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Children should be allowed to take care of themselves, and the situation in my family is almost the same, my mother told me that children should be nurtured from an early age, self-reliant, and slowly learn how to live.
Actually, children and work are both important, but you should accompany them as soon as you are free. Otherwise, for the child, he will feel that his mother does not care about him. I used to think this way, but not now, from my point of view as a child, it is that my mother works very hard, and I have to take care of myself and not let my mother worry about it.
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In fact, the best thing is to get along well with your mother-in-law, everyone is a woman, all are women with children, in fact, getting along well is not a problem, because there are too many considerations, so everything is difficult. The more grateful people are, the more they will receive. If you give up your job, you don't have the source of self-reliance, and you may not be respected.
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In fact, work is very important, without work there is no self, and there is no self-fulfillment, but for the sake of children, you must have sacrifices, for the mother-in-law you have to learn to endure, after all, it is your husband's mother, children, family, and work complement each other, none of which can be lost, in order to have them all, you must try to understand your mother-in-law and learn to get along.
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This question is indeed a headache! But I believe you already have the answer, just don't want to do that, I personally think that children are important, children are easy to be affected by the outside world during their growth, and parents urgently need to teach them in time! After answering, alas, in fact, you don't have to listen to me, I'm also a half-old child!
I don't know much.
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If your husband's salary is enough to support you, take care of the children in the first few years. The child's initial cognition is the most important, and the elderly have a bad relationship with the child after all. Let's wait until the child goes to kindergarten before working...
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For many women, marriage is a very important thing, because many things will change after marriage, and women also regard marriage as very important. So do you think that after a woman gets married, is it important to take care of children or work?
It can be said that a woman's life is generally focused on her work and children. Because the two most important identities of a mother are professionals and mothers, family and career are very important for women, but every woman has a different status for family and career. Therefore, some women tend to change their attitudes and ideas after marriage, thinking that taking care of children is more important than work, which is a normal thinking of a mother, and it is also something that many mothers will do.
But I think that for a woman, taking care of children and working are very important things, because now the concept of thinking is very open, women are not tools for taking care of children, and work is equally important. So I personally think that it is more important for a woman to work after marriage than to take care of children.
I think career is a very important thing for both men and women. So for women, career is just as important, but taking care of children is just as important. Therefore, after a woman gets married, she should find a way to balance her children with her work.
When there is no way, you should also choose to put your work first. Therefore, I think it is more important for women to work after they get married, because with a job, they can have a stable economy and be able to take care of children better. So I think work is more important for women when they get married.
To sum up, after a woman gets married, I think that children are as important as work, but relatively speaking, work is more important, because if there is no work, there is no dignity and confidence. And having a job is also a good thing for children, and they have dignity and capital, and they can also make their children grow up happier. And after marriage, a woman should also have her own economic strength, so that she can have a status in the family, so what do you think?
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After marriage, it is best to focus on children, children are the hope of the family, if a woman still wants to work, she can also do some easier work, focus on taking care of the children, if it is inconvenient for herself, you can also let the mother-in-law help take care of the children. If a woman is not career-oriented, it is better to spend more time with children. Wait until your child is older and then focus on your work.
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If a woman has her own career, I think it is more important to work, and after getting married, after giving birth to a child, give the child to her parents-in-law to take care of, and then choose to be busy with her own career, so as to give the child a better future.
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I think both are very important, but it is more important to take care of children, after all, children are the guarantee of your future.
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It is more important for a woman to take care of children after marriage. Because children, what they want most from an early age is to be with their parents, and the companyship of a mother is very beneficial to the growth and development of children.
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I think it's just as important, you can only be independent if you have your own job, and your children need to bring it yourself to rest assured, but it's too difficult, you can only choose one of them, and it's especially difficult to choose.
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I think work is more important, although children are also very important, but women should have enough financial strength and be independent.
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Summary. It is important to go to work, and a woman can take care of the children while going to work, or ask her mother-in-law or mother to take care of the children, in short, she must go out to work.
Whether it is important for a woman to take care of children or go to work is important.
It is important to go to work, and a woman can take care of the children while going to work, or ask her mother-in-law or mother to take care of the children, in short, she must go out to work.
Can you elaborate on that a little bit more?
The home is the home of the husband and wife, and the children are the children of the husband and wife, and the husband and wife should do housework and take care of the children together. If your mother-in-law or mother has time, you can ask them to help take care of the children, and if you don't have time, you can hire a reliable nanny to take care of the children. In short, it is not recommended that a woman resign to be a housewife at home in order to take care of her children, because this will derail from society, and her husband is also likely to dislike himself for not making money for the family, so as to give women a look, make women angry, and make women's lives miserable.
In this way, a woman is easy to become a yellow-faced woman, and her husband is also easy to change his mind, and in the end, his career and marriage may be empty. Marriage is not necessarily reliable, and men are the same, all women can grasp is their careers, and only their careers will not betray themselves. Therefore, women can not give up their careers at any time, so that even if the marriage changes and the man leaves us, the woman can still live well.
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It is definitely better for women to go out to work, taking care of children at home will only lose themselves, personal value will not be reflected, and they will not be understood and respected by others, only the money earned by themselves will be more down-to-earth, and women will be allowed to have their own lives.
In my opinion, even after a woman gets married, she should have a job of her own, although taking care of children at home is a way of life, but only when you go out to work can you bring security to your life and let yourself gain freedom. If a woman takes care of her children at home for a long time, she will gradually detach herself from society, and let herself become a source of gains and losses, and since then the children have become the whole of her life.
As a woman, you should have your own job, only in this way will you achieve financial independence, be upright when spending money on things, don't need to look at anyone's face, and will also improve your family status. Stay-at-home mothers are not as easy as imagined, many times they will be incomprehensible and disrespected by others, and will be blamed by the other party, only by going out to work will their economic status be improved, and their family status will be stabilized. Women at work are the most attractive, and they can be guaranteed to be independent-minded, allowing them to have their own circle and life, and not so that children become all of life, so that they can't see the beauty of life at all, and will only make their thinking narrow.
Now is a society where men and women are equal, and only when women go out to work will they see more of the beauty of life, rather than being limited to a scope, and will make the other party not see their own value. A woman is at home with children, which means that she needs to reach out to the other party to ask for money, which will make you feel cramped and uneasy, and after a long time, the other party will feel that she is worthless, which is not necessary in my opinion.
Women should struggle in their careers, so that they can ensure that they have their own life and circle, so that they can become more confident and brave, achieve financial independence, and gain the understanding of their families.
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It must be out to work, because independent women will be more confident, financially independent, and will make themselves better.
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Under the premise that the economic conditions allow, the woman can accompany the child at home, and the economic conditions here allow that even if the woman does not go out to work, the material level of the family will not decline
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Work, because you won't be looked down upon and you can support yourself. People won't say you're eating rice.
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I would choose to take care of my own children, anyway, find an 8-to-5 job that doesn't pay very well, so it's easy and I can take care of my own children.
In fact, with the development of society, there are few young people who let the elderly take care of their children, because the old people themselves are so old, they should not fall into the cycle of bringing children from generation to generation, and the old people with children, then they must live with you, otherwise you are also very careful, but if you live together, there will be contradictions, and if you don't handle the contradictions well, it will affect your feelings and life. We make money for a better life, otherwise it is useless to make more money, and it is difficult to take care of children for only a few years, and it will be easier later.
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If you can, it is better for the couple to take care of the children together, which is more suitable.
Regardless of whether there is help from the elderly, as parents should try their best to educate their children and participate in the growth of their children, we as parents bring our children into the world, we are the first responsible person for raising children, and most of us are ordinary people, what is the importance of our happiness when we are forty or fifty years old? It's not about a house, a car and savings, but when you're forty or fifty years old, your children are developing well in school or work, and we don't have to worry too much about our children's future.
Therefore, with or without the help of the elderly, we should be a learning parent, participate in the growth of the child, and find a less busy job.
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As a working woman, it should be best to let the elderly bring it, because after all, it is very busy, of course, it is better to bring it yourself, but under normal circumstances, it should be impossible to bring it when it is busy.
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Whether it is a working woman or an ordinary working woman, you should choose to take care of your own children. There is a lot of difference between the ideology of the elderly and the ideas of young people, the elderly will pamper and spoil their children, and they will spoil their children with a lot of temper, and the children they bring out are smarter and more sensible.
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As a working woman, I will choose to take care of my own children, the children I bring out are sensible and know a lot of things, the old people's ideas are different from those of young people, and the children brought out by the old people will be the same as the old people's thoughts.
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Every parent will be very happy and feel a sense of accomplishment when they see their children grow up bit by bit. But some parents have to continue working until their children are older. This is also the child to let his old man take it.
Nowadays, the elderly are very spoiled by their children, and parents are afraid that they will get some bad habits after being handed over to the elderly. But the elderly in the family take care of the children more carefully than themselves.
1.If the child is breastfeeding, it is recommended that the child bring the child by himself, because the baby drinks breast milk, which helps the baby's physical development.
2.It is best to bring it yourself, and you can bring your own children to grow up by your side, and you can see what shortcomings exist in your children, and you can let your children correct them in time.
3.Most of today's children are only children, so they naturally become the family"Wang"。The family members love their children very well, especially the elderly"Treasure in the palm of your hand"。
It is easy to accommodate children, as long as the children have needs, they will unconditionally strive to meet as much as possible, even if the children make unreasonable demands, the elderly will rely on the children without hesitation. Slowly, the child understands his place in the family. Everything is self-centered, and as long as the goal is not achieved, he will lose his temper or cry to threaten the old man to satisfy his own demands.
In the end, the old man's love evolved into doting.
Advantages and disadvantages of the elderly with children.
1.Whatever your child can do, try to let your child do it on his own. In this way, children's independence and self-care ability can be cultivated, but in the eyes of the elderly, children are children, and they like to help children complete everything. Let the child get used to the life of opening his mouth and stretching his hand for food.
2.Children are more attentive and patient than young people. It can detect the child's physical discomfort in time.
3.The old man's love for his grandchildren is the same as the parents' love for their children. But there is a big difference in the way old people love each other.
The old man loves his grandson partially"Kindness", parents love their children partially"Strict teaching"。In many cases, parents will properly discipline their children, and the elderly will also protect and obstruct them. In the end, it evolved into a battle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
In general, it is better to bring your own children, and the elderly at home with their children are indeed more careful and careful than young mothers. But will pamper the child. This kind of pampering can evolve into doting, which is very bad for the child's development.
In this way, the child will become more and more disobedient and will become very selfish.
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