How do I change my husband? 5. How can I change my husband?

Let's leave, although it is said that it is better to demolish ten temples than to break a family, but looking at your description, this kind of person is not worthy of your life.

You can make a list. Similar to the approach in "Robinson Crusoe" to compare which opportunity cost is higher between divorce and endurance.

Here's how to do it: divide it into two columns.

The headings are "Divorce.""and "inseparable". The benefits of divorce can be listed below. For example, you don't have to cook for him, you don't have to wash his socks; You can write it without leaving the following, you don't have to bother to go on a blind date, someone will help you eat something leftovers.

Each item can also be assigned a coefficient according to the importance to you and the probability of whether it can be achieved, such as *5 for very important matters, *1 for general importance, and less than 1 for coefficients can not be counted. Then add up at the end to compare which is the highest.

I wish you a speedy escape from the sea of suffering!

Post-80s? Women shouldn't look for men of the same age, he hasn't grown up yet, it's useless to complain, think about it yourself, make your own decisions, others can't help you.

How could his parents do this? How can you have time to cook and take care of your children at work every day? I'll teach you:

You treat him as air every day. Go to your own class on your own. If you don't take out your salary, your father will have to take care of the money your child needs.

By the way, what should not be afraid of at this time? You have to get sideways, don't be afraid of your mother-in-law and father-in-law, I am also a married woman, I don't care about everything in the house, look at your husband, if it is still like this, just leave. But you can tell your in-laws that he always doesn't go to work.

It's better to change him than to change it!

You can't change your husband, but you can change yourself.

I've had experiences with you.

The husband is always partial to his family, it depends on who is right and who is wrong! If no matter who is right or wrong, you should communicate with your husband in private and calmly! If it doesn't work, find someone who understands things and talk to your husband about it!

Don't divorce easily, after all, marriage is not child's play, as long as the husband does not have domestic violence.

Husband and wife disagreements are mostly caused by emotional deterioration! Emotional cultivation is the key! When the two of them are harmonious and beautiful, the husband will naturally reflect on himself and correct his position, and the family will be harmonious.

Regardless of right or wrong, everything is directed to your parents, indicating that in his heart you are an outsider, and he is wary of you, whether it is right or wrong, it is your fault.

It is recommended that you have a deep talk with him to see if he has any misunderstandings or prejudices about you, and find the reason may be able to continue, after all, it is easy to fall in love and marriage is not easy, but if he treats you like this without any reason, there is no need to continue.

Summary. The first is to start changing from what your husband doesn't like about you. The second is to make one's heart stronger, wiser, and lovelier.

For example, you should have your own career, don't be sloppy. The third is to see what your husband needs. For example, learn to give love to your husband, not just ask for it.

How to change myself and make my husband love me again.

The first is to start changing from what your husband doesn't like about you. The second is to make one's heart stronger, wiser, and lovelier. For example, you should have your own career, don't be sloppy.

The third is to see what your husband needs. For example, learn to give love to your husband, not just ask for it.

Who's grumpy, is it you or your mom?

Now I am a grumpy mother, a neurotic in the eyes of my husband, that is the first one I said above, if you are grumpy, your husband will definitely not like this. Then you should start to change your irritable temper, restrain your emotions when you encounter problems, communicate with your husband when you have something, and explain your opinions and ideas.

Uh-huh. In fact, you can recognize this, recognize the problem of being grumpy, and you have a good foundation for changing that. As long as you can.

Calm yourself down, look at the good in the other person, and constantly remind yourself to control your emotions. Manage your emotions well, even if it is for the sake of your family, for your husband, but also for yourself. Because only by controlling one's emotions and managing one's temper can one reflect one's own quality and cultivation.

1. Get along honestly Love is a kind of force that makes people work hard, and the husband and wife are first of all a kind of harmony between the thoughts and feelings of both parties, and a kind of mutual compensation in psychological activities, so that both parties can produce a warm and coordinated healthy psychology. Therefore, it is more pleasing for husbands and wives to be honest with each other, to respect and love each other, and to take care of each other than to give gifts. 2. Communicate frequently Husbands and wives should often sit down to exchange opinions, communicate ideas, and pour out the joys and hardships in their hearts.

Especially in times of adversity, what you need most is the comfort of your loved ones. A word of sympathy and an encouraging look will reduce the psychological pressure of the other party, enhance the confidence and strength to overcome difficulties, and truly see the truth in the midst of adversity. 3. Respect each other's personality traits A couple, even if they are childhood sweethearts, still have their own personality traits.

Some husbands are active and have been wandering outside for many years, and they can't stay at home. And the wife is quiet and has a narrow social surface, and hopes that her husband will be at home with her all day long. Every time the husband returns, the wife is unhappy, and sometimes she is a little petty, and if the husband can't stand it, there may be a quarrel.

An empathetic wife or husband should respect the personality of the other person, do not impose her will on the other person, and reserve a certain amount of freedom for the other person to allow the other person to have their own social circle. In this way, marriage is not a kind of confinement, but not only to give full play to their individual characteristics, but also to be a warm home for mutual attachment. Communicate more.

Communication: When each other has calmed down, look at the problem again and you will find out. Actually, it's nothing, it's just a little different from some of my own lifestyles. It doesn't look very pleasing to the eye, as long as you make it clear to the other party, these problems are very easy to solve, since the two people choose to be together.

Then they have a deep understanding of each other, and the feelings between two people are also very deep. It's not a big deal to change some of your habits and habits.

There are very few people who are satisfied with each other in the reality of marriage. There are too many women in life who are dissatisfied with their husbands, even if they are 100% satisfied when they get married, they gradually show dissatisfaction in the wheel of marriage, after all, marriage is not ordinary. For the point of dissatisfaction with their husbands, most women think that their husbands can change, many people want to know how to change their husbands, and many people have made a lot of efforts in this regard, but the result is often that their husbands still haven't changed.

How can you change if you are dissatisfied with your husband?

Change your opinion about your husband.

We all measure others by our own worldview, values, and thinking, and we always feel that we are right and others are wrong. In couples, we always feel that we are right and our husbands are wrong. Being attached to this idea is often a kind of constraint on oneself.

There is not only one standard answer to many things, and others are not necessarily wrong, and we ourselves may not be right. You might as well let go of your position and persistence, and no longer blindly feel that you are right and your husband is wrong. But he may also have something wrong, and his husband may also have something right.

Women often stubbornly believe that their husbands are responsible for their marital pain. A slap in the face does not make a sound, marital discord and all kinds of unsatisfactory reasons will not be unilateral reasons. Let go of this stubbornness and thinking, find the reason from yourself, and correct yourself, everyone has something that can be improved.

Women always complain that the other party does not change, and always delusionally that the other party takes the initiative to change for themselves. It is more effective to let go of this kind of complaining and accept the other person than to make the other person change.

Change yourself first, and the other party will naturally change.

Changing others is always not as easy as changing ourselves, others we often can't change, and we can change ourselves. We always want the environment to be our way, but the environment will not adapt to us, only we will adapt to the environment.

When you change yourself, the other person will also change. For example, if you dislike your husband for not making much money, you change your ability and work, and when your work is improved and you earn more money, your husband may also become more motivated. For example, if you dislike your husband for not being romantic, you come to arrange dating activities, arrange travel, and give gifts to your husband, and your husband will also change and take the initiative to give you gifts and take you on a trip.

The relationship between people changes with each other's interactions and changes.

There are many women who are dissatisfied with their husbands, and in marriage, there are very few couples who are truly satisfied with each other. Complaining or thinking about how to get your husband to take the initiative to change, no matter how hard you talk and try, the results are very small, and the more effective way is always to change yourself. We always want to change the world around us, but only by changing ourselves will the world around us change.

If you change yourself, you will gain a higher self, your mentality is broader, your inner ability is improved, your ability is improved, and your marital happiness is improved.

Most women's troubles in marriage are that their husbands do not meet their own requirements, and they can't change him;

Or the in-laws are not as good as they want, and they are not willing to change according to their own requirements.

But have you ever put yourself in your shoes and think about it, are you willing to take the initiative to endure hardships and let yourself learn more things?

I believe that there is a will, but most people can't hold out for a few days.

There are too many women, many of whom are confident that they want to change themselves at the beginning, and most of them return to their previous lives in the end.

Because learning is a confrontation with one's own long-term inertia, one day when the will is weak, the previous efforts will be lost.

Are you willing to take the initiative to suffer the hardships of making money? Especially when you have to bring your children and do housework?

Most people want to make good money, but they basically stay in words, and there are really those who are willing to die, and they are doing well now.

Are you willing to take the initiative to change your personality and emotional intelligence? Especially when facing your husband or in-laws who are very unhappy?

Many people are also unwilling, they may feel that the other party is not worthy, and they may feel that they just don't want to change.

So, do you see it, you are still reluctant to make some changes for your own sake, because you feel that the change is too hard.

Even if it is really good for you to change, you still numb yourself and make all kinds of excuses for yourself.

For the sake of yourself, you are not willing to change, so how can a mother-in-law or husband who is not good to you change themselves painfully for you?

Just because you want them to change, do they change it?

It's simply impossible!

That's why there is that sentence, changing oneself is God, and changing others is a neuropathy.

It means that a person can change himself, which is definitely a rare thing, and if he can do it, he can simply become a god.

But it's impossible to change others, and if you still do such ridiculous things, it's undoubtedly a neurosis, isn't it very thorough?

Marriage made me understand these 12 words: only brush up, don't educate, only choose, don't change.

But there is another phenomenon, when a person is really in love with another person and is afraid of losing the other person, he is willing to change everything, or even completely change a person.

Therefore, only if the other party loves you very much and is very worried about losing you, or if your value is so high that the joy of getting it is higher than the pain of change, he is willing to change.

In addition to this, we can only change ourselves when faced with problems.

It's been almost three years since the incident, and I still don't know how much my husband and parents owe about their finances now.

After the incident came out, in addition to the 100,000 yuan repaid, my husband also carried me behind my back to his parents 50,000 yuan, and I knew about it afterwards, and now I will take care of all the wages and expenses.

The house I rented for 2000 per month was returned, and it was replaced by a bungalow in the countryside for 4500 a year, and after I moved, I learned through my mother's verbal chain or instructions that I sent the child back to the child's grandmother's house, and my grandmother went to see her and told my mother.

My parents offered to let us spend about 150,000 yuan to buy an old house for my husband and parents to live in. I asked my husband, and he said that his mother is here to bring us the children, and his father will not come home, so let's rent it first.

The current situation is that my husband and my husband and mother can't control my husband and father, and he is still hanging around the cities and counties around his hometown, not knowing what to do, and swiping his fucking credit card.

My husband's mother is a little dead to save face, and I always think that his father can make a comeback, saying that he has eaten a lifetime of mental work, and he can't eat physical labor, what should he do if he is tired? In addition, my mother instructed her husband to buy this and that for her behind her back, and I didn't object to it, I just felt bad behind my back. Every year for her birthday, she has a lot of money to buy clothes and shoes, but I don't plan to buy her in the future, because I need to face the reality and downgrade consumption.

The most unbearable thing is that I have lived together for so long, and my mother is a little pretending, saying that I don't eat shrimp and fish or something, and I will leave it at night, and I will come back the next night anyway, but I won't eat the first meal. I ate the fruit I bought secretly, and it was put in the fruit bowl, so I had to carry it to the kitchen to eat.

My husband didn't dare to face the problem, he didn't dare to face his father, and I felt that he was afraid of his father when he was a child.

In the face of such parents, I have no choice.