What kind of life is the most real, and what kind of marriage can last.

Friend-style couples last longer].

Studies have found that people who place too much emphasis on personal needs or desires in a relationship between the sexes find it difficult to maintain a long-term and harmonious relationship as a couple. The core of a romantic relationship is friendship, which acts as a "shock absorber" in the relationship and can prevent cracks in the relationship. Valuing the friendship between husband and wife can strengthen the relationship, but the loss of friendship will inevitably lead to insecurity and a decline in physical health.

In the name of love, trust, tolerance...

An ordinary life is real, doing what you want to do is real, and a life without too much pressure is real. A marriage with fewer desires and being able to lie together freely and easily without scruples can last.

<> many people think that as long as two people are together, they can get married as long as they have a house and a car. But if two people really want to have a happy married life, is this the only condition? I think there are three conditions for the best state of marriage: financial sufficiency, mental maturity, and emotional stability.

If you have enough money, you don't have to have a house and a car, of course, you can afford to have better. Two people have a stable income, in addition to daily expenses, there is a large part of the funds that can be used for investment and savings every month, even if they get married and have children, one person does not work, and the other person's income can cover all living expenses. It will not fall into a state of embarrassment and tension.

A good married life is also based on a certain economic and material basis, if the two people have low working income and are unstable, they still have to work hard for a period of time, and then consider marriage when the economic income is sufficient. Otherwise, the quarrel that occurred because of the economic embarrassment would hurt the feelings of the two people very much. Such a marriage will also be unhappy.

It is also very important to have mature thinking and correct three views. Look at things not only on the surface, but also on the essence of the problem, no longer make emotional decisions, no longer willful. If you complain about this and that all day long, you always give up halfway through doing things, you have a serious procrastination, you can't stick to anything, you run away from difficulties and don't solve them, it's best not to enter married life too early.

Let's not talk about what bad impact this state has on two people, get married and have children soon, your character and behavior will affect children, parents are the best teachers for children, if you can't set a good example for children in these aspects, negative outlook on life, immature thinking, emotional things, it is easy to let children go in the wrong direction.

Everyone has also seen a lot of such families, the children are rude and domineering, and the parents are almost like this. The children's cultivation is good, and the parents' cultivation and family atmosphere are not bad. Parents who blindly blame their children for bad habits and hate iron is not steel, why don't they want to think about whether they also have these bad habits?

Is there not a good example for your child when he needs the right guidance?

Finally, emotional stability is also the most important, it is normal for two people to be noisy together, but if every time it turns into a big emotional quarrel because of some trivial things, everyone will not back down, cold war, thinking about the worst breakup, divorce, after a long time, it will definitely develop irreversibly. No matter how good the relationship is, it can't help but hurt the vitality of every quarrel like this.

If two people quarrel at the worst, they will not have the idea of breaking up and divorcing, but thinking that everyone will take a step back, understand each other, take the initiative to reconcile, and end this conflict, then the emotions of the two people will be stable.

It is fate that two people can be together, since they have decided to live for a lifetime, they must enter the palace of marriage in a good state, if they are not ready for anything, no matter how good the emotional foundation is, they will be scattered under all kinds of tosses. When you understand everything one day, it's too late!

Marriage requires responsibility, marriage is life, it is firewood, rice, oil and salt, know how to understand each other, understand each other's difficulties.

1. Don't be an appraiser in marriage.

Marriage is one's own, and it is never something that is directed by others. If you want to maintain a good marriage, you must know how to care for each other in life, rather than judging each other arbitrarily. In life, seeing each other's way of doing things, not to discipline them, but to learn to respect each other, everyone has their own way of doing things, don't blindly ask others, what we have to do is always to support each other, be considerate of each other, not to be an evaluator in marriage.

2. Understand each other's difficulties.

It is said that marriage is not easy, but it is done and cherished. Marriage needs to be cherished and managed by each other, and many times your warm greetings can warm a person and bring touching to a person. So when two people live together, they must know how to warm each other, be considerate of each other in life, and men must understand the hard work of women, and they must love and care more about the people they love.

A woman who gives a man a little more support will make him more powerful. Therefore, mutual understanding and cherishing is the long-term way of marriage.

3. Leave the best love and emotions to the people you love the most.

Many times, we always say things from our hearts to strangers, but say some cruel things to the people we love the most to hurt the other person, in fact, this is undoubtedly pushing the person we love to others. If you want to manage a good marriage, you must know how to be kind to the people around you, bring your good emotions and love to the people you love, don't lose your temper easily with the people you love, you must know how to be tolerant and accommodating, and it is not ugly to bow your head in front of the people you love.

Any marriage is maintained by both parties, and the quality of a marriage depends entirely on the attitude and sincerity of both parties towards each other. Therefore, if you want to have a good marriage, you must understand these three truths, understand each other's difficulties, and be considerate of each other, so that you can have a good marriage and relationship.

How can I have a long marriage? Lin Yutang said: Live a marriage in the way of love, there is no one who does not fail, you must eat marriage as a meal and love as a snack.

Marriage is not about finding a random person to live with, but about finding a person who is happy with each other. A life is not long, don't wronged yourself, a life is too long, don't hurt the other party! A long-term and stable marriage relationship depends on mutual appreciation, each of you has your own merits and attracts each other, rather than one person's tendency to follow the trend or compromise to seek perfection, and two people need to be the right person spiritually.

Maybe all the people who divorced later never thought that they would get divorced one day. Maybe all the divorced people later forgot the promise made on the wedding day.

interviewed hundreds of couples and found three iron rules for maintaining a long-term marriage, only to find out that only these three marriages can last long.

1. Couples who are traditionally loyal to each other.

Traditional marriage has a traditional philosophy that starts with the beginning.

Because they are loyal to each other, they trust each other, and there is no concealment and betrayal between two people.

Maybe the days will be dull, but they must be happy; Because of trust, they will treat each other for a long time; Because of trust, he is willing to give his life for each other.

Two people, from acquaintance to white head, once passed, it is a lifetime. Traditional couples turn love into family affection, making the marriage more stable.

2. Don't turn over old accounts and don't talk about the past.

will turn over old accounts at every turn, no matter who is right or wrong in this problem that is happening now, he just blindly takes out the things that the other party did wrong in the past to suppress him. This kind of unreasonable approach is actually the most disgusting thing for men, because they are more rational in their thinking, and they pay more attention to saying things and fighting for a result according to the events that occur at the moment.

If the other party always has such an attitude, they will gradually retreat and be too lazy to communicate with you, because they understand that you quarrel just to win, rather than really trying to figure out who is responsible for the conflict, what kind of experience can both parties get from this, and what kind of suitable scale can they get along, so that they can become more and more harmonious in their marriage in the future.

A woman's vexatious behavior seems to have the upper hand at the time, but for a long time, it is an extremely irrational approach that may hurt the essence of marriage. A woman who does not turn over old accounts and does not talk about the past can make her husband feel calmer and more rational, and she is willing to discuss with her so as to get something enlightening for each other.

3. Couples with similar views.

In this world, there are no couples with the same three views, only couples with similar three views. Couples with similar views can go on for a lifetime, and when two people are together, it is easier to sleep, eat, and play.

On the other hand, couples who do not agree with the three views often do not talk speculatively for more than half a sentence, and they do not distract from small talk, you can't understand what you say, and you are not interested in listening to what he says.

This distance is not the distance from the beauty of the distance, but the distance of the Cold War, so the couples who do not agree with the three views are never all the way, only the couples with similar three views can often go for a lifetime.

How can a marriage last? If you want a long-lasting marriage, you must do these "6 things".

A good marriage: Accept each other's shortcomings and appreciate each other's strengths. In this world, the hardest thing is to change a person. As the saying goes: the country is easy to change, but the temperament is difficult to change.

Many of us make the same mistake in marriage: always confident that we will change the other person and that the other half will change for our own sake.

**。When Luo Xiaobei and He Chunsheng first got married in the TV series "Mendi", they both confidently believed that they could change each other, but they ignored the difference in growth environment and education level, and the two people had different views on many issues. He Chunsheng has never understood the difference between instant coffee and the coffee shop, and what is the difference between the orange juice he bought and the freshly squeezed orange juice.

Every time Luo Xiaobei paid his salary, he would give Chunsheng a lot of money for daily expenses. She always thought that as long as she had enough money, Chunsheng would change her habit of slamming the door. But I don't know that the inferiority complex and dignity in Chunsheng's bones can't be changed.

The two of them later went through many twists and turns, and Luo Xiaobei finally realized such a truth: After going through many things, I now understand that the main obstacle between me and Chunsheng is not you and Ma Xiaolong, but the deep-rooted concept of the family. Not only us, but everyone around us knows it.

This notion has cast a shadow over our marriage of unhappiness, and what we have done over the years has been more of a struggle than a breakthrough. Because we are subconsciously, we have a premonition of the unhappiness of marriage. That's why there is an episode between you and Bruce Ma.

And we re-attribute this episode to the concept of the door, and then the mind goes astray. It is true that Chunsheng and I have many differences, we have different growth environments, different educations, different social status, different economic income, and consumption concepts, and there are great differences, but these differences can be run in, and the way to run in is not to blindly tolerate and accommodate, but to learn to appreciate each other, appreciate each other's character, and then get closer to each other. My biggest regret is:

By the time I really learned to appreciate the spring students, it was already too late.

**。Marital boredom begins with discovering each other's true appearance, and when two people become estranged in marriage, it starts with changing each other.

I once chatted with my eldest sister, who was a teenager earlier, and she told me that when she was in love, her husband was obedient to her. It's just that after a long time of marriage, I'm starting to become a little impatient.

will be a little critical of each other. Every time I am at home on weekends, I feel inexplicably annoyed when I see him playing games. In my mind, I always thought that playing games was not a proper job.

How could he do that? There was a time when there would often be a quarrel over this. But it still can't solve the essential problem.

No matter how hard I tried to persuade him, it was to no avail. Later, I also looked down on it, so he can play if he wants to! I tried to change my mindset.

I found that everything became clearer, and we stopped arguing. So it's hard to change a person. But it can affect one person.

In a marital relationship: learn to accept each other's shortcomings and appreciate each other's strengths. Love is not about finding a perfect person. But.

Learn to appreciate the imperfect person with a perfect eye.

In some cases, having a common topic is a bond between two people.

If you want to get love between two people, you must first establish a connection and start dating. Only with a common topic, two people can have something to talk about, to establish contact, to communicate with each other, to gradually develop feelings, therefore, the common topic has become one of the most important foundations of love, without a common topic is impossible to get love.

Self-identity. For people who need to gain self-identity in a relationship, it is more important for two people to have common topics. Many of people's behaviors are aimed at finding self-identity and affirming self-identity.

This is no different in the search for mates. Subjects who can affirm their sense of self-identity will be more popular. There are several elements of a love relationship that affirm a sense of self-identity.

If two people have common topics in many aspects and have the same views, they will be considered to have three views that are more compatible. This is both a testament to one's self-identity and undoubtedly a strengthened version. This becomes a dimension of judgment for finding a mate.

Accompany. If there is a person who can talk to you about your favorite topics and your interests, this kind of relationship will be perceived as quality and quality companionship at the same time. When many people are looking for a partner, they will consider whether the two parties can talk.

Being able to talk to a person in many ways, have common topics, and agree with each other's views. It is tantamount to affirming each other in mutual accompaniment and resonating at the same frequency. For people who are still looking for self-identity, who are still constructing self-identity, there will be a need for common topics.

In the process of being able to chat freely about common topics, you will feel that you have met yourself, met a confidant, met self-affirmation, and made yourself feel more powerful and stable. Existential anxiety tends to be felt in people who have not yet developed a strong self-identity. And this kind of companionship can alleviate this anxiety.

Therefore, to build love, develop love, and common topics will be more important for this kind of person.

The marriage model needs to be constantly groped and modified in life. But no matter what kind of marriage model, you need to respect each other, appreciate each other, and communicate effectively.