Let s talk about how to be a good daughter in law that my mother in law likes?

In my opinion, the first thing you need to be a good daughter-in-law is a good temper, and when you encounter some contradictions, you must calm yourself down and don't be impulsive. Even if you are wronged, don't lose your temper, if you lose your temper, you will destroy the peace of the family, which is very uncomfortable. With a good temper, you are halfway on the road to a good daughter-in-law.

How to be a good daughter-in-law, the current daughter-in-law also knows the importance of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so the daughters-in-law also know to please their mother-in-law, and they have nothing to buy some clothes for their mother-in-law, but some mothers-in-law are more picky, and they don't pay attention to the occasion, and they say they don't like it in front of their mother-in-law.

If you and your boyfriend have already met your future mother-in-law. You can talk to your boyfriend about her preferences and what she likes, and you can send her some. Of course, the mouth has to be dessert:

Auntie, I passed by **** today, and you can like it when I see this, so I sent it to you. In this way, she has no reason to be unhappy, this future daughter-in-law thinks about her like this before she has passed the door, do you think she can be unhappy?

I think that being a daughter-in-law should be empathetic, communicate more with her mother-in-law, take the initiative to do housework at home, and when there is a conflict with your mother-in-law, you should let your mother-in-law be more filial piety, at least there is no such idea that mother-in-law should take care of her daughter-in-law.

Personally, I think that if you want to be a good daughter-in-law, you must first recruit a wife, if you do a good job in the role of a wife, then, your mother-in-law will think that you are a qualified daughter-in-law, because you can take care of her son's family, can take care of his son, he will think you are good, and then be good to your mother-in-law, to hug, treat as your own parents, be empathetic, understand what help they need, and do your best to help them and take care of them.

To be a good daughter-in-law, you must first treat your in-laws like your biological parents. Because since you have chosen to live with your husband for the rest of your life, then his parents are your biological parents, and your parents are also his biological parents, which are your common parents and relatives. There can be no so-called discrimination.

You must fulfill your obligations and responsibilities to support the elderly on both sides.

Although mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should not treat each other like mother and daughter, they should also respect each other like friends, understand each other's hard work with empathy, and give each other space to live. The daughter-in-law can consult her mother-in-law on everything and show respect for her mother-in-law; The mother-in-law can also respect the feelings of the daughter-in-law and express her tolerance for the daughter-in-law. When they have different opinions or opinions, they should be able to communicate well in a timely manner, so that they can live in harmony.

A good daughter-in-law in the eyes of her mother-in-law must be diligent, she is not afraid of hardship or tiredness, she is conscientious, she washes her clothes when they are dirty, she cooks when the meal arrives, and she wipes her ...... when the floor is dirtyHard-working, never tired, she takes care of all the housework, and her mother-in-law is relaxed.

A powerful woman behaves as follows in her in-laws' house:

1. Listen to your own ideas in doing things.

If a woman marries into an unhappy family, then her status must be very low, whether she speaks or acts, she will consider the thoughts of her mother-in-law and husband, rather than acting according to her own wishes. But people who do things according to their own ideas and don't need to think too much about them should have a high status in their in-laws.

2. Be financially independent and have the ability to live sufficiently.

A financially independent woman can truly have her own capital and confidence, and she will not be looked down upon by others at any time. Therefore, after getting married, it is best for a woman to maintain financial independence, and only by holding the money in her own hands can you have a real sense of security. You need to have your own job, have your own income**, and you don't have to reach out to men to ask for money, this is your dignity.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship

The mother-in-law is the mother of the husband. Traditionally, the mother-in-law was the highest status among the women in the family and had considerable power to decide on the distribution of household work, manage the household finances, and so on. The husband and wife's family have many economic and labor obligations to the mother-in-law's family, and the wife is a daughter-in-law with a lower status to the mother-in-law.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are prone to disputes. Such disputes** include differences between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in terms of age, experience, education, health, personality, habits, language, ethnicity, etc. In addition to personal factors, a large part of the dispute comes from the conflict between the in-laws and the couple's respective development goals.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a major issue in the family.

1. Treat daughters-in-law equally and open-mindedly, and do not be domineering as elders. A smart mother-in-law will never put on a show of her elders in front of her daughter-in-law, and she will never yell at her daughter-in-law.

Sixth, domineering. They get along with their daughters-in-law like friends, equal and harmonious, so that their daughters-in-law feel full of warmth as soon as they come home.

2. Do not show partiality for your son and save enough "face" for your daughter-in-law. Married life will inevitably have stumbles, if it happens to be bumped into by her mother-in-law at this time, who will she prefer? In fact, 99% of mothers-in-law will definitely favor their sons in their hearts, which is human nature and understandable.

But the smart mother-in-law knew in her heart that she must not show partiality for her son, but should support her daughter-in-law and give her daughter-in-law enough face, so as to avoid the escalation of family conflicts.

3. Do not urge your son and daughter-in-law to give birth to a child, and do not interfere with the birth of a boy or a girl. Urging marriage and giving birth to children is the norm for many parents today. It's not a big deal if this trick is used on a son, but it is easy to create contradictions when used on a daughter-in-law.

So a smart mother-in-law never urges her son and daughter-in-law to have children, and even if she has such thoughts, she will express them euphemistically. As for giving birth to a boy and a girl, she will not interfere, which is also a manifestation of a mother-in-law's sensibility and respect. 

4. Respect the parenting philosophy of sons and daughters-in-law. After having grandchildren and granddaughters, mothers-in-law often become the main force in bringing up children. Spending time with children day and night every day, my mother-in-law's parenting philosophy has room to play, but problems also arise.

It is inevitable that there will be differences between the parenting concept of the older generation and the parenting concept of the new generation of sons and daughters-in-law, and the smart mother-in-law will definitely respect the parenting concept of her son and daughter-in-law, and if there is any disagreement, she will take the initiative to discuss with her son and daughter-in-law to find a parenting plan that everyone is satisfied with.

5. Treat your daughter-in-law without comparison or pressure on your daughter-in-law. After the son got married, the mother's generation sat together and talked about the living situation of the son and daughter-in-law the most. Some mothers-in-law who love to compare not only like to show off what their daughter-in-law bought for themselves with outsiders, but also like to talk about the lives of other people's children in front of their daughter-in-law and put pressure on their daughter-in-law.

And the smart mother-in-law not only will not talk about these boring topics with her daughter-in-law, but also will not judge her daughter-in-law by material things when chatting with outsiders, they understand that the most important thing is that their son and daughter-in-law live happily together.

I am very fortunate to have met a warm-hearted mother-in-law, who has been married for more than 20 years and has lived with her mother-in-law for more than 20 years, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very harmonious. From my mother-in-law, I summed up the characteristics of a good mother-in-law.

1. Don't care about daily trivial matters, be more tolerant, don't be confused about family matters, and discuss more.

The mother-in-law is middle-aged and widowed, and she raised her three Zheng Han children alone, and the hardships can be imagined. My mother-in-law is a vegetarian all year round, and she doesn't cook meat when she usually cooks. But it doesn't require us to be like her, we can use another pot to make meat, or buy it to eat at home.

As for what to eat in life, when to eat, what to buy, and other daily trivialities, they are all good if they like each other, and they never restrict each other. When it comes to educating children, mother-in-law knows that the old way of education is not fully adapted to today's times, and tends to respect our opinions.

My mother-in-law has very little control over the family's chores, she is relaxed by herself, and we also feel free and comfortable. In big things, such as buying a house, my mother-in-law is more experienced than us, and she will put forward opinions and suggestions, and she can help as much as possible.

In March 2016, my father fell ill in the middle of the night, and I couldn't do anything but be anxious and helpless. My mother-in-law didn't say a word, helped me contact the car back home, packed my things, and told my husband to pay attention to ......

When I was pregnant, giving birth, confining, and most in need of help when my family encountered major events, my mother-in-law did not hesitate to lend a hand, and I also knew that I could only remember my mother-in-law's love forever. When it comes to major events, my mother-in-law is the pillar of our family.

Second, do not compare, do not say that parents are short in front of outsiders, and do not participate in other people's parents.

Mother-in-law often says: Happiness is not everything, let alone comparison, contentment is happiness.

The mother-in-law said that a person's life does not need too much material, and it is more important to have a healthy body and a simple life. So she rarely compares herself to others. There are also neighbors who praise their sons and daughters-in-law in front of their mother-in-law for how filial they are, and how smart and excellent their grandson is in Congpei, and the mother-in-law always laughs at it.

If a neighbor complains to her mother-in-law about how her daughter-in-law is not sensible, her mother-in-law will advise: Times are different, it is not easy for young people to go to work today, and it depends on the face of the boss, and the elderly need to be more considerate and so on. Often neighbors come with resentment and return peacefully.

My mother-in-law is very friendly to others, not to mention our family, very warm, and my heart feels very caring, which is a blessing for my life.