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In the face of the death of a loved one, self-blame is a thought that each of us has. I always feel that if I could have done something before, maybe the result would have been different. In fact, it is also to escape from facing a cruel truth, that is, the world.
Some things are completely out of our control. Even if it's going back in time.
You change, but the results don't change either.
I believe you understand the truth, but your heart refuses to accept it, so you can't let go of it for three years, and even have depression. You blame yourself, you blame your boyfriend, maybe it's a way to turn the attack around. Sometimes we also find that we also blame our deceased loved ones for why they left us behind and caused us so much pain.
But this kind of blame cannot be spoken, and only more reasonable people can be blamed. But our sadness will not be diminished by constantly blaming ourselves.
There are eight hardships in life, and life and death are the most bitter. It is not easy to accept that these wounds not only take a big toll on our hearts, but also cause other wounds that we thought we had buried in our early years to erupt together. It's like your current situation, you've been trapped in it, and your mental condition is getting worse and worse.
At this time, Zhihu.
The persuasive effect will not be great, so it is recommended to receive professional help from psychological counseling.
I can understand the psychological pressure and guilt of the subject, but I don't have to be too stubborn, I am strong as a mother, and for the sake of my children, please look forward.
Let's put it this way, the longer you work in the clinic, the more you believe that it is all fate.
Certainly not feudal superstition.
of the kind. It's that we're too small now, and a lot of what you think will happen is just what you think, and the so-called laws we understand are often just a probability. Two patients with the same tumor of the same age, with the same **, that is, one person died quickly, and one person lived for more than ten years and was still alive; Some people smoke and drink alcohol and live to be more than 90 in their lives, and some people die suddenly if they don't smoke or drink in their thirties or forties.
Of course, people can't compete with the process of history, but at least they can live in the present with their hearts, so as not to waste the life and kindness given by their mother.
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Live your own life and take care of your family. Especially his own family, he pinned his feelings for his mother on the family members who are still alive, and redoubled his kindness to them. Because you have to believe in your mother, you also want you to live well, you live well, and it is also a comfort to your deceased mother.
In addition, you can also go to your mother's grave to complain about some of your achievements and some of your inner pain, confide in them, and release your guilt for your mother.
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Although your mother is gone, but she hopes that you can live a good life This kind of pain is always inevitable But don't forget that you still have your father You have to make yourself stronger now Work hard Accumulate your own economic foundation With savings, you have more confidence and self-confidence Life will continue to move forward in the end You can't change the past You can do is to make your family have a bright future Your parents also want you to live a happier life Be kind to yourself and treat your father It is also your responsibility to live happily.
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When your mother died, you blame yourself and feel guilty, and you want to come out, so you have to adjust your emotions as soon as possible.
You can give yourself some time to adjust and recover.
You can write a letter to your mother, or pay tribute to your mother, to express your feelings of longing and guilt.
You can take your mother's ** and look at it when you miss it, so that you will feel that your mother is by your side.
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After your mother passed away, you blame yourself and feel guilty, and the best way to get out of it is to correct this mistake and then face the living relatives correctly. Because there is no regret medicine in the world, you can only keep changing yourself to make yourself less entangled.
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When a mother dies, the children are of course sad. But you have to be strong in the face, birth, old age, sickness and death are natural laws, so you don't have to blame yourself and feel guilty, remember to go to the sacrifice on the Qingming Festival. Participate in more social activities and do more meaningful things. It's a comfort to mom!
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Rites of passage. It's something that everybody has to go through. What do you mean by self-blame and guilt?
It's because of you, your mother, who died. If it's a man, he'll live as a human being. Do something that contributes to the country.
Be happy every day. Only in this way can you come out.
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Birth, old age, sickness and death are natural laws, if you do not fulfill your filial piety, you will blame yourself and feel guilty. Now I thought it was a. Only when you come out and live yourself well can you be worthy of your deceased mother. Your deceased mom won't blame you, it in heaven will wish you well.
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Participate in more social activities, make some close friends, and gradually come out of your sadness.
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Our people are gone after all, and the people who are alive, no matter how they move, they feel guilty, they are pre-impulsive, Lu Yusheng has to live, this is life.
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Attend 1 sale of some networking events. Make more friends, talk about your heart, and slowly get rid of your grief.
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Friend, I empathize with your feelings, my father just died in a car accident, but as long as you do your best, you have done what your children should do, don't feel too guilty, although your mother is gone, but you still have many relatives, they all need you, people can't be resurrected after death, you should put it in your heart in the past, don't think too much, everything looks forward, your mother is the same you are doing well.
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Hello, first of all, I want to tell myself that my mother wants me to be happy every day. Parents always want their children to be happy every day, even if the mother is gone, but its love will always accompany you to grow up.
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Mom, in fact, I blame myself, I feel guilty, children don't have to feel guilty, because there is no such thing as loyalty and filial piety in the world, maybe you are because you can't come back from other places, so your mother died, you can still do this, we will also understand you.
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The horse died, I blamed myself, I was very sick, I was very sick, how could I come out? I think about it, don't think about it, don't think about the strength of the horse, it's good, it's good, it's already gone, you think about his bad things, so you forget about the horse and the horse, and forget all these things.
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Everyone has birth, old age, sickness and death, and your mother's death was not caused by you, so don't blame yourself. Your mother wants you to live happily ever after, and the most important thing is that you live well.
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I blame myself and feel guilty for my mother's death, how can I get out? I think your mother has passed away, and it is useless to feel guilty and blame yourself, I hope you will come out of your grief and face life strongly, which is also your mother's wish in the spirit of heaven.
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In fact, I think that since your mother is gone, you don't need to worry so much, just live a good life.
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The death of the elderly, as a child, is very sad, but from the perspective of children, care for the elderly, take care of the elderly, and work hard to let the elderly not worry about themselves, and there is no self-blame and guilt.
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Is it that you did not fulfill your obligation to support your mother before her death, so you blame yourself more, try to open some of it, people can't be resurrected after death, live the life in front of you!
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You can see that your mother's death has a great impact on you, and you have to believe that your mother will live a better life in heaven and start a new life.
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Being strong is the best love for your mother.
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Time is everything.
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The greatest person in the world, the first thing we think of is our mother.
Maybe you are used to having your mother's nagging when you come home after work, as well as delicious dishes cooked by your mother herself, <>
Maybe you are taken care of too much by your mother, often because of the love that your mother gives you, resulting in your mother's death, you are very self-blaming and guilty, but you have to understand that your mother wants you to live well and hope that you will get ahead, so you have to work hard to make yourself better and better, in the process of hard work, you will slowly come out, to be strong must be a man who stands up to the sky.
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I understand your pain and mood very well. The loss of a loved one is a very painful thing, especially the loss of a mother. During this process, you may experience many different emotions, including sadness, sadness, anger, self-blame, and more.
1.Accept your emotions. Don't try to suppress your emotions, but give yourself time and space to feel and process your emotions.
2.Seek support. Seek support from a family member, friend or psychologist. They can listen to you and give you advice and support.
4.Don't beat yourself up. Pain and guilt are normal emotions, but don't be overly self-blaming and remorseful when dealing with them. This will only exacerbate the pain and discomfort.
Finally, keep in mind that time will help you recover gradually. It may be hard now, but you'll come out slowly.
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People can't be resurrected after death, you blame yourself very much, there must be something sorry for your mother. But the deceased is gone, and the living still need to yearn for a sunny life.
Try not to think about your mother's affairs and do your own studies or work. Play as much as you want, eat whatever you want, like everyone else. When I miss my mother, after a short period of missing, I immediately change my thoughts. So you'll come out slowly.
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Don't deliberately think about this problem, you feel self-blame and guilt, because you haven't repaid your mother for spending more time with your mother, in fact, you don't have to blame yourself very guilty, this thing can't come out all at once, you can only slowly go through the baptism of time, you can slowly come out and go with the flow.
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I blame myself and feel guilty for my mother's death, how can I get out? This money depends on you to adjust your mental state, after all, you are in your world, it is difficult for others to pull you out, you can go outside in this situation, change the environment, maybe uh contact with some new things will slowly dilute the original memory.
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The death of my mother must be a very sad thing, although you blame yourself and feel guilty. But after all, the past is in the past, and people must look forward, don't always miss the memories and miss the past.
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People can't be resurrected after death, and self-blame and guilt are useless, you have to do something that your mother likes to do when she is alive to fulfill his last wishes. Filial piety to the living. It's the best miss for my mother.
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The death of my mother was a very sad thing. You must not blame yourself or feel guilty. You should cheer up. Change your own bad things, so that you can have a good attitude and face tomorrow.
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You can take that self-blame and filial piety to your father, and let time help you get out. If you miss it, you will miss it, do a good job in the future, treat every family member well, and wish you happiness.
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When your mother is gone, put it in your heart and miss him, his death has nothing to do with you, you have to live a good life. Make yourself more mature, work harder to meet life, and don't dwell in guilt and sadness, which is not what mom wants.
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People can't be resurrected after death, please mourn and change and die slowly, even if you blame yourself and feel guilty, you should make yourself stronger to live, you have to take a good look in this world instead of your mother.
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Hello, this friend, your mother passed away, you blame yourself very much, it is understandable, because of the death of a loved one, I feel very regretful, what if I was not in a hurry, I also regret that I usually sell him better, this mood will last for a long time. As long as I see something or something related to my mother, I think of my mother, and it will take more than a year to get better.
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Time can help you heal, if you want to come out, you have to put pressure on yourself, go to work and study, so that you don't have time to think, blame yourself, and feel guilty.
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I'm the same, after my mother left, I often dreamed of her, I always felt that she was not filial when she was alive, she gave her all, at that time I will not understand her hard work, understand that I understand that she has left, this may be the pity of the world's parents, I wish parents, filial piety to parents, the whole family is happy, healthy and happy.
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Many people have encountered this situation, that is, when their parents were alive, they did not fulfill their filial piety and felt ashamed, only if they let go of their hearts, the past will pass, it is difficult to make up for it, only in this way, so that you can come out.
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I believe that every mother wants her child to live happily, and your self-blame and guilt are not what she wants to see.
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I feel that this situation is really hurting you, because you feel that you are doing something wrong, so in this situation, I feel that you should find a psychiatrist and talk to him about your pain, and his analysis will make you let go of everything.
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Now that his mother has passed away, he will not come back if he feels guilty again. Your mother doesn't want to see you feel so uncomfortable all the time, she wants you to come out early and live a good life.
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If you want to come out, then you first have to adjust the state of the strong man to a perfect state.
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