Educating babies can t always be praised, what is more appropriate?

Blindly praising children does not necessarily make children better and better, and reasonable family education is never blindly praise or criticism. Now parents are probably criticized to grow up, recalling their childhood, they always feel that under the criticism of education, they suppressed their nature and were unhappy, so that now when they think back to their childhood, those words of criticism are always recalled in their ears, and then they recite silently in their hearts a hundred times: their children must not criticize education like this, so what is the other side of criticism, that is, praise.

However, does compliments make children better and better? Not necessarily.

First of all, a compliment from one person will make the child flutter and unable to withstand the blow. Children who have been praised for a long time will feel that they are great, and they should do well in various activities and receive praise from teachers and classmates. Imagine, in school life, the teacher is facing dozens of classmates, do you want everyone to praise it, then it is too difficult for the teacher to feel embarrassed.

In this case, once the child does not get the praise he wants in his heart, he will have a sense of loss in his heart, and even deny himself from the heart, which must be contrary to the original intention of the parents. Once a child denies himself, the child will not get better and better, but will get worse and worse.

Secondly, in Adlerian psychology, praise is a behavior of superiors to subordinates. Although parents play an educational and guiding role in the growth stage of their children, such praise will make children rely on this kind of praise for the parent-child relationship, and they will blindly do things that parents cannot imagine because of the expectation of this kind of praise.

Finally, a good home education must be peaceful coexistence with the child. Today's children are smart, receptive, and there is a lot of information from the outside world, how to play a better role in educating and guiding children's growth, it must be based on a full understanding of children's ideas. Therefore, to truly establish an equal relationship with the child, it is not only praise, nor excessive criticism, it is best to become an intimate relationship with the child like a friend, and guide the child correctly in communication.

On this basis, the child will definitely get better and better!

The baby should praise and encourage more good things, criticize the things that are poor, and give ways to improve, so as to educate the baby well.

I think that in the process of educating the baby, there should be half of the reward and half of the punishment. When the child behaves well or is a little frustrated, we can give the child appropriate praise so that the child can have courage and confidence. However, when the child's performance is not good, we should not praise and encourage, but let the child know that it is not right to do so.

It is true that educating babies cannot always be praised, but also let children be criticized, but we must pay attention to the way of praise and criticism. At the same time, praise should be more specific.

When the baby does something wrong, we should also criticize and educate him so that he can realize his mistakes.

Use both rewards and punishments, praise for doing well but don't praise excessively, the child will be easily proud, but there should also be a little punishment when he does something wrong, so that he realizes that he can't make the same mistake again.

Praise can be praised, but it depends on how to praise, and there must be specificity when praise, for example, baby, you helped mom get a spoon, awesome! Let the baby know that he is doing well and not doing well.

Appropriate can establish some reward and punishment system, and after the child does something wrong, the child must be punished accordingly, for example, the child can go to the punishment station, and then you can also reduce the time the child watches cartoons.

It is necessary to pay attention to the degree of praise, and at the same time, we should also pay attention to the education and criticism of the baby, so that the baby can establish a double-sided consciousness, and pay attention to the method of rewarding and punishing.

There is praise and punishment, punishment can be carried out in a reinforced way, do not physically punish the baby, this is the best way.

When the child completes a task, praise the child for doing a very good job, have a serious attitude, have patience, and encourage the child to complete a more difficult task next time.

When educating children, you can't always praise children, but criticize them appropriately, so that children know that there is a price to pay for making mistakes. And today's parents are very monotonous when they look at their children. Long-term praise will make children afraid of losing to others, and they will not dare to accept challenges.

Because they feel that they are born with intelligence, and because they are smart, they will be praised, so if they want to maintain this intelligence all the time, they must avoid accepting challenges, so that they will not be looked down upon by others.

If the child does something easy to complete, parents will praise the child, such praise will cause the child to feel that praise is a very common thing, for example, the child will clap his hands, the parent will praise the child, such a high frequency of praise, but let the praise of the incentive gradually become lower. Children have a scale in their hearts, because they know that what they are doing is not difficult, and they will only feel it if they praise them for what they have done with hard work.

But if parents will praise them for something that is easily done, they will be particularly confused, and they will think that the praise of parents is a very fake thing. Slowly, they will be immune to the praise of their parents, and they will think that their parents are a visionless existence, and they do not know how to appreciate or how to get along with them. Therefore, parents should improve and not praise their children's education excessively.

Children are inherently particularly interested in things, otherwise they will be corrupted under this wrong educational environment. And I think that if you want your child to be obedient and obedient, parents must learn to seek truth from facts. What a child does right is right, and what is wrong is wrong.

If it is not done well, parents can encourage their children and let them continue to work hard next time. Don't blindly praise the child, otherwise the child will slowly lose himself in this kind of praise and praise.

Usually stop when educating the baby, Chi Xian first of all, we should comment on specific things, don't often praise the baby, and don't often scold the baby, the two should be combined, so that the education code will imitate the excellent child, and the child will not be inferior or conceited.

You can give some rewards appropriately, and of course, you can also encourage the baby to do better. We can also do one thing with the baby's filial piety, give the baby a more sense of security, and give the baby more companionship. This may be the most appropriate to do.

Criticize the baby when he does something wrong, praise him when he does the right thing, and don't praise the baby often.

One way we are used to compliments is that children are smart. However, the children's acquired efforts do not change the quality of the praise. Praise in this way all the time can cause children to be afraid of failure and afraid to accept challenges in the long run.

Because she thought my intelligence was innate, and I was praised for my intelligence. What I'm going to do is avoid challenges and anything that makes me not smart.

This is the most crucial rule of compliment. The next time you're not sure if your baby's praise is right, ask yourself this question. Can I control and change my baby's content?

It is better to praise a child's intelligence than to praise her efforts and wisdom, and the child's efforts and wisdom can be improved the day after tomorrow. We are also used to praising in very general terms. It's a good picture!

With such praise, children don't know what they are being praised for, so they don't know where they want to work in the future. So, we can say that I like the posture of holding the pen while you are drawing. This is very standard, so that the child will know that it is my pen holding posture that is being praised.

Then the next time I draw, I need to keep this position in the position of holding the pen.

Some parents praise their children in three sentences. They will praise their children for doing something very ordinary. Wow, babies are going to clap their hands.

That's great! It's good for babies!. Such frequent compliments actually dilute the motivation for compliments.

Many parents often praise their children to encourage their children. In fact, this is not very inappropriate. Many parents praise their children's careers, regardless of the rightness and importance of things.

This is blind praise.

Under such praise, educated children are often conceited and even impolite. Careful praise. Of course, some parents will give their children appropriate praise, but they often ignore the lack of detailed praise.

I'm sure many parents have said something like that. They did well in school today! That's great!

Such words may seem like a compliment, but they are actually perfunctory performances of the child and may continue the child's wrong practices.

Reward and punish well, reward if you do well, and punish if you don't do well, so that children know what to do and what not to do.

It is also necessary to hit the child appropriately, so that he has a psychological balance, so that he will not be proud, he can maintain his original intention, and his emotions will not be down, which is more appropriate.

Although it is said that good children will show off, no one has made it clear how to show off. Today the babysitter shared six little cheats. Can't the child only praise unconditionally, no, the more he learns these six points, the more he exaggerates and suggests the director.

A compliment that matches the facts. We praise the child for having to be in line with the facts. If you praise for the sake of compliment, the child can make an effort to get compliment.

Exaggerating the facts and praising the child will make the child arrogant. For example, when the children are all old and eats by themselves, the family will praise him.

Concrete praise is to the point. Many parents and friends always say when they praise their children for accompanying Zhizhi, "You are amazing!

Say. Words like this. While these words do have a complimentary effect and can guide children forward, there are drawbacks to this.

Children don't understand what they're doing well and what kind of behavior will get different results. Children are likely to think that they are smarter than others and have good congenital conditions, so they can be praised.

You don't have to try, of course, sometimes habitually speaking. Great, click don't worry about this compliment, add again, for the child, what is your compliment to him for his performance, specifically to praise the child, so that the child can let the parents see his efforts and know what to do next. Timely compliments.

When we notice a change in the child's good aspects, we should praise him in time and affirm what he has done. In this way, the child will be emotionally satisfied, and if he procrastinates, the child's satisfaction will decrease, or there will be no immediate satisfaction, resulting in the child not being encouraged.

Praise with a high degree of relaxation, parents can't just praise their children. To criticize appropriately, to have "objective evaluation and criticism", the praise that the child receives is more meaningful to him. Moreover, criticism is also a manifestation of love for him.

Be sure to pay attention to reasonable criticism, not exaggerate, and not have negative emotions based on facts. This kind of criticism is acceptable to children. Can't a child just praise unconditionally?

No! The more you learn these six points, the more you praise "getting ahead"! Suggest the director.

Be sure to praise the child for specific things, don't just praise the child, and after praising the child, you can make the child work harder.

If the child does it right, parents can reward and praise it, but if the child does it wrong, the parents should punish it, and this kind of education is the most appropriate.

After the child does something wrong, he must choose to punish or educate the child, and you can also communicate with the child, you can choose to buy gifts or toys and snacks for the child.

It is necessary to praise the child after the child has made some good performances, and when praising it, it should also be noted that it is consistent with the child's situation, and the praise of the pure cherry blossoms should be appropriately returned.

When a child does something particularly worthy of praise, he must praise him, not too often, and he should laugh early about this matter, and focus on praising one point. Ascending.

Parents should encourage and praise their children when they are doing the right thing, but if they do something particularly inappropriate, they should punish them immediately.

Nothing is absolute. Praise your children should also be moderate, don't blindly praise and praise. Right is right, wrong is wrong, can't do wrong things to praise, right and wrong are not distinguished, isn't this encouraging children to continue to do wrong things?

If you make a mistake once, make a mistake twice, make a mistake again and again, and then your parents will criticize and correct it, it will be too late.

Parents' education of their children should be based on praise, but they should pay attention to ways and means.

First, when a child behaves well, he must be praised. When the child does something right and does it well, the parent sends a message of "you are awesome, continue to carry it forward". Undoubtedly, injecting a stimulant into a child will motivate the child to continue to work hard and perform better.

The second is to give encouragement when the child is not doing things well enough. "Child, you will do well, parents believe in you, continue to work hard, and keep doing it." This is to cheer and cheer up the child before the manuscript is read, so that the child can muster up courage and be full of confidence in victory.

The third is that when children do something wrong, they must be criticized. When a child does something wrong, parents must correct it and let him know what is wrong and what is wrong? But be careful not to use rough language and don't scold, otherwise, the child will lose confidence and achieve nothing.

Parents should be good at appreciating their children, try to see as many advantages as possible, and do not compare their children's shortcomings with the advantages of other children. Advocate more praise but do it: encourage in praise, praise in encouragement, and criticize in encouragement.

Don't praise just for the sake of praise, so that the child can't stand the frustration and be more willful.

Everyone needs affirmation and praise, especially children, healthy, positive, high-lead, self-confident and sunny character, words and deeds are formed in positive education and encouragement and praise, it is impossible to imagine how a child who is in the midst of reprimanding, reproaching, belittling or hypocrisy can be positive and sunny. Some parenting articles just lack positive opinions, and it is irresponsible to rely on some sensationalizing and extreme negative views or exaggerating certain shortcomings. Children are the key to hope and the future, with more positive guidance and less negative utilitarian indoctrination.