Is it because of selfishness that older leftover women are?

Not because of selfishness. I think there are several reasons why you generally become an older leftover woman:

First, the vision is too high, too critical.

This kind of person generally has his own achievements in work, his own conditions are better, and naturally he has high requirements for the other half, and he wants to find a person who matches him. Because the vision is too high, there are very few people who qualify. Pick and choose, and over time, you may become a leftover woman.

Second, I am busy with work and have no time.

When I was young, I was busy with work and had no energy, nor did I have the time and energy to fall in love, so that if I dragged it out again and again, I became a leftover girl.

3. I don't want to be bound by marriage too early.

This kind of person also has some achievements in work at a very young age, and does not want to be bound by marriage. It's not that they can't find it, it's that they don't want to find it! So when it came time to get married, it was difficult to find it.

Fourth, I have been hurt.

Some women have been in love, but they have been hurt by each other, and the psychological damage is so deep that it cannot be healed, so that they dare not easily give their hearts to others for a long time after that.

Fifth, I have been waiting for the right person to appear.

I've met a lot of people, but I haven't met the person who makes my heart appear, so I've been waiting for the person who makes my heart to appear. Wait and wait, just wait for the leftover women.

All in all, most of the reasons why I became an older leftover girl must be because I am too good! For older leftover women, my opinion is that you don't need to care about the eyes of others, just live a wonderful life.

First of all, the question asks: No.

There are a lot of single men and women in society now, and according to the data released some time ago, the number of the 90th generation alone is about 100 million, and the number of married is only more than 30 million, and 70% of them are already divorced, and the rest are basically fast. Therefore, it can be known from the above that this is an era of freedom and openness, and the previous concept that marriage is a lifetime is gone forever.

Returning to the question, the problem of older leftover women is basically also proven. Older young women are basically an educated generation, and looking at the blossoming flowers of this society, they can better appreciate the benefits of this society's development to themselves, and through their work, they embody their personal values. Women are no longer confined to the small stove at home, but through work, the value of their lives is greatly reflected.

Their horizons have also been expanded through work, and at this time, the inability to get promoted and raise their salaries due to marriage and childbirth is a fatal blow to them. And they are also thinking, why can't women if men can be promoted and raised through work and reach the peak of life? So I personally think that if the relationship between family and personal is balanced, and women are given enough security and do not delay work, I think there are still many women who are willing to enter into marriage.

On the other hand, there are too many voices on the Internet right now. For example, there are many antagonisms between men and women, a small case, but it can oppose the two groups, causing many single women to fear marriage even more in their hearts after seeing it. For example, the famous Hangzhou wife murder case, Tony Lin Shengbin...The Internet** amplifies the existence of such people, and the impact is far-reaching, making unmarried women have a shadow of marriage on the opposite sex.

Therefore, there are social reasons and personal reasons for older leftover women not to get married. But I personally feel that as long as the other party is given enough respect and security, and the other party can feel love, then entering into marriage is not a matter of course?

Personal opinions, for reference.

Home, that's how it should be.

The reasons for the older leftover women are not single, there are selfish reasons, as well as living environment and family reasons, which are interrelated with each other! The specific reasons are:

1. The surrounding environment, and some situations are because the feng shui of the living environment is not good, and the peach blossom position is suppressed or destroyed, which also affects the arrival of marriage. Many female friends have little choice because of their environment and relatively narrow circle of communication, such as some workplaces where there are more single women and fewer single men, or there are more older and fewer young people. There are also because of the high pressure of work, and the time and energy after work are relatively small, it is difficult to put love on the normal agenda.

Second, the superiority of the family and oneself is strong, the superior family conditions are not a problem, the key to the superiority of the good has created your superior character, such a person is often said to be three high, high education, high conditions, high income, such a woman, the general opposite sex is difficult to enter the "law eye", pick and choose, I think, there is no man who matches with himself, and slowly and unconsciously become a "leftover woman", and the more this is the more unwilling, "I have chosen for so many years, how to choose a good one", In the end, it is difficult to get married. For this kind of friends, the words may be a bit heavy, but the medicine is bitter, and I still hope to be able to accept and reflect.

Third, the family environment creates an overly strong character, stronger than men, rather than bending, lack of gentleness or forbearance, which also makes boys daunting, afraid and stop, and this kind of female friends often look down on those boys with weaker personalities, so they stumble in the competition with each other, and gradually become leftover women.

The main reason for older leftover women is not due to selfishness. The reasons for the leftover of older women are generally roughly divided into two types: active leftover and passive leftover.

Many of the older leftover women who take the initiative to save are unwilling to settle, have not met the right person, and are unwilling to live with a person who is not ideal. The other is that the passive remainder is indeed not in ideal conditions and is relatively in a less favorable position in choosing a mate.

Not all, and some do take their careers too seriously, and they don't pursue their feelings, and some go with the flow, plus in this era, a person's life is indeed relatively refreshing and simple, it can only be said that the times are developing faster, and now girls have more knowledge, plus the pressure of life is also great, and the feelings are not as compromised and valued as people used to be. Therefore, especially in developed areas, it is normal for girls to be older and unmarried.

In fact, there is nothing about being single, everyone has their own life course.

This article is about those who want to marry but can't.

When getting along with older leftover women, you usually appreciate their seriousness and work ability, but when it comes to life, you will find that you are tired of empty Zheng Brigade.

Demanding on things, more serious, but in fact, insecure.

What she can't see is that she has a problem, and what she thinks is right is not the truth. Everyone has their own lifestyle and character. Others are more tolerant of their own shortcomings, while they are self-righteous, and if they continue like this, they will only keep others away.

You dislike others for being lazy, and people are tolerating your truthfulness.

You accuse others of not working hard, and they are tolerating your emotionality.

You accuse others of dressing up, and they are tolerating your aesthetic behavior.

Everything is ultimately an understanding of human nature, and if you want to break through, it is still your own inner open-mindedness.

What to do? Learn and let go of arrogance.

Seeing the contribution of others, seeing the advantages of others, getting along with others, needing space, needing distance, and needing cooperation.

Often, it is inclusion, understanding, and effective communication that can really solve problems.

Summary. Why is there always too much hostility towards older leftover women in this society?

Good afternoon, dear.

This is a social stereotype of older young men and women.

Because from a secular point of view, men and women should marry and have children when they reach a certain age.

If they don't have a family when they reach the age, they think that there is something wrong with the children's thinking.

Why is there always too much hostility towards older leftover women in this society?

Why is there always too much hostility towards older leftover women in this society? Good afternoon, dear. This is a social stereotype of older young men and women.

Because from a secular point of view, men and women should marry and have children when they reach a certain age, and if they have not yet started a family when they reach the age, they think that these children have something wrong with their thinking.

Or that these people are not in good condition and can't find a partner. Thus discriminating against them.