Is it appropriate for my mother in law to help take care of the children and give her 500 yuan a mon

Updated on parenting 2024-06-22
39 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Mother-in-law gives two children and gives 500 yuan a month, is it much? Not much, to be honest. However, even if she doesn't give a dollar, her mother-in-law will still give it to the child. So, don't use money to measure the value of your mother-in-law to see your child.

    The 500 yuan is definitely not the cost of seeing the child according to the market price, and it can only be regarded as a heart, it is not easy for the elderly to take care of the child, the younger generation expresses gratitude and respect, and gives 500 yuan to let the old man buy a dress or something he likes, and the old man's heart will be warm.

    Some elderly people have their own pensions.

    I have a relative who lives with his son, daughter-in-law and grandchildren, and the daily expenses of the family are paid by the elderly, and many of the expenses of the grandchildren are also paid by the elderly, and the income of the son and daughter-in-law is saved by themselves.

    In such a situation, the mother-in-law definitely doesn't care about a few hundred yuan, and it's okay if she doesn't give it. But there are also mothers-in-law who have no income, and they can't go out to earn money when they see their grandchildren, so it is very necessary to give her mother-in-law 500 yuan a month, and she doesn't have to ask her son and daughter-in-law for some daily expenses.

    The value of 500 yuan is completely different in different regions, if it is in the countryside, the mother-in-law may not be able to spend 500 yuan a month, if it is in a first-tier city.

    It may be that one piece of clothing or one meal is not enough. Mother-in-law will also go out to play with her children, buy snacks and toys for children, or take a car or something, and sometimes buy and sell vegetables by the way, etc., there are also expenses, so it also depends on the mother-in-law's monthly expenses.

    Therefore, more than 500 is not much, not only look at the value, but also look at the specific situation, but also combine the personality of the mother-in-law. The family can't take money too seriously, and don't let money affect harmony, so in addition to money, you should give your mother-in-law more understanding and respect.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    I don't think it's appropriate. Because there are actually a lot of expenses for taking care of children, such as children's toys, snacks, milk powder, etc. And it takes a lot of energy and physical strength to take care of children, and 500 yuan cannot reflect your mother-in-law's workload.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    It's not suitable, because five hundred dollars a month is too little, and it's not enough to live at all.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    If the mother-in-law helps with the children, it is not much to give her 500 yuan a month, even if she doesn't give a penny, the mother-in-law will help take care of the children, so don't use money to measure the value of the mother-in-law with the children. The 500 yuan is definitely not the cost of seeing the child at the market price, but it can be regarded as a mind. It is not easy for the elderly to take care of children, and the younger generation expresses their gratitude. The old man's heart will also be warm.

    If you spend 500 yuan a month in Ningcun, you can't use it up. But in first-tier cities, even a piece of clothing or a meal may not be enough, and it depends on the mother-in-law's personal collection. Therefore, it should be analyzed according to the actual situation.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Mother-in-law helps take care of the child, it is definitely not appropriate to give 500 yuan per month, what can you do with 500 yuan now, the price is so high, and the child's expenses are also very large, I personally feel that it is not enough, and it is not suitable.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I don't think it's appropriate. Because 500 yuan is too little, the price is very high now, so it is recommended to give a little more.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    It is not suitable, because such a relationship will lead to a worse and worse relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but you must be kind to your mother-in-law.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Mother-in-law helps take care of the children, whether it is appropriate to give her 500 yuan a month, it depends on where it is, if it is in a place with a low level of consumption, it is okay, if it is in the city, 500 yuan is too low.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    I don't think it's appropriate to give my mother-in-law 500 yuan a month to take care of the child, because it is very hard to take care of the child, and 500 yuan is not enough for living expenses.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Mother-in-law helps to take care of the children, if there are conditions, it is more appropriate to give about 1000, even if the mother-in-law does not help to take care of the children, at least about 500 living expenses a month, not to mention that the mother-in-law is now helping to take care of the children.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If it is not suitable, you can discuss and solve it, and it should be determined according to the actual situation, and you can discuss it with your husband, so that you can better solve the problem. Avoid contradictions.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Reasonable, but there are many mothers-in-law who are unwilling to charge this fee, and many mothers-in-law feel that taking care of their children is a matter of course for themselves.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    It's not very suitable, the money given is relatively small, if you invite a sister-in-law for a month, you have to get at least five or six thousand yuan, and you can give a little more.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    I think it's very suitable, because it's not easy to take care of children, and the cost is relatively large.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    It is not suitable, because the labor paid by the mother-in-law with the child is far more than 500 yuan, and she either does not give it, or she gives more.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    This is appropriate, because if the mother-in-law helps take care of the children, there will be no financial **, so give the mother-in-law 500 yuan a month to eat delicious food.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    If your financial income is not very good, and your in-laws did not prepare a wedding house when you got married, you will have to repay the mortgage every month for the house you bought after you got married. And the mother-in-law's economy is not bad, she has a pension, or she has savings before, so she said it in the past, because there are extenuating circumstances, but if not, you have to ask a lot less.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    I think it's inappropriate, because 500 yuan is not a lot, and 500 yuan can't support the mother-in-law's expenses at all, so it's unfair to the mother-in-law.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Square peg. Because 500 yuan is not enough for living expenses, 3,000 yuan should be given every month.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    It is very suitable, since I asked my mother-in-law to help take care of the children, it means that my family situation is not very good, and I can give a little money to express my heart well.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    I don't think it's appropriate, if the economic conditions are better, you can give a little more, 500 yuan is too little, after all, it is very hard to take care of children.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Giving 500 yuan to my mother-in-law every month is a bit less, and I should give about 1,000 yuan, but I also have to give it according to my own economic conditions.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Not enough, the elderly are also hard, and the mother-in-law will also consider whether it is good to bring the baby, whether it will be because of the conflict of the child, eating, drinking, toys, clothes, school supplies, all need money. Depending on your economic conditions, if you have it, you can take more, and you will understand it without a mother-in-law.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    It is more appropriate, in fact, you can give more, because it is very expensive to take care of children.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    I don't think it's appropriate to give her 500 yuan a month because I think 500 yuan is too little and you should give a little more.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Mother-in-law helps to take care of the children, giving her 500 yuan a month depends on the city you are in, the local consumption level, if you are in Tianjin, Beijing, Shanghai is definitely not suitable, you might as well give a holiday gift to your mother-in-law is more conducive to family bonding.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    It's fitting for you to do this, and your mother-in-law will be very happy, because she will feel that her efforts will be rewarded and that the family will be more harmonious.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    I don't think it's very appropriate to give my mother-in-law 500 yuan a month, because my mother-in-law's efforts can't be offset by 500 yuan.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Summary. Dear, I'm glad to answer for you: This still depends on your own conditions, if your parents-in-law don't go to work, then you can be about 1000 yuan per month, I think if it's a more sensible mother-in-law will not collect money.

    Dear, I'm glad to answer for you: This still depends on your own conditions, if your parents-in-law don't go to work, then you can be about 1000 yuan per month, I think if it's a more sensible mother-in-law will not collect money.

    My mother-in-law's family is a factory, my husband helps at home, my mother-in-law gives my husband 2000 a month, give me 1000, my husband spends all the money, I can't save money at all, I don't have money for the New Year, I think I will go out to work next year, at least I can save some money, after all, I can't save 1000.

    If you work at home, diapers and milk powder are all from your mother-in-law, but you can't save money, my husband's 2,000 yuan is not enough, and I can't save money for 1,000 yuan I have to work outside to earn more than 4,000 a month, but I just don't know how much to give to my mother-in-law

    Then you look at your conditions, give a little meaning, whether he wants it or not, take as much as you can see, they will not ask for your money if they open a factory.

    I want to send 1000 to him a month, after all, he helps the child buy milk powder, diapers but feels that 1000 is too little, I myself have to spend a few hundred a month, and I have to rent a house, about 1000 yuan, and the remaining 2000 yuan at least have to save money, my husband has spent all the money himself, and there is no money for me to save but I feel that giving 1000 yuan is too little, I want to give 2000, if my husband is willing to put 1000 to me every month, I will definitely give my mother-in-law 2000

    It's really a good worry to help at home, it's the New Year in a few days, I haven't saved a penny and want to go to work outside as soon as possible, I feel bad if I give less, and I don't have the ability to give more.

    Well, you can discuss it with your husband and see how much he thinks is appropriate.

    Telling my husband that it's useless, he's all casual and unassertive.

    If you go to work 30 days a month and work 13 to 14 hours a day, you will be paid 1,000 yuan, so if I go out to work outside, I will also give him 1,000 a month, will it not be good?

    2000, it may be a little better, maybe the old man may not necessarily want you.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    What do you say, don't play stupid, okay? You think that it is natural for your mother-in-law to take care of the child in her hometown, and it is a matter of course, don't forget, this is your child, your flesh and blood! Tell you clearly, mother-in-law is love to bring you children, not to bring it is duty, besides, mother-in-law delays work to take care of children, it is bound to be impossible to do other work, can not earn money, children eat and drink, don't all spend money?

    You don't know how delicate the child is right now.

    Can a mother-in-law be willing to let her own grandchildren (women) eat those coarse tea and light meals all day long? If you don't buy some nutritious snacks or something, how can your child thrive? So, where does the money come from?

    What do you say, is it necessary to give your mother-in-law living expenses? Look at what you say, how picky you are! Don't give money to your mother-in-law, in other words, you are in disguise and don't love your children, don't honor your mother-in-law, and don't be reasonable to your own children.

    Really, do this mom, serve you! You know what? This kind of thinking of yours makes me unhappy!

    Mother-in-law takes care of the children in her hometown to free up more time for your young couple to go to work to earn money or do other things. To put it bluntly, mother-in-law is an extra guilty person, isn't it, think about it, with hard work to pull her son up, is already a family, mother-in-law can enjoy a few years of happiness, a few years of smooth and stable life, and I am afraid that your little couple will have a bad life, and voluntarily bring up the child, it is really pity the hearts of parents in the world!

    In view of this, we should be grateful to our mother-in-law and honor her old man. As for how much money is appropriate to give your mother-in-law every month, it depends on your family's economic situation, if your family is rich, you can give your mother-in-law more money, 5000 yuan at a time, 3000 yuan, of course, there is no cap, it all depends on your own mind, however, it is not necessary to give it every month, it makes it like a salary, you must understand that family affection is priceless! Even if you don't give money to your mother-in-law, I believe that she can't open her mouth to ask for it, no matter whether you are poor or rich, your mother-in-law's wishes are very clear, as long as you live well!

    This is the old man's broad and selfless love!

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Mother-in-law has no obligation to help take care of the child, if the mother-in-law helps to take care of the child, you can give the mother-in-law some money for the baby, as for the cost, just discuss with the mother-in-law, three or four thousand a month should be enough.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    There is no obligation, if you want to bring it, I think it will cost at least 2,000 a month, after all, it costs more money to take care of children.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    I don't think my mother-in-law has the obligation to help take care of the child, but it is normal to say that the mother-in-law of the next generation takes the baby, and there is no need to pay for the baby, which seems more out-of-the-box.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    Mother-in-law is not obligated to help watch the child; The family does not need to pay for the baby, but only needs the attitude of the children, hoping that their daughter-in-law can understand their minds.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    The mother-in-law has no obligation to help take care of the child, taking the child is just the kindness of the mother-in-law, and giving more than 1,000 yuan per month is the most basic.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    In fact, my mother-in-law asked me to pay 2,000 yuan a month to help me take care of my son, which is the money that should be spent, and I think I can give my mother-in-law some more money, my mother-in-law is not obliged to work, help me take care of the child, I can give some corresponding remuneration.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    Don't work first, wait until the child goes to kindergarten at work, the two generations of people in parenting Parenting can not be the same concept is easy to have differences, differences will slowly rise into friction and contradictions, contradictions will only accumulate deeper and deeper, once there is a fuse, there will be a variety of small contradictions, and finally hurt the feelings of the small couple.

  38. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    At this time, there is no need to quarrel with her, and you can also spend 2,000 yuan to hire a nanny, and then let the mother-in-law realize that she is not allowed to come to see her grandson in the end.

  39. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    Such a mother-in-law also values money too much. His own grandchildren have to settle accounts, so it is better to hire a nanny to come. After getting along with each other for a long time, there must be a lot of things.

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