What should parents do for children who are highly dependent?

Slowly cultivating its independence takes time and has to be done in a good way.

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Nowadays, many children are like a canary at home, protected and doted on by several parents, and slowly lose the opportunity and ability to survive independently. Many children are too well protected by their parents when they were young, so they lack independence, are overly dependent on their parents, and parents help their children do everything well, so children do not have the ability to deal with things by themselves, and they will only retreat when they encounter anything. Therefore, for this kind of dependent children, parents must take certain methods to educate their children and cultivate their independence.

The reason why children have a strong sense of dependence is due to the usual doting of parents, children will often reach out in front of their clothes at home, open their mouths when they eat, and if they lack independence, they will not be able to face the ups and downs outside after going out. And if the parents are always thoughtful, the child will lack life experience when the child grows up, and will not have the ability to take care of himself and lack independence, and will always rely on his parents when he grows up, unable to be self-reliant.

When the child encounters difficulties, parents should not help the child at the first time, but let the child find a way to do it himself, so that the child does not bow his head in the face of difficulties and does not retreat from the good habit, in the face of his own mistakes to learn to be responsible, do not count on parents for everything. When the child encounters more setbacks and difficulties, and solves things on his own many times, he gradually becomes independent.

Sometimes children don't want to rely too much on their parents and want to be independent, but parents always spoil their children, feeling that their children have no ability to survive and can't do anything, so they always protect their children very well. If parents want their children to be self-reliant and self-reliant in the future, they must learn to let go boldly, let the children develop freely, and give the children more space to play.

Parents should let go appropriately, never spoil their children too much, do not interfere too much with their children's thoughts and decisions, and should cultivate their children's independence and self-care ability.

First of all, we should tell your child about the disadvantages of being too dependent, then enhance your child's self-confidence, and then let your child do some things independently, so that you can get rid of your child's bad habits.

Children must be educated, parents cannot be with their children forever, and when there is a need for something, children should be allowed to face it themselves.

Parents should not spoil their children too much, and must cultivate their children's independence, so that it is fine.

For children's dependence, the key depends on age. If it is a young child, it is normal to rely on parents. And as a mother, I really enjoy the feeling of being needed by my own child! In the parent-child relationship, this strong family affection makes people extremely happy!

A little life comes because of you, she loves you very much and can't do without you, this huge sense of happiness can only be felt by parents. When she laughs and calls Mom and Dad, runs, pounces on your arms and kisses you, it feels like the fatigue of the day is gone! I feel that giving birth to a child and taking care of a child, no matter how hard and tired it is, it is worth it!

It is very rewarding to participate in the growth of a life!

But if parents dote on their children too much, causing their children to be overly pampered, and the bear parents bring out a bear child, it is a big mistake! Correcting these mistakes requires more effort and time than cultivating them. Some habits of dependence are that parents are unwilling to let go.

Therefore, if you want to get rid of your child's shortcomings and bad habits, you must start with your parents. Parents should be willing to let their children be independent, rather than doing everything for them, and take care of them. The child is the photocopy and the parent is the original.

If there is a problem, parents should find their own reasons first!

In educating children, the whole family should have the same idea, cultivate children to start little by little, and build up self-confidence for children. For example, start with the child's toys, let the child put away the toys that he can't play, eat by himself, dress himself, etc. Be sure not to see that the child is not doing well, and the adults will yell and lose their temper with emotions, or say something accusatory to the child, which is very detrimental to the child's growth.

If you don't want your child to be dependent, let them keep trying. In the process of trying, the child will be in a hurry, and it will be thousands of miles away from our standards. At this time, you should not meddle because you can't stand the child's chaos, but you should quietly observe and then instruct.

If we intervene, it will frustrate the children and discourage them. The process of growth is irreversible, and I am very reluctant to let my child grow up! While she is still small, soft, and moving, hug and kiss more.

When they grow up, they can't hold them if they want to, and they won't be allowed to hug them if they want to.

When they grow up, they will have a life of their own. And we can only send, tears, blessings, let go, don't chase!

First of all, we should reason with the child, and at the same time tell him the disadvantages of dependence, and secondly, exercise the child's ability to be independent, and then correct and guide the child in time when encountering problems, so that the education will be better.

It should be educated reasonably, and the child's dependence should also be reduced, and the child should not be spoiled, and the child's homework should be checked and a learning goal should be set for the child.

The first is to cultivate children's sense of self-reliance, and must improve children's hands-on ability, and must let children be exposed to some setbacks or difficulties, as well as failures, and when children solve problems, parents can provide some suggestions or help.

1. Don't be overly protective. Whatever is within the child's ability, let him do it himself.

2. Let the child deal with his own big things. Children unconsciously develop independent personalities when dealing with these things.

3. Let your child do some housework that is within his ability. In this way, not only can the child's independence be cultivated, but also the child can be more responsible.

4. Be patient, children's independence not only depends on the maturity of physical and mental development, but also depends on acquired learning. Therefore, parents must be patient and must not be in a hurry and deprive their children of the opportunity to learn.

The above content is provided by experts from China Education Group.

To do a good job in parent-child communication, we need to pay attention to seven points.

1. Ask more open-ended questions to understand the real needs of children;

2. Less preaching, more demonstration, and being a good example for children;

3. Criticize less, encourage more, and tell children more what to do, instead of telling children what they should not do;

4. Say less "no" to yourself and seek alternative ways of expression; 5. Don't criticize your child and say "no" from time to time;

6. Turn tasks into games.

7. Make more requests in a limited way of choice.

The above content is provided by experts from China Education Group.

Don't often deny some of your child's ideas, try to think about problems and look at them according to their thinking patterns. Don't ask them about what they think is a sensitive topic: if they are looking for a partner at school.

Is there a fight at school this week, etc. And don't always tell them about your own life experience, to educate them to work hard or something. This will make them bored.

Then it's a matter of finding something that your child enjoys and communicating it to them. Slowly, your child will like to communicate with you. When communicating, be funny, don't be very serious, like examining a prisoner.

1. Ask more open-ended questions to understand the real needs of children;

2. Less preaching, more demonstration, and being a good example for children;

3. Criticize less, encourage more, and tell children more what to do, instead of telling children what they should not do;

4. Say less "no" to yourself and seek alternative ways of expression; 5. Don't criticize your child and say "no" from time to time;

6. Turn tasks into games.

7. Make more requests in a limited way of choice.

The above content is provided by experts from China Education Group.

Support your child's decision, don't just oppose your child.

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