Very introverted, timid, hesitant, very confused, and asks for help

The best way for introverts to change is to be brave enough to do what they didn't dare to do before, and to put it bluntly, no matter what happens, they have to be hard-headed. You can also play with some bold people (that person has to have a good character), close to Zhu is red, close to ink is black, and you will change a lot with more.

Do you have a dream? Work hard for your dreams, don't be too rushed, take it one step at a time. For example, you want to have a successful career and a beautiful home.

You have to improve your ability or knowledge first, when you have the ability, your career is hopeful, and of course, your love will also come at this time. Fight for your dreams! Remember to go, step by step plan.

Also, confidence and mindset are very important, first of all, you have to have a good mindset and see everything as good. Starting from some easy things, I have confidence and I am serious about everything. You also have to be strict with yourself, to do things today, never be so-so when doing things, and always remind yourself to take everything seriously.

Personality is influenced by the environment around youYou are now because there is a family taking care of you! So you can hesitate,!

I personally advise you, get out of the house for a while! Learn to do other work! If you want to adjust your mindset quickly!

Then you can go to a psychiatrist, and this psychologist will give you advice.

Yes, we have to find out the reason, why are we afraid of being dirty and tired, why are we afraid of strangers and strange things? Are you afraid of being dirty and tired, do you think it will bring you bad things, such as not being good for your body, being afraid of your image, worrying about your family, etc., is this your reason, to overcome such a heart, a man is standing up to the sky, can bend and stretch, honor and disgrace are not shocked, do big things, let go, change from the heart, it is recommended that you read Chen Dahui** There are on the Internet It will help.

It is recommended to learn crazy English with Li Yang for one year to improve.

Reading more inspirational books like success will help me, I used to be a very introverted and low self-esteem, I believe that learning can change me,

You can learn about the content related to the Internet, if you are too introverted, it is really not good, and you need to change.

Try to chat more, make friends and go shopping.

Summary. Other people's evaluations will not affect you, but what makes you uncomfortable is your own perception and response to external evaluations. Many people think before doing something, what will happen if I don't do it well, whether others will always look at my shortcomings and flaws, and whether they will not approve of what I say.

But you have to know that everyone has different cognitive and judgment abilities, and different people who have experienced different things have different perspectives on the same thing. If we are always afraid of being embarrassed, and we will be afraid to do anything, and we will twist and pinch everything, then your attention will be distracted and your aura will be weakened, so we don't need to care about other people's opinions, you just need to seek energy inward, and don't be afraid of any outside eyes.

Introverted, inferior, timid.

In fact, many people's personalities are like this, but as long as your current life is what you like, you don't need to force yourself to change anything.

Other people's evaluations will not affect you, but what makes you uncomfortable is your own perception and response to external evaluations. Many people think before doing something, what will happen if I don't do it well, whether others will always look at my shortcomings and flaws, and whether they will not approve of what I say. But you have to know that everyone has different cognitive and judgment abilities, and different people who have experienced different things have different perspectives on the same thing.

If we are always afraid of being embarrassed, and we will be afraid to do anything, and we will twist and pinch everything, then your attention will be distracted and your aura will be weakened, so we don't need to care about other people's opinions, you just need to seek energy inward, and don't be afraid of any outside eyes.

I used to have the same experience as you, every time I went on stage to speak, I was very flustered, and even my hands and feet would tremble when answering questions in class, and later I became natural and calm when I held a meeting with more than 100 people. It may help if you recognize the following.

First of all, why are people afraid? Because of your ignorance of the future, you may not have enough experience, especially the big scenes, so no matter what happens, you will be afraid of what will happen next.

Secondly, if a person is too demanding of himself and is afraid of making a fool of himself, he is often more likely to be nervous.

Again, a person who is not confident feels that others are better than himself and does not dare to perform, the more this is the case, the more he loses the opportunity to perform, and becomes passive The fundamental reason is that he has no ink in his stomach, so he doesn't know how to deal with it.

I know you'd love to change that, and I'm giving you a few shallow pieces of advice that I hope will help you a little.

First, no matter what the occasion next time, as long as there is a chance to perform, you will be on, the opportunity is equal to everyone, you don't grasp it to others, don't be afraid, life is just these decades, it will pass quickly, don't be afraid of failure, that is also a wealth of life, how many years later no one will remember that you have made a fool, even if someone remembers, it doesn't matter, when you succeed those people have to shut up. If you open the knot in your heart, it is difficult to say whether you will be able to live in the world tomorrow, so you must show the best today so as not to regret it later.

Second, we must constantly improve our abilities, learn more useful knowledge, read inspirational books, practice speeches, participate in social practice, etc., and continue to show our excellent side, and continue to accumulate successful experiences, so that people will of course be more confident, their heads will be full, and they will be able to cope with anything freely.

Third, go out for a walk, travel to the great rivers and mountains, visit the masters, participate in large-scale activities, broaden your horizons, open up a person's pattern, and the stage is bigger, so naturally I am not afraid.

Learn to smile, you have to know that everyone is very ordinary and has the most sincere side of his heart, so smile at everything.

Friend, in your case, I don't think it's as serious as you say, you know that you are here to ask people to help you, and you know that you don't want to see a psychiatrist, which means that you are not that serious, you have autism That was before you, aren't you okay now? Anyone can have a depressed job. You have to be confident, and don't always think that you are a very autistic person!

I've thought that way before, but then I've found that communicating with people is the best way to do that. When people are joking, you can listen to it, go see it. If you can interject, don't be afraid to say it.

No one will laugh at you!

Don't be bored all the time, go out for a walk with others.

Don't be afraid to say things wrong at first, and say things when you have ideas; Then summarize it, and it will be better to express it next time.

Don't be alone and always hold the ** or something, so that you will be more introverted...

1.The psychiatrist mentioned above is very useful, but if you look for a psychiatrist, you must find something informative. Whether you want to or not, but please you should try it and don't hesitate.

2.Be brave and try everything, and don't need to be afraid.

3.Everyone grows through hardship and frustration, and even if your heart is racing, you have to go through it.

4.Make an effort to communicate with others.

5.Try to organize your thoughts, take your time, and don't rush.

6.Get involved.

Read more positive books and participate in social group activities.

Read some books on psychological regulation and relax!

When you're interacting with people, you just want you to help people listen.

You're depressed! You should see a psychiatrist. Don't delay this disease, it's good early, it's not good if it drags on for a long time.

How introverts can be interpersonal.

When a person lacks the ability in a certain aspect, the first thing that comes to mind is to learn the skill in this aspect, thinking that with the skill, he can improve his ability in that aspect. In fact, a person's lack of ability in a certain aspect is more mainly a problem of ideology and concepts, because he has not established correct beliefs. If we don't change our thinking and establish correct beliefs, no matter how many skills we learn, it will be useless.

For example, when someone is too introverted and has a bad relationship, he will find ways to learn interpersonal skills. I learned to smile, listen, compliment, be grateful, remember other people's names, and so on, thinking that with these skills, I could improve my relationships. But it's not that simple.

The masters of interpersonal communication tell us to be loving. But too much love will make you accommodating and tolerant of the other person. And there is a limit to human patience. When you can't endure anymore, there will be a general outburst that will destroy your relationships with others.

Good relationships require courage in addition to love. Love makes you care for each other, and courage makes you brave to express yourself. Only a balance of love and courage can produce good interpersonal relationships.

Some things are really forced, and when you can't help but do it, you have to face it even if you are afraid and reluctant. Confusion is common to everyone, but when you take the first step, you will slowly see what you want.

Why is it the same as me, but I am a soldier.