How can we see things from a higher perspective?

Join the excellent circle and get close to the powerful people, so that you can stand at a higher starting point. Writer Yang Daxia Yang Ke recorded that what you integrate will get something.

1. Talking about what the other person needs and making suggestions is the only way in the world to influence others.

2. When you are trying to persuade someone to do something, you may want to ask yourself before you speak: "What can I do to make him feel the need to do it?" "A well-thought-out decision can prevent us from being able to say what we want in front of others and not be able to achieve our goals.

3. Being able to stand in the other person's position and consider things from the other party's point of view, as if you think for yourself, is the secret of success. You don't have to plan too much for your future, but you will get more benefits.

4. Always put yourself in someone else's position to think about things, know the wishes and goals of others, and make decisions based on this. If you really learn this, it will change your career and life for the rest of your life.

5. Stimulate the urgent needs of the other party, so that everything can go much smoother and will not encounter great difficulties.

6. The greatest desire in human nature is to show oneself.

Supplement] 1. Extreme altruism.

2. To achieve others is to achieve oneself.

Empathy only makes sense if it is done with good intentions, that is, for the sake of each other's betterment, and it is risky to do it simply for yourself or for others. I'll explain this place below.

When you interact with someone, you can try to look at the problem from their point of view, put aside the subjective thoughts, consider their position, the role they play, the situation they are in at the moment, and something that you can see directly happening to them. When I mention directness here, I hope you will never enter into a misunderstanding of empathy, that is, making something out of nothing and thinking too much.

Imagine playing chess by yourself, and when you're done playing on the red side, you act as the green side again, thinking about how you should play now that you're green, and this process is a mode of empathy.

Well, for example. Your friend has just finished a task assigned by his boss for more than 3 hours. As for you, you have a date tonight, but your report is not finished yet, so you run to him and ask him for help, you think it is not a big deal, he will definitely help you.

As a result, he rejected you. You don't understand, maybe you're angry because of this, 'What's this?'

But if you think about it, oh, he may be tired because he can't do it, after all, he has been doing it for more than 3 hours. This is the benefit of empathy. Isn't it reduced the conflict between you?!

If you don't know he's been for 3 hours, maybe you'll wonder if he hates me. So, I said earlier that you must empathize based on what you see directly, on the surface, on the basis of the obvious.

Speaking of which, let's take the question from the beginning. Empathy only makes sense if it benefits each other. Some people say that I have learned to empathize, so I can know what the other person is thinking and what I am going to do.

Sounds good. But I can only be honest, I never risk the relationship I have built up with others, what about you.

Empathy is a way to understand others, not to guess what others are doing. It is a technique to make both sides better.

Consider the other person's situation, personality, background. Knowing this, you can probably get the other party's psychological state at that time. Of course, this requires a certain amount of psychological knowledge and understanding of the other party.

In the Qin period, the bright moon and the Han period, the Long March has not been returned.