What should a woman do if she wants a stable marriage and a wonderful life?

As long as people reach a certain age, they will always feel pain for some things that they are unable to do. Whether it is a man or a woman, there are always some indescribable troubles, which cannot be told, and can only be buried deep in their hearts. Those couples who have thought about divorce in life will also have a lot of distress in their lives, perhaps because of their children, or because both parents need to take care of them, and the two of them are reluctant to live together.

As long as a person reaches middle age, he will face a lot of trouble. Especially for men, their jobs will be greatly affected, and if they are laid off at age, if they have no savings at all, they will have a lot of pressure on them and their emotions will be even more unstable. But they don't want to bring these pressures to family life, let alone talk to their wives, they hope that their wives can take the initiative to care about themselves, if his wife doesn't feel his feelings, then the man can only bear it silently.

In married life, women also want to have happiness, but you should know how you should do it?

Many women are actually very fragile in their hearts, like a glass that will break if they fall on the ground, and they will behave very gently before they get married, but these often change after marriage. In the life after marriage, women are often entangled by the complicated things and children in the house, always feel very tired, the mood is simply terrible, the husband may be able to understand the wife's troubles, when doing some things try to avoid bothering her, learn to bear everything, even if he encounters painful things, he also faces it alone. But although women don't work outside, they always feel that they are busy with things and have no time to care about their husbands.

A woman can learn to allocate her own time and carefully observe her husband's mood changes, even if you are not able to help him at work, it is good that you can understand and comfort him. Don't blame your husband for everything, he is busy with his business every day, and when he comes home, you should make him feel comfortable.

Some women rely on their husbands for everything after they get married, thinking that they can be very stable together. I always think without thinking through my brain when I speak, and sometimes what I say makes my husband's heart very painful, but I say it directly. If your husband can take the initiative to take care of the housework for you, don't praise him, forget it, but deny him, saying that he is not doing well, it will hurt him very much, and he will not help you with housework in the future.

Men often need encouragement and praise, and they need their wives to be more patient with him, so that the two of you will have a more harmonious family. When a woman says praise appropriately, it can satisfy the vanity of a man to a large extent, and when a man is happy, he will be more motivated to do things.

In short, women have to learn to be content in life and don't let your desires blind you, so that your life will become happier and happier.

If you want a wonderful married life, a woman needs to constantly improve herself and make herself better.

Women should learn to be coquettish, and they should have romantic feelings in life, pay attention to the sense of ritual, and care and understand their men, so that they can live a more exciting life.

So such a woman should first have her own job, be very mature and stable, have temperament, and be attractive, so that her marriage and family can be stable.

Women must pay attention to their husbands in life, and also take care of their children and give them plenty of love.

After getting married, many women focus their lives on their husbands. In the past, free women who did things vigorously and resolutely before marriage, and went alone. After getting married, they all became little women who couldn't lift their shoulders and couldn't bear their hands.

The social influencers in the social circle have disappeared, and every time they contact, they are either waiting for their husbands to get off work, or waiting for their overtime husbands to have dinner together.

Their original colorful life has been bleak because of marriage, and their temperament has also changed greatly because of this life, and the original elegant and generous girl has become a resentful woman. They resented why their husbands couldn't spend more time with them, and why life was so unfair to them.

And all this is caused by them shifting the focus of their lives to men, so please don't revolve your life around men, even if you are married, don't give up your former hobbies and friends, because in the future in life, they may become the support and comfort of your life.

2. Learn to enjoy solitude before you arrive.

One day in 1991, Tie Ning braved the rain to find Bingxin, and Bingxin, who was 90 years old at the time, asked Tie Ning if he had a partner, and Tie Ning smiled and said that he hadn't found it yet. After hearing this, the old man Bingxin said meaningfully: "You don't want to look for it, you have to wait."

When I heard this story when I was younger, I thought that the old man Bingxin meant to tell girls not to take the initiative to find men, but to wait for them to come to you. But as the years passed, I realized that what the old man Bingxin meant was not to blindly accommodate a man who was not suitable for him, but to be able to endure loneliness, and wait for the arrival of his true destiny while trying to develop himself. Don't go to a man because you're lonely, but keep shaping yourself and becoming a better version of yourself in loneliness.

As long as it is so, one day, the man who is suitable for you will surely come. Tie Ning did just that, and at the age of 50, she married Watson, who was 4 years older than her but equally good.

3. Give yourself a sense of security.

I don't know when security became the most popular topic in this society. And when every girl chooses a mate, the first thing is that this man must give me a sense of security. But what exactly is security?

No matter how hard you work outside, you believe that there is someone who will always support you, or no matter what difficulties you encounter, you believe that there is someone who will help you unconditionally. Just like Fairy Zixia once said in "Journey to the West": "My crush is a hero of the world, and one day he will wear gold armor and step on colorful auspicious clouds to pick me up."

In the movie, Fairy Zixia did wait for her crush, but the moment they met, it was goodbye, and Fairy Zixia could only sigh, I guessed the beginning but not the ending.

Therefore, a woman's sense of security is definitely not found in men, but should develop her abilities in the field she is familiar with and love, and taste the joy in it. Believing that you can handle your own problems and help others deal with theirs is so that no one can deprive you of your sense of security and your happiness.

1. Maintain common progress.

First of all, the relationship between two people must be maintained for a long time, and they must progress together, if two people do not progress together, then the one who makes the fastest progress will get rid of the one who is standing still, because one person is moving forward, and the other person is standing still, the gap between you will be bigger and bigger, and the distance will be farther and farther.

2. Learn to be independent and not too dependent on each other.

Don't rely too much on each other in your relationship, even if you love each other again, you must not rely too much, don't take it as the whole of your relationship, or even lose yourself. In real life, many stay-at-home mothers and housewives are too dependent on each other. If you can't do anything without each other, no matter when, you must let yourself live a wonderful life, live a personality, and let yourself learn to be independent.

3. Respect and respect each other.

If two people want to live happily for a lifetime, then on the road to love, they must learn to respect each other; Everyone has their own self-esteem and loves face, so be sure to respect each other. Respect each other anytime and anywhere, the other party will give you the same heart, will return the same thing to you, love can last for a long time, and the road between two people will go further.

4. Mutual understanding and mutual tolerance.

Everyone has their own personality and ideas, and everyone has a different perspective on things and events. Even people who love each other very much can't think the same way. We must understand and tolerate each other.

If two people don't understand and tolerate each other, then there will be endless quarrels and more and more contradictions. Only by understanding each other and communicating more, love will be sweeter.

5. Control yourself and tolerate each other.

Two people who love each other have different personalities and different growth experiences, so many things and opinions will be inconsistent, which is a very normal and natural phenomenon; Therefore, when a conflict occurs, you must control your emotions, don't quarrel or make trouble because of small things, this has no meaning, but will hurt feelings and harmony.

First, we must first learn to be a person and do things. Honor your parents and take care of your husband and children. The family thinks you are a very satisfied daughter-in-law.

Second, while taking care of the family, you have your own small business and a stable economy. You can buy whatever you want to eat, wear, and use whatever you want, and you don't have to ask anyone for money, so it's happy, right?

If a woman wants to live happily in marriage, first of all, you marry the right person, you can be financially independent, and you don't have to look at other people's faces to act, secondly, you can run a family, know how to manage money, and then you know how to get along with your husband's family.

If you want to have a happy marriage, don't do three stupid things!!

Many women are sensual, whether it is for love or marriage, women will always have romantic fantasies. However, one practical case after another tells us that love is not so simple to succeed. Many times, unrealistic romantic fantasies can only be defeated by reality.

After a relationship ends, women are often hurt the most. Therefore, women must know that if they want to be married happily, they must not do these three things!

First and foremost, don't give up on your job.

Whether in love or marriage, women are independent individuals, so all women should find their own value in society, so work must not be given up. No matter how hard you work, you can feel that you are still a valuable member of society, and you don't have to get stuck in family life all day. Moreover, work can give women another sense of security, which is irreplaceable by men.

Second, don't tell your girlfriend your family's secrets.

Although a woman has three or two friends, the more often she gets together to chat and relax in her free time. At this time, a woman can talk to her best friend about some small things about her man and talk about some shortcomings that are not annoying. But don't talk about all the important things in the house.

After all, it didn't come out of nowhere. Moreover, if your girlfriend is not tight-lipped, then your entire circle of friends will know about the bad things in your family, which is very bad for you and your husband's face.

The third thing is not to go back to your parents' house if you quarrel.

Although when you got married, your parents said that if you were bullied, you would come back directly. But when you really quarrel with your husband, you still can't run to your mother's house every time. This not only worries your parents, but also makes your husband unable to hold his head up in front of your parents.

It's very bad for their relationship, so it's irrational to go back to their parents when they fight. If it's really a mistake of principle, you can ask your parents for help, but if it's just a little noisy, it's better for the couple to solve it on their own.

Women are advised not to do these three things in their marriage. After all, there are too many things involved in maintaining a marriage, and many things cannot go smoothly, so there will always be friction in marriage. As long as a woman remembers not to do these things, she can minimize the damage to herself, and she will not be so embarrassed and sad when separated.

Don't want to control all the freedom of your husband, don't complain about your family in front of outsiders, don't complain about life, learn to give face to men, don't be lazy.

Gambling, nine out of ten gambles and nine losses, because of gambling and ruined homes, there are many people; Don't control a man's friends, the tighter you hold on, the more he wants to escape; Be filial to your in-laws and be a good wife and mother.

If you want to be happy in marriage, don't be too pretentious, whether it's a boy or a girl, moderate is fine, don't keep yelling, control your temper, if there is any problem that can't be solved, you have to lose your temper, be more understanding.

After a woman gets married, she cannot be a full-time wife. You can't blindly give up your ideals and pursuits. Forgetting who you are. You can't rely too much on men, and you also need to be motivated and pursuing.

You must not mention divorce after arguing with your husband, because divorce is really hurtful and will cause a rift in your relationship.

People who truly love each other don't need to be together all the time, what they need more is spiritual communication and tacit understanding, and it is the promotion and praise of each other's souls. They understand each other's way of life and treat each other tolerantly; At the same time, they have their own personality traits and world, which cannot be destroyed; They melt into each other, and they give in to each other. And in marriage, a woman can be stable and happy only if she does these 3 things well!

If you want to stick to life and have a good quality of life and feel about life, managing your family's income and expenditure is an essential part of the course.

It is said that it is usually the fragments of firewood, rice, oil and salt that break down married life, and a shrewd woman must know how to manage the family's income and expenditure and take care of everything well. In the final analysis, men still like a good wife who can take good care of a family, and in marriage, women can be stable and happy only if they do this kind of thing!

A woman must first learn to manage herself before she can manage her home well. It is said that a man's freshness to a woman is relatively short, and it is not like a woman's love, which will fall deeper and deeper with the increase of time. At this moment, it is necessary for women to control themselves well and improve themselves from the inside out.

This kind of self-management should be a combination of rigidity and softness, and external beauties can make themselves look more attractive, and they must not be lost due to the fragmentation of life. The essence is to constantly enrich yourself and grow up with men, so that the two people will have more common language and be stable and happy!

No one's life is smooth sailing, and emotions will not be smooth from beginning to end. The married life of the two may enter a variety of tests due to various reasons such as work and family, and at this time, if a woman wants to grasp the heart of a man and maintain her own happy married life, she must trust the person you like.

When encountering problems, help her give advice; When he was hungry in the bitter cold, he made a delicious meal for him; Give him comfort and support when he is sad and helpless. It is said that behind a successful man, there will always be a woman who pays silently, in fact, in a marriage, if you want to achieve stable happiness, women must be tolerant and keep together!