What is it like to not be able to speak and always lead to coldness?

It often makes everyone very embarrassed, and the day is also to talk to death, and they are supposed to talk about another topic, but suddenly someone loudly introduces another topic that everyone doesn't like or is not familiar with, and at this time, if no one pays attention to you, you will immediately fall into an embarrassing scene. Some friends have a big personality, they know it, but what they don't know is that they choked to death with a word, and they can't talk happily this day. It may also be impossible to speak, for example, the group has just established a twitter, it will take less than 3 hours, and even later, except for a few bubbling ones, everyone else will not speak anymore, not without saying but without saying anything, and they have already chatted to death.

If you can't speak, you will always be cold, you will feel embarrassed, and then other people will feel embarrassed.

The audience was quiet, all looking at me, very embarrassed. I feel like I'm like a piece of ice, or a gust of cold wind, blowing to **, ** it's cool, it's just embarrassing, and it's a big blow to myself for a long time, I don't want to talk for a long time, I don't want to speak, so I become a cold person.

The person who can't speak is a person, and he is cold as soon as he speaks. My husband is such a person. The nephew was full moon, and a circle of people surrounded him to praise him, saying that he was handsome.

My husband went in and said, "This is still handsome, dark and thin, you haven't seen a handsome young man." So the circle of people fell silent, there was nothing to say, and I wanted to tear his mouth.

When I got home, I told him to talk less, otherwise he would always be cold, which would be really embarrassing. I think people who talk like this always lead to coldness really need to keep their mouths shut.

I've had the same experience as you, only it's much better now! Friends, don't be afraid of being ridiculed, you will definitely gain something when you are bullied and ridiculed by others! The same will make those who laugh at themselves be ridiculed!

It is a weapon to protect yourself from harm! Bravely walk into the crowd, and gain not only friendship, but more importantly, those experiences that change yourself, which will become your wealth in the future.

This situation is embarrassing, and it may also hurt the hearts of others, so be sure to learn to speak more and enhance your ability to avoid this happening.

There was such a classmate in our dormitory before, and every time he spoke, she said that a lively topic was cold. And every time he tells him a story, or listens to him say this, he always doesn't know where the laughter is, but he himself can't laugh there. Later, we all called him the King of the Cold Field.

It's very uncomfortable, I'm very lost, I hope someone is worse than me, so it's a little more comfortable, but it's still uncomfortable.

To overcome shyness, read more books and newspapers. Or watch some TV series, even if you watch too many sketches or cross talk, you can increase your experience and sense of humor. In addition, after every communication with others, we should reflect on the gains and losses in our words and deeds, as well as the true meaning of others' words.

The preface didn't match the afterword, it was embarrassing, and everyone looked at me and then turned their heads in an instant.

I think reading more books can change this embarrassing situation, in fact, many people feel that they can't speak because they don't have a common language with the person they talk to, and if you read a lot of books, it will be easier to find a common language.

When I was in college, because I often played volleyball, so I was tanned, and I never played an umbrella when I went out during the day. Everyone around me looked at me without saying a word, and I blushed at that time.

I feel so embarrassed, when other people are talking hotly, I am cold when I speak, and now I don't like to talk.

If it's a cold spot because I can't speak, then I'll feel very embarrassed.

I've encountered it many times before, but as I grew older and my social experience increased, I thought about it and summarized it carefully, and this situation basically didn't happen again.

Not being able to speak always leads to coldness, which makes me feel embarrassed and embarrassed.

I have joined a fan group before, because it is a fan group, people will come in one after another, they are strangers to each other, and it takes a while to get acquainted, especially at night, there is already a spine of active people in the group to form a small group, they are the backbone of the group, and it is not easy to integrate into them in this case. Therefore, at the beginning, he spoke actively and actively, but he took the initiative to provoke the topic but few people paid attention to it.

Now that I have become an old man in the group, I found that when the newcomers first appeared, they were very active and active, but after a period of time, many people either dived or quit the group, so when I first saw new faces talking in the group, I didn't talk very well. Because I'm a sensitive person, when I don't know much about the personality characteristics of newcomers, I won't easily go up and talk to them, because I'm also worried about being hated, and I think the general psychology of new friends in the group is like this.

However, many new friends are scared by this, and it is a pity that they miss the opportunity to make some cute young ladies (laughing). Therefore, it should be relatively normal to speak coldly at the beginning, after all, everyone is not familiar with it, so you must be psychologically prepared for the cold field when speaking.

If your ID is already familiar to everyone, but the speech is still cold, I think it should be divided into situations. One is that you are really annoying, this situation is real, some people have low emotional intelligence, and everyone really doesn't like to talk to her; The second situation is that everyone is busy when you speak (everyone generally refers to the people who are active in the group every day), and it is a little embarrassing to reply after a while has passed when you see it.

How to distinguish what kind of situation you are, think back to whether you have the experience of talking to people in the group, if you have Wang regret, it means that your chat ability is actually no problem, but the timing of the speech happens to be not right, everyone doesn't hate you, you can change the time for example, when there are many people, you can talk again, if you don't reply, you will do something else first.

If it's low EQ, people with low EQ are really annoying! Please take a look at those topics about low emotional intelligence on your own, and you should have a little green tree :) in your heart

Interaction between people is not an easy thing, it requires sincerity, mutual understanding and persistence, after all, they are all interesting and cute young ladies, how can they easily be friends with strangers.

Personally, I think that the speech in the group should be to see what interesting jokes I want to share, and what bad things I want to complain about, not to prove that I am a popular person who responds to every call, so relax my mentality, such as Yingling Luguo, you always share some really interesting things, everyone will not turn a blind eye, you have to believe that you are an interesting person.

Find a topic to chat is not cold, you have to look for a wide range of topics, face up to the differences in the interests of boys and girls on topics, talk more about common interests and hobbies, don't talk about a topic to death, chat is the interaction of the hearts of both parties.

1. The range of topics to look for is very wide.

There are actually a lot of topics that can be talked about with girls, including emotions, celebrity entertainment, life trivialities, social phenomena, anecdotes, etc., all of which can be chosen. This type of forest is the broadest category, and each category can be subdivided into many small categories. Therefore, there are so many topics that can be talked about, just choose topics that the other party may be interested in and that you know better.

2. Face up to the differences in the interests of boys and girls in topics.

Boys and girls often have very different understandings and interests in different topics due to their genders. A group of girls chatted about gossip and had a good time, and the boys found it incredible. A group of boys are chatting happily about a ball game, and the girls are equally incomprehensible.

Formal differences in the understanding of topics between different genders can make it possible to chat happily with girls.

Girls are more likely to prefer celebrity entertainment and emotional topics, boys are more likely to prefer social phenomena and sports events, and both boys and girls are more likely to prefer topics related to social phenomena. You can combine and try to talk about what both parties are interested in first, and then find a girl who is interested, so that the chat can gradually get better.

3. Talk more about common interests and hobbies.

If you are chatting with male elders, you can talk more about social phenomena, and you can talk about some trivial things in life when chatting with female elders.

The same young people are likely to have common interests and hobbies. If you are different, you can also get to know each other and arouse each other's interest, if there are the same, it will be better, the topic can be more and more in-depth, and it is even possible to talk about the more private experience of both parties, then it will successfully make the relationship more intimate.

4. Don't talk about a topic to death.

Many times when chatting and chatting without words, you just don't grasp the malleability of the topic. The content of a single topic is usually limited, and if you want to continue talking for a long time, you need to extend from this topic to a relevant topic, or naturally transition to other topics. If you only grasp this one topic, it is basically impossible to keep talking about it.

5. Chat is the interaction of the hearts of both parties.

When chatting with each other, always remember that chatting is not a speech by you alone, but an interaction between two people's hearts. You should pay attention to the other person's attitude and expression when you speak, is she trying to express her opinion? Do you need to listen quietly?

Are you not interested in the topic at hand or are you tired of it? All of this requires you to grasp the signals in time and not only focus on what you say and ignore the feelings of the other person.

Men want to flirt with a woman, most of the time they are actually chatting on their mobile phones, but many straight male friends are struggling to chat with women when they are always cold, why others are chatting in full swing, Xiaoqing will tell you the root cause, so that you can become a master of flirting with girls.

Chatting requires skills, such as grasping the attention of the person you are chatting with, and having a sense of humor when you speak, such as reading some books "The Weakness of Human Nature" and "Being Able to Talk is Comfortable" and so on.

You must have skills in chatting, and you can't make the conversation too embarrassing, so that the other party can't get off the stage;

Talk to whomever you want, talk to the elderly, talk more about the topics that the elderly are interested in; When chatting with parents, talk more about topics that interest them; When chatting with young people, talk more about topics that young people are interested in; When talking to children, talk more about topics that children are interested in; Speak in style.