Ask for advice on getting along with your father 200, ask for advice on getting along with your fath

You've done a great job! It's very rare! The average child may have been arguing for a long time, let alone living together.

His parents are kind and simple, so he is easy to be fooled when it comes to money, but he always thinks that there are no bad people in the world, and you will upset him when you remind him. I have also encountered such a situation before, I have lived with my parents-in-law for more than ten years, promised my wife to take care of his parents, they save money, and after work still raise pigs, chickens, and grow vegetables very hard, and then every year I have to help him urge tens of thousands of bad debts, at most 280,000 at a time, but I did not take it back, and then I didn't care. But I couldn't bear to be deceived again and again, and I was hurt and angry when I said it, and finally thought of a way, hang a whiteboard in the living room, and write the price of the nearby real estate, such as a set of xx money in a certain community, a car xx, a TV xx, a refrigerator xx, a sofa xx, a child's education fee xx, and a monthly expenditure of xx ......, and then on the other side, write the account that can't be received by someone xx, all of which are written.

My parents-in-law didn't react at first, but after seven or eight months, one day my mother-in-law asked me that a friend wanted to borrow 120,000 yuan and pay back three points of interest, and borrowed it for half a year, and asked me how it was. I was surprised that I didn't ask why I was asked this time, he said that a few days ago I passed a new real estate, the value is not too expensive, the location and room type are good, the down payment is only 320,000, a little excited, but I want to help friends, so ask my opinion. I said that buying a house has the opportunity to increase in value, and my brother-in-law is about to start a family, which is very good!

Although the borrower can help him, your son may not have a new house to marry a daughter-in-law. After a few days, my father-in-law asked me if I was free and asked him to take him to make a reservation. Since then, I haven't heard them lend money to people again, (, not to mention that every day I see the bad debt data on the whiteboard, I really can't bear to think about it, if you buy real estate or furniture, how much can you buy!)

Here are some of my experiences, for your reference, I hope it can help you.

After my dad was discharged from the hospital with a cerebral thrombosis, he felt that his thinking had accelerated and he was irritable and stubborn. I was sick because of business failure, and I didn't listen to persuasion when I got sick, and I wanted to invest something to make money with a little meager living expenses. Relatives are reluctant to talk to him, but I am the only one who is willing to reason with him patiently.

He listened, too, but couldn't get his own thoughts. I also knew that it would be difficult for me to change the values he had developed over 50 years. So, now that he is making some attempts, I don't strongly oppose it, but quietly guide him, give him a little advice, and let him read the relevant books.

So, if he has anything to tell me, I can rest assured. The older you get, the more you look like a child, and you need to be coaxed. Don't be in a hurry to change his mind, let him trust himself first.

I'm going to do this for a while and then I'm going to think of a better way. Hope it helps.

Doing business will be more or less on credit, but it depends on the person.

For young people in modern society, they will rationally respect their fathers. But from a practical point of view, they will also have their own opinions and attitudes when dealing with things. In many of the more harmonious family relationships, the father and the son are relatively harmonious when they get along.

But for families that have not handled the relationship between father and son well, few sons will listen carefully to their father's advice, and even contradict when their father says something wrong.

If you want to deal with the relationship between father and son, you can actually choose some scientific methods. The premise of being responsible for a harmonious relationship is that the son respects his own affairs and supports and understands the father to a certain extent. Because the father, as the pillar of the family, not only has to bear the responsibility of educating his children, but also has to run for the family's food problems.

No matter how you look at it, you should respect and understand your father as a son.

As an elder, the father tries not to talk to his son in a commanding tone, after all, today's children have a relatively independent ability to think and behave. When facing the same thing, as a younger son, he will also have his own opinions and attitudes. Therefore, the father must not always be diverted by his own will, and should also listen to his son's advice at the right time.

Especially for fathers who are usually very busy with work, or do not have time to spend with their children. Be sure to develop a habit of playing and communicating with your children outside of work.

<> have lived with my father for more than 20 years, and now I feel more and more empathy. Fathers and sons can never sit together, and their own philosophies are different. The antagonistic relationship formed is often very awkward, but there is no way to do it.

My father once arranged a lot of things for me to do, hoping that my career would be stable. In fact, I have done some of these things, but they are often incompatible with my development path. What I need is social practice, to accumulate experience in many jobs and increase my knowledge, and I have quarreled with him a lot for this.

I don't know what other people are like, anyway, no matter how good I do in my dad's mind, I'm still not qualified. In his heart, he has to follow his ideological planning route, he goes east, as a son, he wants to go west, it is absolutely impossible, otherwise it is unqualified.

In the 60s and 70s, one of the characteristics of people paid attention to filial piety under the stick. My philosophy is completely different from that of my father, and the constant beating and scolding will only encourage their negative and rebellious mentality, because this leads me to quarrel with my father a lot.

A common problem in social families is that Lao Tzu and his son have never been able to get along, after all, they are one era apart. Lao Tzu wanted his son to study, but his son was naughty and rebellious; Lao Tzu asked his son to find something to start a family, but his son wanted an excuse to postpone it; Lao Tzu wanted his son to work in a public institution, but his son wanted to do the opposite.