I don t have contact with my relatives, I have no friends, I don t have hobbies, and I hardly go out

Summary. These can be explained by situation. First; The situation of not interacting with relatives is first of all a problem of identity and family, my family is relatively poor, financially constrained, I feel very inferior, I am embarrassed to associate with relatives, there is a saying that is good; Poor in the body and no distant relatives.

Second; If you have financial and debt dealings with your relatives, you will inevitably mention these issues after you have dealings with your relatives, which will hurt your feelings, or you will turn your face and simply do not have any contacts. Third; It's not surprising that you don't have friends, you are introverted and don't like to talk, or you have social phobia, you have little contact with people from the outside world, you are afraid of saying the wrong thing, and you care a lot about what others think of you, which will make you lack friends. Fourth; I have been affected by certain events, and I have been hit and hurt, which has led to suspicion and distrust of the outside world, and doubts about the people around me.

Fifth; There is no hobby, which is often due to busy work, and there is no time to develop and cultivate their hobbies, or they are homely in character, living very casually, casually, lazy, and do not like to cultivate hobbies. These kinds of psychology are relatively normal and do not need to overreact, but if it affects their normal life, they still need to make some changes.

I don't have contact with my relatives, I have no friends, I don't have hobbies, and I hardly go out, is it psychological?

Hello dear oh no.

Can you elaborate on that a little bit more?

These can be explained by situation. First; The situation of not interacting with relatives is first of all a problem of identity and family, my family is relatively poor, financially constrained, I feel very inferior, I am embarrassed to associate with relatives, there is a saying that is good; Poor in the body and no distant relatives. Second; If you have financial and debt dealings with your relatives, you will inevitably mention these issues after you have dealings with your relatives, which will hurt your feelings, or you will turn your face and simply do not have any contacts.

Third; It's not surprising that you don't have friends, you are introverted and don't like to talk, or you have social phobia, you have little contact with people from the outside world, you are afraid of saying the wrong thing, and you care a lot about what others think of you, which will make you lack friends. Fourth; He has been affected by certain events, and has been hit and hurt by Fu Hong, which has led to suspicion and distrust of the outside world, and questions the people around him. Fifth; There is no hobby Yunting Town, which is often busy with work, and has no time to develop and cultivate his hobbies, or his personality is biased, he lives very casually, casually, and his personality is relatively lazy, and he does not like to cultivate hobbies.

These kinds of psychology are relatively normal and do not need to overreact, but if it affects their normal life, they still need to make some changes.

If you don't like it, don't force yourself, because communication against your wishes is also bad.

Etiquette greetings are a must, and for deeper communication, you can follow your heart's choice.

Then reduce communication with them and just give some gifts during the New Year's holidays.

I think I can develop more of my circle of friends.

You can choose not to communicate, there is no need to add unnecessary annoyance to you.

When you grow up, you will understand the meaning of communication, and no matter how close you are, you will slowly become strangers if you don't communicate often.

Me too, as a child, the more I grew up, the more I didn't know how to get along with them.

Then communicate less with relatives, it's not a problem.

You should communicate with relatives frequently, increase your affection, and have more contact with each other.

If I don't like it, don't explore it so much.

There should still be some communication.

Not loving to go to relatives is not a psychological problem.

The psychological alienation caused by geographical distance is an important reason why relatives are not fond of leaving. Maybe in my hometown, when I don't want to cook, I can go to my relatives' house at any time to "eat", and I can gather a large table of relatives and friends at any time on festivals and festivals, and the understanding and recognition of each other will gradually accumulate through this process.

However, as social mobility has become stronger, young people have gradually gone out for school, work and other reasons, and such "casual gatherings" have become a luxury in many cases. Especially in the context of the epidemic, many young people in big cities have some difficulties even going home for the Chinese New Year, let alone going home to see relatives often.

The origin of the relatives

Visiting relatives is an ancient traditional folk culture, and it is an activity to exchange feelings between relatives during the Spring Festival. Visiting relatives and returning to one's mother's home during the Spring Festival is a custom passed down from generation to generation by Chinese. It is a kind of family exchange between relatives to contact feelings and sympathize with each other.

In some areas, visiting relatives is referred to as "visiting relatives". The tradition of visiting relatives during the Spring Festival has a long history.

According to legend, in ancient times, the "Nian" beast was rampant, and every year it would come out to harm livestock and people. Until the arrival of an old man taught people how to drive away the "Nian" beast, every time after the successful passage of the New Year, the villagers would visit each other's relatives and friends, say hello, and celebrate the "New Year". Over time, the tradition of visiting relatives during the New Year has been formed.

According to a survey (a sample of more than 3,000 middle school students in Beijing) children's attitudes towards their parents, 56% of them were extremely disgusted or hated their parents. Less than 5 percent of children like their parents, and less than 40 percent are cold or disgusted or afraid. In other words, more than half of the children are actually not close to their parents, and can even be said to be extremely disgusted and hateful.

So if it is unilaterally said that more than half of the children have psychological problems, it seems that this cannot be concluded. Chinese-style parenting to prevent old age, hoping that Jackie Chan will become a banner for himself, uncontrolled tantrums, using his own cognition to shape children, etc., may be the reasons why children hate and dislike their parents. But to be honest, these problems of parents are also caused by society, and they are just excited, passively accepting the inheritance.

So whether the child has a problem with this model, just like a table tennis ball, after a beat is missed, it rebounds in the opposite direction, but in fact, the direction is also deviated. If you can be more aware of the problems of family growth and whether your behavior is extreme, it is actually a way of self-correction, as the subject asked, "Is my mentality and behavior normal", which is to reflect on and be aware of yourself.

If you can have such awareness, you can really let yourself not be deviated by your parents and embark on the direction of progress.

So what does it look like to be psychologically normal, psychologists have also summarized some criteria:

So if you simply compare, in fact, most people may have some psychologically unhealthy factors to a greater or lesser extent. This is also a big reason why each of us needs to grow as adults.

Young people who don't want to go to their relatives are mostly because they are too good or too bad in society because of the promotion of the bureau, as the saying goes, "People are afraid of being famous, pigs are afraid of being strong." "It's easy for people to be famous, they just need to be as good as they are or as bad as they get. The reason why many young people don't want to leave their relatives is mainly because they are afraid of trouble, and people who are famous are afraid that distant relatives will entrust them to do things, and it is inappropriate to refuse directly, and it is quite tricky to operate in practice, and they will not be able to do their jobs well.

People who mix poorly are more reluctant to go to their relatives, they hate to look at them with contempt, and they hate to be used as a negative teaching material. Some relatives like to put on the shelf of their elders, they can't get used to every young person around them, they like to talk nonsense in front of others, and if they see people mix well, they say that they love to show off, and when they mix people poorly, they say that they are incapable. No one likes to get along with "elders" who think of themselves as high-minded, which is why young people are less and less inclined to visit relatives.

Young people who don't want to go to their relatives are mostly because they have seen through the "fake" relatives, and the current relatives are like wholesale, asking about the children's academic performance, asking about the marital status and work status of the young people. If you really care, it's okay, but many relatives just want to hold high and low, and they look very familiar on the surface, but in fact, they forget about other people's when they turn their heads. The reason why they ask questions is to relieve the awkward atmosphere on the one hand, and on the other hand, to take the opportunity to boast about their children and boast about themselves.

Today's young people are very smart, whether they are foxes or bears, you can see at a glance, those young people who don't want to go to relatives are nothing more than seeing through the hypocritical relatives, seeing through the sophistication of the people in the middle, and don't want to bother with it, don't want to be their audience.