How to deal with things that cannot be changed

Facing everything calmly is a great realization after experiencing the tribulations of life, and some people may not be able to do this in their lifetime. Everyone has their own limitations, and it is normal to encounter things that they are unable to solve and cannot solve. If you don't have the ability yourself, you can ask for help.

If it can't be solved, it can be handed over to external forces to solve. Lower your expectations of results, recognize your abilities correctly, and accept impermanence. Life is a lifetime of practice, pain and happiness.

Change the standpoint, trace the root cause, observe the normal logical relationship, analyze the favorable and unfavorable factors, when looking at the problem from multiple angles After analyzing the problem, you will find that what you do or not does is not important.

In the face of the status quo that cannot be changed, I think there may be one way, that is, the loss of labor, and the disease. But isn't there a subsistence allowance now, and there are some subsidies? The body can't move, and you can do some manual work with both hands, or set up a small stall.

As long as you are willing to use your brains, there are always more ways than difficulties.

Everything must be faced, and there must be no evasion. The same is true for things that can't be changed. Moreover, even if it is something that cannot be changed, you must do your best to exert influence, and it is up to man.

When I was in college, I was relatively free, I joined the student union in my freshman year, and then quit, the reason is that I don't think it's meaningful, it's purely to help others with chores, the university does what you like, and when you work, there are more worries, the university is close to the society, and it is also a period for you to adapt before work, don't put too much pressure on yourself. Do what you like to do, and don't care what the student council is, what if I don't go. Optimistically adjust your mentality, treat it positively, and participate in more club activities in the evening.

Learn to accept and go with the flow.

Try every means to change the state of poverty, this world, although there are many unfairness, but as long as you work hard, you will not be too poor, you can survive with a skill, if you can be multi-skilled or upgrade this skill to a high level, how can you be poor, now you will not be poor as a coolie, so the key is whether you work hard enough.

If you are in a period of confusion in your life, or if you are temporarily facing difficulties, whether it is poverty or whatever, please keep a clear head, keep a normal attitude, and find a solution. At present, there is no shortage of opportunities, what is lacking is the courage and ability to look for opportunities and create opportunities.

If you really can't stand it, then prepare for the worst and say all your unhappiness, maybe there will be unexpected answers, but you have to think clearly in advance.

Take a long-term view, and sometimes find that some small accidents, small surprises or anything are meaningless. It's better to live your own life.

I think I can face it calmly, there is nothing that cannot be solved, and since I can't change it, I can accept it calmly.

When faced with things that cannot be changed, I will adjust my mentality and choose to accept it.

When faced with a thing, we can't accept it and can't change it, then we can only try to change, and if we really can't do it, we can only let ourselves accept it. Let me analyze this matter in detail.

1.First of all, this ability of one of us is still very limited. So when faced with some things, there are often some things that you don't have anything to do.

But even if there are some things that we can't do on our own, we have to try to change them. Because only if you keep trying to change this thing, can you really change because of your attempts. So when faced with a thing, as long as you can't accept it, then you should try to change it.

Because it is still possible for you to change this thing to a certain extent, and it is possible to reach the standard you want.

2.When you try to change this matter in the next step, you should actually make good use of some resources around you to see if the things around you can help you to interfere with yourself. Because each of us actually has some resources of our own.

For example, the people you know around you, for example, your own abilities, for example, there are people who take the initiative to help us. These are our personal resources. So if we can handle this matter well, we need to use a lot of things around us to be able to really do this thing well.

3.Then the last step is actually that I really can't change this thing. If we really can't change this thing, then we can only accept it.

Because after all, there are some things that we can't change ourselves. Therefore, we can only continue to accept it, so that we can have a better attitude. And at this time, we have made enough efforts ourselves.

If you can't change it, let it go, change yourself, make yourself stronger, and have the ability to change when you encounter things.

No one is perfect, and nothing is perfect in life.

1: Relax, we're all the same as you, these things you said, everyone will encounter.

2: Everyone is afraid of death, and there is only one life. In the face of this unchangeable thing, all we can do is to cherish every day, not let ourselves have regrets, and welcome death with a calm attitude.

3: Time is the fairest thing left to us by God, every minute and every second is different, it is precisely because of this uncertainty that our lives are diverse and colorful, and we will have a different life from others. If we all have the opportunity to choose again, then we are not all doing the same thing, what is the point?

4: In terms of flaws, it can only be said that people are not saints and sages, and in this regard, don't be too yourself, be kind to yourself.

In the face of things that cannot be changed, we can only accept them, and we must accept them. Everyone dies, and no one is an exception; If you miss it, believe that there is something better waiting for you later. We must learn to accept imperfections, there is no such thing as perfection in the world, and the idea that perfection is imperfection.

Since it is something that cannot be changed, then we have no other way but to accept it, so we will gladly accept it. If you're really upset, talk to someone.

Don't be afraid, be kind to everything around you, and everything around you will be kind to you. You have to believe that what you think is what he really will be. But for those things that can be changed, we still have to try to change it for the better.

Make everything better for yourself.

Then you can only face it bravely, many things are uncontrollable, you have nothing to do but face it, maybe you face it bravely, but things have a turn!

In the face of things that cannot be changed, the only way to accept the reality is to treat it calmly. If you can't change things, you can change your mentality! That way you don't feel too sad.

Man is not God, so let it be natural if you can't change it.

If you can't change it, you have to adapt to it, or you can choose to escape, and that's it.

Change can change.

Accept what must be accepted.

Child, you will one day go from understanding to empathy.

We will encounter many problems in our lives, even difficult things, but we still have to continue to live, and when we encounter things that we can't do, there may be no solution, but one thing that should be clear is that we should not give up on living a good life for this reason. Everything has its solution, and even has its two sides, we usually only see the pain and misfortune that life gives us, and ignore the growth and exercise that the world brings to us by the difficulties itself, in fact, suffering can always bring us growth, which has a high value.

Therefore, although there are many difficult things that cannot even be effectively solved, we still have to treat them with a positive attitude, and the change of mindset will give us a new understanding of things, and then, these problems that seem to be an endless cycle suddenly become less important, and the failure in this matter does not affect the happy life, it becomes no longer important, and it is solved.

If you can't, you can try to change your mentality, objectively and rationally analyze what kind of impact this matter can not solve with lead to you, and then judge whether it can be recovered, once you find the standard to measure the problem, it will naturally be more fair to judge, and it will no longer have a great impact on you.

It is precisely because if you keep tolerating change, it will not make the other party feel satisfied, but will make the relationship more and more unequal. I was also hurting myself in my marriage. In the memory, although there is no need to argue with reason, but you should also love yourself well and don't swallow your anger to others, you should be clear about right and wrong, you can give in to express your own concept but you can't always endure it, and you will fall into an inferiority complex if you want to accept the life, this relationship will become more and more unequal because of one party's let, patience will become more and more unequal, and the relationship is like a long-term relationship, and it doesn't have any meaning, and it won't be happy.

Ignorant forbearance will make the other party gain an inch.

In marriage, although we should be humble and tolerant of each other, this is mutual, not always only one party is humble and tolerant. But both parties can understand that in marriage, how to manage if only one party tolerates and changes himself, the other party will never be indifferent, and take it for granted what kind of party it is.

A bit of forbearance will make you feel aggrieved.

In marriage, the most important thing is to obtain happiness and obtain the value of life, if we have been tolerating the other party to swallow their anger and accept it, we will feel that we have lost the value of life and lost the meaning of life, because we can not get happiness from marriage, we will make this marriage tired, and we will make ourselves very aggrieved if we have been forbearance, which is very bad for physical and mental health, and we can't let the relationship last for a long time.

Forbearance can't change anything.

Many people have traditional beliefs about the need for forbearance in marriage. For any modern person, forbearance is limited, a forbearance will suppress their body and mind, is not good for their physical and mental health, and there is no benefit to this marriage, if they can forbear in exchange for the other party's understanding and forbearance, it is useful, if the other party does not understand but will think that the party who forbears is good to bully, and this relationship will never last long.

Accept reality: Nothing to do means that we need to learn to accept reality in the face of unchangeable facts. Refusing to accept reality will only leave us immersed in emotions of pain and frustration that prevent us from moving forward. Only by accepting reality can we begin to think about our next move.

Finding solutions is lacking: Even if we can't change some of the facts, we can find solutions to mitigate some of the negative impacts. For example, if we feel helpless because of unemployment or illness, we can look for employment opportunities or medical help.

Even if these solutions don't solve all the problems, they can at least bring us some benefits.