Is your married life now what you want?

I guess so. But people always have to look forward to Shu, and they still want to be more ideal.

Our family is stable, the children are healthy, since the children went to kindergarten, I can also be much more relaxed, when I have nothing to do, I go to the gym with friends to practice yoga, practice muscles, and I can also go to tea and eat and watch movies with them. The circle of life is much larger, and it is no longer as monotonous as when I was alone with children.

But people are always like this, when you don't have free time, you always think that if you have time, I can do this and that, as if you can't do a lot of things, you can only wait for the children to go to the kindergarten, and have time to do. But when I really have time, I often waste my time on some less important housework. Last time a few of our stay-at-home moms talked about this, they all felt that they should also have something to do, and they couldn't let their time be wasted on these things, they saw that I read a lot, and they said that I could open a bookstore, and there was a very flower-loving one, she could open a flower shop, and a mother who came back from abroad said, then she would open a coffee shop next to it.

The idea excited us for a while, but after seeing our local market, everyone was overwhelmed. Because one of our most important responsibilities is to take care of the family, if you choose to be close to home, the amount of ** here is really not optimistic, but if you choose to open in the downtown area, it is not convenient to pick up children, you can't run to get children every day when the flow of passengers. You can't just hire a nanny for this, not to mention that there are a few nannies who are really relieved now.

Later, I thought that our leisurely and calm and even occasional boredom and work are because the man in the family is quite capable and can give us a decent home, and the responsibilities in each family must bear each other. It would be irresponsible for us to look at and complain in such lightheartedness. So, look at the exhausted people who are busy all day long, how happy we are.

My current married life is completely different from the married life I want, and naturally this kind of life is not what I want

We haven't been married for a long time, but we've already returned to our most insipid appearance. There didn't seem to be so much to say and not so much to do between me and him, and the two of us often ended up in silence.

In fact, the most important thing now is that my life is stressful, and I am almost out of breath after I get married. Before we got married, we all lived our own lives, but he lost money in business outside and owed 200,000 debts, and now his job is just a salesman, running around every day, and there is no performance. And me?

It's just a small employee of a company, with a meager salary, and those debts owed to the outside are basically not extra money to repay. I've used all the money I've saved to pay off his debts, but I'm still in debt.

In such an environment, we are frugal and want to save more money and pay off all the debts we owe. I am a 20-year-old Guliang, I have never been worried about having no money to spend, and I have never been reluctant to buy anything, but after being with him, my life has become really poor, and even very depressed.

We quarrel all the time, because of what? Because there is no money, because people collect debts, because they can't make money, the beautiful feeling of being married is all shattered beyond recognition by such a reality. Maybe he felt that he was not wrong and that he had failed in business, but it was because of his disobedience and stubbornness that led to the difficulties in his life now.

None of us have a high-paying job, and it may be a long time before we can pay it back, and maybe we will always be in this state of life during this time, and I'm afraid I won't be able to persevere.

In addition to work and food, our life seems to have no superfluous items, I want to go out shopping, but it will cost money; I want to go to Hi Pi with my friends, but it will cost money; I want to travel and relax, but I don't have the money; I want to do a lot of things, but because this marriage has become unavoidable, what can I do? You can only go to work to earn money and save money. People always ask me, don't you regret it?

I smiled and said, "It's nothing, I'll pay back this money with a little effort." "But I knew in my heart how hard it was, and I just said those words for the sake of my dignity, so that I didn't look so embarrassed.

I want a married life where we eat together, talk, watch movies, go shopping, often add things to the house, or when we have time, we go out to travel together to relax, and increase our relationship and joy in life. Now it seems that these are really just what I want, at least in the current situation I can't achieve the life I want.

Marriage is still a bit far away for me, at least I don't want to get married now, which will make people feel more scared. However, what I want to do after marriage is for two people to live alone, without inviting superfluous people to join, and simply living a better life.

I am a person who does not want to quarrel with others, and I am more afraid of living with each other's parents and afraid of quarrels between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so I hope that after marriage, life is two people alone. Nowadays, most young people are reluctant to live with their parents, after all, living habits and eating habits are different, and it can be tiring to be forced together.

I don't plan to get married right now, but if I do, I want it to be relatively simple and nothing superfluous. Two people go home from work normally to do housework together, and then go out for a walk together after dinner, and can go out on dates on weekends, so it's good to live simply. I don't want to compare, I don't want to compare with other people, I just want a simple happiness, only the other person loves me and can live a good life.

After getting married, life will definitely be very different from the past, and many times two people are needed to create happiness, so I hope that after marriage, the two friends and tourists will work together towards a happy life, not a one-sided effort. Both men and women should bear their share of responsibilities, so that people will feel that they are valued and that they are happy people.

For me, I can follow my own ideas, rather than becoming a vassal of the other party, and I am even more reluctant to live with a large family, so that I will feel like an outsider. In fact, the married life I want is very simple, as long as two people work together, there is no need to create too much value, health and happiness can be.

The married life I want is very happy, and I am very loving with my other half, and the two of them live very happily every day.

The relationship between the husband and wife is very good, and they can cook together in their spare time, they can celebrate and travel together, and the two of them will also create some surprises for each other, this is the married life I want.

It should be very fortunate to be blessed, quietly shouting that the two of them care for each other very much, the lives of both of them are very easy, and the two of them also have enough time to accompany Qiye to accompany each other, this is the married life of my dreams.

At present, the current marriage is what she wants.

It's not that I'm so rich, it's not that my husband still spoils me like my first love, or that there are no distressing things in my marriage.

The real life is still working hard to achieve a well-off level, and there will be conflicts with my husband from time to time, and I have to bear different pressures in life every day.

The only thing that is satisfying is living a more "self-oriented" life.

I have seen a lot of the world, combined with my own experience, I don't know when I began to understand that no matter how good others are to me, this world cannot meet many needs in my heart. What's more, no matter how much you give, what you get in exchange is the hurt of others, and the most angry thing is that others don't think that he hurt you at all.

For example, in the face of feelings, no matter how much affection they had for each other at the beginning and how pleasant they were in the process of getting along, he wanted to break up unilaterally, and he didn't care about what you had paid for him, nor how much pain the breakup brought you, and he felt that it was normal for him to fall in love.

For example, colleagues, the people who spend the most time with each other every day, feel like we're friends with each other. But in the face of interests, they will betray you mercilessly. hurt you and lost your friendship, and he also felt that "stuffy people die for money, and birds die for food" is a matter of course.

I will be grateful to my parents and brother for the love I have given me, I am grateful to my husband for the love I have given me, I am grateful to my girlfriends for my friendship, and I am grateful to everyone who is good to me, and I will be willing to pay the same love and affection for them.

But I will never fail to repay the reward, regardless of the cost, and lose my self-giving.

The same is true of married life. I won't stop buying books because my husband says what's the use of buying so many books, because no one can satisfy the deep loneliness in my heart except books; I won't give up the three-day vacation because my husband said that everyone else is easy to menstruate and only you have to rest, because the pain is on me, and no one can understand it; I won't give up my hobbies because my husband said that selling early is more profitable than you doing self-a**, because my ideals need me to stick to them, and so on.

Fortunately, in marriage, I can stick to my own ideas as I want, live the life I want to live under the existing conditions, and the feelings I have paid have also been responded to from my husband, so what is not satisfied with such a marriage.

I didn't think about me, because my marriage was very happy, and the life I was going through was not the same as I had imagined, but it was very happy. ......Specifically, the marital life I am experiencing is different from what Mori once imagined, the degree of satisfaction is beyond my imagination, and I am very satisfied with my current marriage.

1. The marriage I am experiencing is different from what I once imagined.

The marriage I'm experiencing now isn't what I once imagined. ......This situation is very easy to understand. ......I didn't get married at the beginning, and I didn't have any understanding of life after marriage, so my imagined married life would definitely be very different from the actual situation.

However, this difference did not affect the happiness of my marriage.

2. I am more satisfied with my marriage than I imagined.

Before getting married, I had a vision for my life after marriage. ......Since I wasn't married at the time, I didn't know what my life would be like after I got married. ......After I got married, I personally felt the happiness of my married life, and I felt that this happiness was far beyond my imagination.

I am very happy to have such a happy marriage.

3. I am very satisfied and happy with my marriage.

In terms of material living conditions, my life after marriage is just an ordinary family, and I am not very wealthy. ......However, he is very satisfied with his married life. ......The reason why this is so is because after I got married, my relationship with my wife is very harmonious, and I am very happy every day.

Because of this, I will feel very satisfied, very happy, and very happy about my life after marriage. ......This is beyond my imagination.

I think my married life is happy, I have a husband who loves me, I have a lovely child, I have my own job, I can go out to play together on weekends, and the family life is very happy, although there will be small noises, but they can be reconciled soon, and everyone's disagreements are for the good of this family. Three meals a day, although life is relatively plain, but it is very warm, there will be a sense of consciousness, every festival will be a family out to celebrate, the book sail will also go out to travel if there is time, the child is well-behaved and obedient, and the husband is considerate of the family. <>

I like my current married life very much, although every day is firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, and I don't live the happy life of a princess and a prince, but I am very happy every day, I can go to the supermarket together after work every day, thinking about what to eat tonight, and when I return home, one person cooks and one person washes dishes, the division of labor is clear, and when I am free, I can nest together and watch TV series, I think this kind of life is happy. You don't need to prepare a lot of surprises every day, you don't need someone to prepare breakfast for you every day when you get up, someone will pick you up on time every day, but he will appear when you need it, he will come to pick you up when it rains, he will arrive in time to help you solve when you have something, he will take care of you when you are sick, these small gestures will make people feel very warm, and you can also feel his love. <>

I think married life is run by two people together, not the male protagonist and the female protagonist, everyone has to pay for the family, housework together, children take care of together, parents' things to share together, not posture will care about who pays more, as long as there is time, take the initiative to do, tolerate each other's shortcomings, understand each other's small willfulness, even if they quarrel, they will not speak ill of each other, they will take the initiative to give each other steps, there is no overnight fight, such an ordinary and simple life is very happy, It is also very lucky to have such a person who understands you and loves you, and I hope that everyone's married life can be the life they yearn for. <>