What to do when you hear your parents arguing and what to do with a child whose heart hurts

Don't think that the child is stupid, you can hide it from the child if you quarrel. Just because he's young doesn't mean he's stupid, on the contrary, the child is more sensitive than his parents think, and he has a very strong sense of emotions from adults. And if you keep arguing but are still carefully avoiding your child, then the result can only be that the child avoids you in the same way, and the result will only become more and more detrimental to the development of the child's mental health, ranging from social fear to depression.

Even if the husband and wife do not issue a certificate to quarrel, but the atmosphere of "-for-tat" between the two will still be captured by the child, so instead of carrying the child on his back, it is better to spread out the contradictions between the husband and wife, and if one party does something wrong, he must have the courage to bear the mistake, and the reconciliation should also be shown in front of the child, because these are very good for the child, and they are of course willing to see the harmony between the parents.

Many parents ask how to minimize the damage to their children when they quarrel between husband and wife? The harm caused by quarrels to children is inevitable, and if the husband and wife are really thinking about the children, it is better to stop the dispute between the two of them about right and wrong, give way to each other, care for each other, and tolerate each other. Whether it is a man or a woman, they need to be cared for and cared for, and it is inevitable that after a fierce quarrel, you should also talk to your child, tell your child that this is the adult's fault, apologize to you, hope that the child can forgive and understand, and if you can listen to the child's views, with full communication and understanding, the harm to the child may be minimized.

Almost 99% of families will have quarrels. And 99% of the reasons for quarrels are trivial matters. Sometimes, even arguing and arguing, I don't even remember the reason for the quarrel.

Quarrels are inevitable. Compared to the kind of family that does not quarrel at all, and shows that it seems to be okay but in fact has no communication at all, quarrels can at least give people hope. Because their yelling, complaining, and complaining about each other at least reflects expectations, and this expectation means hope for improvement and change.

However, family is not just for husband and wife. Studies have found that couples often quarrel with each other, and the probability of children having psychological problems is 32%, and parental quarrels bring more harm to children than divorce, and this kind of damage is like a chronic disease, insidious, and the course of the disease is long.

Therefore, how to skillfully "quarrel" is something that every parent should know. Today, I will talk about the common problems in the WeChat background. Hope it will be useful to everyone. I hope that every family will have a healthy flow of love.

Tell your parents that they are sad when they quarrel, or go outside when your parents are arguing, in fact, most couples will quarrel.

When the parents quarrel, the child is very scared, because in his impression, the parents are very cute and amiable. But when arguing, parents may show different faces and make their children afraid. And parents will also say some ugly words because they are too angry, and these ugly words will also affect their children to a certain extent.

What do children think when parents quarrel?

If parents are always arguing in front of their children, then the children will become afraid of their parents, and will think that parents are particularly difficult to communicate, always arguing, and unable to talk calmly. Therefore, it is best for parents not to quarrel in front of their children, they must be gentle, and they cannot give their children some bad impressions, if the children are afraid, parents will not tell their parents what they are thinking, and they will no longer be so close to their parents. If parents always quarrel in front of their children, then the child's psychology will have some effects, he will feel that it is more difficult for parents to communicate, can not talk about things peacefully, and can only solve problems through quarrels.

But quarrels can't solve the problem, it will only make the relationship more tense, let the child be affected to a certain extent, and make the child's soul particularly uncomfortable.

If the parents quarrel at the same time in the family, they will not be able to create a good family environment, the child will become dislike to go home, he will face the quarrels of his parents when he comes home, and he will not be able to have a quiet learning environment. And when they go to school, children already understand what love is, and if their parents always quarrel, they will worry about whether their parents will divorce or abandon them, and they will be homeless. In fact, children also know a lot of things, so parents should avoid some things from children, and they can't quarrel with children often.

Parental quarrels can have a bad effect on children, and young and ignorant children always worry about whether they will reconcile when they hear their parents quarrel? Will you abandon yourself? Over time, the child will become extremely insecure.

Parents should never underestimate the observation of children, their hearts are often very sensitive, not to mention the quarrels between parents, even if the parents are indifferent to each other, it is enough to cause a cranky thought in the children's hearts.

Children will become very insecure in their hearts, and they will feel that their parents no longer have a good relationship, which will make children become very grateful.

The child is very scared, the child will wonder if the two of them will be separated, the child is very lonely in his heart, and he especially hates such a scene.

The child will feel annoyed, disgusted with the situation, scared, and very angry, but there is no way to intervene.

Children will consider in their minds whether it is because of him that their parents will quarrel, and they will also have the idea of running away from home.

Parents have a very big influence on their children, so fathers and mothers should not always quarrel in life, and we must not quarrel in front of our children. Our influence on children is very great, so we must also pay attention to the method at this time. Children may feel very uncomfortable at this time, and they may also feel that their parents do not love them at all.

What do children think in their hearts?

We are also more curious about this issue, but we must pay attention to our own ways at this time, and we must also learn to guide our children in life. In this way, your child will not have some accidents, and it is also very helpful for the child's growth, because the influence of parents on the child is relatively large. Therefore, we can't force our children at this time, and parents should not quarrel in front of their children at this time, children may feel that their parents do not love them at this time, and children may also become very distrustful of their parents.

What should we do?

In our daily life, we must provide a good environment for children to grow up, and parents must not quarrel with their children, otherwise children will have a lot of problems. It is necessary for us to pay attention to these problems, so we must help our children in life, and parents must pay attention to their own behavior at this time. In this way, the child can also become better, so the father and mother try not to quarrel, and in daily life, we must also learn to comfort the child.

In fact, children's thoughts are relatively simple, but children are also very sensitive, so we must protect children's psychology at this time. We must make the little ones feel safe, and in normal life, we can also make the little ones feel the love of their parents, and try not to quarrel at home.

When quarrelling, children will feel that it is their own fault in their hearts, and they will also feel very lost, which will make children reluctant to talk to their parents.

The child's heart is more anxious, the child will shout in his heart not to let the parents quarrel, and slowly the child will become very irritable.

I think the child's heart must be whether the parents will divorce, and who I will talk to after the divorce, the child will actually think a lot.

I think the children are very disappointed because they don't want their parents to fight.

It will cause irreversible trauma to the child's heart, and the impact is very large.

Younger children are immature and fragile, dependent, and need to be cared for by their fathers and mothers. Whether the atmosphere at home is good or not, the child can feel it completely. If parents often quarrel or fight, children will be very afraid, sensitive and ignorant, they will worry that their parents do not want them, and they will think that it is their own fault.

Children will be timid and cowardly, humbly please, which is not conducive to the development of a healthy character, and will leave a psychological shadow in the long run.

When the child is a little older, if the parents quarrel and fight and solve the problem with violence, it will affect the child's emotional intelligence and behavior。Parents are the best teachers for their children and should be role models for their children. Parents deal with problems irritablely, and children will be impatient and violent.

If the parents are calm and rational, and the family atmosphere is good, the children's vision of the world is also calm and peaceful.

Everyone understands how difficult people's livelihood is, and it is reasonable for us in the deep whirlpool to occasionally lose control and crack, but this should not become the norm。As parents, we should learn and influence our children to develop a temperament of patience and restraint, to suppress the outburst of emotions, and to face all kinds of life rationally and calmly.

There is a very good saying, a happy childhood ** for a lifetime, and a happy childhood for a lifetime to **. The shadow of childhood may stay with you for a lifetime。When children who grow up in a violent environment become adults, they not only have to face the various life pressures we are facing today, but also may struggle with all kinds of bad emotions caused by character defects, and even personality disorders in severe cases.

Summary: Parents quarrel and fight, which has a great impact on children。Even when he grows up, he will leave a deep shadow, including affecting his attitude towards love and fear of marriage.

Therefore, parents should not make noise in front of their children as much as possible, the harm of childhood will affect the child's life, some have strange personalities, some are introverted and inferior, and some will suffer from mental illness.

Of course, it will cause a certain amount of trauma, because for the child, this kind of family disharmony between the parents will always be harmful to him.

Yes, because it will make the child full of insecurity, which will make the child's personality more extreme, which is not conducive to future growth and development.

Yes. It will make the child hate feelings, and it will also make the child insecure, and the child will have special inferiority complex and lack of self-confidence.

Parents often quarrel in front of their children, which does cause a lot of psychological effects on children, some of which are directly visible to the naked eye, some of which are gradually revealed after the child becomes an adult, and some of the influences may follow the child throughout his life and become a shadow that the child cannot get rid of in his life.

The first child is happy, missing.

Parents are often witnessed, arguing. In the hearts of children, there will be a feeling of family and unhappiness, feeling that their parents are not enough, loving, and they will feel that their family is broken, and parents will quarrel at every turn because of trivial things. Even if there is a big fight, the child will be afraid that his father and mother will be separated, Wu Mojian will be very afraid in his heart, and he will have no sense of security, and his happiness will naturally be missing.

Second, character flaws are avoided.

Parents fight in front of their children, sometimes they talk more and more noisy, and they can't control themselves for a while, and You Sou may even fight to show the ugly side of human nature directly in front of the child. In this way, it is easy to make the child anxious, uneasy and affected by the original family environment, and the child's temper and personality will also be greatly affected, and the child will become explosive and irritable. Won't be considerate of others.

There will even be a certain tendency to violence.

Third, there is a lot of fear in the heart of marriage.

often face parents quarreling, and even throwing things with their hands and tearing each other apart. When the child sees it, he will slowly be full of fear of his future marriage, and he will be afraid that his other half will be like this in the future, and the story of his parents will repeat himself again. Those will be full of fear of marriage.