Is it really too painful for a child whose parents quarrel and divorce every day?

The six-year-old boy had an emotional breakdown and told the police what had happened:

Dad knocked my sister when he was taking care of his sister, and Mom quarreled with Dad, and Mom smashed Dad's head and bleed, and her own mouth bleed, and they did it together, and I don't understand why they did this. ”

The house was full of messes after the fight, and the child said sadly

They don't care if the child is sad, the two of them quarrel on their own, I don't know what my parents think. ”

Worried that his parents would be taken away by the police, the boy also asked the police worriedly:

The adults in the family have been arrested, what should the children do? ”

Under the comfort of the police, the little boy's mood stabilized a little, and said that his greatest wish was that he hoped that his parents would return to the way they wore wedding dresses.

The child's words are distressing to hear.

The child is so mature that it makes people feel distressed;

parents, but they are so willful that they make people angry.

Children should live under the care of their parents. But when the family is full of gunsmoke and war, for children, this warm home may have become the most terrible "black hole" in their hearts.

Dad loves Mom, Mom loves Mom, in a child's world, this is what home looks like.

Parents quarrel and destroy the physical and mental health of their children.

Many ignorant parents always feel that the quarrel between adults has nothing to do with their children, so they do not hesitate to argue in front of their children, and even do it. Completely ignoring the child's physical and mental health.

When parents argue, children are often nervous, fearful, and uneasy......Being in such a family atmosphere for a long time, the child suffers from both physical and mental damage.

According to the American "Medicine**" report, a new study in the United Kingdom found that parents always quarrel in front of their children, which will affect children's brain development and may cause children to be more likely to suffer from mental illness in adulthood.

According to the latest survey, the prevalence of psychological problems among children in families where parents quarrel often is 32, 30 in divorced families and 19 in harmonious families. Compared with divorce, children have a more pronounced psychological experience of their parents' quarrels, and they suffer more direct harm.

Wang Limin, a professor of psychology at Harbin Medical University who led the survey, said that children who often face family "wars" are prone to interpersonal communication barriers, lack confidence in their future lives, and are especially prone to fear of marriage. ”

Wang Limin said that compared with divorce, children's psychological experience of their parents' quarrels is more obvious and the direct harm is greater.

Xu Jinglei is a rare actress in the entertainment industry who integrates beauty and wisdom, she is thriving in her career, but she is still unmarried in her forties.

Xu Jinglei was once asked in Lu Yu's show: Why don't you get married?

She said calmly.

Yes, for those who live in a family environment where their parents quarrel every day, the influence of the child will cause the child to be unhappy and cause him to have an inferiority complex, and he will also have a fear of marriage when he grows up. There is some truth to the saying that home and everything is prosperous.

Yes, the influence of family on a person is very, you have to learn to grow stronger in your heart, your family can't help you, only save yourself.

Absolutely. Easily susceptible. The environment is too important. Many people are unaware of the bad influences they are being subjected to. Grow up to be a bad person and continue to hurt others.

It is really painful to have a child who does not get the warmth and happiness of the family.

It's really painful, caught between parents, not knowing who to stand with, distrusting of their loved ones, not knowing when they will become a child of a single-parent family, and doubting themselves, easy to have low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, and no confidence in marriage.

It is true that children who grow up in such an environment have low self-esteem and are introverted. Parents often quarrel and divorce, and children can feel helpless.

Parents who quarrel every day, and want to divorce again, not only is it too painful for the children, but it also has a big shadow on them.

Parents quarrel in front of their children, and the source of sleepiness makes the child feel that the atmosphere of the family is a little cold, and without that warm atmosphere, the child will be a little afraid of the family, feel the indifference of family affection, and no one cares more about her feelings.

One. Parents quarrel in front of their children, even if it is a temporary possibility. Will it make the child have a disappointment in marriage, or a kind of coldness from an early age? Without that kind of family love, children will feel very lonely and pitiful.

Two. But the divorce of parents is long-term, the child in this kind of single-parent family, life itself is very inferior and timid, he will feel very different from ordinary families, either lack of father's love, or lack of mother's love. Seeing that other people's children are very happy, he will always hope that he can live happily in the care and warm embrace of his parents.

Three. It is said that children without mothers are in charge early. Lack of love from relatives, single-parent families, children either study very well, or study in a mess.

Because his parents are single-parent families, he will have little such care, and he will be very aggressive since he was a child, and he feels that everything is a little more precocious than a child with parental care. He will feel that he has to take care of his mother like an adult, and he will go out into society too early. It may make the child's life not very smooth, and he could have turned into a genius who learns well.

However, due to the lack of this kind of family care, if you go to society too early, you will become idle, or you will not achieve anything. Therefore, the divorce of parents is the most harmful to children. He may change the child's nature.

Since then, he has become depressed, or very silent and introverted and rebellious. Same as I thought, so be it!

The damage is just as great, and the result is unhappy families.

ButI think that an unhappy family does not prevent both parents from loving their children, and if the parents are happier and more willing to spend time with their children after the divorce, they can also take the children out to play with them like friends. If the conflict cannot be resolved without divorce, endless quarrels will only magnify the misfortune and increase the damage.

There is no such thing as a perfect family of origin.

It is important not to affect the attitude of parents towards their children because of the unhappiness of two people in the marriage.

Some parents let their children go after divorce, and one party avoids their children after starting a new family, or the parent with children becomes irritable and feels that the world has changed after the divorce. These situations will only make the child more miserable and sad, and lose his home and love.

But there are also parents who do very well, after the divorce, they often go to see their children and spend time with their children on weekends, even if a new family is formed, they will respect their children and tell their children, and the new family is very accepting of their children, even if the new family is hungry and does not give their children the warmth of home, the children feel friendly and respectful.

Probably the most children of divorced familiesFear is a subtle sense that you are superfluous.

Parents quarrel and divorce their parents in front of their children, I personally think that the real harm to children is divorce, which means that the family is gone. The child will follow one of them into a single-parent family. Whether he loses his mother or father, the child must be in a bad mood, and he must be a little psychologically wronged, because there is only one companion, and he will always feel that the child regards him as dependent.

And if you quarrel in person, the child will slowly learn to be sensible, persuade and fight, know who to judge the model, and who is wrong and can't beat someone, and naturally feel wronged by the child. Tears may run down your face.

In fact, when I was young, it hurt me a lot, that is, no matter what kind of beating and scolding, it felt like tickling, and I was not afraid of hurting myself no matter how hard I hit, but when I grew up, I realized that the thing that really hurt my child was that it broke people's hearts. No matter how angry you are, you will have a conflict over a small thing, although you obviously care about each other very much, but you are often very angry and angry, and you feel that you are very remorseful and wronged, because you don't know what you have done wrong, you will quarrel for no reason, so you are very sad about the person you love the most.

Divorce of parents can hurt children even more. It will be very traumatic for the child's psyche. It will have a very envious influence on the child's learning reputation and life, and even change the child's personality, which will ruin the child's future in life.

The divorce of parents will hurt the children more, and the children will lack father's love and mother's love in their growth, especially when the parents have their own families, and the children feel that they are redundant, and the creation of the children's soul is a lifetime of failure.

When parents quarrel in front of their children, the contradictions and problems between them will be exposed, and the quarrel will cause much less harm than the Cold War. If the parents divorce directly without quarreling, it will make the children who originally thought that the family was okay feel that the instant change is unacceptable.

But whether it's a quarrel or a divorce, it can lead the child to have a pessimistic view of the future of the marriage.

Problems between parents should be exposed in a timely manner. Talk about the results and make it clear to the child no matter what happens, don't be biased, don't think that the child is too young to know anything.

Divorce of parents and quarrels between parents will cause harm to children, but the nature of the two injuries is different, and the impact on the future of children is also different, and in the long run, it is natural that divorce is more harmful.

When the parents are divorced, the child will generally live with the father or mother, which will cause the child to lack father's or mother's love, which is obviously not conducive to the child's emotional development. Children need both father's love and mother's love, and complete parental love is conducive to the healthy development of children's psychology and emotions. After the divorce of the parents, the love experienced by the child is incomplete, which will affect the child for a lifetime, and the child may spend the rest of his life looking for the father's or mother's love that he did not get in childhood.

After the divorce of the parents, the child often has a sense of abandonment, causing the child to fall into negative emotions such as despair and helplessness, and feel that he is completely unable to control his life, resulting in a decline in the child's self-esteem. After the parents divorce, it is often difficult for children to have trust in love and others, which is the main reason why children living in divorced families are more likely to divorce or be single.

The divorce of parents will make children feel self-blame, and feel that the divorce of parents is mainly their own responsibility, because they are not well-behaved, good enough, and obedient enough, so children will be burdened with a heavy burden of thoughts, and it is useless to explain it to adults, and this situation is more likely to occur in younger children. After the parents divorce, if the parents of the children around the child are not divorced, the child may also feel the strange eyes of others, and even be regarded as a monster. Even if others don't see it that way, children may see themselves as monsters, putting them under pressure that others can't imagine.

Therefore, as a last resort, parents should not divorce, but should provide a complete home for their children as much as possible, which is good for children's sense of security and mental health, cultivating trust in love, and reducing the pressure on children's growth, and is also conducive to the establishment of stable and trustworthy intimate relationships after children become adults.

I feel that the divorce is even less hurtful, after all, after the divorce, he will have a sense of abandonment.

The former hurts more. It can affect the child's development. A noisy family can twist a child's mind.

If the parents choose to divorce and get married, or the child will live a very quiet life, the father or mother will also be quiet, and there will be a quiet environment for the child's growth.

I think it's all the same nature, and it hurts the child a lot. First, quarrel in front of the child, the parents' words directly affect the child's childhood growth, the parents' character defects may break out at any time to break out into fierce quarrels, and even directly occur a cold war, your words and body movements The child's subconscious will directly imitate, and the child may be like this when he grows up, the lack of parental love and care, the child is withdrawn and introverted, does not like to talk to others, is very lonely and has no self-confidence, etc., as for divorce, the separation of parents means that there is no father or no mother in the future. The injury is similar to what I said earlier, the child feels that he is a poor child that no one wants, and he will be unhappy for a long time in the future, have no sense of security, lose a sense of direction and other factors, so if there is anything that has to quarrel or divorce to solve Hu Mingyou's problem, don't mention it directly in front of the child.

If the parents quarrel in front of the child, the child will feel that the relationship between the parents is broken, and the child will think a lot: whether she (holding the early grandson) can also divorce, and then let me choose Duan Lian to follow alone, I don't want them to divorce, I don't want to choose a person from among them, I just want a complete home, I want the parents to be together, and then the emotions will be driven, even if the parents are reconciled, it will bring great harm to the child's heart, once the parents quarrel again, Scenes from the past come to mind.

If the parents divorce directly and there is no quarrel, then the child will only be unable to accept it for a while, and over time, the hurt of the child's inner delay will be slowly healed. So, in general, divorce will be less harmful to the children.