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For women, after getting married, they not only have to adapt to the environment of their in-laws, but also maintain the relationship with their parents. Some people say that after a woman gets married, she is an outsider in her mother-in-law's house and a guest in her mother's house, which shows the bitterness of a married woman. As a woman, it is understandable to be filial to her parents after marriage, but some of the things that her mother's family can not help.

1. The mother's family borrowed money to "save the emergency but not the poor", and don't compromise excessively.

Between the in-laws and the mother's family, money has always been an unavoidable topic, if the woman does not handle it well, it will not only hurt the harmony of the two families, but also put the woman in the abyss of pain. After every daughter gets married, she wants to repay her parents for their nurturing grace with their own ability. Some parents always like to cry poor in front of their children, feeling that they can't live anymore, and no matter what their daughters buy them, they can't be satisfied.

This kind of parents who excessively oppress their daughters and ignore their daughters' lifelong happiness is actually a chronic disease in a woman's marriage, which cannot be detected at first, but in the end, it will become a killer that destroys lives. Therefore, parents can borrow money to "save the emergency but not the poor", which can be reversed, but they cannot be overcompromised, let alone bring double pressure to their husbands.

Second, relatives who don't know how to reciprocate often ask for "errands".

The bitterness of a married woman can only be felt by those who have experienced it, if you blindly pay without asking for anything in return, it will only make others worsen and harm you. As the saying goes, "give people roses, hands have fragrance", being able to help others is something we are happy to do, especially relatives, as our relatives, we should help without asking for anything in return.

But some relatives are busy, and married women still need to be selective to help.

Those relatives who don't know how to reciprocate and take our help for granted still need to be cautious. You will find that when you help this favor, but it is thankless, because they don't know how to be grateful at all, so don't help your relatives easily.

3. Don't rely on your brother with a strong heart independently, and ask for "life" to be busy.

For a woman, the most important person in her life, her parents are brothers and sisters, and if they have something, they will definitely take it to heart. But for those siblings who are overly dependent on their parents, don't blindly stick to it, as it will affect the status of women in their in-laws' family in serious cases. We can give appropriate help to our mother's family, but if a person can't even take care of his own basic life, can't stand on this society, and has to rely on the relief of his family, in the long run, it can only be a burden.

Therefore, women should not help their brothers and sisters in their lives, you will find that if you do too much, it is not good for anyone, and some things still have to be faced by themselves.

In marriage, a woman's good life starts with knowing how to "refuse". Women have to worry about their mother's family, as well as plan for their in-laws, and it is difficult to take care of both sides, and often both sides will not please them. Therefore, if you want to have status and dignity in your in-law's family, you should keep your duty, and you must not help your mother's family.

Because once a stupid woman is "upside down", it will make the man very dissatisfied, and she will also be treated as a cash cow by her mother's family, infinitely exploited, and if it is not handled well, the marriage will easily come to an end!

This is because a real woman with high emotional intelligence will definitely not blindly favor her mother's family, otherwise her in-laws will feel that they don't regard their in-laws' family as a family. It is easy to have contradictions.

A woman with high emotional intelligence will not help her younger brother get married, buy a house, will not easily help her parents make unreasonable requests, and will not help her younger brother take care of children. Because blindly upside down will only bring more demand from the mother's family.

Because the bridesmaids' family is busy, it is very likely that they will cause damage to their families, and they may also get divorced.

First of all, they will not interfere with some things about money in their mother-in-law's family, they will not shout about their family's life or other issues, and they will not interfere in their mother-in-law's private life.

Do not meddle in the conflict between the in-laws and the family; "Poor" relatives come to borrow money without a bottom line; do not interfere in the marriage of her husband and siblings; The in-laws are not searching for their biological parents, and the matter between them is less interfering with the world.

If you want to meddle in the marriage between younger siblings, it is about money, don't rush in front of your husband's slap, let your husband think more, and don't easily meddle in the affairs of your in-laws.

As the old saying goes, "if you say too much, you will lose", it is not wrong at all, especially for this kind of inability to grasp interpersonal relationships, we should follow the principle of "silence is golden". It's hard to guess this kind of thing, maybe you still see your mother-in-law talking about which relative is not, but after a few days, the two of them are smiling and grinning.

It may be that in today's mother-in-law's emotions, in order to please your mother-in-law's emotions, you don't know what the relationship between the two others is, or what happened, and blindly blame each other, which is also very bad. Maybe at that time, the mother-in-law will feel that she has gained understanding because of your deep understanding, but this kind of behavior is equivalent to adding fuel to the fire, not only will it not soothe the mother-in-law's emotions, but it will make her angry. Later, when your mother-in-law is angry, and you reconcile with your relatives and friends again, then you will be annoyed by the words you said at that time.

This is the same as everyone persuading friends around you to break up or not, generally speaking, try not to mix with this kind of thing. If he persuades peace, and others have problems at that time, the first person to complain is you; If he persuades him to divide up, if others reconcile, they will still alienate you later, so do this to find a bone in the egg.

This sentence is right, other people's brothers and brothers still settle accounts, no matter how close the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is, there is no blood relationship after all, as long as it involves personal gains and losses, in the final analysis, they still think about themselves, so some mothers-in-law especially hate their daughters-in-law who have been sending money to their parents' family, all the same.

Life after marriage does not belong to rights and interests and money is naturally not practical, but at this time, everyone can often put themselves out of the way, let the husband be the person who negotiates this negotiation, even if the mother-in-law does not like her daughter-in-law, she will still love her baby son, and she can listen to the child's words better in comparison. Therefore, when a woman inevitably wants to get involved in money problems with her in-laws, she must learn to be a smiling person, regardless of whether she pushes her husband down and is over. A woman with high emotional intelligence usually acts as a strategist behind her, and only needs to shake her husband's hand in her heart, and the relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not difficult to handle.

In dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, women with high emotional intelligence will have many tips of their own in daily life, but no matter how good the method is, in a word, the things with true feelings are often the most very easy to touch people's hearts. Although the mother-in-law seems to be a non-enterer, in the final analysis, you have become his son's wife, the person her son loves deeply, and the mother-in-law still likes you after all, but she is stubborn on the surface. If it is really difficult for you to grasp these methods to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it doesn't matter, I hope that sincerity and filial piety in daily life will also play a very important role in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

They will not participate in the money exchange between your in-laws' relatives, it is about the busyness of money, they will never ask, they will not be busy with things they don't understand, they will not be reckless, they have a sense of proportion.

A woman with high emotional intelligence never mixes with the contradictions between her in-laws and other relatives, nor does she mix with her in-laws' financial dealings. Silly women intervened.

I never get involved in dividing the property of my in-laws, or if someone in my mother-in-law's family is sick, or if I borrow money from my in-laws.

A smart woman with high emotional intelligence does not interfere in the private life of her brother and brother, and has a good relationship with her sister-in-law or sister-in-law, so that the family will be harmonious, protect the interests of her mother's family everywhere, and do not speak ill of her mother's family.

The first way: lend money to your mother's family. The second way: to deal with the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law. The third type: the education of in-laws' children.

1.Help your mother's family buy a house and a car, we all know that after getting married, some things need to be separated, and the wages of the two people are best used for their own small family. 2.

Forcibly placing your own family in your own place of work will make other colleagues think that you are overly biased towards your mother's family. 3.I won't easily agree to borrow money, because some mothers' families will borrow money countless times and don't think about paying it back.

The first kind of busyness is borrowing money; The second kind of busyness is the unreasonable demands of siblings; The third kind of busyness is the request of a distant relative of the mother's family, and these three busyes must not be touched!

The conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law of the mother-in-law, and the mortgage of the younger brother. cannot be mixed with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship of the mother's family; You can't take your brother's mortgage in a big way.

Bottomless borrowing and filial piety have a limit, which will affect your status in your in-law's family. The conflict between your mother and daughter-in-law, don't blindly listen to your mother's words and help your mother deal with her daughter-in-law.

The family affairs of the first siblings are more cumbersome, and there are too many factors involved, so it is not appropriate to give too much guidance and help; second, to repay debts, involving money issues, try to avoid them, otherwise there will be more rights and wrongs; Third, the relationship between siblings and parents is not harmonious, and the relationship between people is very complex and delicate, so don't mix it too much.

A woman with high emotional intelligence will not often give money to her mother's family, will not always think about her mother-in-law, and will always treat her mother-in-law and her mother-in-law equally.

1. The mother's family borrowed money to "save the emergency but not the poor", and don't compromise excessively.

Second, relatives who don't know how to reciprocate often ask for help in "doing things" and don't help.

3. Don't rely on your brother with a strong heart independently, and ask for "life" to be busy. Can't help.

In general, a woman with high emotional intelligence in life will not help her mother's money problems, often ask for help, and need help.

If the relationship between the in-laws is very bad, sometimes there will be quarrels or fights, and the woman with high emotional intelligence will not help, because she knows that the cut is still messy.

1.When the in-laws need money, they can help, and try to do 2Don't worry about the brothers and sisters in your mother-in-law's family3Don't be confused about the affairs of your mother-in-law's family, silly woman, on the contrary, she will take her mother's money to supplement her mother-in-law's family.

If the parents-in-law always quarrel, try not to intervene in this kind of thing, because after all, the two of them are relatively close, if they don't do it well, it will really be easy to have problems, and stupid women do not have high emotional intelligence, and they will definitely do such things.

If there is an uncle or aunt in the mother-in-law's family who needs help, a woman with high emotional intelligence will not help, and she is unwilling to wade into this troubled water, because it is very likely that she will fall into it.

The father-in-law and mother-in-law had a conflict. Don't mix up the big and small things in the family, as a junior.

Don't care about the family conflicts of your in-laws. If there is a sister-in-law, the brother-in-law has a conflict and let her husband deal with it, just watch it yourself, don't get too involved.