to marry a daughter-in-law because the bride price is relatively high. These are also some bad habits in our country's traditional customs, which should be abandoned.

Pay more for the bride price as a guarantee for later life.

In fact, this can probably be divided into two types of women. From the perspective of the bride price, the man's family is good, the bride price is high, I am afraid that the man will not agree, at this time the woman feels that the initiative is not on herself, and she wants to worry about food and clothing, so the requirements are naturally a lot less, after all, after marriage, the man's family property is likely to be a woman with dust, even if not, it will be a little chic.

Then there is the man's poor family, in the case that the woman has no choice, or is willing, to ask for a bride price, but also as a guarantee for their own future, no one wants to live a depressed and shabby life, and when a man likes a woman, most of them will consider their ability and whether the money is strong, and they will make a choice.

Features of the wedding bride price:

1. There is a custom of paying a bride price in this place, and pre-marital payment is generally related to the conclusion of marriage.

2. Considering the amount of money paid or the value of the goods in kind, the bride price is generally a large amount of money or a higher value in kind.

3. The payment of bride price is involuntary, and it is often forced to be given due to local and social pressure.

4. The subject of bride price payment and acceptance is often not limited to the man and the woman themselves, the payer includes the man and his parents, brothers and sisters, and the recipient also includes the woman and her parents and other close relatives.

5. The bride price mainly belongs to the woman's mother's family.

Summary. Hello dear, if the other party does not have the ability to give the bride price, this is also understandable, there is not so much money, this is an immutable fact, it can only show that the other party's efforts are not enough to support the other party to give a high bride price.

What if a man thinks the bride price is too high, he has nothing.

Hello dear, if the other party does not have the ability to give the color demolition hall a salute type, this is also understandable, there is no so much money on the trip, this is an unchangeable fact, it can only show that the other party's efforts are not enough to support the other party to give a high dowry money.

He always said that there was no money, no money.

They don't want to give a single thing.

Think empty gloves white wolf.

The house is also mine.

If you don't give a penny, it's clear that sincerity isn't enough.

With the sincerity of the other party, this marriage should not be married to the truth.

Uh-huh. Yes.

What about carrying a baby.

Can I still go to the hospital and get rid of it?

Marrying a man who has no money will be very difficult, and the other party does not want to give a bride price at all, this kind of person should not be ignored.

First, as a man, don't misunderstand the woman's parents.

Because when you look at the people in the woman's family with a contemptuous attitude, you will bury the bad family relationship.

If you really can't afford it, you need to explain your difficulties, and be more sincere and considerate in the imitation of spring scum, so that the woman's parents feel at ease to hand over their daughter to you.

Second, the woman insisted that the bride price should not have a frontal conflict.

Because this is the moment to test true love, the woman should wait. Men should actively coordinate, and when parents see that they truly love each other, but they can't bear to go against their elders, they will gradually relent.

Third, obtain the consent and support of both parents.

The marriage of a man and a woman is not only a matter of the two of you, but also of the two families. If you do not have the support and consent of both parents, you may embarrass the other party in the bride price.

Fourth, contact each other's parents more before marriage.

Visit each other's homes more often during holidays, so that they have some understanding and trust in you, and the probability of offering a sky-high bride price will be relatively reduced.

Fifth, the woman's communication with her family is very important.

As a daughter, on the one hand, she should communicate gently with her parents and explain her relationship with the man, and on the other hand, she should also negotiate with the man how to deal with it better, rather than giving the man orders to accept it.

In fact, I personally think: "Those parents who ask for a sky-high bride price, if you are using this for your own face and not thinking about your daughter's future happiness, then you are really worthy of being a parent." ”

Children are the life of every parent, but also the most kind people, if the children as a disguised investment in life, then you must be a person who is carried away by interests.

Bride price is a marriage custom in traditional Chinese culture, and it is also one of the important ceremonies of marriage, and the man needs to pay a certain amount of money or gift money to the woman's family. However, in modern society, the concept of marriage is gradually changing, and more and more people think that the bride price is not necessary, and even makes marriage overshadowed by commercial transactions.

There are several main reasons why many people are reluctant to accept the bride price

1.Marriage should not be a means of material exchange: many people think that marriage is an emotional exchange between two people, but the bride price makes marriage a material exchange, and they feel that it is not suitable for the values of modern society.

2.The bride price is too high: In modern society, the bride price is usually very high, and for some ordinary families, they cannot afford such a financial burden, so many people do not want to choose the bride price.

3.Marriage that wants equality: In modern society, more and more marriages seek equality and do not want to turn marriage into a paid transaction between men and women.

4.Changes in social customs: Driven by the boycott and opposition to bride price in social customs, many young people have gradually accepted the concept of marriage without bride price, and have chosen not to accept red envelopes and bride price.

In short, more and more people are choosing the concept of marriage without bride price. For them, marriage is a mutual choice and commitment of both parties, rather than a material exchange for profit.