The better the relationship, the more I find out that her character is not good, what should I do?

Updated on psychology 2024-06-03
13 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    In this case, I think it's better to separate as soon as possible, the better the relationship, the worse her character is, it can be seen that her inferior nature is very hidden, or it can be said that she is very good at covering up and creating a perfect character for herself. Everyone has two faces, one facing strangers and one facing relatives and friends. The face facing relatives and friends is the most important thing, because this face is the most real, and you can completely see what her nature is on this face.

    A person's upbringing and character are realized in daily life, and in the face of strangers, everyone will subconsciously reveal their best side.

    I don't know what you mean by bad character? The word bad character is too broad. No one is perfect without gold, everyone will have some shortcomings, which is very normal, but if the shortcomings are magnified, it is a very terrifying thing.

    Bad character, whether it's against you or someone else, it's very offensive to tell the truth. You can evaluate "bad character", it can be seen that you and her have this big difference in some things, or your bottom line is too different from her bottom line, and your bottom line is relatively high, so you are deeply uncomfortable with some of her behaviors. You will ask this question, probably not very much to part with her, but you can also say, the better the relationship, the more you can find the bad side of her character, what she does must make you very disgusted, otherwise I believe you probably wouldn't say such a thing.

    You can put up with the discomfort of touching the bottom line for her, but she may not be able to understand your feelings. She has her own way of walking in the world, not just changing it. She keeps going like this, do you have to endure for her all the time?

    I don't think it's worth it. As long as one of you does not change, then the difference will always exist, and this crack will grow bigger and bigger, like two mountains that are constantly separated by a rope, and one day the rope of friendship will break, and at that time, I am more confident that you will be hurt even more. Forgive me for guessing that she might be angry and do something irrational to you, and while it's not absolute, I think it's best to be careful.

    However, if you insist that it is impossible to separate from her, then it is imperative to change some of her immoral ideas in order to get along. You can tactfully present your opinion, and if she also wants to maintain a relationship with you, I think she will also pay attention to it. However, such an approach is likely to cause her disgust, but it is counterproductive, and it is not good.

    So you have to grasp a good degree, you must be gentle. However, if she still listens to her after you have been reminded again and again, then you can treat her harshly, she values the relationship, and she will definitely take care not to touch your thunder points.

    Feelings are a matter of two people, not one person who says to maintain it, one person to maintain, after all, it is too tired, so please say your requirements and maintain this relationship together, then the relationship can be strong.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    People have two sides, one is the hardcover version and the other is the home version. When you don't get so close to someone, you can see all the good about him, and when you continue to get closer to him, you will know some of his shortcomings. But some shortcomings are tolerable, while others are fatal, and the problem you are talking about happens to be fatal.

    First of all, friends are like a business card for you, if your friends have a bad character, others will subconsciously think that your conduct is not good, and they will subconsciously stay away from you. At the same time, there is a limit to who everyone can know at a given time, and when you hang out with your friends, you may miss out on the opportunity to make some really good friends.

    Secondly, those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black. Few people can not be affected by their friends, even if you tell yourself, you will still subconsciously be influenced by your friends, if his conduct is good, you can progress with him, if his conduct is not good, it will be a fatal blow to you. Rely on your parents at home and your friends when you go out.

    But a person of bad character, can you expect him to help you with anything? I guess the answer is probably no. So personally, I think you can leave such a person, if it is like carelessness or some other small shortcomings, you can tell him and let him correct it.

    In the end, every friendship is produced with sincerity, if you are reluctant to have such a friendship, then the first thing you have to do is to tell him and correct his mistakes, freezing three feet, not a day's cold. Let him slowly get rid of some of his bad habits.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    If you have a bad character, stay away as soon as possible, and you won't know if you will be pitted when the time comes. The older you get, the fewer you have. I'd rather not have friends than a bunch of hypocritical friends.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    No one is perfect, and no one is perfect.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    It doesn't have to be a bad character.

    Because I have a bad relationship with many people, it may be because of personal personality, interpersonal skills, etc., and it is not entirely a problem of Yuanzhou's character.

    However, interpersonal interactions are reciprocal, but hail can lead to more active communication and concern for others in order to improve interpersonal relationships.

    If you want to build a good relationship with others, you also need to focus on the following aspects.

    1.Honesty, tolerance and respect should be truthful, fair, tolerant and respectful, and not lie, mislead others or tear down the table.

    2.Social skills: Exercise your social skills, such as communication, communication, expression skills, etc., so that you can better communicate and communicate with others.

    3.Building common groundEstablishing common ground with others, such as shared interests, friends, experiences, etc., can make it easier to develop a liking and trust with each other.

    4.Respecting other people's feelings of good luck, respecting others' feelings and needs, and listening to others' opinions can achieve better communication results.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    When you doubt it yourself, it must be.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    The first is to see what kind of attitude he has when his friends and self-deception encounter pure bad difficulties, whether he chooses to escape, or to choose to face these things calmly and rationally.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Look at how to deal with Lu Xiangshi's work, emotional and life matters, such as the banquet is not successful, these three things are handled very well, which shows that this person's character can still be accompanied.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    whether you dare to pay for love; whether they dare to face difficulties and whether they can take responsibility; Whether it can respect the old and love the young.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Otherwise, I will always feel thorny in my heart.

    Don't mind other people's business.

    The more you feel at ease.

    You just live casually, don't have excessive contact with others, and he listens. It's just that when he asks you to do things again, he doesn't listen to you, and he does too much to you.

    You can pay tribute to him with appropriate humor, don't find too many reasons to give others to be open-minded to others first, there will always be something suitable for you.

    Don't expect you to educate anyone.

    No one in this society obeys anyone.

    You are not a savior either.

    Therefore, as long as you keep your original temperament unpolluted.

    If you say that, you will help others, and you will maintain a normal friendship. You just say what you think.

    It was an overly good joke.

    Retain a certain amount of private space.

    It's that he keeps a good distance from others.

    But I'm going to add to you.

    Instead of being a person with a hippie smile on you, it feels better in everyone's eyes. If you can help, don't mess up the relationship at will. If you don't want to help, refuse immediately, it depends on how you face others, and you are very persuasive, so you don't agree so easily, everyone laughs and laughs.

    Nothing is less psychological, but relaxed.

    Pay more attention to your friends. Do what you would have done to yourself.

    But he is more enthusiastic about people.

    But the most important thing is to let go of yourself.

    Don't be too inhibited.

    This is what someone else has said.

    I think it's very suitable for you, others don't have time to understand, and I can't help don't force it.

    Not quite suitable. Don't let them think you're a bully, guess you want to make good friends too. He also spoke indifferently.

    As long as it's not too much.

    Don't put big and small things on your body, the more you will be.

    Why do some people, after all, everyone will always meet a lot of people who are not compatible with themselves in society.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    First of all, don't be in a hurry, calm down and think about what the reason is.

    1: Read more books on relationships. Many success books have this content, and the library mainly focuses on G books.

    2: Read more books on psychology. Only by knowing oneself and knowing one's opponent can we understand the ideas of others and get along well;

    3: Communicate with the people around you. Communication can allow you to know directly what the problems in your interpersonal relationship are, and then slowly correct them;

    4: Observation. Observe those who have better interpersonal relationships and how they differ from themselves. In fact, the most important thing in interpersonal relationships is to be a person, and being a person is nothing more than a few points: kindness, knowing how to suffer, being generous, controlling emotions, being motivated, and smiling in sunshine.

    I've had the same problem as you, and in fact, you don't have to worry about it, everybody has their own trajectory in life.

    And time flies very quickly, and very quickly you look back at it, and when you look back at it, you feel like it's smaller than a sesame mung bean.

    The most important thing in being a human being is to be worthy of yourself and to be yourself.

    It's like you think you're sticking it up and you think you're cheap, so have you ever thought about why you're sticking it yourself? Is it because you want to be friends with A, or you don't want to be isolated, think about your purpose, if you don't want to be isolated, it's for yourself, then it's not cheap.

    If it's to be friends with A, then you think about whether it's worth it for you to make this friend, don't post it if it's not worth it, just post it if it's worth it.

    I've been through the same thing, and now I feel that life is rushed, and a lot of people may be playing together today, and they may not be there tomorrow, so they don't have to stare at someone for a while.

    I wish you a speedy release from the prison that confined you.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Go out to contact people more, observe more how people with good interpersonal relationships talk in the process of contacting people, talk less yourself, and then imitate him.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Take your time and trust you to take care of it.

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