I am afraid of the future and don t know how to change myself

Do it while you are young and brave, you are not a hot-blooded teenager, you need to be brave. We can afford to lose because of our youth, and if we are wrong, we can change because of our youth. If you have a dream, you will chase ......Boldly chase ......(Seniors support you, don't be like me graduated from high school and found that I didn't have any memory, like you, those mobile phones have passed for three years, and you will regret it in the end, understand?)

Remembered. ）

I'm not confident. I have a little method of my own, just my own, if you think it's feasible, try it.

For example, when I went to confess to a girl, I said to myself, "Okay, come on, get her, it's a little meaning" and then I felt full of power 0 As a result, the girl who had known her for 3 days was dodged by the puppet.

Also, don't be blinded by poverty, see clearly, you are still very good, you have nothing to push yourself, if you don't force yourself, you don't know how good you are.

I'm also a freshman in high school, but I'm a girl, I used to be very introverted, but, for the boy I like to become extroverted, the boy also began to pay attention to me, maybe it's this kind of youthful ignorance, we have been there like nothing, and now I haven't been able to open, my grades are average, but also because of the mobile phone, and then I gave the phone to my parents much better. I believe you can catch up with the girl you love.

If you are full of fear of the future, it is possible that you do not have a clear direction for your future, and you feel lost and anxious, and the influence will gradually become greater and become fearful of the future.

Then you can set a big goal for yourself, and then set small goals for each step according to this big goal, so that you have a clear plan for your future.

After each small goal, there will be a sense of accomplishment, and then a kind of expectation for the future, and slowly the sense of fear will weaken, and the sense of expectation will become stronger.

Explore the roots of your self-fear

Fear is one of the most important basic emotions that has accompanied us since the dawn of human beings, and its warnings and caution can save our lives, but at the same time, it can disrupt rational thinking, stir up anxiety, make us stumble, and make a mess of what should be an orderly process.

Joseph Selland, a psychologist at Harvard Medical School, leads our brains to think rationally, allowing us to revisit the fear from another perspective and thus respond rationally.

Learning to accept ourselves, self-reflect, and explore the root causes of fearful thoughts can help us deal with our fears in a healthier way, and we will become more confident and good.

The above content refers to China Youth Network - The powerlessness in your heart comes from the fear of the world.

Psychoanalysis: Hello subject, seeing your description, I can feel your anxiety, afraid of any variables in the future, and I don't seem to have the motivation to change, and there will indeed be a lot of anxiety at this time.

People have a lot of fear in the face of the unknown and uncertainty, and we tend to expect someone to tell us a definite "answer" or a "perfect result", and when we find that we can't, anxiety follows.

This is because we are so used to being "in control", we always look forward to a certain future, so it is difficult for us to accept accidents, which is a psychological defense mechanism that protects our psychology from being attacked, but it also hinders us from moving forward.

Most people are dissatisfied with their current situation and think that they want to change, but they do not have the urgent desire to change in their hearts, and they do not do anything in their minds. All change comes with fear, but all change also gives us hope. There is a contradiction between fear and hope, just as my two "selves" contradict each other.

I would like to ask you to stop and ask yourself, what exactly do you want to "change" for? Is it to become a better version of yourself? A better life? Or is it just to make yourself "less fearful"?

Change is a difficult thing to do, it means that you have to let go of some of your current habits, such as work and rest time, spending habits, etc., and it will upset the existing balance. Change itself will produce anxiety and fear, so if you just want to "not let yourself be afraid" to change the lead oak radical change, that is, to solve the past fear in a fear-generating way, you will naturally lose courage.

Psychoanalysis: Worrying about the future is a manifestation of anxiety, and the reason why people worry about the future is because of our fear of the unknowable future. The root cause of this is our lack of confidence in ourselves. I don't believe I'll be doing well in an unknowable future.

Afraid of being fired from your job, afraid of divorce after marriage, afraid of your parents getting sick, afraid that you will not achieve anything, afraid that you will not be able to raise children after giving birth, how can you stop it? From the content analysis of the anxiety and fear you described, they are all questions that are closely related to reality and related to one's own abilities. There is a saying that "thinking is a problem, and doing is the answer", and here I would like to ask you, "What have you done to address this problem?"

If you haven't done it yet or don't know how to do it, then I'll tell you a way. That is: to improve self-confidence and improve one's abilities.

Whether it is a career, marriage or family, it is necessary to operate. This management is to improve knowledge and ability in this area. Career enhancement means job title, salary increase, and career success.

Managing a marriage and family can make your marriage and family happier.

If you don't know how to do it right now, set yourself a time-bound, concrete, achievable, and measurable goal, and then break it down into a number of smaller goals that are also time-bound, concrete, achievable, and measurable, and make an action plan and implement them. I believe that as soon as you start to act beyond your goal and persevere, your anxiety will start to decrease. Because a firm goal itself is a kind of anticipation for the future, and it is also a way to counteract anxiety, and the realization of small goals can greatly stimulate a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence, and anxiety will disappear.

The above hope it will be helpful to you.