If you want to take the initiative to contact an unfamiliar elder, how can you open your mouth?

When I have free time, I often go to chat with old leaders, high school teachers, and elders. Chatting with old comrades is a very interesting thing, as long as the conversation box is opened, it is basically a living history of a bygone era.

The elders have their own life experience, and we can learn a lot of experiences from them that are different from book knowledge by chatting and communicating with them, and we can feel the warmth and coldness of the world and the variety of things in the world.

Before visiting old leaders and teachers, you must make an appointment first. Inform yourself of your arrangements and ask the veteran comrades how they are in good health recently and whether it is convenient for them to go. Because the old leaders, teachers, and elders are all very good-looking, old age and decay are the natural law.

They always want to show their bright side, and if they are not in good spirits, they must not go.

If you want to go, it is generally best to visit around 3 p.m. At this time, the old man has just taken a nap, and his interest will be relatively high.

It is best not to visit old leaders, teachers, and elders empty-handed, and it is best to buy some seasonal fruits, suitable for the elderly. It is not advisable to give gifts unless the elderly have been consulted in advance, because it is not known whether the elderly have contraindications.

After arriving, say more auspicious words, and ask questions in a timely manner depending on the physical condition of the elderly, but be sure to talk less and listen more, and do not interrupt the elderly. It is best to sit next to or across from the elderly person when talking, and if the elderly person is bedridden, generally do not sit on the edge of the bed or lean too close to each other unless allowed. You should also pay special attention to your sitting posture, with your legs together and your upper body leaning forward.

Keep your eyes on each other and nod and smile from time to time. Don't rummage through your phone or be careless.

The topic of conversation must be joyful and healthy. Don't talk about sadness or "walking in the wheat city". The old man is good at mentioning the mighty and commendable things of his youth.

All you have to do is bring up the stubble and let them follow along. As long as the old man is happy, it is good. It is best to control the time in about an hour, and the elderly will be tired after a long time.

If you are an unfamiliar elder, you should do your homework before you go and have an understanding of the elderly's experience to avoid abrupt conversations.

Offend. In short, when chatting with leaders, teachers or elders, you must be humble, courteous and respectful. Loving and respecting the elderly is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation.

Say hello to him first, and then ask him about his recent life and physical condition, so that he can feel that you care about him.

It's okay to speak directly, because as an elder, you are actually very tolerant and tolerant of your juniors, so that you are particularly scheming, but it will cause the other party's disgust.

First of all, of course, be polite; The second is to tell who you are first, because you are not familiar with it, so it is important to tell yourself who you are first; There is also the reason for contacting the elders this time to make it clear.

You can send the name of your elders, which is a very polite opening, or you can send an emoji, which is okay.

You can affectionately call the identity of the elders, the elders still feel the same way about the juniors, as long as you call them closer, he will still pay attention to you.

Start by addressing the other person with humility and then state your purpose. I also feel very respectful of each other.

When you speak, you should first call out the elder's title, so that the elder will feel very respectful of him, and immediately tell the elder that he has something to do with him.

At this time, you can take the initiative to say hello, and you can also ask if the other party is not there, and you can also ask the other party about their recent status first, and you can also talk about your recent life.

Just hit ** directly. First of all, tell yourself who you are, ask him about his recent situation, and find him what is going on.

You can first ask for warmth, or you can send some gifts to the other party, and you can ask the other party about their recent living status.

First of all, we must find our own reasons, pay more attention to the life and physical condition of our in-laws, we should love birds and houses, or take the initiative to go back to accompany our in-laws for the New Year, the family is happy, I hope you understand the reason. The in-laws didn't call you, you must have had it with your husband, but it's just "in-laws", there's nothing to tangle and figure it out, didn't you take the initiative to greet the second elder.

No matter what occupation the old man is, if he doesn't contact him for half a year, it means that your relationship is very stiff, if the retired grandparents don't come to see their grandchildren, then they must have a lot of resentment in their hearts. It can be seen that the two of you are not good to the old man. Want to celebrate the New Year with them?

For normal people, of course, they should be reunited with their parents for the New Year, but you are such an unfilial couple, and you can't spend the New Year with them.

As soon as I looked at this topic, it made people, as a junior, take the initiative to greet the elderly, have you done it? If your husband is replaced by me, I will divorce you first, of course, your husband doesn't know what kind of person he is. Today is the New Year, and my son and daughter-in-law came back to cook for us.

Actually, I'm glad to see them back. I thought that the children don't come back often, and I want to make them something delicious when I come back today. The daughter-in-law and her son rushed to cook.

I'm so happy. <

Don't pick any in-laws who don't call you for half a year, and you don't serve much when you have children, there must be reasons for them. I want to ask, have you ever taken the initiative to call your in-laws? Ever cared about them?

Don't say that your husband has already beaten them and cared about them, your husband is just their son, and you are a daughter-in-law, and his obligations cannot replace you. You can't turn your mind around, and it's difficult to let your in-laws bow down in front of you, depending on what your in-laws mean. Don't force it together, out of sight, out of mind, just do it yourself.

You also have old times, and by then, you will have a taste. As soon as I looked at this topic, it made people, as a junior, take the initiative to greet the elderly, have you done it? If your husband is replaced by me, I will divorce you first, of course, your husband doesn't know what kind of person he is.

In fact, you can contact directly, after all, it is your elders, if you take the initiative to contact, you will definitely be very happy, and the feeling for you is definitely different, you can say that you haven't seen him for a long time, so you will come to visit him.

I think you should take the initiative to get close, and then care more about the other person, ask more about the other person's health, or bring some gifts to visit the other person's home.

If you want to contact, it is best to contact through your parents, and you can only contact you by taking a line in the middle, otherwise your parents will not pay attention to you.

It is polite to contact the family of the elders. This will also leave a good impression on the elders.