Why are some people introverted and why are some people introverted?

··· See if you are the reason for being an introvert What is the inner world of an introvert? One introverted student said, "I'm not cold and heartless, and I want to live happily like everyone else."

What I am most afraid of is people, I feel that I am no better than others, and I feel unnatural with them, inexplicably nervous and afraid. I avoid contact with others as much as possible, I am afraid of asking questions to others, I am afraid of being called stupid, so there are many things in my work and life that I know a little about, and I can just get by. However, I was afraid that others would see through my ignorance, so I was extra cautious and avoided contact with people.

Although I felt safe in my own 'one-man world', I also felt lonely. I want to have more good friends, I hope I don't have to be so afraid of contact with people, I want to be able to carefully understand the environment in which I work and live, and I hope that I can really enjoy life. According to the teaching cases of the Kaidive Confidence Eloquence Training Center for many years, we can summarize the formation of introversion into the following two reasons:

1. Nervousness and fear of people due to sensitive self-awareness, such as middle school students who are in contact with the opposite sex, are too strongly aware that the other party is the opposite sex, resulting in excessive emotional tension and falling into an embarrassing situation. In order to avoid this tension and uneasiness, the only way for them to avoid contact with the outside world is to close themselves off, which is why they become so-called introversion. 2. Family education and growth environment are often the main factors that cause introverted personality.

Their parents are often stricter people, and they want their children to become Jackie Chan, they demand a high degree of obedience from their children, point fingers at them, and often count down the child's shortcomings, hoping that he can grow up. One student said: "When I was a child, my parents never encouraged me, never cared about my feelings, always asked me to do this or that, and when I grew up so much, I basically didn't talk about my advantages, and I had to do everything according to his arrangement."

Parents do not encourage their children to make friends or participate in any extracurricular activities, they think that such activities will "distract" their children, and they often point out their children's shortcomings, which are not good or bad, and how other people's children are doing. Children who grow up in this kind of restrictive and demeaning environment will develop an inferiority complex and introversion over time, care too much about the evaluation of others, and have a more sensitive personality. Because of long-term solitude, lack of ability to communicate with others, can be said to know nothing about general social skills, so in life is more passive, accompanied by nervous fear, sometimes say two sentences and have nothing to say, can not find a topic, so that it is isolated from the outside world.

It's a personality issue, and it's related to the environment in which you grew up. Satisfied.

Why is there a man and a woman in the world? People are not born introverted, maybe some people, some things, let themselves seal their hearts, care about not having the right to access.

1. Modern medicine believes that the environment affects character.

Some scholars believe that the environment in which an individual grows also plays a crucial role in personality. If the love of parents for their children is shown from an early age, let the children have the ability to make their own choices and listen to their children's ideas at any time. Then it is impossible for the child to become an introverted person, because his growth environment allows him to express his thoughts and opinions since he was a child, not to hold himself back, and to share and vent any happy or sad things.

Children with this kind of personality are undoubtedly trouble-free and happy. Some children live in a family full of complaints and abuse, and they want to escape all the time, but they can't escape, and that deep sense of helplessness is accompanied by a lack of character.

2. Traditional Chinese medicine believes that the heart is the main god, and the degree of openness of the mind affects the personality.

The heart contains the king's fire, and the king's fire is clear, then the heart is harmonious and the character is better. On the contrary, if Jun Huo is not clear, his mind will not be smooth, which will lead to his personality being abnormal.

Furthermore, if we attach importance to cultivating the mind and cultivating the mind, such a person will often be unaffected by the external environment, or the influence will be relatively small, and his personality will be more natural and peaceful. On the other hand, if we let it go and don't pay attention to cultivating the mind, such a person will often be susceptible to environmental influences, and his personality will inevitably have defects of one kind or another.