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There are women who do not marry far away, and the children who marry far away are the children lost by their parents.
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Marry a woman from a high door, marry a woman from a low door.
Expansion, 1Those who marry far away cannot return home often; Don't think that the transportation is convenient now, you can go home often, I tell you for sure, thinking too much, the long distance, a few experiences, will make your desire to go home often gradually weaken. When I have a child, I can count the number of times I go home each year on one hand.
2.The difference in living customs makes you feel uncomfortable; Don't be naïve to think that you can adapt; For example, in the north, Xi Song takes the customs, women generally don't go to the table, basically men eat first, and it is estimated that southerners may not be able to stand it; For example, if you eat spicy, sweet, salty and other different tastes, you can't change the taste of the whole family because you are alone.
3.New life, new environment, everything starts from scratch, away from the circle of friends from childhood to adulthood, you will feel lonely, before you have no new friends, you only have your husband.
4.Husband and wife life, coupled with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, friction is inevitable, when you are wronged, you are really helpless, your parents and friends are not around, and the person you talk to is not sensitive, and you dare not tell your parents, for fear that they will worry, and you can only swallow your own suffering.
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The daughter has been married to Xinjiang for 6 years, and it is rare to see each other. Xi'an mother thought about her daughter, not far away, the first time she came to the door to secretly visit her daughter, and at the moment of opening the door, the mother and daughter hugged each other and cried into tears.
The light of the polar day.
Because I left home at a very young age, went to school and worked, and then moved to many places, I have always envied some people who live in the same city from birth to work. Parents and relatives are around, and the friends of the children and friends are also in the same place, which is convenient to move around and contact, and you can pay homage to both parents on the night of the Chinese New Year's Eve. Just like my old Xing Qihan's mother would have a Chinese New Year's Eve dinner every year, and would lead the family to my uncle's house to celebrate my grandmother's New Year.
After becoming a parent, he also has the same psychology as parents all over the world, hoping that his children will stay by his side. If you have a daughter, you will guide her early, marry far away without laughing, it is best to find a suitable partner nearby, and in the long days ahead, you can have a lot less grievances and hardships.
But when the young man insisted on his own ideas and pursuits, he could only let her go away. Fortunately, the transportation is now convenient and fast, and the high-speed rail plane has shortened the distance; On the other hand, it is easy for each family to make plans for their future life according to their own actual situation, and parents can also move to the city where their daughters live. This may be more pronounced in the northeast, where a large number of parents who have migrated south with their children have also caused a net outflow of population.
The daughter who chooses to marry far away is not unfilial to her parents, but she just doesn't want to give up the love in her heart. You should also be mentally prepared for such a choice, there are many uncertainties in your future life, and no matter what you encounter, you must bear the consequences of your choice.
Of course, the most satisfying thing is that family affection and love can be both, and when conditions permit, you still have to find a way to accompany your parents more.
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Once upon a time, the term "distant marriage" became the focus of conversation among many girls to be married, and almost all of them rejected distant marriage, or rushed to distant marriage, because of the ups and downs of this, I am afraid that only girls who have experienced it have a bad hail experience.
We often say that "filial piety comes first", parents work hard to raise their daughters, eagerly looking forward to their children to stay around, in case there is a headache and brain fever, there can be children around to take care of them in bed, but all this is a little powerless for girls who marry far away. Although the transportation is so developed now, no matter how fast the plane and high-speed rail are, they can't match the speed of their parents' aging.
The tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the child wants to raise but does not wait".
Moreover, you are a person who marries into the man's family thousands of miles away, the man loves you consistently, and it is okay to accommodate you everywhere, if he is a "mom treasure man" or a person with strong machismo thoughts, at that time, all the grievances, all the sadness I am afraid that only you will eat silently. You don't even have a person to talk to, and almost every newly married girl will encounter such as the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, conflicts between family members, etc., which are all problems that plague many girls.
But then again, it's not that all those who marry far away are not good, nor does it mean that they oppose marrying far away, if you can meet the true love of your life, it is not impossible to marry far away. But what I want to say is: when you decide to marry far away, do you think more about yourself and your parents, marriage is not a person's wishful thinking, nor is it a family matter, but is related to the happiness of two original families.
If you meet a man who is responsible, caring, and can be really good to you, he can coordinate well when there is a conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so that you will not be in a dilemma; When you are depressed and have a headache and brain fever, you are very caring, and at the same time, you also understand and understand that it is not easy for you to leave your hometown without hesitation, leave your parents, and follow him to his home thousands of miles away, rather than a few years later, when the years have smoothed your edges and corners, all your efforts have become taken for granted in his eyes.
Therefore, you need to be cautious when marrying far away, and before you meet true love, please keep your eyes open. Love is not child's play, and neither is marriage.
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If it is a married life, how to live a married life does not depend on the distance or proximity of marriage, but on the relationship between husband and wife. If it is too far away from the mother's house and it is inconvenient to go back to the mother's house, this will be a little tiring, because it is not convenient for the party to travel long distances with children after marriage, and it may be possible to see the parents once a year, but it also depends on the man's family situation. It is very difficult for a woman to marry far away, because once there is a conflict with her husband's family, no one can help her.
Once a woman marries far away, then her relationship with her mother's family is gradually estranged, and she is left with only herself. I hope that all women who are going to marry far away can think carefully and do not make decisions that they regret. For girls who marry far away:
I am alone in a familiar and unfamiliar city, and my parents and relatives are in a city with a home. Before marriage, I thought that distance was not a problem, and as long as I wanted to go back, I could go home; After marriage, you will feel that distance is the real problem; It's not like you can go back if you want to. The child is small, busy with work, short time, etc.
It's not so easy for parents to come when they're older. A girl who marries far away meets a good-tempered husband, and it is okay to be good to you; When I meet a husband with a bad temper and an unreasonable father-in-law, I can't tell the bitterness, so I can only bear it silently. The key is to meet the right person who will think about you everywhere, consider your feelings, and often accompany you home to see your parents.
Can you often go home to see your parents or look at the economic conditions, because air tickets, long-distance costs are also an expense, if the economic conditions and time allow, you can go home to see your parents, now the transportation is so convenient. Therefore, I think it is not happy to marry far away. It mainly depends on the husband!
Choose the right person, every day is a festival, there will be friction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the key depends on how the husband coordinates the relationship. There is also the fact that the economic base determines the superstructure. Poor couples mourn everything, and life is firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.
Therefore, marrying far away is not at all the standard for a constant marriage. I believe that with the progress now, more and more people are marrying far away. Some people who marry far away are very happy, but some are really not very good, so when you meet the other half of the other half of the heart outside the heart, you will inevitably think a lot, after all, it is not a place of people, and you don't know all aspects of each other, so it is difficult to decide, in fact, it is very simple, when you encounter this situation, first consider whether this person is worthy of your lifelong trust, and then consider that marrying to a different place will have the most problematic and then make a decision!
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