Bad ideas have to be changed, and it s hard to change other people s minds

Hello friend, yes, bad ideas must be changed, to develop towards a better self, thinking that you have better ideas to challenge yourself.

Adjust to change your mind.

For what we do, these are the steps that should be followed.

To be clear about what you are thinking is to know exactly what is going on in your mind when you are in a situation. If we don't know what we really think, we can't change our mindset because of that.

So how do you find out what you really think? You can put yourself in a specific scenario and imagine what you might encounter. This can be analyzed by past experience, when you are faced with a thing, you tend to have a feeling about it first, and then have a clear idea about it.

Just like when you fall out of love, you feel pain first, and then you have the idea that "he has left me, I can't live without him in my life".

So, your thoughts must have been generated by the feelings that this event brought to you. If our feelings about falling out of love are disappointed, or even relieved, your thoughts must not be the previous sentence "I can't live without him in my life", maybe it is "the old person doesn't go, how can the new person come".

That is, when some negative thoughts arise when you have them, you first have to figure out what exactly is causing them. You're afraid to talk to strangers, and the reason for your fear, you have to figure out what is making you feel that way. After all, you can't be like this in your life, so why aren't others like this?

Only by figuring out the cause can you clarify what you think. It turns out that you are afraid to talk to strangers because you were often taught by your parents that strangers are bad people when you were a child, or that you have been deceived by strangers, so you have an idea from this: I can't talk to strangers well because I can't.

Or you feel inferior, you always feel that you are inferior to others, because you have been suppressed and teased by others, so that your personality gradually becomes cautious, so you get this idea from this: I am really useless, and others look down on me for everything.

Once you've figured out what you're thinking and know the reason behind it, the next step is to choose the right idea.

You have to revisit these thoughts and question whether these negative thoughts are really what you think they are. Is this really the case, or is it what others think it is?

Imagine a rainy day, and others think that this kind of weather will affect your mood, so will your mood really be affected? Or are you just being hinted at by someone else that you're being affected?

Those negative thoughts and perceptions, you have to question them and learn to think in a different direction. For a person with social anxiety, the ideas they choose are often not good for them. For example, if a person walks past him and does not see him or say anything, he may think that others look down on him and deliberately ignore him.

I think it depends on the situation, if the person has a particularly good relationship with you, then at certain times, you need to have some trouble with him, and then change some of his wrong thoughts.

Because if you don't do this, it is possible that he will make a bigger mistake in the future, which will be particularly detrimental to his future development in the company, and once this wrong thinking brings great losses to the company, then he may be fired from the company, I believe you don't want to see this happen.

But then again, if you don't usually deal with this person, and he himself is not the kind of person who is good at listening to other people's advice, and after you say it, he will think that you are looking for his fault, then I don't think you need to say it at this time, just let him continue this wrong thinking, I believe that the future will teach him a lesson.

In fact, in the workplace, in most cases, we just need to do our part well, because here everyone is wearing a mask and living, there is no so-called real friendship at all, for example, sometimes you are really good to someone, but you don't know what he says about you behind his back.

And once you take care of some things that don't belong to you, others still think you are a nosy person, and even chew the root of your tongue everywhere, so to change other people's wrong ideas, it is often an unnecessary thing, I hope everyone can clear this matter, only in this way can we go further in the workplace, otherwise we will be eliminated halfway.

In the workplace, when you encounter someone else's wrong thoughts, do you want to change them? If you are good to him, and he is a person who listens to persuasion and is not very stubborn, then you can tell him that if he is a stubborn person, there is no need, because this will not only not change him, but also hurt himself, so it is better to change others than to change yourself.

People will have cranky thoughts, organize their thoughts, face problems positively, communicate more about things, coordinate interpersonal relationships, work ideas should be clear, let go of pressure and burden, and travel lightly The mood will be different, and it will naturally change.

Don't be too painful to have this kind of thinking Maybe you're a perfectionist and just want to make yourself more perfect But while pursuing perfection, you should also be confident in yourself Why do you feel bad Think you're not good, in fact, you have such an attitude is completely caused by your habits, and habits come from those around you, such as relatives! It's not right for you to take your anger out on others if you don't do well in the exam! You have to make it right.

Yes, you're quite right, friend.

Yes, bad thoughts are certainly not a good thing in your mind.

Each of us thinks differently, and everyone will have bad points and behavioral habits and other ......, and it's hard to change other people's minds if you want to.

Our family members, relatives, friends, or strangers we meet ......There will definitely be people in a relatively pessimistic state of mind, so how to deal with this problem? There are also some such people around me, who are too pessimistic, that is, they say that it is not good to mess up and delay themselves, and they will not get better in the future, and they dislike their age. I really can't stand it, and then whether I'm by my side or not, I'll go to deal with this issue with the consent of the other party.

First of all, give the other party some advice, and then carry out an enlightenment to dredge the other party's psychological state, and finally listen to it or not and do it is the other party's business, anyway, I also gave some suggestions for reference, but also to make the other party good.

Of course, the ideas and suggestions I give myself may not mean that they are suitable for everyone, nor that they are not suitable for everyone. Sometimes I don't know if it's good or bad to do it myself, but the most important thing is that it's good to do it because it might help the other person. You may also find that the person who accompanies you to do it will not change the other person's mind, and the other person is still the same, or even worse, but what?

It's not your problem, it's that the other person wants to change his thoughts and state, and he doesn't do it or is still in a pessimistic mood as always. Another is to ask you to give advice, and then be told by the other party how you are bad.

When I deal with such a situation, I find that even in the process of giving advice and ideas to the other party, it is inevitable that there will be conflicts between concepts and ideas, and there will be a lot of various arguments, and in the end the other party still agrees with my ideas, but I don't know whether to do it or not, even if I am around, I have no right to interfere with what the other party makes decisions, or change the other party's mind. Sometimes others don't know the situation and only see the surface, or they may have experienced a case of failure, and they will think that you can change the other person's mind so easily, but it is not easy, it is really difficult to change the other person's mind.

When we encounter a situation where we need to change the other person's mind, and the other person also asks us for help, all we can do is give advice and our own ideas. Because it has nothing to do with us whether the other party does it or not, and we have no right to interfere with the other party, it is enough to give our own suggestions and ideas.

There will be all kinds of troubles in people's lives, such as what to do if work is not going well? What should I do when I encounter someone who doesn't understand me? How to deal with setbacks in life?

When you encounter all kinds of confusion and don't know how to solve it, you might as well change your mind, maybe it will bring you a different mood.

A farmer hired a plumber to install the water pipes in his farmhouse. The plumber was very unlucky, and the first day he went to change the tire because of the burst tire of the car, and he was delayed for half a day. Then there was a problem with the electric drill, and then I drove a dilapidated classic car and it didn't work.

After finishing his work, the employer drove the plumber home, and when he arrived at the plumber's door, he invited the employer to come in and sit down.

At the door of the house, the plumber with a gloomy face did not go in immediately, but was silent for a while, and then stretched out his hands and stroked a small tree next to the door. Then he pushed the door and went in, only to see him hugging his two children tightly with a smile on his face, and then giving his wife a loud kiss to meet him.

The plumber then poured tea for the employer and warmly welcomed the new friend, who felt that their home was warm and comfortable. When the employer left, the plumber came out to see him off, and the two walked to the car together, and the employer couldn't hold back his curiosity and asked, "Is there any purpose for your actions at the door just now?"

The plumber said cheerfully, "Yes, that little tree is my 'worry tree'. ”

I work outside, and there are always bumps and bumps and unhappy things, but I can't bring my worries home, and I have a wife and children at home. Before I entered the house, I hung all my worries and all my unhappiness on the tree, and I will take them away when I go out tomorrow. Amazingly, the next day I went to the tree to fetch it, and most of my 'troubles' were gone.

The employer sat in the car, thinking about the plumber's words, and he was touched by the plumber's actions and words.

Think about it, there are many people around us who are in a bad mood for various reasons, but they bring a bad mood home, it doesn't matter if one person is angry, the problem is that the whole family is angry. There are also people who are in a bad mood and use alcohol to kill their sorrows, but they don't want to hurt their bodies, and their families are also worried.

So what can be done to leave the bad troubles out of the house?

First of all, we must face up to the facts, people often say that the water that has been spilled, no matter how hard you try, no matter how much you regret it, it is difficult to recover it, it is better to face it squarely.

Secondly, things have already happened, and things have nothing to do with others, so don't bring bad feelings to others.

Finally, it is not advisable to do something unwise, learn from the practice of plumbers, think clearly that life and work can not avoid troubles, people are in the troubles to survive, grow in the troubles, life has to go on, the road has to go forward.

All in all, since you can't change the facts, change your mind!

1. This is a matter of concept.

It is very, very, very difficult for anyone to change their own preconceived notions. Our focus should not be on "what to do", but on the consequences of what to do, whether you are willing and can bear it?

2. There are no more than three plans, one is to compromise with parents, the second is to insist on oneself, and the third is to procrastinate.

3. If you compromise with your parents.

There's a good chance you'll go on a blind date and then find someone to marry casually. The trivialities and trivialities of marriage can make you exhausted, and then you will be very miserable. Of course, there is another situation that is that you meet a person who is suitable for the good luck, and then the marriage is still happy, and you slowly accept it.

There is also a more helpless thing that is bland, neither good nor bad, neither painful enough to divorce or run away from home, nor happy to make others envious, or to achieve the state of their ideal marriage.

4. If you insist on yourself.

You will spend your whole life in the chatter of your parents, and even quarrel with your parents, cut off relations with your parents, and your property will not be given to you, etc., and see your parents despair of you.

5. If the real sedan car is the world's first line of procrastination.

It is very likely that you will continue to go on blind dates under the arrangement of your parents, and then you say that it is not suitable or inappropriate, then it will be consumed until you are exhausted. The best result is that your parents are constantly disappointed and regretful, and gradually reluctantly accept your life state of not getting married.

7. What to do is very clear, as long as you can bear the consequences of what to do, then there is no problem with how to choose. After the problem is analyzed, my suggestion is to listen to your parents' opinions, find a suitable person to form a family, and you put your heart into it, in fact, you can find that having a family and children is still very good, and it is much richer than a single life.

In the end, live your own life, choose your own life, create your own creation.