What do you think of some traditional bad habits, and mothers use their daughters as cash cows?

Asking for a bride price is a traditional custom that has existed since ancient times, but now some have changed their taste, three days a big flower head, two days a small flower head, to this to that, not that the young man said that he was selling his daughter, but some parents are sitting on the ground to start the price.

Daughters are raised with money, and sons are also raised with money. There is no reason to give this in vain, do you get married, the dowry is indispensable, you have to think about living a good life to honor your parents, don't always think about putting your father's money in your own pocket.

Why don't you want a bride price, those who say that they want a bride price is to sell their daughters, to put it bluntly, they don't want to suffer losses and want to take advantage of other people's goods, and they don't disrespect the woman's family from the beginning. Asking for a bride price is to look up to you, and it is also the responsibility of parents to their daughters, and they are afraid that their daughters will suffer, not to sell their daughters.

Now that the living conditions are good, people divorce at every turn, like everyone is poor and there is no divorce, and it is normal for parents to think more about their daughters, and it is not intended to be a cash cow.

This is a problem of social atmosphere, and there is also the psychology of comparison, if your daughter asks for less bride price when she marries, she will feel that she can't hang on her face.

The bride price is all brought to the bottom of the box, and now marrying a daughter is also a loss, okay, let alone two or three hundred thousand, the car has to be bought, and it is not all the money that the woman's parents took out of their own pockets.

There will be no problem with the balance of bride price and dowry, it is estimated that there is a deficit and a relatively large deficit, because parents still have a sense of comparison.

The biggest problem now is not actually the issue of the bride price, but the fact that they are all thinking about how much property they can get after the divorce before they get married, which is the most fatal, and each family calculates the whole spy war drama.

It costs a lot of money to train a daughter, go to school or something, and give the bride price, basically we have to come back with a dowry, and most of them have to add some money.

In the past three years, I have paid so much for my family, the family has not even said thank you, I also have a family, I also need to plan for the future of myself and my children, it is impossible that I only have a penny in my hand to give it to the family, and I am not obliged to take care of the family completely, but my mother just thinks that if I have money, I should spend it on my brothers and sisters, and I can't patronize myself, my husband and I went out to dinner with friends and said that we spent money to spend money with pig friends and dogs, oh my God, we also have friends and also need circles, she tried to control my life, I felt really tired.

Mother is a stubborn person, but what can I do, she is my mother, and her health is not good, my brother is married, she still doesn't want to live there, she said that my brother has not bought a house yet, and going will increase the burden, I heard it even more painful, why I have always paid, they don't have to, why should my husband be tired from work, and her brother is tired from work, she is distressed half to death, why is my sister sick is not in good health, why am I sick and squeamish? For so many years, I feel most sorry for my husband, who has been silently paying for our family, but my family still doesn't know how to be grateful. What should be done, what should be done?

How to treat my family?

This deep-rooted thinking is difficult to change, and this phenomenon has not gradually decreased with the development of society, on the contrary, everyone has become accustomed to adaptation, and the bride price has become a custom.

Because the bride price in many rural areas is ridiculously high, you can get a lot of bride price money if you marry your daughter.

Because it's the same as selling your daughter, you receive a bride price, and you don't have to care about your daughter's future life. It's patriarchy.

Because the bride price is very high now, and in some places the bride price is hundreds of thousands or even millions, and the daughter can get an income from the bride price.