What is the child s mindset when parents quarrel?

When parents quarrel, the child's mentality is actually very difficult, because the child does not want to see the parents quarrel every day, and the child's emotions will also be affected.

I especially hate parents quarreling, because they quarrel, the most hurtful thing is actually the child, have you ever considered how uncomfortable and painful it is for the child to be caught in the middle.

I think children should be afraid when parents quarrel, and children will also have psychological shadows, which will have adverse consequences for children's growth.

I think that when parents quarrel, children are very sad or very numb. Because I think that when the parents quarrel, the child will be scared, so I think he will be very sad and feel that his parents will not reconcile. If the parents quarrel too much, the child will become very numb.

When parents quarrel, children are actually very painful. Because parents quarrel in front of their children, children can't help, but children will be very anxious.

I think when parents quarrel, children are in a very broken state of mind. Because when parents quarrel, the child's heart is very sad. And will think a lot, and will be cranky. So I think the mentality of children is very broken when parents quarrel.

Of course, it is their children who are hurt the most when parents quarrel, because it is the children who suffer from the bad feelings of the parents, so do not quarrel in front of the children.

It's all people, when parents quarrel, children are a particularly scared mentality, because parents quarrel, the most direct injury is the child, so parents quarrel is very harmful to children.

When parents quarrel, children must be very sad and helpless, maybe they are very powerless, so I feel that children are very sad, and I very much hope that they will not continue to quarrel.

Panic, not knowing what to do, can only listen to the roar of the parents in silence, which is very traumatic to the child, the child does not know why this is happening, there is a feeling of powerlessness.

I think when you quarrel, have you thought about all these harms that may be caused to your children? And children simply don't know why their parents are fighting, and they may feel that their parents are fighting because they are not good enough. Have parents considered these problems in their children's hearts again?

However, sometimes parents really can't control the "power of the wilderness" in their bodies, and they really can't control and want to quarrel, so what should I do? When parents want to quarrel, they must not quarrel in front of their children, but can ask the good hail members of the family to take the children out to play for a while, and then take the children home when the parents have adjusted their mentality, so that the children will not be hurt because of the parents' quarrels.

If the child is still unfortunate to see the process of the parent's quarrel, the parents must appease the child's emotions in time and tell the child that the parent's quarrel is because of their own problems, not because the child did not do a good job. And it can be told that it is actually a very normal thing for children to quarrel between parents, just like an occasional cold, it will be uncomfortable for a while, but it will get better soon. In this way, the child will not see the quarrel between his parents as a terrible thing, and the parents will not be separated because of the quarrel, and the child's heart will be more calm.

After the parents quarrel, they should reconcile in front of the child, so that the child knows that the parents still attach great importance to him. Communicate with your child more often, tell your child some ways to resolve conflicts, and your child will feel the tolerance and generosity of his parents. In the future, if the child needs to deal with some conflicts and contradictions on his own, he will know what is the right way.

This can be of great benefit to children in dealing with interpersonal problems later on. In addition, there may be violence when parents quarrel, and it is important to tell children that violence cannot completely solve the problem. After all, parents don't want their children to become violent people later on.

Quarrels between parents have many negative effects on children, so we must avoid quarrels in front of children. If it has already happened, find a way to make up for the harm suffered by the child, and don't let the child be hurt because of your own mistakes.

Children often watch their parents quarrel and later lose faith in their marriage. Now there are many people who choose not to get married, because the previous generation of parents has a bad relationship, and they are arguing every day, so that children feel that marriage is really a bad thing. Long-term quarrels between parents seriously affect the child's future view of mate selection.

The child's heart is very sensitive, sometimes, the child will think that the parents quarrel, it may be related to themselves, plus the parents did not explain in time why the two quarreled, the child is afraid of this, and has a self-blame psychology. In addition, the ugly side of parents quarreling will also be deeply engraved in the hearts of children, which will change children's views on parents.

When parents quarrel, children will definitely worry that they will be abandoned, and now that information is particularly developed, children are sensible early, too many cases affect the child's inner world, resulting in excessive insecurity about the family. If the child is enveloped in fear and anxiety for a long time, the trainee will become easily agitated, and when he or she comes into contact with other children, he will also show unstable psychological factors, and may even attack others.

Academic performance suffers.

The child is in a family atmosphere where there are often quarrels, the mood is low, and he cannot concentrate on his studies, his grades will naturally be affected, and he will be distracted during class and think about his parents' affairs. Some children who are heavy on their minds are also prone to dislike of school.

Let the child realize that the love of parents for their children is constant.

It is worth noting that parents must let their children realize that their quarrels are not caused by their children, no matter what the two parties are arguing about, their love for their children is unchanged, and parents will still love their children very much, and do not let insecurities breed in their children's hearts.

When the parents quarrel, the child is very scared, because in his impression, the parents are very cute and amiable. But when arguing, parents may show different faces and make their children afraid. And parents will also say some ugly words because they are too angry, and these ugly words will also affect their children to a certain extent.

What do children think when parents quarrel?

If parents are always arguing in front of their children, then the children will become afraid of their parents, and will think that parents are particularly difficult to communicate, always arguing, and unable to talk calmly. Therefore, it is best for parents not to quarrel in front of their children, they must be gentle, and they cannot give their children some bad impressions, if the children are afraid, parents will not tell their parents what they are thinking, and they will no longer be so close to their parents. If parents always quarrel in front of their children, then the child's psychology will have some effects, he will feel that it is more difficult for parents to communicate, can not talk about things peacefully, and can only solve problems through quarrels.

But quarrels can't solve the problem, it will only make the relationship more tense, let the child be affected to a certain extent, and make the child's soul particularly uncomfortable.

If the parents quarrel at the same time in the family, they will not be able to create a good family environment, the child will become dislike to go home, he will face the quarrels of his parents when he comes home, and he will not be able to have a quiet learning environment. And when they go to school, children already understand what love is, and if their parents always quarrel, they will worry about whether their parents will divorce or abandon them, and they will be homeless. In fact, children also know a lot of things, so parents should avoid some things from children, and they can't quarrel with children often.

Parental quarrels can have a bad effect on children, and young and ignorant children always worry about whether they will reconcile when they hear their parents quarrel? Will you abandon yourself? Over time, the child will become extremely insecure.

Parents should never underestimate the observation of children, their hearts are often very sensitive, not to mention the quarrels between parents, even if the parents are indifferent to each other, it is enough to cause a cranky thought in the children's hearts.

Children will become very insecure in their hearts, and they will feel that their parents no longer have a good relationship, which will make children become very grateful.

The child is very scared, the child will wonder if the two of them will be separated, the child is very lonely in his heart, and he especially hates such a scene.

The child will feel annoyed, disgusted with the situation, scared, and very angry, but there is no way to intervene.

Children will consider in their minds whether it is because of him that their parents will quarrel, and they will also have the idea of running away from home.

Parents have a very big influence on their children, so fathers and mothers should not always quarrel in life, and we must not quarrel in front of our children. Our influence on children is very great, so we must also pay attention to the method at this time. Children may feel very uncomfortable at this time, and they may also feel that their parents do not love them at all.

What do children think in their hearts?

We are also more curious about this issue, but we must pay attention to our own ways at this time, and we must also learn to guide our children in life. In this way, your child will not have some accidents, and it is also very helpful for the child's growth, because the influence of parents on the child is relatively large. Therefore, we can't force our children at this time, and parents should not quarrel in front of their children at this time, children may feel that their parents do not love them at this time, and children may also become very distrustful of their parents.

What should we do?

In our daily life, we must provide a good environment for children to grow up, and parents must not quarrel with their children, otherwise children will have a lot of problems. It is necessary for us to pay attention to these problems, so we must help our children in life, and parents must pay attention to their own behavior at this time. In this way, the child can also become better, so the father and mother try not to quarrel, and in daily life, we must also learn to comfort the child.

In fact, children's thoughts are relatively simple, but children are also very sensitive, so we must protect children's psychology at this time. We must make the little ones feel safe, and in normal life, we can also make the little ones feel the love of their parents, and try not to quarrel at home.

When quarrelling, children will feel that it is their own fault in their hearts, and they will also feel very lost, which will make children reluctant to talk to their parents.

The child's heart is more anxious, the child will shout in his heart not to let the parents quarrel, and slowly the child will become very irritable.

I think the child's heart must be whether the parents will divorce, and who I will talk to after the divorce, the child will actually think a lot.

I think the children are very disappointed because they don't want their parents to fight.

First, it destroys a child's sense of security. Especially before the age of 6, the level of their thinking determines that they cannot understand too complex things. When parents argue, the first thing they feel is:

Mom and Dad are angry! Some children may even feel that they are self-inflicted, and thus feel scared, uneasy, and overwhelmed.

Second, it will make the child imitate.

There is such a saying: parents are the photocopier of their children, and children are the photocopies of their parents. Many of the child's behaviors are imitated from their parents.

A parent who is accustomed to arguing in front of his child may gain a child who is accustomed to yelling, and such a child is prone to blaming others and losing control of his emotions when encountering problems, which may bring this pattern to his relationship with peers and future problem solving, which is not conducive to his social interaction and personality development.

Finally, Jian Peichang, parents who often quarrel may neglect the care of their children, so that the child does not feel the warmth of home, which may cause him to seek comfort from the outside world or other things. Many of the children who learn to skip school, smoke cigarettes, become obsessed with online games, join bad groups, etc., at a young age, come from families where their parents are not in harmony.

Therefore, it is recommended that parents do not quarrel in front of their children.

Of course, disputes in life are inevitable. What should you do if you really can't help but quarrel in front of your child?

If this happens, we recommend that you do this:

The husband and wife can make an agreement in advance: once there are signs of quarrel, at least one party must quickly withdraw from the current environment and find a way to adjust their emotions. Dad can go to the balcony and stand quietly for a while, and Mom can go to the bedroom to sit quietly and wait until the mood is calm before communicating and solving problems.

In this way, the level of quarrels is kept to a minimum.

If the quarrel has already been finished in front of the child, then the parents should do a good job of "dealing with the aftermath". First of all, no matter what the child's reaction is, parents should walk up to the child and apologize to the child for their gaffe;

Explain to your child the reason for your quarrel in a language that your child understands, be sure to make it clear that he is not responsible for it, and be sure to express that Mom and Dad love him no matter what happens;

Mom and dad should reconcile in front of their children. This is very important, not only to see his parents get back together, but also to learn some social skills--- so that he can not be afraid of conflict when interacting with people in the future, and learn to deal with conflicts in an appropriate way.

In short, it is best for parents not to quarrel in front of their children. If you really can't help but quarrel, you should deal with it correctly afterwards to reduce the adverse effects on your child as much as possible.

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