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Every child will definitely have his own rebellious period in his daily life, and this rebellious period can only be spent by the company of parents, but some parents do not understand what the child's heart is like, but will add fuel to his fire in his rebellious period, which will make the child's rebellious period longer, and will also have a great impact on the child's future life.
Don't make a big sense.
Therefore, as parents, we must learn how to accompany our children through their rebellious periodIn fact, we can see that when the child is in the rebellious period, the parents say some big truths, and the child can't listen to them at all, and will not believe the parents said these big truths, but they will do everything according to their own inner thoughts to complete, and do everything is very impulsive, at this time as long as the parents are silently watching him, and don't stop him from doing something.
Suffer to the bitterness. <>
Of course, this matter must be kept within a reasonable rangeHe felt that he had clearly been hurt by doing this, and that the consequences of this were very seriousLet him know about this suffering, and after suffering it, you should also tell him why he did wrong, why he didn't stop him, and how he should make up for such a mistake in the future, because after all, the child can only feel that this thing is wrong after he has suffered a lot.
If you don't make him feel what the consequences of doing this will be, then he will certainly not trust you, and there will still be an impulse in my heart to finish this matter, so as a parent in the child's rebellious period, try to use less words to educate the child, and be sure to use your own practical actions to take the child to do something positive and meaningful, so that he can smoothly pass his rebellious period.
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Parents must keep calm during the rebellious period of children, children are usually more impulsive during this period, at this time parents must learn to shut up, not too much, to give children enough space, respect their choices, in order to successfully pass the rebellious period.
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For children in the rebellious period, parents must communicate with their children frequently, and must face their children with a sincere attitude, only in this way will the children open their hearts to their parents and get through the rebellious period.
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The first is that parents usually communicate more with their children, after all, children are rebellious mainly because of their parents' words, and they can understand their children's thoughts by communicating with them.
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Children must be allowed to control their limbs with their minds, and then their parents will carry out ideological education to teach them how to love the country and themselves.
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In the child's rebellious period, do not blindly deny the child's concept, but guide it and tell the child the benefits.
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If parents want to help their children through the rebellious period, they should explain the reason to their children when educating them. The age of 10 is the most important turning point for children, before which children are more obedient. If the child already has a rebellious phenomenon, it means that he will measure the right and wrong of things according to his own inner source and standards.
Parents should learn to preach to their rebellious children about what to do, and the more thoroughly they preach, the better. Don't choose to use scolding, so that the child will not only not accept it, but will choose to fight with the parents to the end. <>
Parents should set a goal for their rebellious children, so that their thinking can be reversible. Don't let your child feel that everything is being forced by his parents to do it, so that he will be happy to learn. If parents ask their children to go to bed early, they should not stay up late in front of their children.
Parents should guide their children in front of them so that they can develop good habits. When children do their homework, parents should not play with their mobile phones, but help their children study the teaching materials. Only by being a good role model will children put all their minds and eyes on learning, and will have better achievements.
Parents should learn to help their rebellious children solve their difficulties and let them learn to obey the arrangement. Children generally have a sense of autonomy during the rebellious period, and always feel that what their parents say is wrong. When parents see that their children are in difficulty, they can choose to make reasonable suggestions so that the children can listen to their own words.
Parents should gradually help their children get rid of the difficulties in learning, so that children have the meaning of independent learning. Establish a sense that what parents say is right, and children will listen carefully. <>
In general, a child's adolescence is not the same as a rebellious period, it depends on how the parents should educate them. If the child is not able to survive this period of growth, it will have a lifelong impact. Parents need to learn to help their children and not force them to do things they don't like.
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When parents have children, they must listen to their children's ideas, don't be too strong, get along with their children in a peaceful and equal manner, give their children enough love and a sense of security, accompany them to grow up with them, cultivate their children's interests and hobbies, cultivate their independence, and often praise their children so that they can be full of self-confidence.
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In the rebellious period, if we follow them, it will be difficult for them to correct, so we need to follow their direction and educate them.
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When educating children, it is necessary to choose a counseling method, and it should be carried out according to the characteristics of the child, so that it can be conducive to the child's growth.
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1. Be mentally prepared; Before the age of two, the child's world still belongs to the chaotic period, they call themselves in the third person, such as the baby is hungry, etc., once the child reaches more than two years old, usually use me to call it, the child's psychological development has reached a more advanced stage, and there is already self-awareness. In fact, as a parent, you should be psychologically prepared that your child will soon have a rebellious period, which is a process that almost every child will go through.
2. Encouragement and support; Children in the rebellious period have a strong sense of self, parents should respect his independent personality and meet his reasonable needs, as long as it does not violate the principles or does not lead to the occurrence of unsafe problems, there is no need to overly restrict and intervene, on the contrary, to support the child, encourage the child, let him do what he wants to do, is conducive to the development of the child's independent personality.
3. Be patient and groomed; After all, children of a few years old are still relatively young, although they have the will to be independent, but because of the unclear right and wrong, the self-control ability is also poor, and they may make unreasonable demands under impulse, do some ridiculous things, and even can't control themselves, knowing that this is the wrong thing may be done. Parents should have enough patience to persuade and criticize appropriately, but they should not always take the form of prevention, unless they are doing something dangerous and dangerous, and they need to focus on guidance when dealing with Jian Hanpeng, telling their children what to do and what not to do. When a child is rebellious, the first thing parents should do is to praise the child, instead of blaming the child bluntly, and some bad things may be avoided.
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What parents should do is to understand their children appropriately, communicate with them more, and do not beat or scold them. It is necessary to go into the hearts of children more. Be more considerate of your child's hard work.
Parents should also communicate with their children from multiple angles. In this way, it can help the child to get through the rebellious period. Rock starvation.
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Parents must talk to their children well, be sure to tell their children what to do and what not to do, cultivate children's correct three views, and should not be too nagging.
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During the rebellious period, parents must talk to their children well, communicate with their children, and get along with their children as friends.
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When parents let their children speak, they should be aware of the following
1) Listen carefully. No matter what the child says, parents must listen carefully, which is also the importance of the child's personality traits, and it is also a way to grasp the child, facilitate the symptom, and resolve the conflict.
2) Do not reprimand or make rash judgments. Parents should restrain their irrational mentality, let their children finish their words, and prevent casual reprimands from causing mutual displeasure.
3) Be proactive. When the child has enough to express his opinion, the parent should make a sufficient gesture: "This idea is very good, it would be more sound if you add a little more or change a little more."
Parents' active feedback can make children feel happy and satisfied, which is beneficial to the next communication with each other.
Don't hurt your child's self-esteem by criticizing him. A wise parent should know how to skillfully use the art of criticism
1) Distinguish between places and words. When a relative, friend, or partner criticizes the child, the child will feel embarrassed and dissatisfied, and will not listen to the parent's criticism.
2) Criticism should be moderate, and do not damage children's self-esteem such as "you are really hopeless", "why can't you study better than so-and-so", "you are so stupid".
3) Treat people and things. Parents who really understand criticism should focus on how to push their children to correct their mistakes, rather than holding on to their defects. That is, there is reason and evidence, and there is no mention of the past.
4) Moderate cold violence. When the child's psychological phenomena are obvious and the language is irrational, parents simply adopt the mentality of ignoring it, and wait for the child to think rationally and calm down the irrationality before criticizing.
Parents should directly express their worries and anxieties when they take into account and intervene in their children's behavior, so that their children can understand their parents' love. For example, to solve the problem of children returning late after school, some parents wait for their children to come home, scold them violently, and order them to not return late. This kind of treatment method is too impetuous, and the child not only does not experience the love of the parents, but also causes resistance to the parents.
Some parents will try their best to suppress their anger, calmly understand the reason, and show that because they don't know why you are late, they are very anxious and worried, and they hope that you can stand in the perspective of your parents, experience the love and difficulty of your parents, and come back as soon as possible. I firmly believe that obedient children will feel restless and guilty and blame their parents for their late response, and their parents' interference and personal behavior will not cause backlash and rejection.
It is much more reasonable to use practical activities to solve children's school boredom than to give instructions and verbal criticism. A dad used to tell a story like that. One evening, when the father and son were taking a walk, the child saw a seedless watermelon stall selling watermelon, so he had to buy it.
Dad said: "I am far away from my hometown, and I will take it back to Tai Ma Na and I will not buy it." "The child is not excited:
The child walked with the seedless watermelon he bought, and after a while, he was so tired that he was covered in sweat, and he took many breaks along the way before carrying the seedless watermelon home. This feeling made the child sigh deeply: "It's really not casual to eat a seedless watermelon!"
So as to realize Dad's good intentions.
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Give more care to the child, provide psychological counseling to the child, encourage the girl when the child encounters difficulties and trouble, and encourage the child to actively communicate with the child, and when the child resists, do not violently solve the problem of gripping. Be patient and understand the child's reasons for doing so.
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First of all, parents must pay attention to their children's emotions, secondly, try to be as gentle as possible and do not provoke children, and finally actively and correctly guide children's emotions.
Put down the parents' shelves and learn to be friends with your children. In the rebellious period of children's youth, parents do not pay attention to their own attitudes, words and deeds, and it is easy to stand on the opposite side of each other. Therefore, to educate and guide children, we must first cultivate a sense of closeness, first adjust ourselves, change our thinking, try to be friends first with the mentality of friends, and give children a minimum of respect for their personality.
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