My husband s family still has a bad temper and loves face, what should I do?

Netizen Xiaol: My husband and I are both only children, and we just got married not long ago. My income is twice that of my husband, and when I got married, I planned to live with my in-laws, and the house was bought with my husband before I got married, and my in-laws also paid part of the down payment.

When I got married to my husband, I set up wine in the man's hometown, and the man did it according to the customs of my hometown, so I never asked, but I knew that there were many fewer people on the wedding day than expected.

A few days after the wedding, my mother-in-law and my parents met and said that the wedding was very lively, and many relatives and friends came, and 20 tables were not enough to sit. But in fact, there were only ten tables at that time, and they were not yet full.

In my opinion, it's good to say a few tables if there are a few tables, and there is no need for my family to say this for the sake of face. Because someone else was there, I didn't ask. When I got home, I told my husband about it.

Then as soon as he finished speaking, his husband blew up, and his tone instantly improved. He said that what happened if I talked about a few more tables, and it didn't get in my way, and he also said that I was looking for an accident to blame my parents, disrespecting my parents, and not being educated???

Am I honestly uneducated? Is bragging fun? Moreover, there are times when parents do not do things right. I am grateful to them and love them. I tell them when it's wrong.

I don't think I'm doing anything wrong. But my husband is so angry, is he wrong, or am I not expressing myself well? If you want to put it in a different way, how can you express it more appropriately?

Moreover, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting worse and worse after marriage, and my father-in-law is basically not at home when he is currently working in other places. My mother-in-law often said, "Where I spend my money, I have to call the shots." "But it's all my money.

Now the big and small things in the family must follow the habits of the mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law also likes to interfere in the emotional problems between husband and wife, and the phenomenon of protecting sons is serious, thinking that women should serve men. My husband should watch TV on Erlang's legs after work, and the fruits are washed and handed over by my mother, of course, my mother-in-law made it clear that I should do these things. When I quarrel with my husband, my mother-in-law will rush out and teach me a lesson.

I usually can't reason with my mother-in-law, and I always feel that I am right, and I have a high-spirited educational attitude. My husband also stood on my mother-in-law's side and said that I was not, every time I quarreled, I was arguing with two, I was too tired.

Friends, what should I do?

If you can't accept such a family, you can choose to leave. Otherwise, the whole family will be irritable in case of trouble, and I'm afraid you won't be able to cope with it alone.

I must find a way to cure them, let them know that I am also a temperamental person, and I will not let them do it at will.

If your husband loves face too much, I suggest you communicate with your husband well.

In fact, a man wants to save face, and everyone can understand it. But if it is too much, it will even affect the normal life of the family, or even affect the relationship between the husband and wife, then you need to communicate well with the other party.

But try not to make the other person feel like you're accusing him. He must know that he has this kind of problem, but when he speaks, try to be tactful and try to make the other party accept.

First of all, show full respect and understanding for the other party's behavior. Each of us is very face-saving and likes to listen to praise. So, we first show our understanding of him, and then he can listen to what you say.

Otherwise, it will be accusations and criticisms of him from the beginning, and no matter what you say, no matter how correct your remarks are, he will not be able to listen to them.

Then reason with him seriously. Let him listen to you, and then the next step is to reason with him. Let him distinguish between the money that must be spent and the unjust money that is spent for the sake of face, and help him distinguish clearly.

At the same time, the husband's wallet is strictly controlled. In this society, only with money can you be fat, and if your husband loves face very much, then going out must be lavish. If you want to fundamentally change his status quo, his wife must control his wallet, so that he has no ability to support the scene, of course, he must pay attention to giving him face appropriately, and don't want to get him done at once.

Communicate more with your husband so that he understands you. Sometimes, many men act as fat people because they love face at that time, and they will regret it afterwards. Wife don't always blame her husband, be more considerate, everyone has shortcomings, you must try to make him understand that the result of his swollen face and becoming fat is that he has no face and makes you suffer.

Finally, set a goal to be accomplished together. Tell him what you can do with the money if you save it. Set a small goal for handwriting, how much money you want to save, or what kind of large piece of furniture you want to buy.

This can all be started with the unnecessary expenses that are usually saved. With these realistic goals and plans in place, I'm sure you'll think more before you spend. Well, such a problem can be solved.

Your husband loves face too much, you should persuade him, it is very common for men to love face, but loving face too much will make your life very tiring.

You need to talk to your husband and let him know that it is not good for him to love face too much, and tell him that it is better to make your quality of life better.

It's not a good thing to love face too much, you should talk to your husband and tell him that it's not good, sometimes it's only yourself who loves face.

If your husband loves face too much, you can talk to him well, tell him that you don't like him like this, and see if he can correct it.

My husband loves face too much, so you can give him enough face in front of outsiders, my husband just loves face, this is okay, you have to be patient.

You should have a good chat with your husband and let him know what he thinks so that he will correct it, you have to be patient.

You can tell him that you don't like him like this, let him know that it's not a good thing to love face too much, and you have to help him get rid of this bad problem.

You have to make it clear to him, you have to communicate with him, it is useless to love face, people are noble in front of people and suffer after they are sinned, it is better to let yourself live well than to love face.

Communicate more with your husband, communicate more, let him not have such a strong vanity, and tell him that too much love of face will not lead to good results.

If your husband is too face-loving, then you should tell him that this is not right, ask him to correct it next time, and you should supervise him.

It is also a kind of "misfortune" to meet such a husband, and people who love face too much and always slap a swollen face and become fat can be treated like this.

The first is to control the financial power in their own hands, no matter who earns more from both husband and wife, in the face of a husband who loves face too much and always slaps a swollen face and fills a fat man, he must master the financial power in the family, so that it will be easier to avoid the husband from spending money outside to show off his might, and he doesn't know how distressed, and in the end he may not be able to get the approval of others.

Second, it is necessary to regularly "educate" your husband, you really can't be like this, after all, what kind of ability you have to do what kind of things, you don't have that diamond diamond, or don't do any porcelain work, otherwise it will really hurt yourself, not to say, it will also affect your family, the most important thing is that others are not easy to explain, after all, you don't have so much strength to help others, and your life is not good.

Third, show weakness, let the husband take the initiative to change the behavior of slapping a swollen face and becoming fat, tell the other party about the difficulties in the family, and tell the other party about his ideal living state, the most important thing is to learn to be coquettish and learn to make her husband feel sorry for himself.

In fact, many men have this problem, if it is not particularly serious, I think it can be forgiven, after all, men are very face-loving, and in their eyes it is more important than many things. But if his love for face is already very serious, you should talk to him about this issue, after all, saying something that is not in line with your ability may sometimes pay a big price.

Xiaoxiao's boyfriend is an ordinary white-collar worker in a company, usually very enthusiastic, and very good at Xiaoxiao, but a little like to talk big, at the beginning, Xiaoxiao always felt that it was just an innocuous problem, until she realized the importance of this problem once.

Once Xiaoxiao's boyfriend had a company dinner, somehow the men suddenly discussed the topic of their girlfriends, they were all talking about how obedient their girlfriends were, and the Xiaoxiao's boyfriend said: "Believe it or not, I'm going to break up with her now, and she will definitely cry and beg me to go back tomorrow." The male colleague didn't believe it, and coaxed him to hit **, but he really hit ** and Xiaoxiao to break up, and he thought that I would coax her well when I went back.

He called Xiaoxiao ** on the way home, Xiaoxiao didn't answer, and when he got home, Xiaoxiao was no longer in the room, and he realized the seriousness of the problem, he didn't expect that one of his jokes would make him single like this. So it's not a good thing for boys to love face too much.

Something like you is, in fact, widespread. Sometimes it's also a very helpless thing in social situations. Because some things are not good to let go of face directly. If you are embarrassed by each other, it is not easy to get along.

Do what you can, not the opposite. Otherwise, it is easy to make ends meet. It is certainly not conducive to the harmony of the family and marriage.

Some things are spread out. There is no need to hide it, but it adds a sense of mystery. I don't think you're a friend enough.

In fact, there are some things that people think you are very honest about after you make it public. Don't say you don't, be stubborn. If you don't have your own ability and quality conditions, you should strive to improve yourself, instead of holding on to the façade.

Only by facing yourself squarely can we continue to improve.

The way to deal with it is, first of all, we can't persuade your husband at the beginning. Because most of the people who love face, in most cases, they don't hit the south wall and don't look back. If we persuade him before he has made much mistake and lost too much, he will choose to believe that you are looking down on him.

So when he makes a mistake and he loses a lot, at this time, we only need to hit on the side, and he reflects on whether he did it right, and he won't do it again next time. We must remind him of this situation, and we must not ignore it. Because sometimes it is good to save face, it can make us dignified in our lives.

But sometimes you love face too much and lose your lining because of face, which is more than worth the loss, which is what we commonly call a swollen face and a fat man. But when this has happened, we have to be calm. Because a person who is already manic because of the loss, there is also a manic nagging person by his side.

This can ruin the harmony of a family.

In fact, this is a common psychology of men, hoping that they can be very dignified when they are outside.

But you know it's not right for him to do this, when a man is outside, if he wants to say anything, you let him say it, because he is very good-looking, if you scold him to his face, it will make him lose face, he will think that you are a woman who is very ignorant, which will affect the relationship between you.

But after this incident, you can discuss with him when you return home, but the language must be tactful, a man's self-esteem is very strong, in fact, a man says something outside, it is a hope for his future, you should also be able to understand, after all, men need to be cared for and cared for, and you can't always complain, you will complain about your feelings. If you don't understand him, it's very wrong, you have to correct his mistakes more, but you also have to motivate him verbally so that he is motivated in life. He was able to give him something to strive for while he was working.

Men like to save face outside, and they are especially dignified in front of outsiders and want to prove that they are better than others. Although it is common for men to like to save face, they all have to have a suitable degree, and it is really difficult to accept men and women who have swollen faces and fat faces.

For this kind of man, he will obviously do something wrong when he comes home, and when he comes home, he will tell the woman how reasonable he is, and he will only go home and be good with the woman. For this kind of man, either you are very good at managing him, or you can't change him, and choose to continue to endure or leave him.

When he goes out, he can slap the fat man with a swollen face or because he has money in his hands, first control the money in his hands, many times even if he wants to slap the swollen face and fill the fat man, touch the pocket, there is no money in it, and naturally it will not be.

I don't want to be angry with each other all the time, and don't be too impatient when you're upset, it will only make things bigger. Communicate with the two of you and tell him what you think, so that he knows that a guy is responsible for the family.

It is a man's nature to love face too much, as a wife should understand, but everything should always have a degree, and it will not be good if it is over, you say that you don't have the strength to do it, and the consequence of being small is that you can't do it, and if you are big, you may damage your family.

It's not worth the coercion and temptation of this matter, and it's not suitable to say it in front of too many people to give your husband some face. Two people talk behind closed doors and talk your thoughts. It's normal for a boy to have a good face, and as a wife, he understands and tries to be satisfied.

However, as a man, you should also know your own abilities, and you also need to take care of the family. If you know you don't have the ability to do it, why do you have to force yourself? Not to mention the time wasted, you can't do anything else you want to do, so why bother?

I've watched a sketch, Guo Donglin's performance has something to say, he is an ordinary citizen, but he has been blocking things, and after a long time, others think he is very powerful. He made enough money on his own face, but he was almost tossed, and later he was asked to get the wagon, so he couldn't get it without some money and power. This is the result of loving face too much, life in the world, can't you live your life well?