What kind of mentality do people who don t like to socialize?

People who don't like to socialize, I don't think it's particularly good in society. After all, we are no longer individuals in society. Personally, most people who don't like socializing are introverts.

First of all, we can make it clear that most of these people are not able to achieve certain achievements in society, to put it bluntly, it is not very good, if you are not willing to communicate with people in this society, it will be difficult for you to achieve results, because at any time, people are social animals, and the communication between people will directly cause the following difficulties: First, your information is relatively closed, and it is difficult to keep up with the trend; Second, if you don't have a social circle, no one will pull you when you encounter difficulties, so you are likely to sink; The third is that when you refuse to communicate with people, no one understands who you are, what you are capable of, and what you have to say, so you lose a lot of opportunities. So why do some people give up socializing, there may be several situations, one is that they have been hit to a certain extent, so they are in a slump, so far, they hate to go out, completely in their own space, and gradually depressed; The second is to think highly of oneself, feel that socializing is a waste of time, and will not bring any direct benefits to oneself, of course, and do not regard socializing as a one-shot deal, nor can you use it now, because no one is a fool; The third is family reasons, there may be long-term need of care at home or the spouse has a request, refusing the other party to socialize too much, this situation is not uncommon; Fourth, some people feel that they are not suitable or do not like to socialize due to personality reasons, and in many cases, most of them are based on their own inner hints:

I don't need it, I hate it, they're different from me, etc., but you still have to understand that there is no successful person who doesn't need to communicate with people, and you have to know that even if Newton doesn't go out, the apple won't hit him on the head.

Socializing is a problem that one has to face. Whether you want it or not, it is between you and me. Once, many people said, I don't like money, but once he has the opportunity to earn money, he works harder than anyone else.

It's the same with socializing, when we are hurt in the process of socializing, we will deal with it in a variety of ways. Some are like a turtle retracting into its shell, closing itself off, while others are particularly extreme and deal with all kinds of relationships to the extreme. And some people just rise to the challenge, summarize why they haven't handled various relationships well, and then observe, ask, learn, and practice.

Gradually become a social expert. Also, socializing can bring happiness to people. Why resist socializing.

Of course, the kind of occasion where you have to eat meat and drink a lot as long as you come, is really annoying, I think you don't drink too much, you are not a friend, this friend, I would rather not do it, it is too wasteful of time. However, the same drinking party, in moderation, everyone shares their career life, everyone gets inspiration from the wine party, gets the happiness of sharing, and gets the experience that is not in the books, why not. Being in society is inseparable from socialization, and perhaps you can avoid socializing and live in a world of people.

But the development of society needs everyone to speak out, no matter how you avoid it, you have to have firewood, rice, oil and salt, you have to have transportation, and you have to report or accept reports. Don't you all have to deal with people, aren't you all social? So, what you can't dodge is, of course, away from low-level and interesting socializing, yes.

After exercising yourself to reach a certain level of influence, it is also a happy thing to dominate the direction of social interaction.

I don't like to spend time on socializing, I can't talk about any mentality, it depends on the internal reasons and external environment of the individual, there are wise people who spend a little time will succeed, and incompetent people who spend time on social interaction are difficult to have real friends. Although it is said that the weak have no social interaction, but the strong are more difficult to socialize, the shoulders are enough to be friends, and they have their own green state in their hearts, and they have their own blue sky and white clouds, so they will naturally recruit phoenixes. The key to doing a good job in social interaction is to have one's own ability, with real ability, with real talent and real learning, it is natural to have contacts, as long as people become trustworthy, do not take interests too seriously, social interaction is naturally wide, and there are naturally many friends, which is called survival of the fittest.

I don't want to disturb others, and I don't want to be disturbed. In most cases, social networking is an activity organized by a group of friends who are not very good and may be organized for the purpose of maintaining some kind of social relationship. In many cases, there is no way to relax and show yourself, but deliberately to show a certain aspect of yourself and to accommodate others, since deliberately you will feel tired, if it is not necessary to maintain this kind of social relationship, you are not willing to spend time socializing.

Of course, some people will enjoy the feeling of calling friends, or the feeling of being in the spotlight, and social interaction can bring physical and mental pleasure to him, so he will naturally go there happily and even take the initiative to prepare.

In our life and work, we will always encounter some things that we don't like in our hearts, and we don't want to associate with them in our hearts. It's actually normal to have this kind of mentality, and every one of us has had it. This kind of thinking mainly comes from our lack of self-confidence and lack of broad-mindedness, and failure to have a correct communication attitude, which means that we have to pay some unnecessary setbacks and resistance in work and life.

Therefore, when dealing with people you don't like, you must have an ideological understanding. There is also a kind of person who sees through some things and is not, and it is like that whether they say it or not, so they simply don't say it, you do yours, I do mine, and I don't care what others think. I don't want to think about those unhappy things, so I close myself off and don't want to disturb them.

Depending on the environment you are in, the people you make friends with will be different. The atmosphere is different. You learn, he learns, everyone learns, then I have to learn, because if I don't learn, I will fall behind, for fear of being caught up by others.

He sleeps in class, you sleep too, and so many people sleep, I still listen to a fart! Play with your phone! I fell asleep when I was bored while playing.

The environment can change a person. Therefore, it is most correct for you to make friends with people who are better than you, because he can lead you and make you progress. Finally, even if you think there are so many excellent people at the moment?

Even if you find someone, they won't necessarily want to take you to play? ok!Then you should first find a way to improve yourself.

Read more books! Learn more new skills! (cooking, English, computer, etc.) in short are some good things for you, not done before.

When you really learn and accumulate some skills and knowledge, then your concept and thinking will change, you may be very busy every day and feel that you don't have enough time, you will live a full life, and you will not feel that you have no friends, because you are surrounded by like-minded and excellent partners. Maybe people who don't like to spend time socializing are secretly improving themselves! Because they know that improving their overall strength is the king, and there is no need to do those useless social interactions at present.

First of all, I think it may be that they are introverted, not good at talking, and don't socialize with others because they are shy and embarrassed, but they may think about it in their hearts, but they can't wipe it off, so they have been hesitant and don't socialize with others. People who feel that social interaction is useless may be extremely purposeful, and would rather be alone than low-quality social.

Let me ** my opinion. 1: Personality is different, some people have a passionate personality, and they especially like to make friends with all kinds of people.

Some people are quiet, not good at talking, and do not take the initiative to interact with others. It's also hard for others to enter his world. There is no good or bad between these two personalities, which one suits you.

2: Interest relationship, in today's materialistic society, others take the initiative to show favor to you, and part of it is to value him (for example, you are a customer, a leader, etc.).

This type of person is basically more introverted, not that they don't like to talk to people, but they need to be alone to recover their energy, otherwise they will feel tired all the time.

The mentality is good and normal. The person you look down on is the person you have decided to surpass, and you will definitely be able to surpass. Even those who have long been surpassed. However, it is easy for people to exalt themselves and look down on others. As a result, he is a little proud, but he is looked down upon by others.

It may be that the person you socialize with is not able to help you in your career or other things, and you are more utilitarian.

Stay away from ineffective socialization and improve the quality of life!

It's better to live alone. There's no need to worry about yourself. I don't like to socialize.

First of all, I don't think there's anyone who doesn't like to make friends. But not everyone who is with whom or what kind of person can become friends. Some may have different personalities, interests and hobbies in all aspects, and there is nothing to talk about when they are together, so they often only greet each other a few words, and then they are busy with their own things.

This kind of relationship is just face, and the latest popular ones on the Internet are also like friends, all of which describe the relatively shallow relationship between the two parties, probably only existing in the person who knows, but the relationship is not deep. Of course, people with different values can't be friends. Secondly, things gather people in groups, and it is best to make friends who are better than you or who are almost as cultivated and connotative as you.

At the very least, your three views are correct, and you have the same stand on major issues of right and wrong. We can respect and understand each other, and you can also find your own shortcomings, learn from each other's strengths, and ultimately improve yourself so that you can progress and grow. On the contrary, making some fox friends who are not as good as you will only pull you into the water and bring you unnecessary trouble, and in the end you are likely to fall into the same grade as them, and even ruin your life.

For example, why do parents want their children to strive to be admitted to a key high school and go to a prestigious university? In the same university classroom, why do some teachers give lectures on the podium, and fall asleep from the second and third rows, or some are playing with their mobile phones with their heads down. In another university classroom, the students listened attentively, actively spoke and the root of the problem with the teacher, for fear that they would fall behind in this class, even if the class was over, there were still students around the teacher at the lectern to discuss.

For each of us, we live in a social group. So each of us needs to be with others and get along with each other.

For each of us, we also know to be well with others. Because this will allow us to be better with other people, and more importantly, it will also allow us to have more good friends.

Although many people know that social networking is very important, we see that there are many young people nowadays who are not keen on socializing. Even we see that many times, these young people would rather be alone than be with other people, so some people wonder why young people are not willing to socialize, is it very tiring to socialize.

Perhaps for a small number of young people, they do find social activities to be very hard and tiring. And they feel to go. Trying to fit in with others is a very tiring thing, so they don't want to be with others in order to cater to others, which is why they don't want to socialize, because they would rather spend more time enjoying life better.

But in fact, we see that there will still be a large number of people, and they are very much looking forward to being able to socialize with others. After all, if we can have a good relationship with more people, it will eventually lead to more good friends that we know well. It will also allow us to be better together with everyone, and getting along with each other will eventually allow us to get help from more people.

Therefore, in fact, for many people, they are also very much looking forward to being able to socialize with more people, because good socialization will allow us to have more good friends, so that tracking good friends can be better together, care for and help each other. This will eventually lead to more familiar and close friends for each of us.

All I can say is that most of the people are "social" people, so they will only feel that people who don't socialize are "sick" and timid. The idea of completely isolating themselves rarely comes to their minds, and they basically don't try it. I don't think it's going to be any good.

Some of them are completely irresponsible, and it's a pity that Zhihu has fallen.

But it's safe to say that if you want to know yourself, you want to study the truth of the mind. Then you have to be alone. And the truth of your own mind is the truth of human society, almost equated.

Therefore, the ancients had a saying that they knew the world without leaving home.

I don't like loneliness, and the reason why I can't stand loneliness is because I put all the truth of the world in the outside world and ignore the inner voice. When he is alone, his mind does not have anything worth along, or he does not know how to ** his own mind.

Practitioners of many religions need an absolute solitary time in the process of attainment, and this is the "retreat" that people often hear about, but is dismissed as a joke. There are also many religions where meditation and prayer are part of their daily routines. These can all be referred to as short periods of complete social inactivity.

In these moments of isolation from the outside world, they do only two things.

1. Self-observation and self-reflection.

2. Practice concentration.

If we look to the outside world, we have magnifying glasses, microscopes, and telescopes as tools; Then looking inward, we need solitude and introspection as tools.

With this inward tool, we can observe an inner world in solitude that is at least as wonderful as the outside world.

And as you experience the subjective world, as you deepen your Vipassana experience, you will gradually realize that all the phenomena of the external world are happening on my inner barrier. I used to think that the difference between inside and outside was just a boundary drawn by myself, and without this boundary, the separation between inside and outside gradually dissolved. The world and oneself become a harmonious whole, without distinction from each other.

At this point, you can go out of the mountain.

At this time, social and non-social are no longer social, but become a game for yourself and yourself.

The above is the best state that a person can achieve by not socializing at all.