Mother in law, mother in law s mind is too complicated, how do you deal with them?

I don't think it's that the old people's minds are too complicated, it's that they're getting more and more childish, but when we grow up, we often don't understand their childishness, and we think that they have become very complicated and incomprehensible. In fact, don't think so much, just simply communicate with him, and reason with him calmly, what the old man really cares about is our concern.

My cousin got along very well with my aunt and grandmother, and people who didn't know him thought that my cousin was my aunt's own son.

My cousin and my cousin were college classmates, and my cousin came to see my parents when I was in college. When I went to my aunt's house for the first time, I gave my aunt a shawl, a box of tea leaves, and a bag of fruits. My aunt and grandmother liked that shawl, and it was a long time to show it to others at the beginning, and now the shawl is still in good condition.

According to my mother, the first time my cousin went to my aunt's house for dinner, in addition to giving gifts that were very popular with the elderly, his performance at the dinner table was also in place. The dishes I put in for my cousin are all what my cousin likes to eat, and my aunt and grandfather chatted and praised his old man for smiling, and took the initiative to ask for help to clean up after the meal, but of course my aunt and grandmother did not let him clean up, and the first time people came, it was not good for people to work.

Anyway, they got married after working for more than a year.

Normally, my cousin and uncle don't live with the elderly.

But because there is a car at home, so the weekend is basically at my aunt's house and my cousin's own parents' house to spend the weekend, whether it is in **, my cousin will bring some fruit and milk to the elderly, the portion is not much, but a heart. And my cousin is very diligent, although the cooking skills are not so good, but it is no problem to do a little bit of work, wash the dishes and put away the dishes.

Not to mention the New Year's holiday, the elderly on both sides will take care of it, because my cousin and my cousin are only children (my cousin is not many years older than me, mainly because of high seniority), so I will take the elderly on both sides to the house, and the family will have a lively holiday.

My cousin was very good at getting along with the elderly, and he would not directly point out the wrong views of the elderly, but would listen to their ideas and analyze them slowly, and tell them his own thoughts. There are many people who find it difficult for the elderly to communicate, but my cousin seems to have never encountered this kind of problem. So I think his approach is still effective.

My aunt and grandmother are very fond of my cousin, not only to my parents, but also to my aunt and my grandfather, and most importantly, to my cousin is really very good.

In fact, as long as you care about the elderly with your heart and treat your other half well, the elderly will be very easy to get along with.

Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a major problem in the family, if this relationship is not handled well, it will affect the happiness of the family, and it will also make the man unable to self at home, because both sides are his favorite people, he can not blame either party, which will cause them great pressure, in addition, the relationship between the mother-in-law and the mother-in-law is also difficult to deal with, if it is not handled well, it will also affect the harmony of the family to some extent.

1. Don't interfere with the life of the child and the mother-in-law as the parents of both parties, they both love their children, for example, when the daughter-in-law spends a lot of money, the mother-in-law will be unhappy, and feel that the son's hard-earned money is spent by him, she will say daughter-in-law, at this time, the mother-in-law will be unhappy, they will think that their children go to other people's homes and be bullied, in fact, when this situation is encountered, the best thing to do is not to interfere in the child's life, let them deal with it themselves.

2. Don't instill personal ideas into your children In the process of getting along, children may encounter some problems or even contradictions, as parents, what you can do when you stand together at this time is to adjust the contradictions between them, not to let them expand between them, in addition, do not instill your own emotions and ideas into your children, because this will affect their judgment.

Third, mother-in-law and mother-in-law can communicate more, mother-in-law and mother-in-law can also get along well, usually can chat more, exchange feelings, if there is a chance, you can go to square dance together, to learn flower arrangement, etc., to cultivate each other's feelings into sisters, so that when dealing with children's problems, they can also become very calm, they get along well, but also reduce pressure on children.

In this world, there is no absolute enemy, let alone relatives, therefore, for the sake of the children, for the sake of the next generation, we must also get along well, so that the family can become more harmonious and life more happy.

In the face of this kind of prickly mother-in-law, we can choose to stay away, less contact, less dealing, if we seriously violate ourselves, we can choose to tell the husband with him, let the husband handle the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

In fact, you should keep a certain distance, because there will be a lot of contradictions when two people are together.

If it were me, I would basically not have any contact with this kind of mother-in-law, and I would not provoke her when I was fine, let alone take the initiative to say a word to her.