Why can t people be too nice to others, why can t they be too nice to people?

Updated on society 2024-06-24
13 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Seven points of kindness to others, and the remaining three points are kept for yourself, which is also the practice of smart people.

    Friends, some people are very enthusiastic, love to make friends, are very good to others, and even have no reservations, of course, they may be quite happy at the beginning, but after a long time, there will be some problems. It makes sense to be humane, you can't be too good to others, and you have to leave three points for yourself, which is also the practice of smart people.

    So why can't you be very good to others, and keep three points for yourself, there are many reasons. First of all, there is a little distance between people, because everyone is an independent individual, if there is no distance, no self, then for a long time, whether it is the giver or the recipient, will not be able to stand it, if you dedicate yourself all, you will be unbearable for a long time, and the person being helped, will also be unbearable, because it will hurt self-esteem and break your own tranquility, sometimes it will cause a bad relationship, self-defeating. This principle also applies to the parent-child relationship, if the parents pay too much attention to the child, for a long time, the child will feel a lot of pressure and pain, which will affect the parent-child relationship.

    In fact, it is not uncommon for cases such as two people who have a particularly good relationship, or parents who are particularly good to their children, and it is common to report that children will be disgusted with their parents' doting when they grow up, and even hate their parents' excessive interference. Secondly, if you are too good to others and have no reservations, then sometimes it will be very dangerous, because not everyone is as kind as you, and it is possible that others will take advantage of your kindness and deprive you of everything, and you will regret it when the time comes. And in case some people are hidden bad guys, and they are too good to be defenseless against them, they may also protect the bad guys.

    Therefore, when interacting with others, you must have more eyes, you can't give up all your hearts, pay attention to protect yourself, and respect others.

    People interact with others to talk about a degree, it is good for others and themselves, everyone needs to have themselves, have their own space, don't be too good to others, not only to protect themselves, but also to respect others.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    In life, there are many people who take your unconditional kindness for granted, and even ask for it from you. The reality is like this, people's hearts can't be exchanged for people's hearts, and blindly compromising to be a good person is embarrassing yourself.

    Many times, you think that the person you think is also thinking about you, and you think that people will appreciate you and cherish you while you think about others. However, the human heart is not as simple as you think.

    You must know that when you always tolerate a person's unprincipled package, then, after a long time, habit becomes natural, in the eyes of the other party, your contribution is taken for granted, and your accommodation is willing. When you refuse, you only get blame, and what was good is completely denied.

    Many people are like this, they are used to getting it, and they forget to be grateful; Accustomed to having, forgetting to cherish. So remember: don't be too nice to a person, one day you will find that if you are too nice to a person, he will take it for granted.

    We must know how to measure and measure, don't let your sincerity become cheap, and don't let your good become the capital of others to hurt you.

    As the saying goes, "Seven points of fullness for eating, seven points for lovers". Treat any love, don't pay too much, how can there be a heart in this world, for people who don't know how to cherish, your good has no value at all, the more you think about it, the more disdainful he is.

    In life, whether it is friendship or love, the higher your expectations, the more disappointed you will be; The more energy you put into it, the more painful it hurts when you get hurt.

    Remember, between people, you don't have to pay to get the corresponding reward!

    The world is impermanent, and people's hearts are unpredictable. You must learn to put away your sincerity, have your own bottom line and principles, don't be overly kind, and don't tolerate everywhere. Know how to love yourself at all times.

    So, when you want to be good to someone, you have to grasp a certain degree, and at the same time be kind to yourself. In this way, you can live happily.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Because a bucket of rice feeds a benefactor, and a liter of rice feeds an enemy. People are always insatiable, so we should be good to others, not unscrupulous.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    This situation is not absolute, because people must have a good impression of each other, so that they can be true friends.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Human nature is selfish, and to be too nice to others is to be too cruel to yourself.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    If you are too good to others, others may not be grateful to you, if you occasionally do not do as he wants, he will be dissatisfied, people will not be satisfied, some people will even be ungrateful, and they will take revenge, so you can't be too good to others, and it will be you who will be hurt at that time.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Because sometimes if you are a bad person, others will not appreciate you, and they will take everything for granted, but in fact, the truth is too much.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    It certainly can't be too nice to people.

    People should be good to themselves and not expect others.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Why can't you be too nice to people? The source of the problem needs to be analysed, and it is not possible to generalize. Generally speaking, if you are good to others, others will be good to you.

    But there is also this situation, some people are indulgent and insatiable, the more good you are to them, the more they don't appreciate it, they are at ease, they don't have to be too good to this kind of person, it's better to stay away!

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Dogs can't be too fed, people can't be too good, endure for a while, take a step back and intensify, joke inside.

    Don't go too far, or it's all a disaster, not enough tolerance, money to make up, a group of dogs behind the rich, no money social road is difficult to walk, see what is good for you, remember who was bitten, you should eat, you should drink, don't put it in your heart, it's a person or a dog, it's an enemy or a friend, it's a long time to see for yourself.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    As follows:

    1. Over the years, someone has always said to me, don't be too nice to others, after a long time, I will be taken for granted that I am good to him. However, there are always people who I treat well to them, and they treat me better.

    2. Man is really a strange creature, you can't be too nice to a person, because he will think that you have something to ask for him; You can't be too bad to a guy because he will think you're angry with him. You can't be good or bad to a person, because he will think that you have no intention of him.

    3. Don't be too good to a person, otherwise she will think that you should be, it is normal for two people to stumble, if you blindly please, or pay, you will inevitably be humble as a dog, and it is always yourself who is hurt.

    4. If a person is too kind, all people will think that you will always be so kind, until you make a little mistake will be blamed to collapse, so people can't be too kind.

    5. Today, I understand two truths: the one who can't bear it must be the weak one; Don't be too nice to others, your thoughtfulness and care for others doesn't necessarily take it to heart.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    1. Dogs can't be too full, and people can't be too good!

    2. When a dog is hungry, it is very happy to give a bowl of rice.

    3. A dog finch returns to let everyone eat very full every day, and eat well every day, and then feed rice and don't eat it, and you have to eat meat.

    5. Therefore, it is good for others to stop in moderation, not without a lower limit.

    6. Don't be too nice to people, otherwise he will be cheap and think this is what you should do.

    7. "Human nature is cheap", this is a truth.

    8. While being good to others, you have repeatedly lowered your bottom line, 9. If you lose your framework, others will only bully and use you.

    10. Others think you are too easy to talk to, and it is natural for you to do things.

    11. But your heart and lungs will not be exchanged for the sincerity of others.

    12. As the old saying goes: people are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden.

    13. No matter how kind you are, people must have a degree, and human nature is greedy.

    14. People want to get the same reward for their efforts and treat others sincerely.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Yes, can't be too nice to others. But it can't be bad.

    This question needs to be looked at dialectically:

    First of all, it is necessary to be nice to others. Man is a social person. Give people roses, and leave a lingering fragrance in your hands.

    Small things can make big changes, and many small things can add up to make a huge difference. Many years ago, I learned how to help strangers from a friend, Ken. If I see a group of people taking pictures and it's one of them taking pictures, I'll go over and help so I can get everyone in.

    Even the act of opening the door for someone else contains the spirit of Fred. So, don't forget to be kind – others won't forget about you.

    However, there are two sides to everything. You can't just be nice to others, and you must also be vigilant. Getting along with people requires an independent space to get along with each other. Each person is an individual.

    In short, everything should be done in moderation, especially if it is excessive.

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